What do YOU need to feel loved? - Page 7

Kenna · 10-28-2010, 08:50 AM

To spend one on one time with my beautiful, smart, sassy, bright, funny nieces.
To get lots of hugs and cuddles with them...
to watch them play their sports;
or dance around the house in their froggy pjs and slide around the kitchen in their fuzzy socks;
to giggle at them as they bounce around their rooms telling me about their crushes;
to have the youngest curl up on my lap when she asks me to read to her;
to get tickled when the oldest asks to brush and braid my hair;
to watch how silly they are on the trampoline;
to hear them once again yell out "Aunt, You're THE BOMB!!";
to share "ooooo's and ahhhh's" as we all huddle around the computer to flip through the National Geographic website and to have them tell me of places they dream to visit;
to inspire them when they tell me what they want to be when they grow up.... to be there for them when they need me.
To be a part of their life as much as possible.
To give them the HUGE Love and Attention back that they lavish on me.
To see them happy and to watch them grow into beautiful, well accomplished, confident, well loved young ladies.

girl_dee · 10-28-2010, 08:54 AM

love at this point in my life means cut the crap and own me, tell me "You belong to me and don't fucking forget it",

unless of course, you are my mother

princessbelle · 10-28-2010, 08:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mister Bent

Toast.

Make me some fucking toast and call it a meal, then tell me you love me.

I just can't get over this post. It totally cracks me up. OMG

Leigh · 10-28-2010, 09:31 AM

All I need is a few simple things:

1) Accept Me as I am, flaws and all

2) Talk to Me, don't go and air out our problems to someone else ~ if its something with us please just talk to Me

3) Don't tell Me you want Me and then get so caught up that you suddenly realize your not ready to give yourself ~ once My heart is invested, I don't want to find out you've gone too fast

4) Be honest and up front with Me, especially if you expect it in return

5) Don't try and change Me, it wont work

There's more but its simply really ~ just love Me, thats all I ask

WolfyOne · 10-28-2010, 10:20 AM

Love, sometimes overrated, but everyone needs it or so I've been told

I think at this point in my life as long as I'm accepted for good, bad or ugly, I know you understand me enough and I'll truly feel loved

Feeling content and secure in self and relationship also screams loved

Top of my list though has to be communication, without it, love is lost

Kenna · 11-18-2010, 12:13 AM

Security; knowing I'm safe and respected
a Partner that doesn't expect me to be the sole care-taker, provider and cook in the kitchen (I'm so tired of doing it all myself for the past 30+ years)
Support and Compassion
Hugs and quality time with my nieces
tender kisses on my forehead at the end of the day
Someone (friends, family, lover, et al.) to share dreams and life with, and not someone that sucks the life out of me or kills my dreams and cuts my connections with family & friends like my ex of many many years ago did.

family dinners where we can share our day's events and quality time together
Space of my own when the time is needed; without having to defend why I need space
Shared Space where their presence is very comforting and reassuring.
the sense of Familiarity and Protection

AtLast · 11-18-2010, 04:38 AM

Willingness to engage when things are shakey. What is uncomfortable must be resolved.

Tcountry · 11-18-2010, 05:24 AM

Understanding...no matter how hard the circumstance...

girl_dee · 11-18-2010, 06:11 AM

safe haven
understanding
tight grip
acceptance
allowing me to love back.

LipstickLola · 11-18-2010, 06:15 AM

I need you to always, have my back, for I will always have yours

asphaltcowboi · 11-18-2010, 06:16 AM

good two way conversation
fire in the fireplace
cup of coco
shared puffy blanket that smells like lavendaer fabric softner

bigbutchmistie · 12-26-2010, 12:51 PM

I need your time

I need touch

I need understanding

I need patience

I need loyalty

I need intimacy

I need faithfulness

I need honesty

I need trust

I need communication. I need to be able to talk to someone about anything and everything. I need to feel that they"get me"

I need passion filled love making nights

I need affection without me asking for it... I love lots and lots of hugs, kisses, hand holding...

Sharing my dreams, goals and my past

Accept me for me. Dont try and change me...

