Do you have a crush on anyone here at The Planet? - Page 68

The_Lady_Snow · 07-27-2012, 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by WolfyOne

I never had a mojito, but I do admire you as a person

They're delicious, mojitos!

Mr Nice Guy · 07-28-2012, 02:38 AM

Ok peeps, today is tell your crush day. Don't you love these special Holidays. So stand up and shout it out to the world!!

Today I am crushing on..... _________.

*** Hey I can't help myself.

Breezy · 07-28-2012, 08:33 AM

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Originally Posted by IslandScout

My ideal crush...

I can't follow in step with the posts I'm seeing here, as heartfelt and thoughtful as they seem.

That's because I think people are talking about crushes as if having a crush is synonymous with falling in love, or an indicator of someone they could care about.

But falling in love is not what I'm talking about, when I talk about a crush. I'm not saying one definition is better than the other, I'm just saying mine is different.

To crush on someone, all they have to do is answer a need, fill a gap that exists at that particular time in my life.

For example, if I am feeling invisible, and someone makes me feel visible, I might very well crush on that person. If I am feeling unappreciated sexually, and they appreciate me sexually, even in a cyber way, I might crush on that person.

On the Internet it's easy for me to crush in this way, because there are no distractions, like what the person looks, sounds and feels like in person. It can just be about that one pure need-being-met phenomenon.

It has happened to me every time I've entered a new social website community. I'm just as vulnerable to it now as I've always been.

And I don't think it's a bad thing at all, this experience that I'm identifying as a crush.

But it isn't the same as falling in love.

If I am going to fall in love with you, you have to do more than answer some un-met need in me. If I am going to love you, I have to admire, adore and be fascinated by your inner and outer self. I have to see how you interact with others, how you treat people who have less power than you, how consistent you are, in your behavior; how reflective and honest you are.

The turn this Thread has taken has made me realize I'm not working with the same core of expectations about what it means to have a crush.

But it is good to see what the Thread has done, which is to have encouraged people to reflect on what will trigger their initial attraction to a person they might consider dating, and could maybe love. Or at least that's what I think I'm hearing. And what it's done for me is make me think a lot about how love starts and what makes it go away. That's what I got out of the crush thread. I feel glad for that.

I hear you, darlin. Crushing for me is very similar. I do leave myself open for interpretation by others here. Please do not think you have incompatible views. Some view crushes one way and others of us view them another.

It's all good.

I am glad to know I am not the only one who views a crush as not being in love or necessarily leading to being in love. I have to know a person well, in person, through at least a year or two.

clay · 07-28-2012, 08:38 AM

pssst.....my crush is a secret....<wink>

ruffryder · 07-28-2012, 08:54 AM

ALL MY CRUSHES IN THE PAST HAVE JUST HAPPENED! THEY WERE ALL DIFFERENT. I THINK FOR ME MY CRUSHES WERE PEOPLE THAT WERE IN MY LIFE AND I SAW ALMOST ON A DAILY BASE, TEACHER, FRIEND, A SCHOOL MATE. I'VE HAD SOME ON THE INTERNET ALSO, FRIENDS THAT I'VE WONDERED WHAT IF.. BUT I THINK THE ONE THING IN COMMON IS THAT THEY ARE SOMEHOW IN MY LIFE. NEVER REALLY CRUSHED ON A CELEBRITY. NOT SO SURE I'VE ALWAYS TOLD THEM OR ANYONE! LOL MAYBE SOME ONLINE IF IT WENT BEYOND A FRIENDSHIP.

MY QUESTION IS WHO HAS TOLD THEIR CRUSH THAT THEY WERE CRUSHING? WAS IT GOOD FEEDBACK OR DID IT CRUSH YOUR HEART?

MY CRUSH RIGHT NOW IS MY ONE AND ONLY BABY.

Breezy · 07-28-2012, 09:58 AM

In my opinion, a crush does not need to be returned to me. Sure it is fun when a crush is returned, however, it is not about being the love of my life. I have nothing to lose or feel "crushed" about as a result.

