Femmes: How do you like to be treated on a date? - Page 8

BugsAndKisses · 10-22-2011, 08:02 AM

Don't pick me flowers, plant me a tree.
Don't buy me candy, comb me a sea shell
Geodes are forever.........

Shower me with autumn leaves and I may fall for you

sleeplessdancer · 03-24-2012, 06:26 PM

OMG there is still romance out there!

Finally somewhere that gets it!

For me, it's simple. If you want my attention, sweep me off my feet! You don't have to spend a ton of money because it's the little things that mean the most! Pay attention and pick up on the small clues and you'll know exactly what to do.

Grooming, that's a given! If we're going out, then I am going to take the time to look good... (I am a femme after all), and I expect you to do the same. Smell good too, but wear something that's subtle enough that draws me in.

Do I expect you to go have your car detailed, no, but I also don't want to contend with fast food bags and whatever else that you have in there either.

Flowers are always welcome.

Come to my door, don't pull up and honk, I'm not waiting for a taxi service.

Take me by the hand and walk me to the car, open the door. Treat me like a lady because I AM!

Plan out something that will be fun for both of us! That comes back to paying attention to those little clues. If I am going out with you, we A. have things in common, and B. I'm interested! Picnics are awesome, long walks are great, things that we can do where we can spend time talking and getting to know each other are awesome!

I'm comfortable with my sexuality but please don't assume that means that you can grope, touch, kiss, fondle, or anything else. Ask first! Extend your hand and let me decide.

If we go to a bar, I don't expect you to buy my drinks all night but I do expect you to offer. I also don't expect you to think that you can get me drunk and think you're going to take advantage.

When you take me home, open my door, take my hand and walk me to the door. You can kiss me good night, but I don't need a tonsilectomy, start soft and we'll see from there.

The bottom line, Romance me!!! Sweep me off my feet!!!

firegal · 03-24-2012, 06:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sleeplessdancer

OMG there is still romance out there!

Finally somewhere that gets it!

For me, it's simple. If you want my attention, sweep me off my feet! You don't have to spend a ton of money because it's the little things that mean the most! Pay attention and pick up on the small clues and you'll know exactly what to do.

Grooming, that's a given! If we're going out, then I am going to take the time to look good... (I am a femme after all), and I expect you to do the same. Smell good too, but wear something that's subtle enough that draws me in.

Do I expect you to go have your car detailed, no, but I also don't want to contend with fast food bags and whatever else that you have in there either.

Flowers are always welcome.

Come to my door, don't pull up and honk, I'm not waiting for a taxi service.

Take me by the hand and walk me to the car, open the door. Treat me like a lady because I AM!

Plan out something that will be fun for both of us! That comes back to paying attention to those little clues. If I am going out with you, we A. have things in common, and B. I'm interested! Picnics are awesome, long walks are great, things that we can do where we can spend time talking and getting to know each other are awesome!

I'm comfortable with my sexuality but please don't assume that means that you can grope, touch, kiss, fondle, or anything else. Ask first! Extend your hand and let me decide.

If we go to a bar, I don't expect you to buy my drinks all night but I do expect you to offer. I also don't expect you to think that you can get me drunk and think you're going to take advantage.

When you take me home, open my door, take my hand and walk me to the door. You can kiss me good night, but I don't need a tonsilectomy, start soft and we'll see from there.

The bottom line, Romance me!!! Sweep me off my feet!!!

I,m thinking Id rather not hear your worse date story!

All the above are the basics in my book.

MrSunshine · 03-24-2012, 06:49 PM

Wha??? No tonsillectomy? :0

gaea · 03-24-2012, 07:40 PM

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Originally Posted by MrSunshine

Wha??? No tonsillectomy? :0

snickers...

morningstar55 · 03-24-2012, 07:41 PM

like a lady and with respect

gaea · 03-24-2012, 07:52 PM

treat me well and with respect like how you would want to be treated. talk with me as though its a fact i have a brain and not just a hope on your part that i do, chuckle when i order the most expensive thing on the menu, because I'm likely to, or if on a picnic i want my water right out of the bottle please no need for fancy cups. Have a conversation with me a meaningful one so that when the date ends there is no question that a second date will in fact happen, the world is a playground, lets play.

and please if you want my interest, do not lie to me..i pick up easily on that shit and i really dislike being lied to.

Kent · 06-20-2012, 08:21 PM

Bumping this one..

Kenna · 06-20-2012, 08:49 PM

On the way home, stop to pick me daffodils just to see me smile and show me your gentle, affectionate way.

starryeyes · 06-20-2012, 09:56 PM

Like a lady

Nuff said.

Lady Pamela · 06-20-2012, 10:08 PM

I am sure that most of what I have to say, will have already been said.
But I also know, it doesn't hurt to reconfirm something so beautiful and sacred.

