What have you learned? - Page 9

MissItalianDiva · 11-03-2012, 07:31 PM

I am just not the tie me down type...in more ways than one. Relationships do not suit me well and I love my freedom and space to do as I please.

Also learned I find it incredibly sexy to finally have met someone who is secure enough in who they are and their sexiness to not feel the desire to push the "label" envelope...letting it flow is a BEAUTIFUL thing.

Bèsame* · 11-03-2012, 07:55 PM

Learning..nervousness can be new and flustering.Your breathing increases..mmmmm

Prudence · 11-07-2012, 08:44 AM

That everyone has an agenda.....

Breezy · 11-07-2012, 09:35 AM

To stop hiding.

MissItalianDiva · 11-07-2012, 02:50 PM

I have learned that sometimes we put too much energy and space into things that really just are not worth the effort.

cinnamongrrl · 11-07-2012, 06:17 PM

I have learned.....

no matter what you do you can't make everyone happy....

no matter how far you go, you can't escape the past.....

despite your greatest efforts you can't always right a wrong....

letting go is sometimes all you can do...........

spritzerJ · 11-07-2012, 06:32 PM

I've learned I am demanding and for good reason.

WingsOnFire · 11-07-2012, 07:17 PM

conversations via text are not something I should have when the subject makes me frustrated. I fully admit this form of communication does not work well for me. But I have yet to learn that lesson fully yet.

Must learn to stop before I get frustrated.

Sun · 11-07-2012, 07:37 PM

I have learned that loving means letting go of any attachment to any agenda, that saying that I will love someone as they are means that I love all aspects of them, and that even though it did not work out, love remains.

I have learned that I really do, wish her happiness, I wish her peace.

I have learned that beautiful memories are priceless. I have learned that endings do not have to be negative, sometimes they just mean that a new beginning is on the road ahead, and that the lessons learned along the way, are all a part of loving someone.

I have learned to be grateful for all of the gifts that each new chapter in my life has brought to me.

I have learned...and I have learned.

Trev · 11-07-2012, 07:40 PM

Inquiring minds want to know, and I like giving the information.

sylvie · 11-17-2012, 09:23 PM

i have learned that while i do not agree with the choices my 16 year old daughter has made, i 'can' make my own choices that will reflect on a healthier mindset in terms of the choices she has made.
i have also learned that it's important to me to keep her close, so that she keeps in touch with me and so i know she is safe. That arguing with her only brings stress on her and myself, and that i will do my very best to help her make positive choices when given the chance.

What is important to me, right now, is that she makes safe choices, and that if she should choose to find her way to go back to school, to come back home, and to her loving family that worry sick about her, We're here..

But the phone calls to check in each night and say she's okay and loves me, means too much for me to push her away.. i believe she needs me more than ever to be in her corner.. And while i 'can' be that, i will not allow her to steal, be disrespectful, or break rules.

i have learned, its okay to respect myself, to have feelings & believe one day she will understand that i love the hell out of her, and this isn't easy on me..but i also recognize this isn't easy on her.. She'll come to me.. in the meantime, i worry every day, i always want to hear from her, and i'll always hope for her finding her way, to happiness, success & safety..

ValentineTomboy · 04-11-2013, 10:54 AM

I've learned that life is short and you should never take anyone or anything for granted. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Take chances and dont be afraid to go out of your comfort zone. And if you love someone make sure you tell them because there will come a time when you wont be able to anymore and regret is a terrible thing.

DJ Bear · 04-11-2013, 11:05 AM

Not to over analyze my life, just live it. Live my life as the person I know in my heart I am. Live and love every day as if it were my last.

cinnamongrrl · 04-11-2013, 11:26 AM

I've learned to....

never try to parallel park in a car that is not yours...

Refill the liquid soap BEFORE you clean the bathroom....

Always get gas before you go to CT....

Breezy · 04-11-2013, 12:16 PM

I have learned:

age difference is unimportant in love.

he waited almost 12 years for me to come to my senses.

truly only love exists.

I have truly great love in my life with him and so does he.

I love him more than words can ever express and he feels the same way.

my teen daughter will ask the most embarrassing questions possible, and loudly, in public.

I cannot repair my daughter's heartbreak as a result of breaking up with her girlfriend and I really want to do more than just be there. I want to fix it.

Whoa, instantaneous lesson, ain't my place to fix it for her.

CA_BabyCakes · 04-11-2013, 12:48 PM

I have learned that only I can make myself truly happy.

I have learned to disregard some opinions and absorb the ones i want to hear.

I have learned to never let a person in my past direct the feelings i have towards anyone I choose to be in my future.

I have learned that gut instinct is always right.

I have learned that some people do not deserve the benefit of the doubt.

WingsOnFire · 04-11-2013, 01:13 PM

I have learned that life is still very much alive at 44. Infact, it can be the most exciting time of my life. I am looking forward to creating a life together with Sir and my pups in our new home.

I am so excited about the prospects of decorating it together.