Ginger · 07-28-2012, 10:01 AM

Nomad wrote:

"...the next time i crush i want to look like a truer version of myself, not the self i think i should be or think someone else is hoping i'll become."

Ouch. You got me.

Hollylane · 07-28-2012, 10:14 AM

Psssst....I'm thinking about you.

Mr Nice Guy · 07-28-2012, 05:13 PM

I would like to have a crush turn to love. Thats just me.

Nomad · 07-28-2012, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr Nice Guy

Ok peeps, today is tell your crush day. Don't you love these special Holidays. So stand up and shout it out to the world!!

Today I am crushing on..... _________.

*** Hey I can't help myself.

no fair leaving that line blank!!!!!

Mr Nice Guy · 07-28-2012, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Nomad

no fair leaving that line blank!!!!!

Ha ha ha. So who are you crushing on, Nomad? ______?

shiagirl · 07-28-2012, 05:58 PM

Good Evening all you crushers our lurkers;
I haven't been around for awhile. I have missed reading this thread.

I still have a few crushes that will now just have to remain only crushes and not go anywhere but a crush.

I am very interested in one and one only and partly why I haven't been seen in these parts lately lol.

I hope all my peeps are doing well on here and crushing away and having fun.

I went to post my new pic since I read back a few and saw that many of you said the gallery is now updated but it still won't let me in

rockstar lover · 07-28-2012, 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr Nice Guy

I would like to have a crush turn to love. Thats just me.

No it's not just you

When it's the right person, time, place, & when the stars are all aligned properly...it will happen! That's what I believe

Nomad · 07-28-2012, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr Nice Guy

Ha ha ha. So who are you crushing on, Nomad? ______?

it's not my line mensch. i dont have to fill it.

tazz · 07-28-2012, 07:52 PM

i'm missing my Crush...

Mr Nice Guy · 07-28-2012, 07:55 PM

Hey Rockstar, I feel the same. Time will tell.

Hey Nomad, my iPhone won't let me fill out that line so I'll put them here.
1.Laruss- because she has my back.
2. Nomad- because your real and I like what you say.
3. LeftWriteFemme- because she's from Jersey.
There's more.... Some I would like to be real friends with and a few I would like to date.
Didn't expect that now did you.

puddin' · 07-29-2012, 06:48 AM

today i'm crushin' on da kitteh thread...

~ocean · 07-29-2012, 07:18 AM

good morning crushers and crushees ~~

Breezy · 07-29-2012, 07:24 AM

Good morning, ~ocean! How are you today?

~ocean · 07-29-2012, 07:26 AM

(((((breezy )))))) gm sexyyyyyy ~~~~ I'm alive ! u ?

07-28-2012, 08:38 AM	#1344
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,015 Thanked 31,676 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	pssst.....my crush is a secret....<wink> __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

07-28-2012, 07:52 PM	#1355
tazz Member How Do You Identify?: Athlete/tomboi Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, cutie Relationship Status: Estoy recibiendo cómodo con él Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: you never know where i might end up ;) Posts: 1,365 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,807 Thanked 1,759 Times in 642 Posts Rep Power: 20456639	i'm missing my Crush... __________________ "She walks a different path than some of us, but those on her wavelength enjoy the journey with her." --DLOS

07-29-2012, 06:48 AM	#1357
puddin' Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: a genderqueer nuisance Preferred Pronoun?: bitchboi Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: new zealand Posts: 7,120 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,467 Thanked 7,967 Times in 2,341 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	today i'm crushin' on da kitteh thread... __________________ be true, be you, be brave.

07-28-2012, 02:38 AM	#1342
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Ok peeps, today is tell your crush day. Don't you love these special Holidays. So stand up and shout it out to the world!! Today I am crushing on..... _________. *** Hey I can't help myself.

