Important things I learned from past relationships - Page 3

Epicpwn · 03-25-2012, 05:39 AM

The most important thing I have learned from past relationships is to never ignore the red flags. You have gut insticts for a reason.

Prudence · 03-25-2012, 06:16 AM

What I learned from past relationships, is to never have another one.

Passionaria · 03-26-2012, 05:09 PM

Well this is going to sound weird but I learned that I have a dream in my heart of what I thought love was, that may not be based on reality. Ever since I was a child, I wanted nothing more than true love. It's been a long time since I was a little girl, and still have not found it. And I can't say that I understand why.

But I do love myself, and I can be my perfect love. Maybe that's all that matters. Maybe I should marry myself!!! I kid you not..............

Mr Nice Guy · 03-26-2012, 05:29 PM

That my heart always does what it wants as my mind plays dumb. If there's a next time, I'm determined to use my mind and let my heart be the dummy. Another words I'll think before I fall.

DMW · 06-10-2012, 02:36 PM

Not to trust

Bella~Vita · 06-10-2012, 02:38 PM

That I was too nice !

Greco · 06-10-2012, 03:20 PM

to be tender...gentle and when to know what
other form of love was called for

too personal? I'll blame it on the music.

Greco

ruby_woo · 06-10-2012, 03:26 PM

Don't forget to remain your own person and still do your own thing. Don't get lost in somebody else, because you'll be really lost when it's over.

Luv · 06-10-2012, 03:29 PM

That the 1st few months is the honeymoon stage but once u move in together true colors show

Not to trust

To listen to my head

To never make any decisions right after you get home from surgery and still have drugs in your system,,you make baaaad decisions and that sucks.

That they need to have a job and pull their share,,I hated being broke all the time and not appreciated.

kittygrrl · 06-10-2012, 03:40 PM

always keep a personal savings account, it's handy in a

Julien · 06-10-2012, 03:40 PM

Learn to forgive, not to forget because you don't want someone else to do the same things to you that hurt you before. Forgive that person who hurt you every time you think of them in negative ways. Think of the anger that is behind the negativity and reconcile the ending of the relationship with your emotions. Why? Because we are better than that and we do not want to become bitter over the past relationship, it will only hurt the new relationship.

Loyalty, honesty, integrity are the things I value in myself. I must look for someone with the same values in order to have a solid relationship.

~ocean · 06-10-2012, 03:52 PM

acceptance leaves room for forgiveness.

laruss · 06-10-2012, 09:21 PM

I have learned that you get what you give and you are the one who teaches people how to treat you. Relationships are give and take and all about open, honest communication.

Leigh · 06-10-2012, 10:22 PM

I've learned that we make mistakes, shit happens, no one is perfect but if you work together as a couple then you can do anything

Kenna · 06-10-2012, 10:32 PM

Giving away the key to the vulnerable part of me that I hide from all others may not be received as the gift it is... but may be the mistake that leaves an empty spot forever void.

sara-bera · 06-10-2012, 10:35 PM

Being happy is so much nicer than being right.
When I'm in the passenger seat, I need to let the driver do the driving.
Always apologize for hurt feelings even if I didn't intend harm.

rockstar lover · 06-10-2012, 10:42 PM

What I learned from past relationships....

You can't force someone to feel something they don't. If the love/attraction isn't mutual then it's time to let go. Always be yourself. Don't settle for anything less than you deserve. You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else.

Glenn · 06-10-2012, 11:03 PM

Status, wealth, face, does'nt matter...at the end of the day...when the chips are down...most folks are looking out for numero uno, and that is the time...when you need your crazy repellent. Don't spray to much, and make yourself sick. Just get yourself and your furkids the hell away. Always ..always... always..I mean NEVER show all your cards(give all of yourself away). Always keep a couple of secret Bullets (Aces) in the hole for yourself for emergencies.

