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If we are lucky enough to find love anywhere; I think that we should take it. No one gets to walk in our shoes but ourselves.
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I joined a group for butch on butch, on Facebook a couple days ago. I like it so far, I'm just glad to see like minded folks, of sorts.
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05-27-2017, 10:20 PM | #124 |
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I just stumbled upon this thread. Looking forward to getting caught up on previous posts.
For some reason... I've been getting approached by butches lately. Its always awkward to convey to someone (subtlety or directly) that you're not interested. It feels even more so to tell someone that it's because they're butch. It feels a bit like shutting someone down before they even get out the gate. I don't like how that feels or sounds. I like the femme energy ... and all that comes with it... that is opposite to my own masculine energy. The Ying and Yang that I find in butch/femme relationships. |
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I think I'm saying... I've not met a butch that had the complimentary ... which has always been opposite energy .. that I dig.
No doubt there can be different types of Ying/Yang between two people. And no doubt some people dig Ying/Ying or Yang/Yang. I've just not experienced any combination that has led me towards butch women. |
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Anyone else open to this? I am curious to see the ratio of butch/butch to butch/femme!
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A few weeks ago a butch lesbian flirted with me..I felt nothing.She had short hair and no makeup and was wearing a flannel shirt,blue jeans and dr martens..basically what I wear sometimes.She had a deep voice(probably from smoking) and really beautiful deep blue eyes.Still it did nothing for me.She works at a local gas station and is always trying to give me free jo jo potatoes with my chicken order.
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Butch/butch is amazing! I am married to a butch lesbian, and increasingly ID as butch myself after feeling tomboyish but experimenting with more femme attire and hair at various times in my adulthood. I find that experimenting with butch gender expression has made things feel hotter than ever between my wife and I. The friction of female masculinities has given us new energy and deeper connection.
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Basically I don't care what the ID is of the person anymore, I care about the yin/yang thing, some kink yin/yang suitability too, the similar values, similar humour, and respecting each others independence (as I personally define my needs around that). So I don't think the ID matters much in that regard, it can come inn any package. to some folks, it does matter. It did matter to me, very much up until a couple years ago, even though I started to meet more and more femmes that *had* that yang to my yin that I went "oh! hello..." over. I still don't find certain kinds of femininity very attractive - but then, I don't find certain kinds of masculinity very attractive either - never have. So I think that's more about the type of chocolate, rather than not liking chocolate itself (really don't like milk chocolate much and can't stand white chocolate, but I go ape for dark, dark chocolate, or spicy dark. Or semi-sweet dark) But say 10 years ago, I would have been happy to fool around with a femme but never have a relationship with one. I think there are plenty of butches who are slowly figuring their way around this. Most of the butches I personally know have zero issue with shagging other butches, most would date other butches and half of them would have relationships with other butches whether they be women, genderqueer, or trans. But I don't live where you do JDeer. Most of the people I'm speaking of live in Canada or the UK. |
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Butch/femme has been my history. For me its like "Baskin and Robbins" 31 flavors..... most folks love ice cream... but we all dont pick the same flavor..And you can savor more than one flavor
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I have joined a group on facebook for butch/butch. Lets just say its quite different.
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Well I just read, I think, several years worth of discussion on this topic and I've been a butch all my life and have always been attracted to butch. I did learn one thing that surprised me though... I had no idea my 40 years of butch on butch relationships was shunned in any way. Why am I just hearing of this now??? LOL
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I recall about 12 years ago.. a friend of mine was on the butch threads.. part of the mailing out group on a different site, and she was interested in a butch that was also in the group.. and they had to keep it hush as to not get kicked out of the group. Personally I think it's crazy.. we (generally speaking) are so hard on each other and ourselves.. Love is Love in my books, and if you are lucky enough to find it... embrace! enjoy! celebrate! and fuck those who can't get past their own judgements.
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I see Butch/Butch couples around all the time...it has been more common than you think....
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My beautiful and talented femme bride is the yin to my yang, the chocolate in my peanut butter, the aroma in my roses, and ALL things that complement.
We both love it that way, our relationship has that Butch-femme energy that pops! Her feminine smells, the way she moves her body, the way she shakes out her long scrumptious red hair. So, whatever works for you. But for us, it is most definitely the Butch/femme dynamic.
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