What is your Flirtation Style?

[AtLast]

I am a complete idiot when it come to flirting! Have no sense about it at all. Worse thing is, it takes me forever to figure out if a femme is even flirting with me! There have been more than a few times my friends have had to "clue" me in! BONK!!!

So, I figured there are many members here that could enlighten those of us that are just not good flirts with telling us about how they do it!

Let's have a fun time here! Let your flirtation techniques run free!!!

[pajama]

Well it figures that Rico Suave gets to be the first to respond.

Quite honestly...my flirtation style is honesty. I'm not shy about telling people that I think they are attractive, witty, smart, sexy, etc. I will usually be straight forward and tell them I think they are attractive. Some folks on here view me as just a flirt or player. When in fact, I am being honest and straigtforward. The catch to this is you can't be shy. You have to voice your opinion. Also when I tell someone how I feel about them, it isn't in the hopes of "hooking up". I do it because we all like compliments, honest compliments. So I do it to just let that person know that I think they are special.

The honest compliment opens the door for other conversations.

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[Sachita]

Perfect answer. I totally agree.

Originally Posted by pajara2

Well it figures that Rico Suave gets to be the first to respond.

Quite honestly...my flirtation style is honesty. I'm not shy about telling people that I think they are attractive, witty, smart, sexy, etc. I will usually be straight forward and tell them I think they are attractive. Some folks on here view me as just a flirt or player. When in fact, I am being honest and straigtforward. The catch to this is you can't be shy. You have to voice your opinion. Also when I tell someone how I feel about them, it isn't in the hopes of "hooking up". I do it because we all like compliments, honest compliments. So I do it to just let that person know that I think they are special.

The honest compliment opens the door for other conversations.

A

[sweetbutch26]

i just get on my pretty boi swag say hello and be my normal sweet charming self

[rockybcn]

When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know.

[sweetbutch26]

Originally Posted by rockybcn

When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know.

amen bro well said

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by rockybcn

When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know.

excellent

someone once said to me "if you don't kiss and have sex right away how do you know you'll enjoy each other sexually? Sex is important."

Believe it or not lots of people think this way and talk about sex almost right away to establish compatibility. This is an instant turn off for me. I'm like you, make me laugh, spark the playfulness inside of me and intrigue me. Then let me see your substance and that you are capable of a good foundation with me. If all these things measure up I have no doubt I will sexually rock your world. Sex is the easy part IMO.

[Sachita]

I am not very coy when it comes to approaching someone. If I'm interested I will approach. If they are not receptive or a 2 X 4, I quickly lose interest. I don't chase after anyone. I am more the type of woman you have to get my attention and then keep it. Therefore I am more drawn to straightforward and cerebral approach. I really dislike sexual innuendo in the beginning. I’m very open-minded but reserve that level of flirting for a lover. I want someone that steps up and initiates but isn’t overbearing about it. Some women go for that aloof and mysterious type. It just does nothing for me. I’m more the type that wants you to show you are interested and work at my affection. Only then might you unleash the seductress in me and watch out.

Everyone is different when it comes to the flirting game. I don’t know you very well but from my observation I would guess that friendship is very important to you in a lover- as it should be. You are more likely to befriend someone and see where that goes. I’m the same way but I think my disadvantage, which could be yours too, is that we have these walls and almost “too” careful to allow anything to bloom in that friendship. I admire people who can instantly respond to chemistry and just go with it. I’m far too methodical. Perhaps more so as I get older.

But I love flirting and playfulness. Even if nothing happens. I have a few friends that I can do this with and it never goes beyond that which is fine. I have had some heated and passionate romance in my time with heavy doses of flirting. I would LOVE to do another round of that!

Just be yourself but know that the women that might interest you, again an observation will probably want some hints, a dash of the chivalry you hide so well and an expression of passion. I think at our age, not that we are old but highly experienced our radar is looking for something deeper than a casual interlude might present.

[Glenn]

Originally Posted by AtLastHome

I am a complete idiot when it come to flirting! Have no sense about it at all. Worse thing is, it takes me forever to figure out if a femme is even flirting with me! There have been more than a few times my friends have had to "clue" me in! BONK!!!

So, I figured there are many members here that could enlighten those of us that are just not good flirts with telling us about how they do it!

Let's have a fun time here! Let your flirtation techniques run free!!!

