Breaking The Stereotype! - Page 6

Queerasfck · 05-30-2010, 06:21 PM

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Originally Posted by gayla

I've read this several different times. I had to really think about if I wanted to say anything. I didn't really want this to be a discussion kind of thread but, I choose not to let this just pass by.

Andrew - I appreciate your participation in this thread but I don't understand this. The words above, in bold, not only go against the spirit of the thread but they go so far beyond "qualifying and justifying" to a level that I just find offensive. Personal preference is one thing, and I probably would have just let it go, but adding the "Oh hell no" part at the end just crossed a line for me.

My point in creating this thread was to try to counteract some of the "x is ok but y isn't" crap that many of us face almost everyday. In one quick comment you've managed to do exactly that - liking X is ok... but only if they're not Y. And you did it in a way that feels really unnecessary and just plain icky to me.

I am glad you brought this up. I don't see the point of putting down people when explaining how 'you break stereotypes'.

scootebaby · 05-30-2010, 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

one time? i farted and burped.
without using terms like "fluff" and "frog".

she said fluff and frog

BoDy*ShOt · 05-30-2010, 06:25 PM

i am a jeans (or cutoff shorts) & barefoot, flipflops, or sandals and tanktop kinda girl; i am NOT a housekeeper; i like putting stuff together (i don't like putting stuff together with someone though) and working on a car; i like paying; i like opening the door for someone; i like doing yardwork (but don't like gardening); i don't like wearing heels most days (though i lust after them LOL); i'm not a fan of pink; i loathe shopping; and i rarely paint my nails

SuperFemme · 05-30-2010, 06:25 PM

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Originally Posted by scootebaby

she said fluff and frog

what? stop laughing.

princessbelle · 05-30-2010, 06:32 PM

I can't cook
I like camping
I like fishing
I could never be a "stay at home" person. I will always work, health provided.
I smoke
I have been known to cuss and I certainly can get right back with ya if ya dish it out.
I don't drink often, but when I do, I can slam tequilla like no body's bees wax.

scootebaby · 05-30-2010, 06:34 PM

omg you all hear that frog??????

SuperFemme · 05-30-2010, 06:47 PM

i also happen to have an amazing right hook.

scootebaby · 05-30-2010, 06:52 PM

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Originally Posted by SuperFemme

i also happen to have an amazing right hook.

its called breaking the stereotype,NOT breaking a jaw...dayuuuuuum lol

SuperFemme · 05-30-2010, 06:53 PM

oh. oopsie.

one time i spit.

Daryn · 05-30-2010, 06:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

*I tried to learn to ride a motorcycle and nearly took out my life, but those around me. However, I love motorcycles.

Ugh. I am reminded of crashing my father's brand new bike into a brick wall (flipping stiff clutch and mouthy father) the week I was learning to ride many decades ago... I like fast cars much better thanks... no bruises and less chance of dying.

The_Lady_Snow · 05-30-2010, 07:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gayla

I've read this several different times. I had to really think about if I wanted to say anything. I didn't really want this to be a discussion kind of thread but, I choose not to let this just pass by.

Andrew - I appreciate your participation in this thread but I don't understand this. The words above, in bold, not only go against the spirit of the thread but they go so far beyond "qualifying and justifying" to a level that I just find offensive. Personal preference is one thing, and I probably would have just let it go, but adding the "Oh hell no" part at the end just crossed a line for me.

My point in creating this thread was to try to counteract some of the "x is ok but y isn't" crap that many of us face almost everyday. In one quick comment you've managed to do exactly that - liking X is ok... but only if they're not Y. And you did it in a way that feels really unnecessary and just plain icky to me.

Thank you gayla for addressing this... I am a Daddy, a Femme Daddy, and well we kinda know that is a breaking of the stereoptype.

I am speaking for all the Femme Daddy's I know who would be offended..

It sucks when someone comes in and tries to put us down for who we are..

Just sayin

Andrew, Jr. · 05-30-2010, 07:11 PM

Gayla,

My apologies to you and anyone I offended. I tried to come back and erase it, but it was too late to do so.