Bad_boi · 05-20-2013, 03:59 AM

Sometimes the hardest person to forgive is yourself.

kittygrrl · 05-23-2013, 05:23 PM

I've learned some things never change

kittygrrl · 05-23-2013, 09:08 PM

When I rilly want a chocolate chip cookie, there is no point to telling myself I should have a pickle instead

11-03-2012, 07:31 PM	#161
MissItalianDiva Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Miss Twiggy Preferred Pronoun?: Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious and that shit doesn't sound atrocious! Relationship Status: divorce happens..all that glitters ain't gold Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SLC Utah Posts: 2,284 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,768 Thanked 7,159 Times in 1,793 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Epiphany... I am just not the tie me down type...in more ways than one. Relationships do not suit me well and I love my freedom and space to do as I please. Also learned I find it incredibly sexy to finally have met someone who is secure enough in who they are and their sexiness to not feel the desire to push the "label" envelope...letting it flow is a BEAUTIFUL thing.

11-03-2012, 07:55 PM	#162
Bèsame* Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femm Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: loved by many Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Closer to the waves Posts: 15,346 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,071 Thanked 40,906 Times in 10,705 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	Learning..nervousness can be new and flustering.Your breathing increases..mmmmm __________________ kisses A kiss is a whisper in your mouth. Can I borrow a kiss? I promise to give it back.

11-07-2012, 08:44 AM	#163
Prudence Member How Do You Identify?: "congratulations, it's a girl" Preferred Pronoun?: Woman Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Second star to the right, and straight on till morning. Posts: 509 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,333 Thanked 1,178 Times in 363 Posts Rep Power: 9187054	That everyone has an agenda..... __________________ "There is a vitality, a life force, and energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique."---Martha Graham

11-07-2012, 07:17 PM	#168
WingsOnFire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer..femme.. .babygirl...girl Preferred Pronoun?: Female Ones... Relationship Status: Enjoying life but ready to meet someone Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland Oregon Posts: 3,945 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,015 Thanked 12,476 Times in 3,357 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	conversations via text are not something I should have when the subject makes me frustrated. I fully admit this form of communication does not work well for me. But I have yet to learn that lesson fully yet. Must learn to stop before I get frustrated. __________________ Previously known as MidnightBlueEyes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ http://gailsforum.files.wordpress.co...-psd340941.png

11-07-2012, 07:37 PM	#169
Sun Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trans Preferred Pronoun?: He, him, his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: N/A Posts: 1,775 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,557 Thanked 5,551 Times in 1,456 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Lessons in Love I have learned that loving means letting go of any attachment to any agenda, that saying that I will love someone as they are means that I love all aspects of them, and that even though it did not work out, love remains. I have learned that I really do, wish her happiness, I wish her peace. I have learned that beautiful memories are priceless. I have learned that endings do not have to be negative, sometimes they just mean that a new beginning is on the road ahead, and that the lessons learned along the way, are all a part of loving someone. I have learned to be grateful for all of the gifts that each new chapter in my life has brought to me. I have learned...and I have learned. __________________ “Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.” ― Rumi

11-07-2012, 09:35 AM	#164
Breezy Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: . Posts: 1,372 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,337 Thanked 4,555 Times in 1,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	To stop hiding.

11-07-2012, 02:50 PM	#165
MissItalianDiva Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Miss Twiggy Preferred Pronoun?: Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious and that shit doesn't sound atrocious! Relationship Status: divorce happens..all that glitters ain't gold Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SLC Utah Posts: 2,284 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,768 Thanked 7,159 Times in 1,793 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I have learned that sometimes we put too much energy and space into things that really just are not worth the effort.

11-07-2012, 06:17 PM	#166
cinnamongrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: cleverly disguised as a responsible adult* Preferred Pronoun?: wild woman Relationship Status: No, thank you. Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Home in NC..gonna dig in like a tick this time… Posts: 7,655 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,207 Thanked 27,592 Times in 6,951 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I have learned..... no matter what you do you can't make everyone happy.... no matter how far you go, you can't escape the past..... despite your greatest efforts you can't always right a wrong.... letting go is sometimes all you can do...........

11-07-2012, 06:32 PM	#167
spritzerJ Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: Queer (gender), female (biological marker) Preferred Pronoun?: she will work as a default. Relationship Status: engaged to jac until 8/10/14 Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Maine Posts: 3,154 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,307 Thanked 15,802 Times in 2,905 Posts Rep Power: 0	I've learned I am demanding and for good reason.

