What TO DO in a relationship..... - Page 5

bigbutchmistie · 09-06-2011, 08:49 PM

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Originally Posted by MzzBehaving

Respect is a very important element.
Communication without it you have nothing.
Learn to listen to your partner, what you think may not be important is to them.
Compromise if you cannot do this then you are selfish.
Never think you are always right, learn how to say you are sorry when you are wrong.
Never, never make plans to do the uhaul thing so fast, will lead to the end.
Know just because you talk to someone everynight does not mean you know them, people can be who they want on the phone and in the first few meetings.

AMEN AMEN AMEN AND AMEN and especially AAAAAAAMMMMMEEEN to the last one! oOOOOOO so true

bigbutchmistie · 09-06-2011, 08:52 PM

If she cooks for me I will always clean up. If I cook for her I will always clean up and take out the trash...

Run her a bubble bath with candles and let her relax as I cook for her....

Let her eat and relax...

Then give her a full body massage before she passes out asleep in my arms

Liam · 09-06-2011, 09:04 PM

Be impeccable with your word.

LaneyDoll · 09-06-2011, 09:06 PM

Make time.
Make amends.
Make time.
Make out.
Make time.
Make it all better.
Make time, make time, make time.

DamonK · 07-27-2012, 07:42 PM

Forgive yourself for your faults
Forgive them theirs
Admit it when you screw up
Try to fix it

girl_dee · 04-13-2011, 07:52 PM

Make a list of priorities in your life, make "partner" #1.

justkim · 04-13-2011, 07:53 PM

Laugh... often... at yourself... with each other...

moxie · 04-13-2011, 07:53 PM

Respect that the person you are with is always going to have individual needs and their own life outside the collective needs/life of the relationship.

girl_dee · 04-13-2011, 07:55 PM

Turn the computer off, and your partner on.

Softly · 04-13-2011, 07:57 PM

take showers together

go on dates no matter how long you've been together

do communication exercises to learn new things

make dinner together

Duchess · 04-13-2011, 07:58 PM

Do maintain a sense of privacy. Family and friends don't need to know the intricate details.

Duchess

girl_dee · 04-13-2011, 08:00 PM

Meet someone before you commit to a lifetime. Online is only half the story.

Miss Scarlett · 09-24-2013, 05:37 PM

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Originally Posted by girl_dee

Meet someone before you commit to a lifetime. Online is only half the story.

Yes! But sometimes it's not even the tip of the iceberg.

And let me add this...really get to know each other well before making any sort of serious commitment.

After much discussion, my Beau and I decided to take things very slow. As my relationship status indicates, we're "going steady." And we're both loving this time of courtship. This may not be for everyone but it's working well for us.

RockOn · 09-24-2013, 07:20 PM

Must add, I love Nic's post also. It is great.

Thanks for sharing it!

Miss Scarlett · 04-13-2011, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

Ok I'll start....

BE HONEST!

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Originally Posted by Softly

ALWAYS kiss goodnight!

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Originally Posted by wolfbittenpoet

Take every moment as a gift. Never go to bed angry.

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Originally Posted by June

Go to therapy if you're in it for the long haul. There's no shame in it, and it can help a lot when you're trying to figure out why you keep doing the same things over and over again that aren't working.

All of the above plus...

If you are wrong, don't be afraid to admit it but most important of all never, ever forget to say "I love you"

violaine · 04-13-2011, 07:56 PM

give each other s p a c e .

scootebaby · 04-13-2011, 08:03 PM

Be honest--dont sugarcoat or rearrange the truth to make yourself look better or to garner sympathy

say thank you

say i love you

enjoy the silence sometimes

talk about things--even if it means things might get tense for a moment

never go to bed angry--if space is needed at least give them a kiss goodnight and let them know you love them

Scorp · 04-13-2011, 08:09 PM

Unload the dishwasher

09-06-2011, 09:04 PM	#3
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09-06-2011, 08:52 PM	#2
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	If she cooks for me I will always clean up. If I cook for her I will always clean up and take out the trash... Run her a bubble bath with candles and let her relax as I cook for her.... Let her eat and relax... Then give her a full body massage before she passes out asleep in my arms

07-27-2012, 07:42 PM	#5
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04-13-2011, 08:09 PM	#18
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