Namaste,
Andrew

Daryn,

I was in Florida on vacation. My stepfather bought a brand new Harley. Now, he was about 6' tall and I am short 5'4". With that said, the bike was too big for me to even reach the ground with my foot. I have no clue as to how I managed not to kill myself or anyone else that day. I have some polaroids from that famous day. And the beautiful bike before I rode it. At the funeral of his ex-wife, I had so many folks come up to me and talk about that Harley, and that famous ride I took - lol.

Gayla · 05-30-2010, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

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My apologies to you and anyone I offended. I tried to come back and erase it, but it was too late to do so.

My question is, why post it in the first place?

The_Lady_Snow · 05-30-2010, 07:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gayla

My question is, why post it in the first place?

*raises hand*

I can answer I can answer!!!!

UofMfan · 05-30-2010, 07:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gayla

My question is, why post it in the first place?

MODERATION:

Are you moderating this thread?

Andrew has apologized, can we go back to the spirit of the thread?

Thank you.

Gayla · 05-30-2010, 07:20 PM

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Originally Posted by UofMfan

MODERATION:

Are you moderating this thread?

Andrew has apologized, can we go back to the spirit of the thread?

Thank you.

Nope. I'm not moderating.

The whole point of the thread was to break the stereotypes without justification and qualification. I'm trying to understand why it's so hard for people to just say X without adding Y. I know why it's hard for me. I would like to know why it's hard for other people.

UofMfan · 05-30-2010, 07:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gayla

Nope. I'm not moderating.

The whole point of the thread was to break the stereotypes without justification and qualification. I'm trying to understand why it's so hard for people to just say X without adding Y. I know why it's hard for me. I would like to know why it's hard for other people.

MODERATION:

Yes I know, you pointed that to me when I posted earlier.

What you just did had nothing to do with how you want to MANAGE your thread. That is very evident, so please don't even go there.

If you want to discuss my moderation I will be more than willing to do so via PM.

Thank you.

The_Lady_Snow · 05-30-2010, 07:36 PM

I break a stereotype everyday I wake up..

I am a loud, opinionated, woman....

In some eyes, women are to be demure....

I am proud of breaking that stereotype every day...

Massive · 05-30-2010, 08:07 PM

I love cooking.
I love giving massages.
I love getting flowers.
I call myself a dyke, etc, but I'm proud of having tits.
I always apologise if I burp, even if I'm online and nobody can hear me.
I dye my hair, and I use bright colours ...
I will always stop and ooh and aww at a cute kitten/cat/puppy/dog etc

Martina · 05-31-2010, 08:12 PM

For years i spent most of my free time hanging out with straight white guys in bars and clubs listening to altcountry bands (Steve Earle, Lucinda Williams -- that kind of thing).

My CD's are more important than my shoes or anything i wear.

i wear a few outfits all the time -- rotating. i never have a lot of clothes.

i date femmes as well as butches. i love the butch-femme dynamic. It is effing HOT, but it's not the only dynamic that gets me hot.

i usually decorate my apartments in a sort of sophomore male's dorm room aesthetic.

i pay attention to the people who interest me. i will forget even extremely cute butches' names if they don't do something memorable.

i prefer beer to any other kind of alcoholic drink.

When i have sex people who like these things, i fist, lick, bite, slap, growl, and fuck.

i ID as a lesbian before i ID as femme.

i feel a strong sense of sisterhood with feminine lesbians (not femmes) and straight women. i think of them as like me in many ways.

i'd much rather be naked in public than dressed up in formal attire. (i am naked in public occasionally -- at leather events -- so that's not hypothetical.)

i like butches with curves. (A friend reminded me about that the other day.) YUM.

i take no prisoners when i argue.

i have no crafty hobbies.

i use no emoticons or anything online that twinkles, shines, or sparkles. i will increase my font to wish someone a happy birthday.

There is nothing babygirl or daddy's girl about me. i do not have the gene.