Corkey · 06-10-2012, 11:37 PM

To be really loved, I have to give her everything I am, holding back hurts not only her but myself as well.
It hurts much less to give everything than to give not enough and lose it all anyway.
That that piece of me I hold may be the piece she needs me to give.
That if I have done everything I can, then I will have no regrets.
Life is worth the giving, because living without her is not acceptable.

amiyesiam · 06-10-2012, 11:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Corkey

To be really loved, I have to give her everything I am, holding back hurts not only her but myself as well.
It hurts much less to give everything than to give not enough and lose it all anyway.
That that piece of me I hold may be the piece she needs me to give.
That if I have done everything I can, then I will have no regrets.
Life is worth the giving, because living without her is not acceptable.

It is about being who you are. There is something freeing about showing another who you really are (something you can not always do in life) and being accepted just as you are.

03-25-2012, 05:39 AM	#41
Epicpwn Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Male Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him Relationship Status: In One Join Date: May 2010 Location: Texas Posts: 16 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5 Thanked 24 Times in 8 Posts Rep Power: 18	The most important thing I have learned from past relationships is to never ignore the red flags. You have gut insticts for a reason. __________________ I can and will be just fine.

03-26-2012, 05:09 PM	#43
Passionaria Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Urban Bohemian : http://youtu.be/IM96Ch9Gx4A Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: She ran away with with the Gypsy's ✿ Posts: 2,519 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,316 Thanked 3,737 Times in 1,248 Posts Rep Power: 16689910	Well this is going to sound weird but I learned that I have a dream in my heart of what I thought love was, that may not be based on reality. Ever since I was a child, I wanted nothing more than true love. It's been a long time since I was a little girl, and still have not found it. And I can't say that I understand why. But I do love myself, and I can be my perfect love. Maybe that's all that matters. Maybe I should marry myself!!! I kid you not.............. __________________ *Moon cat madness*

06-10-2012, 02:38 PM	#46
Bella~Vita Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: where salt is used for Margaritas not Snow Posts: 891 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,049 Thanked 1,322 Times in 443 Posts Rep Power: 7157596	That I was too nice ! __________________ ~ I believe that pleasing everyone is impossible..... but pissing everyone off is a piece of cake ~

06-10-2012, 03:20 PM	#47
Greco Senior Member How Do You Identify?: GNC, not Trans, REAL. TIME. ONLY. Preferred Pronoun?: REAL. TIME. ONLY. Relationship Status: REAL. TIME. ONLY. Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: In a good life. Posts: 3,200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,160 Thanked 6,626 Times in 2,285 Posts Rep Power: 0	Lecciones to be tender...gentle and when to know what other form of love was called for too personal? I'll blame it on the music. Greco

06-10-2012, 03:40 PM	#50
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: wildflower Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in raindrops Posts: 9,220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,543 Thanked 21,857 Times in 7,003 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	most important... always keep a personal savings account, it's handy in a __________________ "MAKE AMERICA THINK AGAIN"

03-25-2012, 06:16 AM	#42
Prudence Member How Do You Identify?: "congratulations, it's a girl" Preferred Pronoun?: Woman Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Second star to the right, and straight on till morning. Posts: 509 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,333 Thanked 1,178 Times in 363 Posts Rep Power: 9187054	What I learned from past relationships, is to never have another one.

03-26-2012, 05:29 PM	#44
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	That my heart always does what it wants as my mind plays dumb. If there's a next time, I'm determined to use my mind and let my heart be the dummy. Another words I'll think before I fall.

06-10-2012, 02:36 PM	#45
DMW Member How Do You Identify?: FTM/Male (Will 14) Relationship Status: Caught An Angel and she doesn't lie! Join Date: May 2012 Location: @ Posts: 784 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,256 Thanked 1,858 Times in 614 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	Not to trust

06-10-2012, 03:26 PM	#48
ruby_woo Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 427 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,848 Thanked 1,941 Times in 376 Posts Rep Power: 17615392	Don't forget to remain your own person and still do your own thing. Don't get lost in somebody else, because you'll be really lost when it's over.

