If You Could Turn Back Time, What Would You Do Differently? - Page 8

girl_dee · 11-03-2012, 07:42 AM

bump bump !!

BstlMyhart · 11-03-2012, 08:09 AM

I would've tried to do even more when caring for my mom and sister before they passed.
I never would've gotten into any relationship and just stayed single the whole time.

Okiebug61 · 11-03-2012, 08:19 AM

Everything I did or didn't do led me to where I am and that is the best place I've ever been. Red is my soulmate and we crossed paths many times in our early years and never once spoke. We had mutal friends but were never together with them at the same time. We were at several events at the same time and never met. It's funny how our lives crossed so many times back then yet we never met. I'm pretty sure it's because she was not yet prepared to put up with me :-).

*Anya* · 11-03-2012, 09:47 AM

...that I would not have caused hurt or pain to anyone that I loved due to thoughtless words or my own insecurities.

The past can not be undone but hopefully I learned from it and grew as a human being.

Everything that has ever happened, has brought me to this place and time.

I do not want to turn back time.

Well, maybe 10-years younger would be pretty cool.

Miss Scarlett · 11-03-2012, 11:09 AM

I don't want to turn back time. I prefer to ask what can I learn or how can I grow from this?

Then endeavor to apply this new knowledge to future decisions/actions.

SelfMadeMan · 11-03-2012, 11:27 AM

I would only turn back the clock for one reason... to have met Stacy about 15 years sooner <3

StrongButch · 02-19-2013, 07:41 PM

Im cool where im at.

alexri · 02-19-2013, 07:43 PM

I would have had more self confidence growing up.

I would have treated myself better. I would have loved myself more.

I would have learned how to eat right and exercise much earlier.

I would have taken more chances.

I wouldn't have spent money on stupid things.

I would have learned what my gender identity is much earlier than I have.

But... things that have happened may not have happened if things were different. I've learned these lessons, some the hard way, and can apply them to the future...

~ocean · 02-19-2013, 08:12 PM

cook a ham for Thanksgiving ~

Katniss · 02-19-2013, 08:49 PM

I would have left home at 16 and not been guilted into returning.

I would have said "yes" to something in 1990 and a firm "no" to something in 1992.

I would have stopped punishing myself for the actions and harm caused by others a lot earlier than I have.

I would have told my good friend not to pick up her mail at the embassy 8/7/98.

I would never have returned stateside in 2002.

Most of all I would go back in time and tell that little blonde ponytailed girl that "you are smart, you are kind, you are important" and sometimes parents do not have your best interest at heart. Sometimes they are too damaged to parent well and take things out on an innocent child. But one day you will have enough strength to not only have closure but to realize the door between you needs to be closed, for good.

Most of all I would tell her to trust your journey. You got this.

Katniss~~(Dorothy and Toto can keep home. I'll stay a stray.

)

little_ms_sunshyne · 02-19-2013, 09:06 PM

If I could turn back time I would...

-have not walked down the aisle...
- Come out to my family sooner
-Not listened to my parents and attended Berklee College of Music in Boston
- left sooner from a hurtful situation

macele · 02-19-2013, 09:32 PM

it's too overwhelming. seriously. there's so much i'd do different, ... i wouldn't be the same person LOL. just too freakin' much to think about.

SuddenlyWestFemme · 02-19-2013, 10:42 PM

If I could turn back time, I wouldn't have answered that PM. Although I have come to love Seattle, I wouldn't have moved and would still be living on 26th Street in NYC--possibly even in love with an east coast Butch that I never got to meet.

But I did answer that PM. And perhaps something amazing is in store for me here on the left coast that will make me glad I answered it.

maryam · 02-20-2013, 12:49 AM

I would do 16 over. The whole freaking year. I wouldn't change the end result, but it could have been done much better. Less collateral damage and all that.

diamondrose · 02-20-2013, 01:00 AM

If i could turn back time i would spend precious time with my grandpa. I grew up in the south and my family is in the north. As a young adult i didnt travel to see my family as much as i could have and my grandpa suddenly passed in 2005. It was a learning experience that i took to heart. Since i have made ever effort to close the gap by visiting my family , especially my grandma, as much as i possibly can.

