Why can't I.....

tantalizingfemme · 08-29-2012, 08:00 PM

go poop around Dapper after being together over 3 years? I worry about what is going to happen when we move in together. I think I am really up shit's creek.

I wonder if it is because I have control issues......

What can't you do around your significant other?

Ginger · 08-29-2012, 08:20 PM

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Originally Posted by tantalizingfemme

go poop around Dapper after being together over 3 years? I worry about what is going to happen when we move in together. I think I am really up shit's creek.

I wonder if it is because I have control issues......

What can't you do around your significant other?

Well first of all, tantalizing femme, LOL, I think it's okay to always keep a few things out of your partner's view, to keep a few things behind the curtain, no matter what stage your relationship is in. You know, some mystery?

You say it like it's a bad thing, that you don't "poop" around your sweetie. I think ... it's really okay. Maybe it's healthy to have a little bit of private ground, some harmless bit of inviolable space, within shared space.

Some old movie I remember, it had Jill Clayburg, I can't remember the title—anyway, the man she's dating says he wants them to grow old together, and put their teeth in the same glass, and she says, "I want my own glass."

I was with a woman for ten years and we used to laugh and say, "I want my own glass," sometimes. We let each other have that little bit of separateness, when we needed it.

And btw, congratulations on moving in together!!

tantalizingfemme · 08-29-2012, 08:26 PM

Well the move in is future. No date. But I mean I can't do it unless I am in my own home and hy is at hys. Hy thinks I'm just really odd.

Novelafemme · 08-29-2012, 08:37 PM

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Well the move in is future. No date. But I mean I can't do it unless I am in my own home and hy is at his. Hy thinks I'm just really odd.

Hahahahahaha

I was sitting here reading your post out loud to Katy and then read Island Scout's response, and Katy was like, "YES! That! RIGHT THERE! What she said!!!"

I drive her C R A Z Y with my nonsensical privacy issues (of which I have none!) I think some of the best conversations two people can have are sometimes formulated in the bathroom.

She would like everything I do in the bathroom to remain a mystery.

Pooping issues are funny. My oldest daughter refuses to eat before school because the thought of having to poop AT school absolutely mortifies her.

I have been known to fart on the first date. True story.

Perhaps I am the wrong person for this thread because there's really nothing I can't do around Katy. I'm gross like that.

My poor, poor honey.

starryeyes · 08-29-2012, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Novelafemme

Hahahahahaha

I was sitting here reading your post out loud to Katy and then read Island Scout's response, and Katy was like, "YES! That! RIGHT THERE! What she said!!!"

I drive her C R A Z Y with my nonsensical privacy issues (of which I have none!) I think some of the best conversations two people can have are sometimes formulated in the bathroom.

She would like everything I do in the bathroom to remain a mystery.

Pooping issues are funny. My oldest daughter refuses to eat before school because the thought of having to poop AT school absolutely mortifies her.

I have been known to fart on the first date. True story.

Perhaps I am the wrong person for this thread because there's really nothing I can't do around Katy. I'm gross like that.

My poor, poor honey.

Me too.... Nothing is a secret. I wish I was more lady like but it just doesn't work that way. But! In front of other people, different story. I would NEVER poop in public. I would rather be in pain for an hour and drive home. Oh well. Haha :-)

tantalizingfemme · 08-29-2012, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Novelafemme

Hahahahahaha

Perhaps I am the wrong person for this thread because there's really nothing I can't do around Katy. I'm gross like that.

My poor, poor honey.

I think that's so funny.... I wisher I were "looser".....

Novelafemme · 08-29-2012, 08:48 PM

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I think that's so funny.... I wisher I were "looser".....

It's not just you, Tantalizingfemme. My best friend lived with his former girlfriend for two years and never ONCE saw her use the bathroom or heard her fart.

That just blows my mind!

You are just a private person!

Kudos to you!

tantalizingfemme · 08-29-2012, 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by IslandScout

Some old movie I remember, it had Jill Clayburg, I can't remember the title—anyway, the man she's dating says he wants them to grow old together, and put their teeth in the same glass, and she says, "I want my own glass."

That's awesome! Thanks.

