What do you feel "too old" for? - Page 6

TheDreadPirateRoberts · 01-05-2012, 02:46 PM

drama....everyone has it...but im not going to sink to an immature level....ill just remove it from my life

tapu · 01-05-2012, 03:43 PM

Yeah. Pass the scalpel.

Honey · 01-05-2012, 03:45 PM

Dating the twenty something's...Its like Relationship 101...Uggh !!!!

theblueone · 01-05-2012, 03:57 PM

relationship 101? Or you just can't keep up with them?

SweetJane · 01-05-2012, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by AtLast

I know, Greyson- maybe we need a definition of dating thread!

It's a regional thing, I think, and maybe a sign of the times. People don't date like they did when I was young. When my daughter was a teenager in ND, you were a slut if you dated. You had to "go with" someone, one at a time. I just thought that would lead to trouble....and it probably did. Her cousin in Cali who was her same age did date like I did as a young woman.

I dated several at a time, and it was interesting getting to know each one. It helps sort out what you want in a relationship. And, when you're young, it helps you learn how to behave with someone.

Now that I'm in this community, I'd like to date more for that very reason, to get to know other people and to explore what relating is about.

AtLast · 01-06-2012, 07:45 AM

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Originally Posted by SweetJane

It's a regional thing, I think, and maybe a sign of the times. People don't date like they did when I was young. When my daughter was a teenager in ND, you were a slut if you dated. You had to "go with" someone, one at a time. I just thought that would lead to trouble....and it probably did. Her cousin in Cali who was her same age did date like I did as a young woman.

I dated several at a time, and it was interesting getting to know each one. It helps sort out what you want in a relationship. And, when you're young, it helps you learn how to behave with someone.

Now that I'm in this community, I'd like to date more for that very reason, to get to know other people and to explore what relating is about.

I agree- and getting to know someone is important. I guess since I have spent 27 years "relating," and am now 60, I think I get relating (and am quite relational). I also think that in my age cohort (and I don't date much younger or much older women), it is also more limited- but I also find that there are many other things I want to do other than date with my time. And I honestly do like getting to know someone on many levels which, for me, takes time as well as experiencing how things go through the curve life throws me and what may be a major event in the life of who I am dating.

When I was young, the "going together" thing was more true also when I was heterosexual. This changed after realizing that my heart and soul was at peace with a woman. Although, by age 30, I wanted a monogamous "marriage." Prior to that I went through poly relationships and was also bisexual. I was rather experimental, now that I think about it.

Aging has also brough more of a need to savor what I am experiencing- the "the less time you have, the more you don't want to waste" phenomenon, I believe. So many things that I used to be able to cope with and compromise about, I just want to anymore. The "need" for a relationship/marriage has transformed into being about what I "desire and want" really.

I really enjoy dates full of conversation in which I feel listened to and want to return this to my date. Being able to laugh easily with someone I am dating is important as well as both of us not being afraid to let our faults show. We all have them- might as well get them out there and see if any are non-negotiables. And of course, I get anxious about all of this because I don't date anyone that I don't have a romantic and yes, physical "tug" for. Who likes rejection! But, it is part of life. Have to deal with it.

I also think that so much changes with aging and losing someone via death- a partner and also several loved ones.

Gemme · 01-07-2012, 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Honey

Dating the twenty something's...Its like Relationship 101...Uggh !!!!

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Originally Posted by theblueone

relationship 101? Or you just can't keep up with them?

I am certainly not Honey and can't speak for her, but I do know what it's like to date someone that's several years one's junior.

It's going through the same growth and crises and angst that you went through years ago but through your partner's eyes.

And it's freakin' draining.

I'm no one's trainer in my personal relationships. If they aren't where I am psychologically and emotionally and in general, then they are not with me.

P.S.~ Your question to her sounded a bit personal and catty to me. Just an observation.

AtLast · 01-08-2012, 12:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

I am certainly not Honey and can't speak for her, but I do know what it's like to date someone that's several years one's junior.

It's going through the same growth and crises and angst that you went through years ago but through your partner's eyes.