I am pretty much an old style femme when it comes to courting, dating and such. But I am an indapendant woman, who can think for myself, knows what I want and is willing to let it be known.

I love feeling special, romanced and looked after. Yet I am in no way one who needs to be directed. "Unless it fits the moment that is..smiles" However, if things go well and a connection happens, I also like to romance and make the person feel good and secure as well.

If someone chooses to get a gift for me, I would prefer something living like a plant that I can nurture. Or some lil gadget to remind me of the moment etc.
Or something that truely means something to me or between us.

I love honest open communication. But I need it to be done on a non brutal level. With compassion for each other.

I love nice places but I truely prefer a romantic get together...if that is a picnic,and nice place,etc. It doesn't matter to me the cost. So long as we both enjoy each other and make great memories together.

In short.

ruby_woo · 06-20-2012, 10:36 PM

I'll tell you how NOT to treat me:

Don't pick me up on a motorcycle with no advance warning so I'm inappropriately dressed, take me to a bar, and ignore me to watch tv. I will sneak out the back door, pick up a burrito, go home, and ignore your calls.

Actual date I went on about ten years, BTW.

Seriously, just pay attention to what I'm saying and make me belly laugh, and you're golden.

Quintease · 06-21-2012, 03:33 AM

Actually the above reminds me of a date I went on. Look, I know some people hate phones, but at the time I had a brand new mobile, flashing blue lights and one of the newest out at the time. Plus I was young, single and living in a pretty wild city, so yeah, I was on my phone a bit. That didn't stop us talking, having fun and drinking. Through it all she never said anything about the phone.

So we're somewhere and manage to convince a gorgeous gay male couple to play pool with us. We're getting all competitive and laughing and one of the boys tells us we're loads of fun, then out of the blue and in front of both boys (she actually made a point of saying 'I have something to say', so we were all listening), she tells me she doesn't like people using their phone around her. Both boys backed off in embarrassment and I was so shocked that for me, the date was over.

She tried to see me again after that, but I wasn't interested in seeing anyone who felt comfortable humiliating me in public just to get her point across. In fact I never spoke to her again.

Martina · 06-21-2012, 05:49 AM

i've said this before, but this gets my goat. Picking me up and THEN stopping at the ATM or for gas. Do that BEFORE you pick me up. Basic courtesy. i don't even do that to friends unless i get rushed or something. They don't need to sit through my errands.

Seriously, a butch picked me up once and did both -- got gas and went to the ATM. Then she got lost. Great preparation.

SleepyButch · 06-21-2012, 07:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martina

i've said this before, but this gets my goat. Picking me up and THEN stopping at the ATM or for gas. Do that BEFORE you pick me up. Basic courtesy. i don't even do that to friends unless i get rushed or something. They don't need to sit through my errands.

Seriously, a butch picked me up once and did both -- got gas and went to the ATM. Then she got lost. Great preparation.

What the heck??? I think a Butch should get gas well before picking you up. Who wants to smell like gas when they want to get close to a femme??

Little Fish · 06-21-2012, 07:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martina

i've said this before, but this gets my goat. Picking me up and THEN stopping at the ATM or for gas. Do that BEFORE you pick me up. Basic courtesy. i don't even do that to friends unless i get rushed or something. They don't need to sit through my errands.

Seriously, a butch picked me up once and did both -- got gas and went to the ATM. Then she got lost. Great preparation.

I agree with you and SleepyButch--total rookie.
Stick with the Varsity Butch team honey....

KayCee · 06-21-2012, 08:09 AM

Don't ever let me wait.....

Nadeest · 06-21-2012, 08:53 PM

Treat me like a lady, and remember, the small things count enormously with me, as I have seldom received them before. Money doesn't matter a whole lot to me. As far as i am concerned, we can have as good a time at a McDonalds as at a fancy restaurant, if we choose to do so.

~ocean · 06-21-2012, 09:10 PM

i think a first date should be a very impressive one ~ light at heart , fun, flitatious ,and most of all . well mannered on both parts. second date, now more familar with eachother, could be more romantic , still light at heart , interesting convos, with a flirtatious and teasing overtone . third date now u can tell me about urself, ur family, ur achievements ,it's sexy when self confidence becomes enpowering. fourth date .. ahh u will become aware of my submissive side, and I ur domiante side , suttle seduction on my part , ur awareness will show in ur eyes, maybe someplace quiet and out of the way , sex comes into play , built up passions , leaves me with something to think about till we see eachother again

atomiczombie · 06-21-2012, 09:12 PM

I love how this thread keeps popping up from time to time. I read every post and learn so much. I really appreciate all your responses ladies.