06-10-2012, 03:29 PM	#49
Luv Member How Do You Identify?: .... Relationship Status: .. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: ..... Posts: 753 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,199 Thanked 1,217 Times in 367 Posts Rep Power: 12334992	That the 1st few months is the honeymoon stage but once u move in together true colors show Not to trust To listen to my head To never make any decisions right after you get home from surgery and still have drugs in your system,,you make baaaad decisions and that sucks. That they need to have a job and pull their share,,I hated being broke all the time and not appreciated.

06-10-2012, 03:40 PM	#51
Julien Member How Do You Identify?: TG/GenderQueer Preferred Pronoun?: I'm flexible, but only up to a point. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Alabama, Gulf Coast area Posts: 1,007 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,247 Thanked 2,702 Times in 737 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Learn to forgive, not to forget because you don't want someone else to do the same things to you that hurt you before. Forgive that person who hurt you every time you think of them in negative ways. Think of the anger that is behind the negativity and reconcile the ending of the relationship with your emotions. Why? Because we are better than that and we do not want to become bitter over the past relationship, it will only hurt the new relationship. Loyalty, honesty, integrity are the things I value in myself. I must look for someone with the same values in order to have a solid relationship. __________________ Julien “Self-plagiarism is style.” Alfred Hitchcock Formerly known as Graphiteta2s

06-10-2012, 03:52 PM	#52
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,057 Times in 4,731 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	acceptance leaves room for forgiveness.

06-10-2012, 09:21 PM	#53
laruss Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She or Goddess Relationship Status: Settled in Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Edmonton Alberta Posts: 1,322 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,849 Thanked 5,329 Times in 1,045 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I have learned that you get what you give and you are the one who teaches people how to treat you. Relationships are give and take and all about open, honest communication. __________________ Creativity is a drug I can't do without. -Cecil B. DeMille

06-10-2012, 10:22 PM	#54
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I've learned that we make mistakes, shit happens, no one is perfect but if you work together as a couple then you can do anything __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

06-10-2012, 10:32 PM	#55
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,624 Thanked 12,192 Times in 3,779 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Giving away the key to the vulnerable part of me that I hide from all others may not be received as the gift it is... but may be the mistake that leaves an empty spot forever void.

06-10-2012, 10:35 PM	#56
sara-bera Member How Do You Identify?: female Join Date: May 2011 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 1,161 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,687 Thanked 2,859 Times in 739 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Being happy is so much nicer than being right. When I'm in the passenger seat, I need to let the driver do the driving. Always apologize for hurt feelings even if I didn't intend harm.

06-10-2012, 10:42 PM	#57
rockstar lover Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Found my forever girl :-) Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Alberta Posts: 103 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 564 Thanked 594 Times in 96 Posts Rep Power: 5496793	What I learned from past relationships.... You can't force someone to feel something they don't. If the love/attraction isn't mutual then it's time to let go. Always be yourself. Don't settle for anything less than you deserve. You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else.

06-10-2012, 11:03 PM	#58
Glenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Dear ol butch bones. Preferred Pronoun?: Old G Relationship Status: Too old to play. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: :rolleyes: Posts: 1,547 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,601 Thanked 3,730 Times in 1,095 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Status, wealth, face, does'nt matter...at the end of the day...when the chips are down...most folks are looking out for numero uno, and that is the time...when you need your crazy repellent. Don't spray to much, and make yourself sick. Just get yourself and your furkids the hell away. Always ..always... always..I mean NEVER show all your cards(give all of yourself away). Always keep a couple of secret Bullets (Aces) in the hole for yourself for emergencies.

06-10-2012, 11:37 PM	#59
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,274 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	To be really loved, I have to give her everything I am, holding back hurts not only her but myself as well. It hurts much less to give everything than to give not enough and lose it all anyway. That that piece of me I hold may be the piece she needs me to give. That if I have done everything I can, then I will have no regrets. Life is worth the giving, because living without her is not acceptable. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee) Last edited by Corkey; 06-10-2012 at 11:45 PM.