Daywalker · 08-29-2012, 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by tantalizingfemme

go poop around Dapper after being together over 3 years? I worry about what is going to happen when we move in together. I think I am really up shit's creek.

I wonder if it is because I have control issues......

What can't you do around your significant other?

Lmaoooooo

Ok, well after almost 9 years I have no problem doing most things
in front of mah Wife. However, and this is pushing the envelope
on mah own limits of privacy as to what I post...but when I'm
stepping into mah Strap, the dressing room is closed.

Electrocell · 08-29-2012, 08:49 PM

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Originally Posted by tantalizingfemme

go poop around Dapper after being together over 3 years? I worry about what is going to happen when we move in together. I think I am really up shit's creek.

I wonder if it is because I have control issues......

What can't you do around your significant other?

Step in close the door turn the fan on or open window go -spray an air freshner leave the bathroom come out telling hym it smells like a bed of roses in there ( even though hy knows better -will agree with you and wait until it airs out lol). We are all human and we all do it. But I still have problems crapping in a public restroom at times . My one GF actually told me I taught her to fart lol.

tantalizingfemme · 08-29-2012, 08:51 PM

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My one GF actually told me I taught her to fart lol.

lol.......

Novelafemme · 08-29-2012, 08:54 PM

Another trick I learned is to flush the toilet as soon as you start to poop (OMG I LOVE THIS THREAD!!!) and that way there's no poop noise and a vast reduction of poopy smell. Either that or have a coughing fit if it's a noise issue.

tantalizingfemme · 08-29-2012, 08:56 PM

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Another trick I learned is to flush the toilet as soon as you start to poop (OMG I LOVE THIS THREAD!!!) and that way there's no poop noise and a vast reduction of poopy smell. Either that or have a coughing fit if it's a noise issue.

lmao I would probably be laughing too hard and not be able to go.....

Honestly, it's not noise or smell that stops me. I don't have the urge at all. Even if we have been together for 4 or 5 days straight. (and I'm vegan so I get plenty of ruffage) But the minute I get home, or hy leaves to go to hys.... game on.

nycfem · 08-29-2012, 09:01 PM

tantalizingfemme, how about starting with a phone call? You could still remain in separate homes, but give Dapper a call from the toilet when you have to poop. It might be a step towards more intimacy, and toilet flushing tricks wouldn't be necessary because any smell would be a non-issue.

princessbelle · 08-29-2012, 08:58 PM

I'm right there with you tantalizingfemme. The other day i left the bathroom door open a little and my puppy bella opened it the rest of the way.

I heard Bully coming down the hall and FREAKED OUT. I screamed SHUT YOUR EYES AND DON'T LOOK. She did and turned her head the other way. THANK GOODNESS

LOL@Novelafemme....so true!!!

You can also run the water on high and splash your hand around in it while you are on the pot if you are close enough. Then they think you are just washing your face.

tantalizingfemme · 08-29-2012, 09:00 PM

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I'm right there with you tantalizingfemme. The other day i left the bathroom door open a little and my puppy bella opened it the rest of the way.

I heard Bully coming down the hall and FREAKED OUT. I screamed SHUT YOUR EYES AND DON'T LOOK. She did and turned her head the other way. THANK GOODNESS

LOL@Novelafemme....so true!!!

You can also run the water on high and splash your hand around in it while you are on the pot if you are close enough. Then they think you are just washing your face.

OMG...you all have me laughing so hard...

LaneyDoll · 08-29-2012, 09:12 PM

My ex and I were together for YEARS and while I am sure he knew that my body acted like everyone else's, he never got confirmation-lol.

I had a c-section with my first child and everyone who has had surgery knows, they do not let you leave until you can use the bathroom-THAT way. Yes, I know the reasons for it and understand completely.

There I was, body systems were waking up from anesthesia, I was finally able to eat and beyond ready to get home. And I knew what I had to do to leave. But, the ex had NEVER, until that point, been allowed to be near the bathroom at that time.

However, I was post c-section and could not stand up with assistance. I was literally torn between buzzing for a nurse and calling him for help. It is funny now but then, I was mortified. And I ended up calling him rather than take the nurse away from her tasks.

