Do you have a crush on anyone here at The Planet?

[laruss]

Originally Posted by ~ocean

There's not enough crushing going on in here . ** Lets try a new way.** DESCRIBE what u would like your CRUSH to :
1, Be like.
2. Look like ..
3. Treat u like.

YOUR TURN ~~

My ideal crush...
1. Kind, considerate, self aware, calls me on my shit, adventurous, full of life, must have a love of learning, and be a woman who loves me and all my quirks.
2. A Butch who is very comfortable in their own skin.
3. Depending on the moment... a princess, a lady, a whore, a queen, a partner, an equal, and like someone they cannot live without, while knowing they could they just choose not too.

[bkisbutchenuff]

This is simple yet hard...



1, Be like.
2. Look like ..
3. Treat u like.

1) She must be goal oriented, true and honest from the beginning
2) She should be herself at all times... - but must have femme qualities (yum)
3) She should treat me as I treat her - with the utmost respect and support!

[Mr Nice Guy]

Ocean, another great idea and another way to crush or meet true love. Who knows?

[Ginger]

My ideal crush...

I can't follow in step with the posts I'm seeing here, as heartfelt and thoughtful as they seem.

That's because I think people are talking about crushes as if having a crush is synonymous with falling in love, or an indicator of someone they could care about.

But falling in love is not what I'm talking about, when I talk about a crush. I'm not saying one definition is better than the other, I'm just saying mine is different.

To crush on someone, all they have to do is answer a need, fill a gap that exists at that particular time in my life.

For example, if I am feeling invisible, and someone makes me feel visible, I might very well crush on that person. If I am feeling unappreciated sexually, and they appreciate me sexually, even in a cyber way, I might crush on that person.

On the Internet it's easy for me to crush in this way, because there are no distractions, like what the person looks, sounds and feels like in person. It can just be about that one pure need-being-met phenomenon.

It has happened to me every time I've entered a new social website community. I'm just as vulnerable to it now as I've always been.

And I don't think it's a bad thing at all, this experience that I'm identifying as a crush.

But it isn't the same as falling in love.

If I am going to fall in love with you, you have to do more than answer some un-met need in me. If I am going to love you, I have to admire, adore and be fascinated by your inner and outer self. I have to see how you interact with others, how you treat people who have less power than you, how consistent you are, in your behavior; how reflective and honest you are.

The turn this Thread has taken has made me realize I'm not working with the same core of expectations about what it means to have a crush.

But it is good to see what the Thread has done, which is to have encouraged people to reflect on what will trigger their initial attraction to a person they might consider dating, and could maybe love. Or at least that's what I think I'm hearing. And what it's done for me is make me think a lot about how love starts and what makes it go away. That's what I got out of the crush thread. I feel glad for that.

[Mr Nice Guy]

Your words are beautiful and heartfelt. I just want to say thank you.

[rockstar lover]

Originally Posted by ~ocean

Theres not enough crushing going on in here . ** Lets try a new way.** DESCRIBE what u would like your CRUSH to :
1, Be like.
2. Look like ..
3. Treat u like.


YOUR TURN ~~

1. grounded, sexy, sweet, romantic, someone willing to take a chance on love, witty, quirky, spiritual, giving
2. the femme goddess she was destined to be
3. her partner, lover, best friend, equal; she would treat me with the love, respect and adoration that I show to her.


Am I asking for too much?!

[ferret]

I'll play.

Be like: Witty, intelligent, genuine, affectionate.
Look like: Femme, but don't freak out if you break a nail or get dirty.
Treat me like: You would like to be treated and like an equal. Nothing more, nothing less.

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

Originally Posted by ~ocean

Theres not enough crushing going on in here . ** Lets try a new way.** DESCRIBE what u would like your CRUSH to :
1, Be like.
2. Look like ..
3. Treat u like.

My turn I think.

My crush must be a unique woman in some way...stand out from the "clicks"a strong woman yet can be vulnerable and turn to me, self aware, comfortable with who she is, has a thirst for learning not just academically but in life, funny, open to new experience, and must be okay with the simple fact that I am male ID that hates labels.....to begin with

How she looks is not important because I have a wide range of taste for a physical appearance....yet she must have inner beauty....that is what will keep me interested

Treat me like a friend always, with respect, as the knight I am in my heart, as, as I treat her, flirt with me even after she catches my attention, most important like she really wants to get to know me....

Those are but a few qualities for someone to have that will cause me to crush on her....now if your talking about developing a relationship and falling in love she should have all of the above but also should be open to a LDR with the knowledge that while I do NOT own a U-Haul I am also the type to change the LDR into something more tangible....she should love music, animals, and be love staying at home alone with me and much as going out

[grenade]

Originally Posted by ferret

I'll play.

Be like: Witty, intelligent, genuine, affectionate.
Look like: Femme, but don't freak out if you break a nail or get dirty.
Treat me like: You would like to be treated and like an equal. Nothing more, nothing less.

Breaking an acrylic or gel nail, hurts like hell. It would take a high pain tolerance not to freak out. I bent one back today and almost cried. Almost.