Contessa · 02-20-2013, 01:00 AM

Remember as kids playing in the front yard (like kick ball) we would call a "RE-DO?"!! Well, there are sure times where I wish I could have done that immediately after i said or did something because I did not think it through. Luckily with age and experience, I have learned to think before I let someone hook up that Uhaul..LOL I have had many high points in life and many low points as I'm sure many have..But few regrets. The regrets I do have..Pray about them and move on.

TheMerryFairy · 02-20-2013, 01:01 AM

If I turned back time, would I even still be the same person?

I struggle with this concept a lot because while there are certainly things I would have done different now that I know the result, every action and every thought provided me with a new lesson and a new chance.

As much as I would like to change some of the experiences I have had, I wouldn't want to compromise what I have now and what I think I may have in the near future because of following my travelling barber business dream.

Bard · 02-20-2013, 02:18 AM

this is hard because the path i have walked on the good and the bad made me who i am and lead me to desd the love of my life and all the happiness i have now,, but i would go back to a 9 year old me and tell my mom i love her that last time i saw her before her accident.. i would go back and tell my dumb head to listen to my heart and admit how very much i loved desd from the start.. she was then and is now everything i could have ever wanted in a lover a partner and a best friend.. lastly i would have cut my losses with a former friend but we live and learn.. i have a amazing life a wonderful daughter and a wife who takes my breath away

JustBeingMe · 02-20-2013, 02:33 AM

If I could turn back time, I wouldn't have made some of the stupid decisions I have made way back when. I would do things differently and maybe, just maybe, things would have turned out better for it.

bright_arrow · 02-20-2013, 09:14 AM

If I could turn back time..

I would have left an emotionally abusive relationship sooner, and on my own grounds, face to face. With that said, I would not have tried a second time to repair it.

I would take back the things I said to her in fear to push you away.

I would not sacrifice my home, family, and job for what turned out to be nothing but another notch in her belt.

I never would have gone to her house over spring break, thus meaning I never would of ODed and ended in the ER.

I would tell my newly outed gay self that I did not have to save every 'damsel in distress', and that my happiness was important just as much as my partner's. I did not have to change to be loved, that no one was worth the hurt of any temporary changes attempted.

I would tell my younger self that communication is important. I grew up in a household where looks and thinly veiled threats communicated feelings, especially anger, and to this day there are days where all my cues are physical, none verbal.

11-03-2012, 08:19 AM	#143
Okiebug61 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Light Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Hitched to Red Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,528 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,261 Thanked 5,377 Times in 1,245 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Everything I did or didn't do led me to where I am and that is the best place I've ever been. Red is my soulmate and we crossed paths many times in our early years and never once spoke. We had mutal friends but were never together with them at the same time. We were at several events at the same time and never met. It's funny how our lives crossed so many times back then yet we never met. I'm pretty sure it's because she was not yet prepared to put up with me :-). __________________ "Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawake." ~ Anatole France

11-03-2012, 09:47 AM	#144
Anya Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Lesbian non-stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Committed to being good to myself Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: West Coast Posts: 8,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39,306 Thanked 40,465 Times in 7,284 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	...that I would not have caused hurt or pain to anyone that I loved due to thoughtless words or my own insecurities. The past can not be undone but hopefully I learned from it and grew as a human being. Everything that has ever happened, has brought me to this place and time. I do not want to turn back time. Well, maybe 10-years younger would be pretty cool. __________________ ~Anya~ Democracy Dies in Darkness ~Washington Post "...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable." UN Human Rights commissioner

02-19-2013, 07:41 PM	#147
StrongButch Member How Do You Identify?: I see the world thru a lens Preferred Pronoun?: Yes Boss Relationship Status: Chillin out with awesome women Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: San Francisco Posts: 1,376 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,018 Thanked 4,183 Times in 1,180 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Turn Back Im cool where im at. __________________ Life is like music,so it can be played in many different styles.