I think that the extreme awareness of things like this may be Southern

Southern product alert: http://poopourri.com/

BullDog · 08-29-2012, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by princessbelle

I'm right there with you tantalizingfemme. The other day i left the bathroom door open a little and my puppy bella opened it the rest of the way.

I heard Bully coming down the hall and FREAKED OUT. I screamed SHUT YOUR EYES AND DON'T LOOK. She did and turned her head the other way. THANK GOODNESS

LOL@Novelafemme....so true!!!

You can also run the water on high and splash your hand around in it while you are on the pot if you are close enough. Then they think you are just washing your face.

LMAO, yes the 2 dogs always follow her in there and sometimes the cat. But never me. Honey I don't try to guess if it's No. 1 or No. 2

princessbelle · 08-29-2012, 09:21 PM

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LMAO, yes the 2 dogs always follow her in there and sometimes the cat. But never me. Honey I don't try to guess if it's No. 1 or No. 2

OMG YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSE TO BE IN HERE!!!!!

Hurry!!!!! Close your eyes and look away!!!

nekohl · 08-29-2012, 09:15 PM

I had a room mate in college and for 4 years she would turn the water on full blast whenever she was in the bathroom. Every so often me or one of the other roomies would mess with her and talk to her through the door while she was in there. I'm sure she was in there thinking "assholes! I gotta poop!"
Yeah, we were assholes.

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princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,499 Times in 5,201 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I'm right there with you tantalizingfemme. The other day i left the bathroom door open a little and my puppy bella opened it the rest of the way. I heard Bully coming down the hall and FREAKED OUT. I screamed SHUT YOUR EYES AND DON'T LOOK. She did and turned her head the other way. THANK GOODNESS LOL@Novelafemme....so true!!! You can also run the water on high and splash your hand around in it while you are on the pot if you are close enough. Then they think you are just washing your face. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

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LaneyDoll Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Girly girl femme Preferred Pronoun?: She; Ma'am; Miss ;) Relationship Status: Pitbull protected. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 2,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,892 Thanked 7,683 Times in 1,607 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Same here My ex and I were together for YEARS and while I am sure he knew that my body acted like everyone else's, he never got confirmation-lol. I had a c-section with my first child and everyone who has had surgery knows, they do not let you leave until you can use the bathroom-THAT way. Yes, I know the reasons for it and understand completely. There I was, body systems were waking up from anesthesia, I was finally able to eat and beyond ready to get home. And I knew what I had to do to leave. But, the ex had NEVER, until that point, been allowed to be near the bathroom at that time. However, I was post c-section and could not stand up with assistance. I was literally torn between buzzing for a nurse and calling him for help. It is funny now but then, I was mortified. And I ended up calling him rather than take the nurse away from her tasks. I think that the extreme awareness of things like this may be Southern Southern product alert: http://poopourri.com/ __________________ There are beauties who stop traffic and then there are beauties who grow obsessively in the hearts of the susceptible.

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nekohl Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: . Relationship Status: . Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Gone Posts: 446 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 632 Thanked 2,162 Times in 382 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	"Everyone Poops" by Taro Gomi I had a room mate in college and for 4 years she would turn the water on full blast whenever she was in the bathroom. Every so often me or one of the other roomies would mess with her and talk to her through the door while she was in there. I'm sure she was in there thinking "assholes! I gotta poop!" Yeah, we were assholes. __________________

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tantalizingfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: * Posts: 4,184 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,957 Thanked 3,991 Times in 822 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Well the move in is future. No date. But I mean I can't do it unless I am in my own home and hy is at hys. Hy thinks I'm just really odd.

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Novelafemme Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ........ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ........ Posts: 2,402 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,981 Thanked 8,925 Times in 1,834 Posts Rep Power: 0	Another trick I learned is to flush the toilet as soon as you start to poop (OMG I LOVE THIS THREAD!!!) and that way there's no poop noise and a vast reduction of poopy smell. Either that or have a coughing fit if it's a noise issue.

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nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,793 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,986 Thanked 21,600 Times in 5,102 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	tantalizingfemme, how about starting with a phone call? You could still remain in separate homes, but give Dapper a call from the toilet when you have to poop. It might be a step towards more intimacy, and toilet flushing tricks wouldn't be necessary because any smell would be a non-issue.