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Nat · 04-20-2011, 04:46 PM

Are you interested in knowing another person's point of view?

The feeling part - feeling other people's feelings or having a resonance in your body with what's going on with them - maybe there's not we can do about that. It either happens or it doesn't happen if we're open for it.

But to use our imagination and our thinking, that's something we have some choice over. So if you find yourself in a difficult situation with other people, a difficult interpersonal situation, from what perspective do you look at the difficulty?

One of the perspectives to bring into this situation is, "What is it like for that person? How is it for them to be in this conflict? How is it for them to be struggling? What's going on for them in their life that they are so angry? Let me take a moment here to try to understand the background of their situation - they are afraid. What happened in their life that they are so afraid?
That's a choice - to take time to think and reflect what perspective - what's the bigger picture - that this person is operating under, as opposed to retaining only the perspective of "This person's had an impact on ME, and this is the impact it's had on ME, and this person better understand MY perspective and ME history and what happened to ME in my life - and I'm going to tell them."

- Gil Fronsdal

Soon · 04-20-2011, 05:48 PM

"Nothing is easier than solving a problem on the backs of people who are poor, or people who are powerless, or don't have lobbyists, or don't have clout," Obama said.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/0..._n_851374.html

Ms. Tabitha · 04-20-2011, 05:52 PM

"The thing that counts most in the pursuit of happiness is choosing the right companion" ~ Frédérick Jézégou

Ms. Tabitha · 04-20-2011, 05:55 PM

" Do not confuse your rank with my authority!"
~ Me, to my son

Mr.Nobody · 04-20-2011, 05:55 PM

....whenever you are in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship or deepening it....that factor would be attitude...

Ms. Tabitha · 04-20-2011, 06:06 PM

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." ~ Dr. Seuss

Ms. Tabitha · 04-20-2011, 06:09 PM

"If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together, there is something you must always remember.
You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.
But the most important thing is, even if we're apart, I'll always be with you." - Winnie the Pooh

Mr.Nobody · 04-20-2011, 06:09 PM

....funny..how a little fence, becomes a wall...before we even know it happened. how we post guards, always at the ready, to defend a broken heart and we entrust the key to a jaded past...and then it never ceases to amaze me...the power of a sweet babygrrl...to loose those stones...one by one...until all she has to do...to be home...is step over a little fence....

Me

nycfem · 04-20-2011, 06:13 PM

I can never hear this one enough

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ms. Tabitha

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." ~ Dr. Seuss

hpychick · 04-20-2011, 07:17 PM

I haven't been the same since that house fell on my sister.

Nat · 04-21-2011, 07:26 AM

Nothing is easier than solving a problem on the backs of people who are poor or people who are are powerless or who don't have a lobbyist or don't have clout. I don't think that's particularly courageous.

- Obama, April 2011

Joectigger · 04-21-2011, 09:37 AM

"The very notion of out butching one another and competing for masculine validation intersects with complicated relationships, sex roles, friendships, and internalized sexism in a way that must be addressed directly. Lets put our fists down, and look eye to eye to those we are separating ourselves from so that we can collaborate in our fight for justice."

- Jessica Pettitt, Keynote Speaker -BUTCH Voices Dallas 2010

femmedyke · 04-21-2011, 10:21 AM

Loss as muse. Loss as character. Loss as life. ~Anna Quindlen

femmedyke · 04-21-2011, 10:27 AM

"Have you ever thought, when something dreadful happens, a moment ago things were not like this; let it be then not now, anything but now? And you try and try to remake then, but you know you can't . So you try to hold the moment quite still and not let it move on and show itself." ~ Mary Stewart

JakeTulane · 04-21-2011, 11:05 AM

"Even if happiness forgets you a little bit, never completely forget about it." ~Jacques Prévert

Arwen · 04-21-2011, 11:06 AM

Catch-and-release, that's like running down pedestrians in your car and then, when they get up and limp away, saying -- Off you go! That's fine. I just wanted to see if I could hit you. -Ellen DeGeneres, comedian, television host, and actress (b. 1958)

JakeTulane · 04-21-2011, 11:06 AM

"Happiness is always a by-product. It is probably a matter of temperament, and for anything I know it may be glandular. But it is not something that can be demanded from life, and if you are not happy you had better stop worrying about it and see what treasures you can pluck from your own brand of unhappiness." ~Robertson Davies

