Single Butches & Femmes Cafe

AtLast · 05-17-2011, 05:07 AM

Lets have a cup and talk, laugh, flirt, debate, just get together as Femmes and Butches (FIB & MIB). Hell, there is a singles FtM & Femmes thread- why not us?!!

AtLast · 05-19-2011, 03:42 PM

It is a gorgeous day and I want to take a drive over to SF with the top down! Hummm.. gotta mow the lawn first.

Stud_puppy1991 · 05-22-2011, 07:35 AM

such a good day, and alas, i have to work.

bigbutchmistie · 05-22-2011, 09:10 AM

Day off today. Think I'm gonna head to Olive Garden in a little while to pick up some lunch. It's rainy today It's gonna be a lazy day

T D · 05-22-2011, 09:18 AM

It IS beautiful, but I need to go back to bed. I slept horribly and we all know what that does to Fibro... uggghhhhhh. Hopefully I'll wake up refreshed and ready to go

Nice thread ALH

PinkFemme · 05-22-2011, 09:32 AM

Just stopping by to say hello...

atomiczombie · 07-08-2011, 02:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AtLastHome

Lets have a cup and talk, laugh, flirt, debate, just get together as Femmes and Butches (FIB & MIB). Hell, there is a singles FtM & Femmes thread- why not us?!!

Are trans folks invited too?

Stitch · 07-08-2011, 02:21 AM

I don't see why not.
A little bit of everyone is there.
Pretty open fun group of people who like to flirt with each other.

msW8ing · 07-16-2011, 08:28 AM

Just poppin in to say good morning and wish everyone a wonderful weekend.

Delish · 07-16-2011, 08:31 AM

Morning! Time to watch some golf and drink a Lil coffee

Inked_Trinity · 07-16-2011, 09:52 AM

WOW! I just found this thread! I'm happy now!

flower77 · 08-12-2011, 12:39 PM

I'm single. Just thought I'd say..

:-)))

Prudence · 03-06-2012, 12:15 PM

Hello from the great state of Tennessee.. like the thread. Today is a beautiful day... sunny and in the mid 60s. We took a nasty hit several days ago from the a F1 tornado touch down in my small town. Today for me.. I'm picking up limbs. Decided to cut back some monkey grass that has taken over my walkway. Now I have a numb thumb.. maybe time to take a break and grab a tuna fish sandwich and a glass of ice water. Have a good day all........Prudence

istolurboxers38 · 03-17-2012, 01:54 PM

Have a great St. Patrick's Day everyone. It is a nice day think the gym is in order.

REA33 · 06-23-2018, 05:16 AM

I see this is a femme and butch planet.
A friend told me about this site (she is a butch), she encouraged me to try to join in.
Well, in fact I am a stem (androgynous look) >> neither butch nor femme.
Am I acceptable in here?
I hope i put my words in the right thread.
Actually I want to make a new topic, but I couldn't do it b4 I reach 30 posts.

AtLast · 07-16-2011, 11:20 PM

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Originally Posted by atomiczombie

Are trans folks invited too?

I did start the thread because there is a distinct FtM/Trans and Femmes singles thread and a general singles thread for all folks which includes trans folks. There wasn't one for just plain old butche and femme singles that that want to seek one another out.

Actually, I wish that the general for all singles one was the only single thread, but distinctions started to happen so I thought this was fair for both femmes and butches to find each other on the site that really do seek only each other in terms of romantic relationships.

Ugh... gets so complicated sometimes. But, I don't think any member of any identification can actually be "banned" from any thread. Seems like that would be against the TOS. I sure don't want any one to be offended in any way.

There are other singles/relational threads too- like Daddy/Girl, and D/s specific. Geez... we have so many distinctions! which is one of the things I like about the site over all. Yet, I am not a good candidate for a woman/femme that prefers transmen. And I don't have any problem at all with women/femmes that find that they prefer transmen in terms of romance and dating. Some like both, too.

Sachita · 07-17-2011, 04:14 AM

I think its ok to break down sub cultures without seeming prejudice.