I need to feel that I am someone's priority.. And that "us" is priority to someone

12-26-2010, 01:22 PM

a cup of kindness. when i've rested in your arms, i will give back."
i will elaborate on this later.

Julie · 12-26-2010, 01:46 PM

A four carat Canary Diamond.
I am a simple girl - with simple needs!

Sachita · 12-26-2010, 02:46 PM

I feel loved. I need honesty, loyalty and security.

Gemme · 01-03-2011, 04:56 PM

I'm simpler than IF. Three carats is good for me. And you can save the canary. I don't like yellow.

Julie · 01-03-2011, 05:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gemme

I'm simpler than IF. Three carats is good for me. And you can save the canary. I don't like yellow.

I changed my mind!

When I was in Australia - Dreamer and I went into an Opal store in Melbourne - OMFG

This was the most brilliant Boulder Opal I have ever seen (as if I have seen a lot) and it was surrounded by tiny diamonds - the gold had a black rhodium finish - so it was neither yellow or white but black. The Opal was free form - simply stunning and a work of art.

I wanted this!
I did not get this!

I might feel loved if I did.
And it was less than a canary diamond.

Jesse · 01-03-2011, 05:10 PM

FOOD! At least for now

Tucker · 01-03-2011, 05:13 PM

Laughter. Laughter until our tummys hurt and we can't breathe.

(Oh, and someone that can make fun of me.)

Gemme · 01-03-2011, 08:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by InfiniteFemme

I changed my mind!

When I was in Australia - Dreamer and I went into an Opal store in Melbourne - OMFG

This was the most brilliant Boulder Opal I have ever seen (as if I have seen a lot) and it was surrounded by tiny diamonds - the gold had a black rhodium finish - so it was neither yellow or white but black. The Opal was free form - simply stunning and a work of art.

I wanted this!
I did not get this!

I might feel loved if I did.
And it was less than a canary diamond.

That sounds gorgeous! When I was on a cruise, I saw a lovely opal that made me wish I had the money for it sooooo bad. I wanted it and it wanted me, I could tell. It's tragic, I tell you.

*cry*

http://www.paulgallienne.com/page19.htm

I love the black and boulder opals on this page.

10-28-2010, 09:31 AM	#124
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	All I need is a few simple things: 1) Accept Me as I am, flaws and all 2) Talk to Me, don't go and air out our problems to someone else ~ if its something with us please just talk to Me 3) Don't tell Me you want Me and then get so caught up that you suddenly realize your not ready to give yourself ~ once My heart is invested, I don't want to find out you've gone too fast 4) Be honest and up front with Me, especially if you expect it in return 5) Don't try and change Me, it wont work There's more but its simply really ~ just love Me, thats all I ask __________________ "When you fall off the wagon ... clutch the sides of it until you get a better grip!"

10-28-2010, 10:20 AM	#125
WolfyOne Magically Delicious How Do You Identify?: Gentle Butch Relationship Status: Single and content Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 6,558 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,052 Thanked 15,397 Times in 4,140 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Love, sometimes overrated, but everyone needs it or so I've been told I think at this point in my life as long as I'm accepted for good, bad or ugly, I know you understand me enough and I'll truly feel loved Feeling content and secure in self and relationship also screams loved Top of my list though has to be communication, without it, love is lost __________________ Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage --- Lao Tzo

11-18-2010, 05:24 AM	#128
Tcountry Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Country Boi Preferred Pronoun?: call it as u see it Relationship Status: Completely...complete ;) Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Either at the beach or in the pool Posts: 1,665 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,929 Thanked 4,287 Times in 1,181 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Understanding...no matter how hard the circumstance... __________________ "You don't Find life worth living; You MAKE IT that way"

11-18-2010, 06:16 AM	#131
asphaltcowboi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Relationship Status: HAPPY Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: ..... Posts: 1,509 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,367 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,042 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	good two way conversation fire in the fireplace cup of coco shared puffy blanket that smells like lavendaer fabric softner __________________

12-26-2010, 01:22 PM	#133
HoneyedChrysanthemum Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	"someone to watch over me" a cup of kindness. when i've rested in your arms, i will give back." i will elaborate on this later.