07-28-2012, 08:54 AM	#1345
ruffryder Senior Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: guy ones Relationship Status: ... Join Date: May 2011 Location: chillin' in FL Posts: 3,690 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,951 Thanked 9,679 Times in 2,875 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	ALL MY CRUSHES IN THE PAST HAVE JUST HAPPENED! THEY WERE ALL DIFFERENT. I THINK FOR ME MY CRUSHES WERE PEOPLE THAT WERE IN MY LIFE AND I SAW ALMOST ON A DAILY BASE, TEACHER, FRIEND, A SCHOOL MATE. I'VE HAD SOME ON THE INTERNET ALSO, FRIENDS THAT I'VE WONDERED WHAT IF.. BUT I THINK THE ONE THING IN COMMON IS THAT THEY ARE SOMEHOW IN MY LIFE. NEVER REALLY CRUSHED ON A CELEBRITY. NOT SO SURE I'VE ALWAYS TOLD THEM OR ANYONE! LOL MAYBE SOME ONLINE IF IT WENT BEYOND A FRIENDSHIP. MY QUESTION IS WHO HAS TOLD THEIR CRUSH THAT THEY WERE CRUSHING? WAS IT GOOD FEEDBACK OR DID IT CRUSH YOUR HEART? MY CRUSH RIGHT NOW IS MY ONE AND ONLY BABY.

07-28-2012, 09:58 AM	#1346
Breezy Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: . Posts: 1,372 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,337 Thanked 4,555 Times in 1,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	In my opinion, a crush does not need to be returned to me. Sure it is fun when a crush is returned, however, it is not about being the love of my life. I have nothing to lose or feel "crushed" about as a result.

07-28-2012, 10:01 AM	#1347
Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,299 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Nomad wrote: "...the next time i crush i want to look like a truer version of myself, not the self i think i should be or think someone else is hoping i'll become." Ouch. You got me.

07-28-2012, 10:14 AM	#1348
Hollylane Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: . Preferred Pronoun?: . Relationship Status: . Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: . Posts: 11,495 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,694 Thanked 26,360 Times in 5,877 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	Psssst....I'm thinking about you.

07-28-2012, 05:13 PM	#1349
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	I would like to have a crush turn to love. Thats just me.

07-28-2012, 05:58 PM	#1352
shiagirl Member How Do You Identify?: Femme, girly girl. Daddies girl Preferred Pronoun?: Whatever is respectful and nice Relationship Status: Heart Captured and Spoiled rotten by the love of my life. Join Date: May 2012 Location: In my Boifriends arms Posts: 296 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 849 Thanked 643 Times in 171 Posts Rep Power: 7530301	Good Evening all you crushers our lurkers; I haven't been around for awhile. I have missed reading this thread. I still have a few crushes that will now just have to remain only crushes and not go anywhere but a crush. I am very interested in one and one only and partly why I haven't been seen in these parts lately lol. I hope all my peeps are doing well on here and crushing away and having fun. I went to post my new pic since I read back a few and saw that many of you said the gallery is now updated but it still won't let me in

07-28-2012, 07:55 PM	#1356
Mr Nice Guy Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status: I don't drive a Uhaul. :) Join Date: May 2011 Location: Another New Englander Posts: 1,768 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,035 Thanked 4,894 Times in 1,307 Posts Rep Power: 0	Hey Rockstar, I feel the same. Time will tell. Hey Nomad, my iPhone won't let me fill out that line so I'll put them here. 1.Laruss- because she has my back. 2. Nomad- because your real and I like what you say. 3. LeftWriteFemme- because she's from Jersey. There's more.... Some I would like to be real friends with and a few I would like to date. Didn't expect that now did you.

07-29-2012, 07:18 AM	#1358
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,046 Times in 4,728 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	good morning crushers and crushees ~~

07-29-2012, 07:24 AM	#1359
Breezy Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: . Posts: 1,372 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,337 Thanked 4,555 Times in 1,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Good morning, ~ocean! How are you today?

07-29-2012, 07:26 AM	#1360
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,046 Times in 4,728 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	(((((breezy )))))) gm sexyyyyyy ~~~~ I'm alive ! u ?