What is your Flirtation Style? - Page 3

Sam · 09-20-2010, 05:14 PM

usually my smile and luckily girls start the flirtation.

AtLast · 09-20-2010, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Duchess

My darling HDD you would be the one starting this thread .

I feel as though I was born with the flirty gene. However, if I truly like someone they know it. I'm very comfortable letting a person know how I feel about them. I might even like them enough to have my own nickname for them.

Duchess

Ah! The Duchess!!!

And, there is no one else that has their very own nickname for me! What can I say! Besides, WOW!!!

Hummm.... you have that priceless flirty gene that is like that is unasumming about their beauty... because it's about the entire being, all of their characteristics and the flow of the combinations.

I tend to find understatement the hottest!

Oh, and you have me blushing!

cara · 09-20-2010, 10:38 PM

my flirtation style? i don't think i have one. usually when i'm attracted to someone and they are near me, i turn into a bumbling idiot.

dixie · 09-20-2010, 11:07 PM

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Originally Posted by cara

my flirtation style? i don't think i have one. usually when i'm attracted to someone and they are near me, i turn into a bumbling idiot.

Exactly! If I actually like the person, I too become a bumbling idiot who always says the wrong thing and just sits there and giggles a lot.

I'm a little more bold online though, and will rep them or start a general conversation with them. It just varies. If I see a window of opportunity I usually try to jump thru it without bumping my head! lol

Now if I'm just flirting for the fun of flirting, then I have all the confidence in the world. The sultry smile, the batting eyelashes, the light touching, the rather forward phrases...

cane · 09-20-2010, 11:11 PM

When flirting I find that my eyes are a gold mine since they have a really extraordinary colour.

Not that I'm flirting theese days, Oh no...would never happen!

Otherwise I think that straight forward is the way to go. When I met my wife for example, after knowing her for some time I went up to her on a party and told her that I was interrested in her and that I thought that she felt the same. I think she was a little thrown by my lack of shyness, but it worked. Of course she had a boyfriend (and was straight) at the time so it's never just straight forward, but flirting goes well together with honesty, works every time.

Ryobi · 09-20-2010, 11:15 PM

I flirt with everybody.(ask the giant hairy guy I work with. lol) I can't help it. I like to see people smile, I like to give compliments. My compliments aren't a fun fluff flirt, I mean them. And I love seeing the look (or smile) on peoples faces when they realize, "I'm being flirted with."
Flirting almost got me in trouble once, big trouble. I worked nights at a CBRF that was specific to Alzheimer's disease. All of the elderly took me as guy. (which had some serious advantages with showering and dressing the old dudes. I was one of the boys, they didn't feel awkward.) I flirted with the ladies (residents) on a regular basis. I think that worked wonders in getting people that were scared in general because they don't know what's happening to them, to trust me. I rarely had a problem with residents. One day a co-worker thought that me flirting with the resident was the most disgusting thing she had ever seen and called "the state" to tell them what I was doing. A Rep showed up one night to "observe" me. (and I went on as usual. I knew I wasn't doing anything wrong. Nothing was sexual about it.) In the morning I could hear him in the office with admin. and the woman with the problem saying, "if you had 10 more people on staff like that, this place would win awards!" (he was mad.) Admin never had a problem with me, it was that one person and she quit 2 days later.
Anyway, yeah, flirting is just in me. Compliment on anything with a smile and a sparkle in your eye. If I'm working on or in a relationship, flirting is more specific and you will know I'm talkin to you. It confuses some but, I don't flirt for my advantage, I flirt for yours. (not meant cocky)
However, I'm not 2x4 when it comes to people flirting with me. I'm more like 4x8. *shrug*.

jey_z76 · 09-20-2010, 11:20 PM

First things first..... BODY LANGUAGE!

Body language shows quite a bit on whether someone is interested in you or not.
I know this may sound kind of strange or odd, but if you are still confused by all of what everyone has said, watch the movie, "He's Just Not Into You". I know the title may seem stupid, but trust me.... it has helped me out a lot when it comes to how I show someone that I'm interested and especially if they aren't interested in me.

You can download it from piratebay.org .

Hope this helps!

~J~

jey_z76 · 09-20-2010, 11:54 PM

Just gonna edit one thing..... the movie is actually, "He's Just Not That Into You".

AtLast · 09-20-2010, 11:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Ryobi

I flirt with everybody.(ask the giant hairy guy I work with. lol) I can't help it. I like to see people smile, I like to give compliments. My compliments aren't a fun fluff flirt, I mean them. And I love seeing the look (or smile) on peoples faces when they realize, "I'm being flirted with."
Flirting almost got me in trouble once, big trouble. I worked nights at a CBRF that was specific to Alzheimer's disease. All of the elderly took me as guy. (which had some serious advantages with showering and dressing the old dudes. I was one of the boys, they didn't feel awkward.) I flirted with the ladies (residents) on a regular basis. I think that worked wonders in getting people that were scared in general because they don't know what's happening to them, to trust me. I rarely had a problem with residents. One day a co-worker thought that me flirting with the resident was the most disgusting thing she had ever seen and called "the state" to tell them what I was doing. A Rep showed up one night to "observe" me. (and I went on as usual. I knew I wasn't doing anything wrong. Nothing was sexual about it.) In the morning I could hear him in the office with admin. and the woman with the problem saying, "if you had 10 more people on staff like that, this place would win awards!" (he was mad.) Admin never had a problem with me, it was that one person and she quit 2 days later.
Anyway, yeah, flirting is just in me. Compliment on anything with a smile and a sparkle in your eye. If I'm working on or in a relationship, flirting is more specific and you will know I'm talkin to you. It confuses some but, I don't flirt for my advantage, I flirt for yours. (not meant cocky)
However, I'm not 2x4 when it comes to people flirting with me. I'm more like 4x8. *shrug*.

