What are your life basics? - Page 3

imperfect_cupcake · 01-31-2015, 01:14 PM

Good question.

I don't know. I do know that when I didn't have the bottom row, other things like my gay rights, seemed fucking trivial.

Only recently have I gotten the second row in place. Ish. And I know in planning for my future, the second row is my highest priority. I have love and belonging. Not romantic love, but I am most certainly loved and I do belong in my little group of friends. I probably have more self esteem than ever before in my life. But that comes with age, usually. And I suppose self actualisation... That's taking me a life time to understand. And will continue till I croak no doubt.

So perhaps some things come in, in pieces, at different levels. But perhaps the general interest in developing them, the priority is most often given from lower to higher? I dunno.

What do you think?

Tuff Stuff · 07-30-2015, 10:09 PM

Yep,I think as we do grow older and probably become more maturer our priorities in life change.What was important to us at 17 is not so at age 47.

Oh there's the same ol' things in life I can't do without.Like having a roof over my head,because being homeless sucks,and it probably be a lot harder on my back these days.

Having money,which i see as security,you can buy necessities with it.

And having someone to live for..because I need to "watch over" another person.

Oh,I can live alone,but the idea of waking up everyday and doing things to survive not just for myself but for another,appeals to me.
Its a reason for me to live on.

I am also a very hard headed person and I usually do things my way.I think i'll be like that till my dying day.

I'm a survivor...hearing the Survivor theme "Ancient Voices" in my head *snort*

Daisy Chain · 07-31-2015, 06:28 AM

Liking this thread....OK...

To know my children are safe, well and happy.

To know the mortgage and bills are all paid up to date.

A well stocked larder.

Time...having time to laugh and chat with anyone who passes through my day.

Furry beings with whiskers.

Gentle smiles, eye contact, softly spoken words, hand holding, cuddles, huddles and snuggles.

Quiet moments of reflection alongside giddiness and giggles.

Hot water, soapy bubbles, clean sheets and warm blankets.....oh and teddy bears of course.

Safety.

Books, pens, paper.

Cups of Tea.

added extras.....fresh flowers, sunshine, music, perfume, craft supplies, a garden and rain.

Daisy

01-31-2015, 01:14 PM	#41
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Good question. I don't know. I do know that when I didn't have the bottom row, other things like my gay rights, seemed fucking trivial. Only recently have I gotten the second row in place. Ish. And I know in planning for my future, the second row is my highest priority. I have love and belonging. Not romantic love, but I am most certainly loved and I do belong in my little group of friends. I probably have more self esteem than ever before in my life. But that comes with age, usually. And I suppose self actualisation... That's taking me a life time to understand. And will continue till I croak no doubt. So perhaps some things come in, in pieces, at different levels. But perhaps the general interest in developing them, the priority is most often given from lower to higher? I dunno. What do you think? Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 01-31-2015 at 01:24 PM.

07-30-2015, 10:09 PM	#42
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,316 Times in 505 Posts Rep Power: 9408453	Yep,I think as we do grow older and probably become more maturer our priorities in life change.What was important to us at 17 is not so at age 47. Oh there's the same ol' things in life I can't do without.Like having a roof over my head,because being homeless sucks,and it probably be a lot harder on my back these days. Having money,which i see as security,you can buy necessities with it. And having someone to live for..because I need to "watch over" another person. Oh,I can live alone,but the idea of waking up everyday and doing things to survive not just for myself but for another,appeals to me. Its a reason for me to live on. I am also a very hard headed person and I usually do things my way.I think i'll be like that till my dying day. I'm a survivor...hearing the Survivor theme "Ancient Voices" in my head snort

07-31-2015, 06:28 AM	#43
Daisy Chain Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Hy calls me Hys Kitten Join Date: May 2015 Location: 2nd star to the right and straight on til morning Posts: 729 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,814 Thanked 1,809 Times in 447 Posts Rep Power: 0	Liking this thread....OK... To know my children are safe, well and happy. To know the mortgage and bills are all paid up to date. A well stocked larder. Time...having time to laugh and chat with anyone who passes through my day. Furry beings with whiskers. Gentle smiles, eye contact, softly spoken words, hand holding, cuddles, huddles and snuggles. Quiet moments of reflection alongside giddiness and giggles. Hot water, soapy bubbles, clean sheets and warm blankets.....oh and teddy bears of course. Safety. Books, pens, paper. Cups of Tea. added extras.....fresh flowers, sunshine, music, perfume, craft supplies, a garden and rain. Daisy