10-22-2011, 08:02 AM	#141
BugsAndKisses Member How Do You Identify?: ladybug, lover of little things Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Settled Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: florida Posts: 341 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 278 Thanked 864 Times in 215 Posts Rep Power: 10789159	Don't pick me flowers, plant me a tree. Don't buy me candy, comb me a sea shell Geodes are forever......... Shower me with autumn leaves and I may fall for you __________________ The past is history, the future is a mystery but today is a gift, thats why its called the present http://i77.photobucket.com/albums/j6...psdd598a2e.jpg

03-24-2012, 06:26 PM	#142
sleeplessdancer Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she/her/lady/ms Relationship Status: Happily taken and heading down the aisle! Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Missouri but Florida bound! Posts: 10 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 192 Thanked 54 Times in 10 Posts Rep Power: 996633	Starting to not feel so hopeless about romance... OMG there is still romance out there! Finally somewhere that gets it! For me, it's simple. If you want my attention, sweep me off my feet! You don't have to spend a ton of money because it's the little things that mean the most! Pay attention and pick up on the small clues and you'll know exactly what to do. Grooming, that's a given! If we're going out, then I am going to take the time to look good... (I am a femme after all), and I expect you to do the same. Smell good too, but wear something that's subtle enough that draws me in. Do I expect you to go have your car detailed, no, but I also don't want to contend with fast food bags and whatever else that you have in there either. Flowers are always welcome. Come to my door, don't pull up and honk, I'm not waiting for a taxi service. Take me by the hand and walk me to the car, open the door. Treat me like a lady because I AM! Plan out something that will be fun for both of us! That comes back to paying attention to those little clues. If I am going out with you, we A. have things in common, and B. I'm interested! Picnics are awesome, long walks are great, things that we can do where we can spend time talking and getting to know each other are awesome! I'm comfortable with my sexuality but please don't assume that means that you can grope, touch, kiss, fondle, or anything else. Ask first! Extend your hand and let me decide. If we go to a bar, I don't expect you to buy my drinks all night but I do expect you to offer. I also don't expect you to think that you can get me drunk and think you're going to take advantage. When you take me home, open my door, take my hand and walk me to the door. You can kiss me good night, but I don't need a tonsilectomy, start soft and we'll see from there. The bottom line, Romance me!!! Sweep me off my feet!!! __________________ Be still when you have nothing to say; when genuine passion moves you, say what you've got to say, and say it hot." D. H. Lawrence

03-24-2012, 07:41 PM	#146
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,241 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	like a lady and with respect __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

03-24-2012, 07:52 PM	#147
gaea Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: west coast Posts: 3,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,630 Thanked 14,363 Times in 3,381 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	treat me well and with respect like how you would want to be treated. talk with me as though its a fact i have a brain and not just a hope on your part that i do, chuckle when i order the most expensive thing on the menu, because I'm likely to, or if on a picnic i want my water right out of the bottle please no need for fancy cups. Have a conversation with me a meaningful one so that when the date ends there is no question that a second date will in fact happen, the world is a playground, lets play. and please if you want my interest, do not lie to me..i pick up easily on that shit and i really dislike being lied to. __________________ Gaea "Building a lifetime together one day at a time" Courage: the willingness to risk who you are for who you want to be and what you have for what you want You're not who your past says you are, you are who you choose to be today moving forward.

06-20-2012, 08:21 PM	#148
Kent Member How Do You Identify?: Male Relationship Status: Single Tournaments Won: 2 Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: TX Posts: 1,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,564 Thanked 2,058 Times in 720 Posts Rep Power: 19241325	Bumping this one.. __________________ Kent

03-24-2012, 06:49 PM	#144
MrSunshine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The Gardner Preferred Pronoun?: Ummmm Relationship Status: Nah Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sunshine State, State of Sunshine Posts: 2,616 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,577 Thanked 3,890 Times in 1,155 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Wha??? No tonsillectomy? :0

06-20-2012, 08:49 PM	#149
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,784 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,613 Thanked 12,109 Times in 3,757 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	On the way home, stop to pick me daffodils just to see me smile and show me your gentle, affectionate way.

06-20-2012, 09:56 PM	#150
starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,056 Times in 2,077 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Like a lady Nuff said. __________________ "It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to fall down. Get up! Look sickening....and make them eat it!" - Latrice Royale Starry