02-19-2013, 08:12 PM	#149
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,045 Times in 4,728 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	cook a ham for Thanksgiving ~ __________________ ~ Always, ocean

02-20-2013, 01:00 AM	#156
Contessa Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: US Posts: 220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,134 Thanked 674 Times in 182 Posts Rep Power: 6048530	Re-Do! Re-Do!! Remember as kids playing in the front yard (like kick ball) we would call a "RE-DO?"!! Well, there are sure times where I wish I could have done that immediately after i said or did something because I did not think it through. Luckily with age and experience, I have learned to think before I let someone hook up that Uhaul..LOL I have had many high points in life and many low points as I'm sure many have..But few regrets. The regrets I do have..Pray about them and move on.

11-03-2012, 07:42 AM	#141
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,845 Times in 13,915 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	bump bump !!

11-03-2012, 08:09 AM	#142
BstlMyhart Member How Do You Identify?: butch Relationship Status: Single Join Date: May 2011 Location: new mexico Posts: 162 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 800 Thanked 433 Times in 111 Posts Rep Power: 5678253	I would've tried to do even more when caring for my mom and sister before they passed. I never would've gotten into any relationship and just stayed single the whole time.

11-03-2012, 11:09 AM	#145
Miss Scarlett Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: . Posts: 5,530 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,478 Thanked 12,947 Times in 3,419 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I don't want to turn back time. I prefer to ask what can I learn or how can I grow from this? Then endeavor to apply this new knowledge to future decisions/actions.

11-03-2012, 11:27 AM	#146
SelfMadeMan Member How Do You Identify?: Transsexual Man Preferred Pronoun?: Male Relationship Status: Married to The Woman of My Dreams <3 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 802 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 796 Thanked 2,668 Times in 527 Posts Rep Power: 18972345	I would only turn back the clock for one reason... to have met Stacy about 15 years sooner <3

02-19-2013, 07:43 PM	#148
alexri Member How Do You Identify?: - Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: - Posts: 549 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,209 Thanked 2,799 Times in 468 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I would have had more self confidence growing up. I would have treated myself better. I would have loved myself more. I would have learned how to eat right and exercise much earlier. I would have taken more chances. I wouldn't have spent money on stupid things. I would have learned what my gender identity is much earlier than I have. But... things that have happened may not have happened if things were different. I've learned these lessons, some the hard way, and can apply them to the future...

02-19-2013, 08:49 PM	#150
Katniss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Dame, doll, twist, dish Preferred Pronoun?: Ladylike ones Relationship Status: ***** Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: We drink sweet tea here Posts: 2,903 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,654 Thanked 10,373 Times in 2,092 Posts Rep Power**: 21474851	I would have left home at 16 and not been guilted into returning. I would have said "yes" to something in 1990 and a firm "no" to something in 1992. I would have stopped punishing myself for the actions and harm caused by others a lot earlier than I have. I would have told my good friend not to pick up her mail at the embassy 8/7/98. I would never have returned stateside in 2002. Most of all I would go back in time and tell that little blonde ponytailed girl that "you are smart, you are kind, you are important" and sometimes parents do not have your best interest at heart. Sometimes they are too damaged to parent well and take things out on an innocent child. But one day you will have enough strength to not only have closure but to realize the door between you needs to be closed, for good. Most of all I would tell her to trust your journey. You got this. Katniss~~(Dorothy and Toto can keep home. I'll stay a stray. )

02-19-2013, 09:06 PM	#151
little_ms_sunshyne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: . Posts: 3,312 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,339 Thanked 12,241 Times in 2,541 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	If I could turn back time I would... -have not walked down the aisle... - Come out to my family sooner -Not listened to my parents and attended Berklee College of Music in Boston - left sooner from a hurtful situation

02-19-2013, 09:32 PM	#152
macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,231 Times in 847 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	it's too overwhelming. seriously. there's so much i'd do different, ... i wouldn't be the same person LOL. just too freakin' much to think about.

02-19-2013, 10:42 PM	#153
SuddenlyWestFemme Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Seattle Posts: 116 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 296 Thanked 522 Times in 88 Posts Rep Power: 7145835	If I could turn back time, I wouldn't have answered that PM. Although I have come to love Seattle, I wouldn't have moved and would still be living on 26th Street in NYC--possibly even in love with an east coast Butch that I never got to meet. But I did answer that PM. And perhaps something amazing is in store for me here on the left coast that will make me glad I answered it.