Anyhow, good morning all the hot butches and beautiful femmes! Its going to be a fantastic Sunday.

msW8ing · 07-17-2011, 06:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AtLastHome

I did start the thread because there is a distinct FtM/Trans and Femmes singles thread and a general singles thread for all folks which includes trans folks. There wasn't one for just plain old butche and femme singles that that want to seek one another out.

Actually, I wish that the general for all singles one was the only single thread, but distinctions started to happen so I thought this was fair for both femmes and butches to find each other on the site that really do seek only each other in terms of romantic relationships.

Ugh... gets so complicated sometimes. But, I don't think any member of any identification can actually be "banned" from any thread. Seems like that would be against the TOS. I sure don't want any one to be offended in any way.

There are other singles/relational threads too- like Daddy/Girl, and D/s specific. Geez... we have so many distinctions! which is one of the things I like about the site over all. Yet, I am not a good candidate for a woman/femme that prefers transmen. And I don't have any problem at all with women/femmes that find that they prefer transmen in terms of romance and dating. Some like both, too.

So many labels and ID's now and days. I remember when you either a Dyke or a Femme. Now there are so many sub categories. Makes me dizzy lol. I always just get that deer in a headlights look when I'm asked (usually by the younger crowd) "What kind of femme are you"?

I never really know quite how to answer that. Reminds of that line in Wizard of Oz.."Are you a good witch or a bad witch" lol I usually smile politely and answer "Iam me".

T4Texas · 07-17-2011, 07:31 AM

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Originally Posted by MsW8ing

So many labels and ID's now and days. I remember when you either a Dyke or a Femme. Now there are so many sub categories. Makes me dizzy lol. I always just get that deer in a headlights look when I'm asked (usually by the younger crowd) "What kind of femme are you"?

I never really know quite how to answer that. Reminds of that line in Wizard of Oz.."Are you a good witch or a bad witch" lol I usually smile politely and answer "Iam me".

Kudos to you for that! I remember when labels weren't so necessary either, having been out for 34 years now. Still, I think it's interesting how people do identify and their reasons for that indentification. I applaud a person's right to be themselves, but I remain an old school butch, plain and simple.

msW8ing · 07-17-2011, 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by T4Texas

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I applaud a person's right to be themselves, but I remain an old school butch, plain and simple.

And thank goodness there are still "old school butches" out there!

05-17-2011, 05:07 AM	#1
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05-22-2011, 09:18 AM	#5
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05-22-2011, 09:32 AM	#6
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07-16-2011, 08:28 AM	#9
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07-16-2011, 08:31 AM	#10
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05-19-2011, 03:42 PM	#2
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,827 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	It is a gorgeous day and I want to take a drive over to SF with the top down! Hummm.. gotta mow the lawn first.

05-22-2011, 07:35 AM	#3
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05-22-2011, 09:10 AM	#4
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07-08-2011, 02:21 AM	#8
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07-16-2011, 09:52 AM	#11
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08-12-2011, 12:39 PM	#12
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03-06-2012, 12:15 PM	#13
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03-17-2012, 01:54 PM	#14
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06-23-2018, 05:16 AM	#15
REA33 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Dm Lesbienne Preferred Pronoun?: androgyne Relationship Status: seul Join Date: Jan 2018 Location: Planète de la terre Posts: 54 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2 Thanked 35 Times in 19 Posts Rep Power: 8	Stem Lesbian I see this is a femme and butch planet. A friend told me about this site (she is a butch), she encouraged me to try to join in. Well, in fact I am a stem (androgynous look) >> neither butch nor femme. Am I acceptable in here? I hope i put my words in the right thread. Actually I want to make a new topic, but I couldn't do it b4 I reach 30 posts. __________________ I Live therefore I Love - I Love therefore I Live

07-17-2011, 04:14 AM	#17
Sachita Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Completely in love Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Virginia Posts: 3,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,564 Thanked 8,992 Times in 2,247 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I think its ok to break down sub cultures without seeming prejudice. Anyhow, good morning all the hot butches and beautiful femmes! Its going to be a fantastic Sunday. __________________ You either like me or you don't. It took me Twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don't have that kinda time to convince somebody else. ~ Daniel Franzese