This is such a kewl post!

chefhmboyrd · 09-21-2010, 02:19 PM

i am a big flirt..........
full frontal flirting is my style..........
lol

girl_dee · 03-09-2012, 05:38 AM

even though i've been told i'm a natural flirt i don't think i've ever tried to flirt.

WomenMoveMe · 03-09-2012, 05:51 AM

I am the world's worst flirter. I have no skill whatsoever. I rarely even know I am being flirted with, much less how to return it. I always think I am just talking with someone, then I am told I was flirting. Who knew?

1QuirkyKiwi · 03-09-2012, 07:46 AM

I can’t flirt even if my life depended on it! I’ve been told numerous times that my naturally bubbly, cheerful and friendly personality “Sends out flirting” signals and is seen as a “Come on!”

Online is the worst for me, because it’s mistakenly assumed that I’m desperately trying to flirt with everyone when that is genuinely not that case.

When I’m interested in a woman, I’ll smile and gently hold hys/her gaze for a little longer.

deedarino · 03-09-2012, 08:47 PM

Full Frontal Flirting; nice...

Flirting is good for the soul, and for the souls around you. As long as it is sincere, I don't ever flirt above the level of my intention.

Sweet Bliss · 02-24-2013, 01:01 AM

TheMerryFairy · 02-24-2013, 01:35 AM

I keep it very casual - friendly and innocent. I am flirty by nature so often it can be misunderstood. If I have an actual interest I let it be known so that there's no mistaking one for the other

Girl_On_Fire · 02-24-2013, 09:37 PM

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Originally Posted by ravfem

Is it bad that i kinda like cockiness, as well as confidence?

Should i do some self-examining?

Ha ha! Oh my God, I'm so turned-on by cockiness and I know I shouldn't be. I don't know what's hot about some butch thinking hy's God's gift but if somebody did walk up to me and invite me to go home with hym that night, I wouldn't but I wouldn't be able to resist talking with hym for a bit. I like dominance but there's always that fine line. If you end up with somebody like that, do you end up having to deal with the massive ego for the duration of the relationship or is that just what hy leads with?

Oh, and I have no game. My problem is I can't read facial expressions and body language well so I'm never quite sure who I should be flirting with. A friend and I were just talking about this today. My problem is when I'm out at a club or something like that, I may see somebody I find attractive but I don't know how to subtly let them know that. I either look away because I can't deal with the uncomfortable eye contact or I smile in a kind of weird way because I'm nervous....I dunno. I've been told I'm unapproachable but I'm not sure how to be approachable without, I don't know, overdoing it. So yes, flirting is a big puzzle for me.

TheMerryFairy · 02-24-2013, 09:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Girl_On_Fire

Ha ha! Oh my God, I'm so turned-on by cockiness and I know I shouldn't be. I don't know what's hot about some butch thinking hy's God's gift but if somebody did walk up to me and invite me to go home with hym that night, I wouldn't but I wouldn't be able to resist talking with hym for a bit. I like dominance but there's always that fine line. If you end up with somebody like that, do you end up having to deal with the massive ego for the duration of the relationship or is that just what hy leads with?

Oh, and I have no game. My problem is I can't read facial expressions and body language well so I'm never quite sure who I should be flirting with. A friend and I were just talking about this today. My problem is when I'm out at a club or something like that, I may see somebody I find attractive but I don't know how to subtly let them know that. I either look away because I can't deal with the uncomfortable eye contact or I smile in a kind of weird way because I'm nervous....I dunno. I've been told I'm unapproachable but I'm not sure how to be approachable without, I don't know, overdoing it. So yes, flirting is a big puzzle for me.

My friend, a crush actually, is the same way *smiles* I love it. Everything is a puzzle to her and in turn she is a puzzle. She had me fascinated because I could never tell how she was feeling or what she was thinking due to her own confusion about my own expressions and things. You aren't unapproachable hny!

You just need to be you and someone will take interest in you and maybe be the one to approach.

little_ms_sunshyne · 02-24-2013, 09:47 PM

AWKWARD! I have no game. I end up laughing entirely too much out of being nervous, I bite my bottom lip quite a bit, I trip over MYSELF, and it just continues in this awkward sequence of events...Absolutely hopeless!!!!!!!!!