11-07-2012, 07:40 PM	#170
Trev Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Just a good ole boy Preferred Pronoun?: Male ones Relationship Status: She Thinks My Tractor's Sexy Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Somewhere between right and wrong Posts: 3,372 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,988 Thanked 10,142 Times in 2,400 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Inquiring minds want to know, and I like giving the information. __________________ Trev

11-17-2012, 09:23 PM	#171
sylvie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Mr Mtn's babygirl Preferred Pronoun?: girly, she Relationship Status: fiercely protected ♥ Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Moving home in OR with Him VERY soooon !! Posts: 2,548 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,834 Thanked 7,501 Times in 1,850 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	i have learned that while i do not agree with the choices my 16 year old daughter has made, i 'can' make my own choices that will reflect on a healthier mindset in terms of the choices she has made. i have also learned that it's important to me to keep her close, so that she keeps in touch with me and so i know she is safe. That arguing with her only brings stress on her and myself, and that i will do my very best to help her make positive choices when given the chance. What is important to me, right now, is that she makes safe choices, and that if she should choose to find her way to go back to school, to come back home, and to her loving family that worry sick about her, We're here.. But the phone calls to check in each night and say she's okay and loves me, means too much for me to push her away.. i believe she needs me more than ever to be in her corner.. And while i 'can' be that, i will not allow her to steal, be disrespectful, or break rules. i have learned, its okay to respect myself, to have feelings & believe one day she will understand that i love the hell out of her, and this isn't easy on me..but i also recognize this isn't easy on her.. She'll come to me.. in the meantime, i worry every day, i always want to hear from her, and i'll always hope for her finding her way, to happiness, success & safety.. __________________ my Mantra: i am letting go of angers, continuing to find forgiveness, welcoming inner peace & deserving of it all. my facebook weight loss page: http://www.facebook.com/asyllyjourney

04-11-2013, 10:54 AM	#172
ValentineTomboy Junior Member How Do You Identify?: . Preferred Pronoun?: . Relationship Status: . Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: . Posts: 65 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 171 Thanked 352 Times in 58 Posts Rep Power: 1472057	I've learned that life is short and you should never take anyone or anything for granted. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Take chances and dont be afraid to go out of your comfort zone. And if you love someone make sure you tell them because there will come a time when you wont be able to anymore and regret is a terrible thing. __________________ Good luck to all.....and take care.....

04-11-2013, 11:05 AM	#173
DJ Bear Member How Do You Identify?: Daddy, Papa, just Me Preferred Pronoun?: he, him, sir, bro, hey you Relationship Status: Married to library_girl Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Illinois with my baby girl Posts: 144 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 404 Thanked 552 Times in 138 Posts Rep Power: 8324586	Not to over analyze my life, just live it. Live my life as the person I know in my heart I am. Live and love every day as if it were my last. __________________ “Named must your fear be before banish it you can.” Yoda

04-11-2013, 11:26 AM	#174
cinnamongrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: cleverly disguised as a responsible adult* Preferred Pronoun?: wild woman Relationship Status: No, thank you. Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Home in NC..gonna dig in like a tick this time… Posts: 7,655 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,207 Thanked 27,592 Times in 6,951 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I've learned to.... never try to parallel park in a car that is not yours... Refill the liquid soap BEFORE you clean the bathroom.... Always get gas before you go to CT....

04-11-2013, 12:16 PM	#175
Breezy Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: . Posts: 1,372 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,337 Thanked 4,555 Times in 1,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I have learned: age difference is unimportant in love. he waited almost 12 years for me to come to my senses. truly only love exists. I have truly great love in my life with him and so does he. I love him more than words can ever express and he feels the same way. my teen daughter will ask the most embarrassing questions possible, and loudly, in public. I cannot repair my daughter's heartbreak as a result of breaking up with her girlfriend and I really want to do more than just be there. I want to fix it. Whoa, instantaneous lesson, ain't my place to fix it for her.

04-11-2013, 12:48 PM	#176
CA_BabyCakes Member How Do You Identify?: All Femme Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: \ Posts: 364 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 231 Thanked 1,174 Times in 282 Posts Rep Power: 7129097	I have learned that only I can make myself truly happy. I have learned to disregard some opinions and absorb the ones i want to hear. I have learned to never let a person in my past direct the feelings i have towards anyone I choose to be in my future. I have learned that gut instinct is always right. I have learned that some people do not deserve the benefit of the doubt.

04-11-2013, 01:13 PM	#177
WingsOnFire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer..femme.. .babygirl...girl Preferred Pronoun?: Female Ones... Relationship Status: Enjoying life but ready to meet someone Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland Oregon Posts: 3,945 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,015 Thanked 12,476 Times in 3,357 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I have learned that life is still very much alive at 44. Infact, it can be the most exciting time of my life. I am looking forward to creating a life together with Sir and my pups in our new home. I am so excited about the prospects of decorating it together. __________________ Previously known as MidnightBlueEyes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ http://gailsforum.files.wordpress.co...-psd340941.png

05-20-2013, 03:59 AM	#178
Bad_boi Member How Do You Identify?: Transman (male) Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His ect. Relationship Status: Handsome bastard. Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: May 2010 Location: Seattle Posts: 727 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 122 Thanked 1,824 Times in 499 Posts Rep Power: 0	Sometimes the hardest person to forgive is yourself.

05-23-2013, 05:23 PM	#179
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,342 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,565 Thanked 21,933 Times in 7,064 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	I've learned some things never change __________________ "MAKE AMERICA THINK AGAIN"

05-23-2013, 09:08 PM	#180
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,342 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,565 Thanked 21,933 Times in 7,064 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	I've learned When I rilly want a chocolate chip cookie, there is no point to telling myself I should have a pickle instead __________________ "MAKE AMERICA THINK AGAIN"