10-28-2010, 08:50 AM	#121
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,624 Thanked 12,195 Times in 3,779 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	To spend one on one time with my beautiful, smart, sassy, bright, funny nieces. To get lots of hugs and cuddles with them... to watch them play their sports; or dance around the house in their froggy pjs and slide around the kitchen in their fuzzy socks; to giggle at them as they bounce around their rooms telling me about their crushes; to have the youngest curl up on my lap when she asks me to read to her; to get tickled when the oldest asks to brush and braid my hair; to watch how silly they are on the trampoline; to hear them once again yell out "Aunt, You're THE BOMB!!"; to share "ooooo's and ahhhh's" as we all huddle around the computer to flip through the National Geographic website and to have them tell me of places they dream to visit; to inspire them when they tell me what they want to be when they grow up.... to be there for them when they need me. To be a part of their life as much as possible. To give them the HUGE Love and Attention back that they lavish on me. To see them happy and to watch them grow into beautiful, well accomplished, confident, well loved young ladies.

10-28-2010, 08:54 AM	#122
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,845 Times in 13,915 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	love at this point in my life means cut the crap and own me, tell me "You belong to me and don't fucking forget it", unless of course, you are my mother

11-18-2010, 12:13 AM	#126
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,624 Thanked 12,195 Times in 3,779 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Security; knowing I'm safe and respected a Partner that doesn't expect me to be the sole care-taker, provider and cook in the kitchen (I'm so tired of doing it all myself for the past 30+ years) Support and Compassion Hugs and quality time with my nieces tender kisses on my forehead at the end of the day Someone (friends, family, lover, et al.) to share dreams and life with, and not someone that sucks the life out of me or kills my dreams and cuts my connections with family & friends like my ex of many many years ago did. family dinners where we can share our day's events and quality time together Space of my own when the time is needed; without having to defend why I need space Shared Space where their presence is very comforting and reassuring. the sense of Familiarity and Protection

11-18-2010, 04:38 AM	#127
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,827 Times in 3,200 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Willingness to engage when things are shakey. What is uncomfortable must be resolved.

11-18-2010, 06:11 AM	#129
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,845 Times in 13,915 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	safe haven understanding tight grip acceptance allowing me to love back.

11-18-2010, 06:15 AM	#130
LipstickLola Member How Do You Identify?: Happy Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: planet Earth Posts: 682 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,679 Thanked 1,597 Times in 433 Posts Rep Power: 5678217	I need you to always, have my back, for I will always have yours

12-26-2010, 12:51 PM	#132
bigbutchmistie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status: Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arlington Texas Posts: 4,009 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,950 Thanked 5,364 Times in 1,941 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I need your time I need touch I need understanding I need patience I need loyalty I need intimacy I need faithfulness I need honesty I need trust I need communication. I need to be able to talk to someone about anything and everything. I need to feel that they"get me" I need passion filled love making nights I need affection without me asking for it... I love lots and lots of hugs, kisses, hand holding... Sharing my dreams, goals and my past Accept me for me. Dont try and change me... I need to feel that I am someone's priority.. And that "us" is priority to someone

12-26-2010, 01:46 PM	#134
Julie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Angel * Femme * Lesbian * Girl * Woman * Slut * Bitch * Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: No longer a Virgin Bride to Dreamer ~ May 17th, 2014 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: New York Posts: 4,674 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,676 Thanked 18,160 Times in 3,633 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	A four carat Canary Diamond. I am a simple girl - with simple needs! __________________ “Sometimes only one person is missing and the whole world seems depopulated.” ~ Alphonse de Lamartine - 1790-1869 http://i374.photobucket.com/albums/o...ps4d9fb6c0.jpg I Love You ~ I Love Us May 17, 2014

12-26-2010, 02:46 PM	#135
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01-03-2011, 04:56 PM	#136
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01-03-2011, 05:10 PM	#138
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01-03-2011, 05:13 PM	#139
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