What have you learned? - Page 6

Licious · 05-13-2012, 08:32 PM

today, you know, just one of those days. so when I read the question, my first response was "apparently nothing" (sarcasm!)

but in truth, i keep learning every day WHO I AM. this turns out to be the main thing i needed to know all those years.

femmsational · 05-13-2012, 08:33 PM

I have learned, just today, that I really don't want him gone for 5 days every week for at least a year. I have also learned, throughout life, that I don't always get what I *want*.

And here I thought I was all independent and stuff. Not so much I guess when it comes to him. That sucks. LOL!!!

~ocean · 05-13-2012, 08:53 PM

I've accepted being friends.. and i try everyday to make that happen. i believe once freinds always friends.

theres a song by musiqu soul child called half crazy . says it all

i'll just go post it ~

Cid · 05-14-2012, 07:49 PM

I've learned a lot over the years, but one thing that surprised me is that I don't always respond to things the way I thought I would. So many times I've thought..if 'this' happens then 'that' is the way that I would react.

For instance, I thought if I ever got divorced or my husband were to leave me I'd end up in a corner crying my eyes out and being scared to death to face the world. Turns out that I'm doing just fine on my own and life is better than I ever thought it would be.

I've learned that sometimes it's best that the thing you really wanted to have happen, doesn't happen at all. But it usually takes a bit of time to figure that one out.

sylvie · 05-21-2012, 08:31 PM

i have learned..

that friends don't always have your best intentions at heart, and that as i grow on this journey of mine, i learn lessons more and more each day.. Seeing things at face value as they happen and seeing the fierce girl in me, who now protects herself and takes care of herself & those she loves..

Part of me, is so proud of the changes within , but the other part of me feels sadness, for having to see it differently now..

But mostly, i am very grateful for true friends, the ones who have your back & love you for all you are.. and who are truly tickled for your happiness, the changes you make in life and celebrate your successes along with you.. i do have some very kickass friends...<3

OS Butch · 05-21-2012, 08:34 PM

I have learned....
The hurrier I go, be behinder I get

Justin · 05-21-2012, 08:36 PM

I have learned that nothing worth having is ever easy, do the hard work and all will be worth it !!!!

Julien · 05-21-2012, 08:58 PM

As a wise woman stated, we are all interconnected. It is a small world.

Amber2010 · 05-22-2012, 03:46 AM

I have learned that no matter how much you think you know someone you really never did. Until you can be in their head you just don't see the clear picture.

kittygrrl · 06-05-2012, 07:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Amber2010

I have learned that no matter how much you think you know someone you really never did. Until you can be in their head you just don't see the clear picture.

so true, you need both

fever · 06-06-2012, 02:57 PM

To appreciate our friends and family, and not wait to tell them how important they are in our lives. Also, and this is the biggest lesson for me, is to take care of our health before repairing damage is almost impossible.

I am grateful for every heartache and disappointment, because I now treasure every success and newfound joy.

kittygrrl · 06-06-2012, 05:17 PM

picking thru the cherries~of~ life is the pits!

JAGG · 06-06-2012, 05:45 PM

Just when you think you might know someone, they will prove you wrong.

girl_dee · 06-06-2012, 06:57 PM

That walking around this farm is like a slice of heaven and therapy all in one

That i thrive when i have lots to do

That as i visualize what i want to happen, it does.

That Syr is the reason that my life is so good.

RockOn · 06-06-2012, 07:49 PM

... I do not think I have a knack for growing flowers.

Thought I would try to do something different. Decided I would grow calla lilies to give to friends when they grew to pretty. I was so excited.

All twenty-something came up and are lushy green. Kelly Bully dog dug up, chewed a few bulbs to pieces and something came in the night - ate a couple more but still had plenty.

I do not know why they will not make at least one flower.
It has been 6 or 8 weeks I think ... or maybe five.

I had envisioned making people happy when I distributed them.

I continue watering, fertilizing - taking care of them.

I think I am a butch with silly dreams. Oh well, not the end of the world by any means.

I have learned not to attempt to grow any more flowers.

JustJo · 06-06-2012, 08:09 PM

Don't give up yet....callas take 3 or 4 months to bloom. They'll get there!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brock

... I do not think I have a knack for growing flowers.

Thought I would try to do something different. Decided I would grow calla lilies to give to friends when they grew to pretty. I was so excited.

All twenty-something came up and are lushy green. Kelly Bully dog dug up, chewed a few bulbs to pieces and something came in the night - ate a couple more but still had plenty.

I do not know why they will not make at least one flower.
It has been 6 or 8 weeks I think ... or maybe five.

I had envisioned making people happy when I distributed them.

I continue watering, fertilizing - taking care of them.

I think I am a butch with silly dreams. Oh well, not the end of the world by any means.