And it's freakin' draining.
I'm no one's trainer in my personal relationships. If they aren't where I am psychologically and emotionally and in general, then they are not with me.

P.S.~ Your question to her sounded a bit personal and catty to me. Just an observation.

What I bolded is one of the clearest statements about going through this situation I have ever read. And why more often than not (there are exceptions, but I always wonder about the developmental age of the more senior member in these), a large age difference doesn't work.

I also agree with your observation about some cattiness to the question and that it was a personal shot. I could be wrong- don't know either party, but keeping the personal out of the forums/threads is really appreciated.

RockOn · 01-08-2012, 12:54 AM

Contact sports. I do not think my nose could take another breaking or another deviated septum surgery.

Kenna · 01-08-2012, 05:36 AM

I am learning that I can no longer move furniture or lift appliances or do most kinds of tough work like I used to without "feeling the burn " for days. My muscles seem to produce too much of that "after exercise " acid that my old, Lupus ridden body can't process and flush out correctly. I really miss my younger, VERY ACTIVE, VERY STRONG, able years and body. I miss muscles that work and kidneys that process toxins correctly. BUT.... none of what I feel today can take away my feeling of accomplishment and contentment from yesterday. I feel good emotionally even if the old body can no longer keep up.

jac · 01-08-2012, 05:42 AM

I really don't feel too old for anything, but my body totally doesn't agree with my mind when I'm on my knees! *smirk*

morningstar55 · 01-08-2012, 08:34 AM

................... nothing..................
* eg*

ok wait i take that back... anyone under 25 is way to young but anyone above that is fair game...
wait .... i cant believe im saying that... lol

dark_crystal · 01-08-2012, 08:36 AM

moving my own crap. or asking my friends and family to help me move my crap.

i hire guys* to do that

* not trying to be sexist. it's literally always guys

Gemme · 01-08-2012, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by dark_crystal

moving my own crap. or asking my friends and family to help me move my crap.

i hire guys* to do that

* not trying to be sexist. it's literally always guys

They have more upper body strength. That's just physics. Now, if you needed someone for a purpose that required a lower center of gravity....dancing can, for example....females have that in the bag.

msW8ing · 03-15-2012, 11:36 AM

Dating two Butches at once..it's exhausting..but oh soooooooooo much fun. This dating without promises is something i should have done in my 30's lmao

Amber2010 · 03-15-2012, 11:47 AM

I can not longer keep working when I get sick. I use to work right through it and just deal. Now I am so tired and can't keep my eyes open all day or even sit at a computer or talk on a phone. Yikes it stinks getting older sometimes. LOL

kittygrrl · 03-15-2012, 04:17 PM

bullshit..........and all that, that implies

deb_U_taunt · 03-16-2012, 08:43 PM

I am too old to be naive enough to believe that 'just a drink at your place ' really is 'just a drink at your place'.

I am too old to be in a relationship that would deserve the facebook status 'it's complicated'.

I am too old to believe you only get to love once.

wetfromashower · 03-29-2012, 11:42 PM

Mind Games...

~ocean · 03-30-2012, 12:58 AM

i'm too old to wait while someone who chases their own tail.
i'm too old for someone not to understand.. knowing..
i'm too old to be with someone that is a young soul
i'm too old to be treated insignificant.

01-05-2012, 03:43 PM	#102
tapu Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Understated butch. Preferred Pronoun?: I Relationship Status: Party of One Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Maine Posts: 1,654 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,324 Thanked 3,112 Times in 1,103 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Yeah. Pass the scalpel. __________________ Really? That's not funny to you?