It's not about what you say, it's what you demonstrate and project. The power of confidence is massive. It must lie in the fact that it is HONEST. Genuine to the turbo-max. All of successful flirting is based on HONESTY X 1000. Don't just be yourself,...BE yourself... BE yourself to the HILT. This will make you an Apocalyptic Flirter that demonstrates a Shock and Awe style.
Example: You see someone you'd like to get with. You rock up to them and say in a confident, level, voice: "Hey, how's it going?"
They will say;
"Fine."
You then say:
"Cool. What are you doing later?"
She will say:
"I'm not sure.
You then say:
"Do you want to come home with me?"

[jenny]

Directness... focused attention... banter... eye contact. Flirtation, for me, is all about intelligence, humor, and a forthright style of communication.

[Jude]

Example: You see someone you'd like to get with. You rock up to them and say in a confident, level, voice: "Hey, how's it going?"
They will say;
"Fine."
You then say:
"Cool. What are you doing later?"
She will say:
"I'm not sure.
You then say:
"Do you want to come home with me?"[/QUOTE]

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May it's just my age, but I'd be concerned that you were BOTH infected.

[ravfem]

*taking notes*

[Canela]

This.Is.Fabulous!


Loving these responses!


Subscribing.

[sweetbutch26]

Originally Posted by ravfem

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[ravfem]

Originally Posted by sweetbutch26

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*quickly covering notepad*

hey!! i need all the help i can get!!

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by popcorninthesofa

It's not about what you say, it's what you demonstrate and project. ....

Example: You see someone you'd like to get with. You rock up to them and say in a confident, level, voice: "Hey, how's it going?"
They will say;
"Fine."
You then say:
"Cool. What are you doing later?"
She will say:
"I'm not sure.
You then say:
"Do you want to come home with me?"

While confidence is a beautiful thing, I have to disagree. What you say DOES matter. In this specific example of dialogue given, I'd walk as far away from you as possible at the very least. I find the "Do you want to come home with me?" devoid of class and filled to the brim with obnoxious cockiness. There is a significant difference between confidence and cockiness. One, I like. The other, I don't.

For my own personal style, I'm definitely a flirt. An equal opportunity one, at that. I flirt with little old ladies and men and sanitation engineers and grocery store clerks. Flirting is like breathing for me; completely natural.

There are different degrees of flirtation. Sexual innuendo doesn't enter the picture with the vast majority of my flirting. Often there is a bit of a naughty 'air' but nothing explicit or drawn out. I only go hardcore for someone I am interested in seeing first thing the next morning, complete with bedhead and dragon breath.

I don't have a specific style, really, now that I think about it. I adapt to what the situation and the specific person seem to enjoy without losing myself or exposing myself too much.

[Maria]

Originally Posted by Jude

Example: You see someone you'd like to get with. You rock up to them and say in a confident, level, voice: "Hey, how's it going?"
They will say;
"Fine."
You then say:
"Cool. What are you doing later?"
She will say:
"I'm not sure.
You then say:
"Do you want to come home with me?"

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Maybe it's just my age, but I'd be concerned that you were BOTH infected.[/QUOTE]

Infected with awesome.

[pajama]

Originally Posted by popcorninthesofa

Example: You see someone you'd like to get with. You rock up to them and say in a confident, level, voice: "Hey, how's it going?"
They will say;
"Fine."
You then say:
"Cool. What are you doing later?"
She will say:
"I'm not sure.
You then say:
"Do you want to come home with me?"

I would then say: *snicker* *pat on head* *walk away chuckling*

[Angeltoes]

I have flirted very openly with butches at work with my eyes and smile. Honestly, I have had some look at me like I'm crazy, but the interesting thing is when they start to hover around my desk and try to get the eye contact back after I give up. Part of me wonders if they just didn't believe I'm gay and another thinks their ego misses the attention. Either way, I often hear butches say 'I'm shy.' Well, hey, I'm a shy person too. It hurts a femme just as much as it hurts a butch to put herself out there and be rejected.

[JustBeingMe]

Originally Posted by Angeltoes

I have flirted very openly with butches at work with my eyes and smile. Honestly, I have had some look at me like I'm crazy, but the interesting thing is when they start to hover around my desk and try to get the eye contact back after I give up. Part of me wonders if they just didn't believe I'm gay and another thinks their ego misses the attention. Either way, I often hear butches say 'I'm shy.' Well, hey, I'm a shy person too. It hurts a femme just as much as it hurts a butch to put herself out there and be rejected.

yes it does hun. yes it does. you stated that very very well , thank you soo much.