06-20-2012, 10:08 PM	#151
Lady Pamela Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A Lady..Femme..Free Spirit with a touch of survivalist woman in me. Preferred Pronoun?: Spiritual Warrior..She Ra..Baby Doll, or anything close..ha! Relationship Status: In perfect love and perfect trust I believe that will be directed..for now Just friends in my life. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Live in Utah but take trips to Arkansas. Plan to move there eventually. Posts: 2,579 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,073 Thanked 5,939 Times in 1,609 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Still a lil ol'e fashioned..smiles I am sure that most of what I have to say, will have already been said. But I also know, it doesn't hurt to reconfirm something so beautiful and sacred. I am pretty much an old style femme when it comes to courting, dating and such. But I am an indapendant woman, who can think for myself, knows what I want and is willing to let it be known. I love feeling special, romanced and looked after. Yet I am in no way one who needs to be directed. "Unless it fits the moment that is..smiles" However, if things go well and a connection happens, I also like to romance and make the person feel good and secure as well. If someone chooses to get a gift for me, I would prefer something living like a plant that I can nurture. Or some lil gadget to remind me of the moment etc. Or something that truely means something to me or between us. I love honest open communication. But I need it to be done on a non brutal level. With compassion for each other. I love nice places but I truely prefer a romantic get together...if that is a picnic,and nice place,etc. It doesn't matter to me the cost. So long as we both enjoy each other and make great memories together. In short. __________________ Believe what people show you the first time. It will keep you in balance, and will show you truth! ~~ Author unknown ~~ When negative thoughts come to mind, Let them die stillborn. Speak and do posotive in any situation, And watch your dreams grow and flurish. If you can't say anything posotive, Zip it up. Do not give birth to that which you do not want to see grow. See it, Believe it, Own it, Have it! ~~ Lady Pamela ~~

06-20-2012, 10:36 PM	#152
ruby_woo Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 427 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,848 Thanked 1,941 Times in 376 Posts Rep Power: 17615391	I'll tell you how NOT to treat me: Don't pick me up on a motorcycle with no advance warning so I'm inappropriately dressed, take me to a bar, and ignore me to watch tv. I will sneak out the back door, pick up a burrito, go home, and ignore your calls. Actual date I went on about ten years, BTW. Seriously, just pay attention to what I'm saying and make me belly laugh, and you're golden.

06-21-2012, 03:33 AM	#153
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,816 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10345577	Actually the above reminds me of a date I went on. Look, I know some people hate phones, but at the time I had a brand new mobile, flashing blue lights and one of the newest out at the time. Plus I was young, single and living in a pretty wild city, so yeah, I was on my phone a bit. That didn't stop us talking, having fun and drinking. Through it all she never said anything about the phone. So we're somewhere and manage to convince a gorgeous gay male couple to play pool with us. We're getting all competitive and laughing and one of the boys tells us we're loads of fun, then out of the blue and in front of both boys (she actually made a point of saying 'I have something to say', so we were all listening), she tells me she doesn't like people using their phone around her. Both boys backed off in embarrassment and I was so shocked that for me, the date was over. She tried to see me again after that, but I wasn't interested in seeing anyone who felt comfortable humiliating me in public just to get her point across. In fact I never spoke to her again. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

06-21-2012, 05:49 AM	#154
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,368 Times in 4,171 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	i've said this before, but this gets my goat. Picking me up and THEN stopping at the ATM or for gas. Do that BEFORE you pick me up. Basic courtesy. i don't even do that to friends unless i get rushed or something. They don't need to sit through my errands. Seriously, a butch picked me up once and did both -- got gas and went to the ATM. Then she got lost. Great preparation.

06-21-2012, 08:09 AM	#157
KayCee Member How Do You Identify?: Multifaceted Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: It's a secret Relationship Status: And from my lips hye drew the hallelujah Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow clicking my heels Posts: 732 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,646 Thanked 1,725 Times in 521 Posts Rep Power: 8635874	Don't ever let me wait.....

06-21-2012, 08:53 PM	#158
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077996	Treat me like a lady, and remember, the small things count enormously with me, as I have seldom received them before. Money doesn't matter a whole lot to me. As far as i am concerned, we can have as good a time at a McDonalds as at a fancy restaurant, if we choose to do so.

06-21-2012, 09:10 PM	#159
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,120 Times in 4,736 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	i think a first date should be a very impressive one ~ light at heart , fun, flitatious ,and most of all . well mannered on both parts. second date, now more familar with eachother, could be more romantic , still light at heart , interesting convos, with a flirtatious and teasing overtone . third date now u can tell me about urself, ur family, ur achievements ,it's sexy when self confidence becomes enpowering. fourth date .. ahh u will become aware of my submissive side, and I ur domiante side , suttle seduction on my part , ur awareness will show in ur eyes, maybe someplace quiet and out of the way , sex comes into play , built up passions , leaves me with something to think about till we see eachother again

06-21-2012, 09:12 PM	#160
atomiczombie Member How Do You Identify?: Femmesensual Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Relationship Status: Dating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Rio Vista, CA Posts: 1,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,949 Thanked 3,221 Times in 757 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I love how this thread keeps popping up from time to time. I read every post and learn so much. I really appreciate all your responses ladies. __________________ http://i277.photobucket.com/albums/k...orums_2000.gif Russian Unicorn http://occupiedmedia.us/