01-08-2012, 08:34 AM	#112
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,241 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	................... nothing.................. * eg* ok wait i take that back... anyone under 25 is way to young but anyone above that is fair game... wait .... i cant believe im saying that... lol __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

01-08-2012, 08:36 AM	#113
dark_crystal Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: jenny Preferred Pronoun?: babygirl Relationship Status: First Lady of the United SMH Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Houston, Texas Posts: 5,445 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,532 Thanked 26,589 Times in 4,691 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	moving my own crap. or asking my friends and family to help me move my crap. i hire guys* to do that * not trying to be sexist. it's literally always guys __________________

03-15-2012, 11:36 AM	#115
msW8ing Member How Do You Identify?: multi-faceted gem, femme, submissive babygirl if the chemistry is there. Preferred Pronoun?: lady Relationship Status: working on myself Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Lewiston, Idaho Posts: 920 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,700 Thanked 2,498 Times in 655 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Dating two Butches at once..it's exhausting..but oh soooooooooo much fun. This dating without promises is something i should have done in my 30's lmao __________________ *Don't judge me by my past..I don't live there anymore* A lady who knows the ropes..will never be bound. ~Mae West

03-15-2012, 04:17 PM	#117
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: her poison apple Preferred Pronoun?: b. grrl Relationship Status: her favorite snack Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: real close Posts: 8,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,382 Thanked 21,373 Times in 6,723 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	at the moment.. bullshit..........and all that, that implies

01-05-2012, 02:46 PM	#101
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01-05-2012, 03:45 PM	#103
Honey Member How Do You Identify?: big femme heart..... in a tight girlie package Preferred Pronoun?: just call me Honey Relationship Status: Playin' 4 keeps with Tomboi1982 Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: New England Posts: 306 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 316 Thanked 613 Times in 184 Posts Rep Power: 10762766	Dating the twenty something's...Its like Relationship 101...Uggh !!!!

01-05-2012, 03:57 PM	#104
theblueone Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: New England Posts: 9 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6 Thanked 31 Times in 7 Posts Rep Power: 0	relationship 101? Or you just can't keep up with them?

01-08-2012, 12:54 AM	#109
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,308 Times in 2,609 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Contact sports. I do not think my nose could take another breaking or another deviated septum surgery.

01-08-2012, 05:36 AM	#110
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,784 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,613 Thanked 12,108 Times in 3,757 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I am learning that I can no longer move furniture or lift appliances or do most kinds of tough work like I used to without "feeling the burn " for days. My muscles seem to produce too much of that "after exercise " acid that my old, Lupus ridden body can't process and flush out correctly. I really miss my younger, VERY ACTIVE, VERY STRONG, able years and body. I miss muscles that work and kidneys that process toxins correctly. BUT.... none of what I feel today can take away my feeling of accomplishment and contentment from yesterday. I feel good emotionally even if the old body can no longer keep up.

01-08-2012, 05:42 AM	#111
jac Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: butch stone Preferred Pronoun?: masculine ones work best... Relationship Status: ♥ engaged to spritz ♥ Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: bangor, maine Posts: 3,344 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,720 Thanked 16,492 Times in 2,972 Posts Rep Power: 0	I really don't feel too old for anything, but my body totally doesn't agree with my mind when I'm on my knees! smirk

03-15-2012, 11:47 AM	#116
Amber2010 Member How Do You Identify?: Happy, Crazy, Bubbly, Funny, Strong, Outgoing, Friendly Preferred Pronoun?: Femme Relationship Status: Complicated Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 920 Thanked 594 Times in 154 Posts Rep Power: 3787183	I can not longer keep working when I get sick. I use to work right through it and just deal. Now I am so tired and can't keep my eyes open all day or even sit at a computer or talk on a phone. Yikes it stinks getting older sometimes. LOL

03-16-2012, 08:43 PM	#118
deb_U_taunt Senior Member How Do You Identify?: ........ Join Date: May 2011 Location: ....... Posts: 1,748 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,324 Thanked 5,260 Times in 1,363 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I am too old to be naive enough to believe that 'just a drink at your place ' really is 'just a drink at your place'. I am too old to be in a relationship that would deserve the facebook status 'it's complicated'. I am too old to believe you only get to love once.

03-29-2012, 11:42 PM	#119
wetfromashower Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: East Coast... Posts: 100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 509 Thanked 346 Times in 93 Posts Rep Power: 6475840	Too Old For.... Mind Games...

03-30-2012, 12:58 AM	#120
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,125 Times in 4,736 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	i'm too old to wait while someone who chases their own tail. i'm too old for someone not to understand.. knowing.. i'm too old to be with someone that is a young soul i'm too old to be treated insignificant.