JakeTulane · 04-21-2011, 11:07 AM

"Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want." ~Margaret Young

Blade · 04-21-2011, 11:41 AM

" The act of forgiveness is tough but it is the only way to forge ahead into blessings."

purepisces · 04-21-2011, 02:16 PM

Enjoy when you can, and endure when you must. ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

04-20-2011, 04:46 PM	#6141
Nat Senior Member How Do You Identify?: bigender (DID System) Preferred Pronoun?: he/him or alter-specific Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Central TX Posts: 3,537 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,047 Thanked 13,972 Times in 2,591 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Are you interested in knowing another person's point of view? The feeling part - feeling other people's feelings or having a resonance in your body with what's going on with them - maybe there's not we can do about that. It either happens or it doesn't happen if we're open for it. But to use our imagination and our thinking, that's something we have some choice over. So if you find yourself in a difficult situation with other people, a difficult interpersonal situation, from what perspective do you look at the difficulty? One of the perspectives to bring into this situation is, "What is it like for that person? How is it for them to be in this conflict? How is it for them to be struggling? What's going on for them in their life that they are so angry? Let me take a moment here to try to understand the background of their situation - they are afraid. What happened in their life that they are so afraid? That's a choice - to take time to think and reflect what perspective - what's the bigger picture - that this person is operating under, as opposed to retaining only the perspective of "This person's had an impact on ME, and this is the impact it's had on ME, and this person better understand MY perspective and ME history and what happened to ME in my life - and I'm going to tell them." - Gil Fronsdal __________________ I'm a fountain of blood. In the shape of a girl. - Bjork What is to give light must endure burning. -Viktor Frankl

04-20-2011, 05:48 PM	#6142
Soon Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: attached Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: . Posts: 6,896 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,046 Thanked 13,094 Times in 3,386 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	President Obama "Nothing is easier than solving a problem on the backs of people who are poor, or people who are powerless, or don't have lobbyists, or don't have clout," Obama said. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/0..._n_851374.html

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04-20-2011, 06:09 PM	#6147
Ms. Tabitha Member How Do You Identify?: Hey Lady Preferred Pronoun?: Female Relationship Status: Married ~ 4-1-13 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 1,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 980 Thanked 3,581 Times in 1,040 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	For my Son..... "If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together, there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart, I'll always be with you." - Winnie the Pooh

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Mr.Nobody Member How Do You Identify?: Niizh manidoowag... Preferred Pronoun?: I prefer amature nouns Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 840 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 370 Thanked 1,528 Times in 536 Posts Rep Power: 15623423	fences.. ....funny..how a little fence, becomes a wall...before we even know it happened. how we post guards, always at the ready, to defend a broken heart and we entrust the key to a jaded past...and then it never ceases to amaze me...the power of a sweet babygrrl...to loose those stones...one by one...until all she has to do...to be home...is step over a little fence.... Me __________________ Noblesse oblige...

04-20-2011, 05:52 PM	#6143
Ms. Tabitha Member How Do You Identify?: Hey Lady Preferred Pronoun?: Female Relationship Status: Married ~ 4-1-13 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 1,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 980 Thanked 3,581 Times in 1,040 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	"The thing that counts most in the pursuit of happiness is choosing the right companion" ~ Frédérick Jézégou

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Ms. Tabitha Member How Do You Identify?: Hey Lady Preferred Pronoun?: Female Relationship Status: Married ~ 4-1-13 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 1,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 980 Thanked 3,581 Times in 1,040 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	" Do not confuse your rank with my authority!" ~ Me, to my son

04-20-2011, 06:06 PM	#6146
Ms. Tabitha Member How Do You Identify?: Hey Lady Preferred Pronoun?: Female Relationship Status: Married ~ 4-1-13 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 1,440 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 980 Thanked 3,581 Times in 1,040 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." ~ Dr. Seuss

04-20-2011, 07:17 PM	#6150
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04-21-2011, 07:26 AM	#6151
Nat Senior Member How Do You Identify?: bigender (DID System) Preferred Pronoun?: he/him or alter-specific Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Central TX Posts: 3,537 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,047 Thanked 13,972 Times in 2,591 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Nothing is easier than solving a problem on the backs of people who are poor or people who are are powerless or who don't have a lobbyist or don't have clout. I don't think that's particularly courageous. - Obama, April 2011 __________________ I'm a fountain of blood. In the shape of a girl. - Bjork What is to give light must endure burning. -Viktor Frankl

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