I have learned not to attempt to grow any more flowers.

chefhmboyrd · 06-06-2012, 08:21 PM

as soon as you say that you are going to be celibate,

comes flying at you from every direction.............

if it quacks like a duck, walks like a duck, and looks like a duck... She's a whore

as soon as you say you want to diet, a new flavor of ben and jerry's comes out

just when you think you have all the bills paid, something comes up

as soon as you swear off blonde blue-eyed scorpio yankee women, one steals your heart................

MrSunshine · 06-06-2012, 08:25 PM

There is a good reason why we don't begin life with the knowledge we gain along the way.

Breezy · 06-06-2012, 08:41 PM

Each day is special and best lived well rather than avoided.

I enjoy long hugs and lingering kisses.

Deep, intimate conversations are the best.

When I realized I had awakened spiritually I found I was avoiding conflict and negativity at all cost. I had to learn there is a big difference between those and the grief process and simply feeling. I thought I had to be above negative emotions. Who'dathunk it. lol. I am glad I figured it out.

I can feel my emotions and either let them over take me or I can process them and let it go.

"Good girls" DO get angry, they cry, they need, they deserve and they can desire. It was lie I was taught as a child that it was not okay.

I like who I am.

kittygrrl · 06-06-2012, 08:49 PM

it's the journey i treasure (most), the destination is empty w/o it

05-13-2012, 08:32 PM	#101
Licious Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: California Posts: 686 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,502 Thanked 1,974 Times in 546 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	today, you know, just one of those days. so when I read the question, my first response was "apparently nothing" (sarcasm!) but in truth, i keep learning every day WHO I AM. this turns out to be the main thing i needed to know all those years. __________________ Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth. ~Rumi

05-13-2012, 08:33 PM	#102
femmsational Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: bitch, but she will do Relationship Status: Spoiled beyond rotten! Join Date: May 2012 Location: lower alabama Posts: 808 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 866 Thanked 3,788 Times in 773 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	I have learned, just today, that I really don't want him gone for 5 days every week for at least a year. I have also learned, throughout life, that I don't always get what I want. And here I thought I was all independent and stuff. Not so much I guess when it comes to him. That sucks. LOL!!! __________________ If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough" Albert Einstein Yes, I'm aware I can't spell, and no, I don't care quite enough to spell check. Sorry!!!

05-14-2012, 07:49 PM	#104
Cid Member How Do You Identify?: ultra femme princess Preferred Pronoun?: she, lady..whichever Relationship Status: waiting for the right one Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Don't follow me, I'm lost. Posts: 807 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,627 Thanked 2,731 Times in 632 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	I've learned a lot over the years, but one thing that surprised me is that I don't always respond to things the way I thought I would. So many times I've thought..if 'this' happens then 'that' is the way that I would react. For instance, I thought if I ever got divorced or my husband were to leave me I'd end up in a corner crying my eyes out and being scared to death to face the world. Turns out that I'm doing just fine on my own and life is better than I ever thought it would be. I've learned that sometimes it's best that the thing you really wanted to have happen, doesn't happen at all. But it usually takes a bit of time to figure that one out. __________________ Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain.

05-21-2012, 08:31 PM	#105
sylvie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Mr Mtn's babygirl Preferred Pronoun?: girly, she Relationship Status: fiercely protected ♥ Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Moving home in OR with Him VERY soooon !! Posts: 2,548 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,834 Thanked 7,501 Times in 1,850 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	i have learned.. that friends don't always have your best intentions at heart, and that as i grow on this journey of mine, i learn lessons more and more each day.. Seeing things at face value as they happen and seeing the fierce girl in me, who now protects herself and takes care of herself & those she loves.. Part of me, is so proud of the changes within , but the other part of me feels sadness, for having to see it differently now.. But mostly, i am very grateful for true friends, the ones who have your back & love you for all you are.. and who are truly tickled for your happiness, the changes you make in life and celebrate your successes along with you.. i do have some very kickass friends...<3 __________________ my Mantra: i am letting go of angers, continuing to find forgiveness, welcoming inner peace & deserving of it all. my facebook weight loss page: http://www.facebook.com/asyllyjourney

05-21-2012, 08:34 PM	#106
OS Butch Member How Do You Identify?: Butch-BLW Preferred Pronoun?: Default-She Relationship Status: Closed Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 636 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 488 Thanked 1,378 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 12988703	I have learned.... The hurrier I go, be behinder I get __________________ You know that place between sleep and awake, the place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I'll always love you. ~Tinkerbell~

05-13-2012, 08:53 PM	#103
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,121 Times in 4,737 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I've accepted being friends.. and i try everyday to make that happen. i believe once freinds always friends. theres a song by musiqu soul child called half crazy . says it all i'll just go post it ~

05-21-2012, 08:36 PM	#107
Justin Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Sir Relationship Status: Engaged Join Date: May 2011 Location: Sacramento Posts: 465 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 537 Thanked 635 Times in 179 Posts Rep Power: 5003575	I have learned that nothing worth having is ever easy, do the hard work and all will be worth it !!!!