05-30-2010, 06:25 PM	#103
BoDyShOt Member How Do You Identify?: Queer. Femme. Preferred Pronoun?: girl ones Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Twin Cities Posts: 1,020 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,460 Thanked 2,096 Times in 532 Posts Rep Power*: 21474852	i am a jeans (or cutoff shorts) & barefoot, flipflops, or sandals and tanktop kinda girl; i am NOT a housekeeper; i like putting stuff together (i don't like putting stuff together with someone though) and working on a car; i like paying; i like opening the door for someone; i like doing yardwork (but don't like gardening); i don't like wearing heels most days (though i lust after them LOL); i'm not a fan of pink; i loathe shopping; and i rarely paint my nails __________________ ...not your average betty.

05-30-2010, 06:32 PM	#105
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,503 Times in 5,201 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Lovely thread I can't cook I like camping I like fishing I could never be a "stay at home" person. I will always work, health provided. I smoke I have been known to cuss and I certainly can get right back with ya if ya dish it out. I don't drink often, but when I do, I can slam tequilla like no body's bees wax. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

05-30-2010, 07:36 PM	#118
The_Lady_Snow MILLION $$$ PUSSY How Do You Identify?: Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Iconic Ms. Relationship Status: Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: La Reina del Sur Posts: 22,488 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 32,231 Thanked 80,119 Times in 15,678 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	I break a stereotype everyday I wake up.. I am a loud, opinionated, woman.... In some eyes, women are to be demure.... I am proud of breaking that stereotype every day... __________________ "If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden

05-30-2010, 08:07 PM	#119
Massive Member How Do You Identify?: Trans man Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him Relationship Status: not looking Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Northern England Posts: 945 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,669 Thanked 2,383 Times in 765 Posts Rep Power: 17762094	I love cooking. I love giving massages. I love getting flowers. I call myself a dyke, etc, but I'm proud of having tits. I always apologise if I burp, even if I'm online and nobody can hear me. I dye my hair, and I use bright colours ... I will always stop and ooh and aww at a cute kitten/cat/puppy/dog etc __________________ You may not be able to choose your bio-family, but you can choose your Family

05-30-2010, 06:34 PM	#106
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SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,109 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	oh. oopsie. one time i spit.

05-30-2010, 07:11 PM	#112
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Gayla, My apologies to you and anyone I offended. I tried to come back and erase it, but it was too late to do so. Namaste, Andrew Daryn, I was in Florida on vacation. My stepfather bought a brand new Harley. Now, he was about 6' tall and I am short 5'4". With that said, the bike was too big for me to even reach the ground with my foot. I have no clue as to how I managed not to kill myself or anyone else that day. I have some polaroids from that famous day. And the beautiful bike before I rode it. At the funeral of his ex-wife, I had so many folks come up to me and talk about that Harley, and that famous ride I took - lol.

05-31-2010, 08:12 PM	#120
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,368 Times in 4,171 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	For years i spent most of my free time hanging out with straight white guys in bars and clubs listening to altcountry bands (Steve Earle, Lucinda Williams -- that kind of thing). My CD's are more important than my shoes or anything i wear. i wear a few outfits all the time -- rotating. i never have a lot of clothes. i date femmes as well as butches. i love the butch-femme dynamic. It is effing HOT, but it's not the only dynamic that gets me hot. i usually decorate my apartments in a sort of sophomore male's dorm room aesthetic. i pay attention to the people who interest me. i will forget even extremely cute butches' names if they don't do something memorable. i prefer beer to any other kind of alcoholic drink. When i have sex people who like these things, i fist, lick, bite, slap, growl, and fuck. i ID as a lesbian before i ID as femme. i feel a strong sense of sisterhood with feminine lesbians (not femmes) and straight women. i think of them as like me in many ways. i'd much rather be naked in public than dressed up in formal attire. (i am naked in public occasionally -- at leather events -- so that's not hypothetical.) i like butches with curves. (A friend reminded me about that the other day.) YUM. i take no prisoners when i argue. i have no crafty hobbies. i use no emoticons or anything online that twinkles, shines, or sparkles. i will increase my font to wish someone a happy birthday. There is nothing babygirl or daddy's girl about me. i do not have the gene.