[tazz]

i think, i do, i dunno, i desire...

A Crush!!!

a very unique and special Crush... and be it i dont Crush on just anybody... plus i dont Crush for the sake of having a Crush in order to fill loneliness.

i am Ready and Willing for my next Crush

[Nomad]

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Originally Posted by IslandScout

If I am going to fall in love with you, you have to do more than answer some un-met need in me. If I am going to love you, I have to admire, adore and be fascinated by your inner and outer self. I have to see how you interact with others, how you treat people who have less power than you, how consistent you are, in your behavior; how reflective and honest you are.

The turn this Thread has taken has made me realize I'm not working with the same core of expectations about what it means to have a crush.

But it is good to see what the Thread has done, which is to have encouraged people to reflect on what will trigger their initial attraction to a person they might consider dating, and could maybe love. Or at least that's what I think I'm hearing. And what it's done for me is make me think a lot about how love starts and what makes it go away. That's what I got out of the crush thread. I feel glad for that.

this. just this.

[ferret]

Originally Posted by grenade

Breaking an acrylic or gel nail, hurts like hell. It would take a high pain tolerance not to freak out. I bent one back today and almost cried. Almost.

Aw, Gren. God love you I think what I'm trying to say is more along the lines of low-maintenance. And I'm sure breaking an acrylic or gel nail hurts like a mofo.

Sue

[Mr Nice Guy]

Breaking a nail sucks. I know this from dating women with nails. Ow!! Bending back or breaking at the quick hurts like hell. I'm good at mending boo boos.

[Nomad]

i dont have a clue what my crush would be like. but it got me to thinkin what i want to be like, look like and treat me like the next time i crush, or even if i never crush again.

the next time i crush i want to be someone who takes up more room in a relationship rather than the person who backs up from rather than steps up to who she is. my biggest mistake in life is embracing worry instead of letting go. when i do this i forget to be exactly who i am and i begin to be someone who will do anything to make everything right which is not a possible thing to begin with.

the next time i crush i want to look like a truer version of myself, not the self i think i should be or think someone else is hoping i'll become. this is a lie that i trick myself with and the only thing it leads to is a sense of unworthiness which is also a lie because i am completely worthy of love.

the next time i crush i want to treat myself the way i would treat someone i love. i know that everyone has bad moments or bad days or even bad weeks but underlying all that crazy is love. love is a whole that is so much larger than the sum of its parts but we focus on the feeling it creates in our bodies and minds rather than on the things that love is supposed to mean. love, the verb, is made up of respect, compassion, honesty, trust, faith, loyalty, healthy expectation, accountability, endurance and humor. i am guilty of treating myself to none of these things and so i am also guilty of depriving my partner of them. this makes the circumstance of love into a noun which deprives it of its texture and and suppleness, rendering it into something that is 2 dimensional. when love becomes a noun its easier to take things for granted and to let yourself slip into non-recognizing behavior. i consistently fail to recognize myself as someone i should love; love with all the active components that make it a 3D experience. when i treat myself 2 dimensionally i teach other people to treat me that way also. and worse, i do the same to them.

i think we need to spend more time sincerely learning to crush on ourselves for a change. if we loved ourselves that much how could anyone else fail to see how worthy we are of the effort? maybe even more importantly we might be able to convince others that they should love themselves just as fiercely because they are worth the effort too.

[~ocean]

((((nomad )))) seems u have gone threw alot .. for this i am sry .. u need to heal b4 u can even entertain the thought of crushing anyone .. keep talking it helps ~~

[Mr Nice Guy]

Nomad, we are here for you like Ocean said. I healed from a heartache by posting til I let it all out. It really helped a lot. Now I'm just hanging and waiting for whatever or whomever comes next. I'm ready for love! There I said it. . I must admit that I read this and think I sound like a goofball.

[~ocean]

BTW its a drive in kinda night ) ~~ just saying

[The_Lady_Snow]

My crushes on people are in no way tied to romantic feelings, nor are they set with an expectation of a hook up or relationship, they're like flirtatious non boundary crossing admirations

That's why they are great to have because they're light like mojitos!

[WolfyOne]

I'd like to know my crush accepts me as I am...flawed
Does not want to change me into someone they want me to be

I lost part of me in my last relationship and getting it back has taken a few years, so with that said, I want an independent person who likes to co pilot every now and again, but won't put a strangle hold on me and will hold me loosely. It's great to have the same friends and also great to have friends that we don't have to share, but are friendly towards us when we're all together. I want someone that will work with me instead of against me. If I make a mistake, I'll eat it and say I'm sorry, but I don't want to be reminded of it for years. I am not perfect and would like for my crush to be flawed, too...I may have missed something in this post, so I reserve the right to come back and answer any questions one may toss out at me.

So, anyone interested in crushing on me after reading that?

[WolfyOne]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

My crushes on people are in no way tied to romantic feelings, nor are they set with an expectation of a hook up or relationship, they're like flirtatious non boundary crossing admirations

That's why they are great to have because they're light like mojitos!

I never had a mojito, but I do admire you as a person