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Growing older
I would like people to comment about their process of growing older, whether it be becoming elderly, or moving from youth to adulthood or adulthood to middle age.
I’m 65, soon to be 66 and while I really embrace this crone stage, I find myself pondering how difficult things can be because of my age. Little things like being able to open up canned goods. Big things like using a Rototiller. Realizing that my memory isn’t is solid as it used to be. I horrifyingly discovered that I am, THE crotchety old lady that chases kids out of her yard in the neighborhood! Lol. There’s things that I yearn to still do. There’s things I am so so happy that I did back in the day, even if I can’t do them again now. I’m pissed with all the medical tests they put me through . And I hate changing the way I eat. I always had a sweet tooth but now I’m pre-diabetic. I need to really concentrate on what foods I eat. I am so grateful that I am in a loving relationship with my husband. And at this point I’m far enough away from all my old relationships to realize the value of them, and feel grateful for the lessons I learned from them. Maybe that’s why this last relationship is working so well…
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We are all going to do it, like it or not. The worst part I find that once I retired and was on my own then the old me started to move in. I lost interest in a lot of things (not that lol) and started to bore me. I really don't like going to special places or holidays or even dinner, alone. Many people your age are interested in younger women to help them feel younger. I found that younger people had very little in common with my life style. Yes we both like going dancing but there is a huge difference in style and music preferences. I use to love to party till well into morning but not now. I use to drink and smoke and dance till dawn, not now. It is nice to chat and become somewhat acquainted from a distance but the problem is, once you meet it may be someone totally different than who you had envisioned through conversation.
If you find you have a good deal in common it is nice to know the differences you have also so that you can make an effort to enhance your relationship (if it comes to that). Do things your new partner or even friend enjoys even if you have never done so before. Be willing to overlook small things that annoy you (they will.) If possible exchange pictures, speak on the phone as it is nice to hear a voice. I have used Skype in the past to talk to the little one so I like to use it in its three steps to get to know the other person. You can message and read and answer right away, then you can talk without the phone and then you can see each other and know if this is the person you expected her to be from your conversations. I do not do Uhaul, ever. I like to know a little before I even think of making friends. Anyway are you sorry I am spouting off LOL. Well I am done and ty for letting this old butch say her piece. |
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Stamina, I have none it is gone. I do more piddling that actual get er done when doing my chores. I live way out in the country so I dint worry about kids in my yard, but it infuriates me to have the neighbors dogs in my yard or running my livestock. Keep in mind I am 100 yards off the road and my property is fenced. I don't really like going places alone anymore. Probably from PTSD from falling in 2016 while on vacation. Had I been alone then I'd been screwed. I enjoy eating out but crying kidd or kids playing on their computers with the sound up, well let's just say I loose my patience pretty quickly with parents who allow this. Parents and kids is a whole other conversation of behaviors I don't tolerate well anymore. Yes I am one of those who almost daily now will say...at the risk of sounding like Mom or Nannie or Pa...you get the idea. These kids these days...when I was 20...
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Also, I too am sounding like my parents lately, when I’m talking to other people’s kids! (I am very grateful that my grandchildren are well behaved and really nice human beings.) I have seen such brats out there. No discipline. True sense of entitlement even on the very youngest! So that’s when old ageisms creep out of my mouth! I gotta give them some wisdom! Lol.
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I’ve also come to the conclusion that should anything happened to my husband, I will not look for another living relationship. I am very independent now and I don’t think that I could share my space with anyone else but him. I would love to continue to go on dinner date soon go watch movies together etc. but I’m done with the concept of romantic partners until I die. Part of the reason is that I am now like a case manager for the elderly and disabled. I love seeing these people be very independent and living on their own, but sharing company and time with each other . Some of them are engaged and physical closeness as well and some don’t care. And the magic of that age, 70s and beyond, is all about genuine enjoyment. It seems like there’s no jealousy. They don’t question the other persons, attention, or loyalty. They don’t demand monogamy in their companionships. Life is good for them and I kind of think if anything should happen between my husband and I or if he passes first, but I think life will be for me to.
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I have been " feeling my age" more lately than ever before.
There are times i feel young(ish), then i look at how old my kids and grandkids are. My oldest grandkid will be 11 on Jan 2nd. My kids are 35,33,and 26. Yes, I was young when i had them. 2 weeks before i turned 17, two months before i turned 19 and had my youngest at 26.. i am now 52. I went to church today with my Mom, first time stepping into a church building in about 15 yrs, i was looking around at all the people( mostly elderly or grey(ish) and realized.. I fit in more with them than with the younger crowd . I remember how agile i used to be, how i was able to do bunches of things that now i am like. yeah no. I guess i don't have a real direct flow with this post.. just.. old thoughts i reckon
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(I'm offering a prize for the best answer: "Q: How many old(er) lesbians does it take to change a light bulb?" PM me your answers, and I'll pick one. I'm serious, I will send someone a (small) prize. And I'll post the winner and their answer here.) I have dreams about running . . . running everywhere, down a city street, on a country road, around the aisles of a grocery store. I'll wake up and think, "Wow, that felt good. I should do that." And then I'll remember that I can't even walk somewhere without a cane, and sitting down to take breaks after short distances, and just getting out of bed is going to hurt like the dickens in several different places.
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I did not connect with growing older until:
when my hair dresser retired when my plumber retired when my financial advisor retired when my physician retired when my therapist retired All of the above including myself, are growing older. May we all give gratitude and appreciation for enjoying our journey with grace! Ks- Last edited by ksrainbow; 12-03-2022 at 10:29 PM. Reason: Thank you Soft for this thread |
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It is wild to me to look around and see so many people i grew up with look older than i think they should be. In my mind, i am about 30 ish... active, etc... yeah no..
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