05-21-2012, 08:58 PM	#108
Julien Member How Do You Identify?: TG/GenderQueer Preferred Pronoun?: I'm flexible, but only up to a point. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Alabama, Gulf Coast area Posts: 1,007 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,247 Thanked 2,701 Times in 737 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	As a wise woman stated, we are all interconnected. It is a small world. __________________ Julien “Self-plagiarism is style.” Alfred Hitchcock Formerly known as Graphiteta2s

05-22-2012, 03:46 AM	#109
Amber2010 Member How Do You Identify?: Happy, Crazy, Bubbly, Funny, Strong, Outgoing, Friendly Preferred Pronoun?: Femme Relationship Status: Complicated Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 920 Thanked 594 Times in 154 Posts Rep Power: 3787183	I have learned that no matter how much you think you know someone you really never did. Until you can be in their head you just don't see the clear picture.

06-06-2012, 02:57 PM	#111
fever Member How Do You Identify?: stonefemme Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near Vancouver, B.C. Canada Posts: 592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,649 Thanked 1,280 Times in 357 Posts Rep Power: 17783435	I have learned.......... To appreciate our friends and family, and not wait to tell them how important they are in our lives. Also, and this is the biggest lesson for me, is to take care of our health before repairing damage is almost impossible. I am grateful for every heartache and disappointment, because I now treasure every success and newfound joy.

06-06-2012, 05:17 PM	#112
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: b. grrl Relationship Status: xoxo Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Lavender haze Posts: 8,844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,396 Thanked 21,419 Times in 6,755 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	what have i learned picking thru the cherries~of~ life is the pits! __________________ "All cruelty springs from weakness" Seneca

06-06-2012, 05:45 PM	#113
JAGG Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: JAGG Relationship Status: =) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tulsa (cat free zone) Posts: 6,093 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,651 Thanked 17,543 Times in 4,141 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Just when you think you might know someone, they will prove you wrong. __________________ I don't want to spend my life with someone I can live with, I want to spend my life with someone I can't live without.

06-06-2012, 06:57 PM	#114
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,958 Times in 13,923 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	That walking around this farm is like a slice of heaven and therapy all in one That i thrive when i have lots to do That as i visualize what i want to happen, it does. That Syr is the reason that my life is so good.

06-06-2012, 07:49 PM	#115
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,308 Times in 2,609 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I have learned ... I do not think I have a knack for growing flowers. Thought I would try to do something different. Decided I would grow calla lilies to give to friends when they grew to pretty. I was so excited. All twenty-something came up and are lushy green. Kelly Bully dog dug up, chewed a few bulbs to pieces and something came in the night - ate a couple more but still had plenty. I do not know why they will not make at least one flower. It has been 6 or 8 weeks I think ... or maybe five. I had envisioned making people happy when I distributed them. I continue watering, fertilizing - taking care of them. I think I am a butch with silly dreams. Oh well, not the end of the world by any means. I have learned not to attempt to grow any more flowers.

06-06-2012, 08:21 PM	#117
chefhmboyrd Senior Member How Do You Identify?: man Preferred Pronoun?: beef Relationship Status: Uncle Daddy Snap Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: nashvegas Posts: 1,606 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,411 Thanked 2,845 Times in 898 Posts Rep Power: 14057155	what i have learned...... as soon as you say that you are going to be celibate, comes flying at you from every direction............. if it quacks like a duck, walks like a duck, and looks like a duck... She's a whore as soon as you say you want to diet, a new flavor of ben and jerry's comes out just when you think you have all the bills paid, something comes up as soon as you swear off blonde blue-eyed scorpio yankee women, one steals your heart................ __________________ what's a cowboy got to do to get a drink around here?

06-06-2012, 08:25 PM	#118
MrSunshine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The Gardner Preferred Pronoun?: Ummmm Relationship Status: Nah Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sunshine State, State of Sunshine Posts: 2,616 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,577 Thanked 3,890 Times in 1,155 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	There is a good reason why we don't begin life with the knowledge we gain along the way.

06-06-2012, 08:41 PM	#119
Breezy Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: . Posts: 1,372 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,337 Thanked 4,555 Times in 1,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Each day is special and best lived well rather than avoided. I enjoy long hugs and lingering kisses. Deep, intimate conversations are the best. When I realized I had awakened spiritually I found I was avoiding conflict and negativity at all cost. I had to learn there is a big difference between those and the grief process and simply feeling. I thought I had to be above negative emotions. Who'dathunk it. lol. I am glad I figured it out. I can feel my emotions and either let them over take me or I can process them and let it go. "Good girls" DO get angry, they cry, they need, they deserve and they can desire. It was lie I was taught as a child that it was not okay. I like who I am.

06-06-2012, 08:49 PM	#120
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: b. grrl Relationship Status: xoxo Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Lavender haze Posts: 8,844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,396 Thanked 21,419 Times in 6,755 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I've (often) learned... it's the journey i treasure (most), the destination is empty w/o it __________________ "All cruelty springs from weakness" Seneca