02-20-2013, 12:49 AM	#154
maryam Member How Do You Identify?: femme-ish Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: taken Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: somewhere, out there.... Posts: 263 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 675 Thanked 794 Times in 231 Posts Rep Power: 4979164	I would do 16 over. The whole freaking year. I wouldn't change the end result, but it could have been done much better. Less collateral damage and all that.

02-20-2013, 01:00 AM	#155
diamondrose Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: . Posts: 1,384 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2 Thanked 2,895 Times in 923 Posts Rep Power: 13536274	If i could turn back time i would spend precious time with my grandpa. I grew up in the south and my family is in the north. As a young adult i didnt travel to see my family as much as i could have and my grandpa suddenly passed in 2005. It was a learning experience that i took to heart. Since i have made ever effort to close the gap by visiting my family , especially my grandma, as much as i possibly can.

02-20-2013, 01:01 AM	#157
TheMerryFairy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pansexual/Sapiosexual femmey dyke who likes to crossdress now and then Preferred Pronoun?: She/her OR ze if I'm crossdressing Relationship Status: Floating and walking My path, happy in life. Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: On my Merry Fairy way! , Canada Posts: 3,630 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,727 Thanked 8,694 Times in 2,987 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	If I turned back time, would I even still be the same person? I struggle with this concept a lot because while there are certainly things I would have done different now that I know the result, every action and every thought provided me with a new lesson and a new chance. As much as I would like to change some of the experiences I have had, I wouldn't want to compromise what I have now and what I think I may have in the near future because of following my travelling barber business dream.

02-20-2013, 02:18 AM	#158
Bard Family Man How Do You Identify?: TG Male Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones Relationship Status: She just gets me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ..... Posts: 2,828 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,997 Thanked 12,786 Times in 2,431 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	this is hard because the path i have walked on the good and the bad made me who i am and lead me to desd the love of my life and all the happiness i have now,, but i would go back to a 9 year old me and tell my mom i love her that last time i saw her before her accident.. i would go back and tell my dumb head to listen to my heart and admit how very much i loved desd from the start.. she was then and is now everything i could have ever wanted in a lover a partner and a best friend.. lastly i would have cut my losses with a former friend but we live and learn.. i have a amazing life a wonderful daughter and a wife who takes my breath away __________________ This is ten percent luck, twenty percent skill Fifteen percent concentrated power of will Five percent pleasure, fifty percent pain And a hundred percent reason to remember the name! Give yourself over to absolute pleasure. Swim the warm waters of sins of the flesh - erotic nightmares beyond any measure, and sensual daydreams to treasure forever. Can't you just see it? Don't dream it, be it.

02-20-2013, 02:33 AM	#159
JustBeingMe Senior Member How Do You Identify?: as ME Relationship Status: I don't need no stinking status. Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: somewhere you're not..... Posts: 1,808 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,961 Thanked 1,690 Times in 694 Posts Rep Power: 12813869	If I could turn back time, I wouldn't have made some of the stupid decisions I have made way back when. I would do things differently and maybe, just maybe, things would have turned out better for it. __________________ Nothing more, Nothing less, I'm Just Being Me

02-20-2013, 09:14 AM	#160
bright_arrow ☆ the stars are aligned ☆ How Do You Identify?: one queer mama Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: married to my Boo Daddy <3 Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: nor cal Posts: 2,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,644 Thanked 9,363 Times in 2,296 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	If I could turn back time.. I would have left an emotionally abusive relationship sooner, and on my own grounds, face to face. With that said, I would not have tried a second time to repair it. I would take back the things I said to her in fear to push you away. I would not sacrifice my home, family, and job for what turned out to be nothing but another notch in her belt. I never would have gone to her house over spring break, thus meaning I never would of ODed and ended in the ER. I would tell my newly outed gay self that I did not have to save every 'damsel in distress', and that my happiness was important just as much as my partner's. I did not have to change to be loved, that no one was worth the hurt of any temporary changes attempted. I would tell my younger self that communication is important. I grew up in a household where looks and thinly veiled threats communicated feelings, especially anger, and to this day there are days where all my cues are physical, none verbal.