TheMerryFairy · 02-24-2013, 09:52 PM

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Originally Posted by little_ms_sunshyne

AWKWARD! I have no game. I end up laughing entirely too much out of being nervous, I bite my bottom lip quite a bit, I trip over MYSELF, and it just continues in this awkward sequence of events...Absolutely hopeless!!!!!!!!!

This has been known to happen to me when I am trying to do more than flirt on a friendly innocent level. I am happy I am not the only one and I feel your pain. It's not hopeless! It comes down to meeting the right people, I think LOL.

09-20-2010, 10:38 PM	#43
cara Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer/lesbian femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: Married to my love 08.15.15 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Snohomish County, Washington State Posts: 3,401 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,994 Thanked 13,254 Times in 2,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	my flirtation style? i don't think i have one. usually when i'm attracted to someone and they are near me, i turn into a bumbling idiot. __________________ "The world in which you were born is just one model of reality. Other cultures are not failed attempts at being you; they are unique manifestations of the human spirit." ~Wade Davis

09-20-2010, 11:11 PM	#45
cane Member How Do You Identify?: male identified butch Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2010 Location: Sweden Posts: 294 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 119 Thanked 358 Times in 123 Posts Rep Power: 1030322	When flirting I find that my eyes are a gold mine since they have a really extraordinary colour. Not that I'm flirting theese days, Oh no...would never happen! Otherwise I think that straight forward is the way to go. When I met my wife for example, after knowing her for some time I went up to her on a party and told her that I was interrested in her and that I thought that she felt the same. I think she was a little thrown by my lack of shyness, but it worked. Of course she had a boyfriend (and was straight) at the time so it's never just straight forward, but flirting goes well together with honesty, works every time. __________________ "Vivamus, mea Lesbia, atque amemus"

09-20-2010, 11:15 PM	#46
Ryobi Member How Do You Identify?: TG Stone Butch. Over all, I identify by living my life. Preferred Pronoun?: He/His Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Upper Midwest Posts: 633 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 683 Thanked 1,238 Times in 357 Posts Rep Power: 12468327	I flirt with everybody.(ask the giant hairy guy I work with. lol) I can't help it. I like to see people smile, I like to give compliments. My compliments aren't a fun fluff flirt, I mean them. And I love seeing the look (or smile) on peoples faces when they realize, "I'm being flirted with." Flirting almost got me in trouble once, big trouble. I worked nights at a CBRF that was specific to Alzheimer's disease. All of the elderly took me as guy. (which had some serious advantages with showering and dressing the old dudes. I was one of the boys, they didn't feel awkward.) I flirted with the ladies (residents) on a regular basis. I think that worked wonders in getting people that were scared in general because they don't know what's happening to them, to trust me. I rarely had a problem with residents. One day a co-worker thought that me flirting with the resident was the most disgusting thing she had ever seen and called "the state" to tell them what I was doing. A Rep showed up one night to "observe" me. (and I went on as usual. I knew I wasn't doing anything wrong. Nothing was sexual about it.) In the morning I could hear him in the office with admin. and the woman with the problem saying, "if you had 10 more people on staff like that, this place would win awards!" (he was mad.) Admin never had a problem with me, it was that one person and she quit 2 days later. Anyway, yeah, flirting is just in me. Compliment on anything with a smile and a sparkle in your eye. If I'm working on or in a relationship, flirting is more specific and you will know I'm talkin to you. It confuses some but, I don't flirt for my advantage, I flirt for yours. (not meant cocky) However, I'm not 2x4 when it comes to people flirting with me. I'm more like 4x8. shrug. __________________ "If you can't do great things, do small things in a great way" Napoleon Hill. "To choose a word is to choose a world" Anonymous

09-20-2010, 11:20 PM	#47
jey_z76 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Boi Preferred Pronoun?: I'm not picky Relationship Status: Still single Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Austin Posts: 28 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1 Thanked 17 Times in 8 Posts Rep Power: 14	Hope this helps! First things first..... BODY LANGUAGE! Body language shows quite a bit on whether someone is interested in you or not. I know this may sound kind of strange or odd, but if you are still confused by all of what everyone has said, watch the movie, "He's Just Not Into You". I know the title may seem stupid, but trust me.... it has helped me out a lot when it comes to how I show someone that I'm interested and especially if they aren't interested in me. You can download it from piratebay.org . Hope this helps! ~J~ __________________ *~ It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. ~*

09-20-2010, 11:54 PM	#48
jey_z76 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Boi Preferred Pronoun?: I'm not picky Relationship Status: Still single Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Austin Posts: 28 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1 Thanked 17 Times in 8 Posts Rep Power: 14	Just gonna edit one thing..... the movie is actually, "He's Just Not That Into You". __________________ *~ It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. ~*

09-20-2010, 05:14 PM	#41
Sam Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 2/11/2011 Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: I'll let you know Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1,131 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,101 Thanked 668 Times in 363 Posts Rep Power: 0	usually my smile and luckily girls start the flirtation.

09-21-2010, 02:19 PM	#50
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03-09-2012, 05:38 AM	#51
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03-09-2012, 05:51 AM	#52
WomenMoveMe Member How Do You Identify?: I just wander about and be! Relationship Status: Caution: Dead End Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Kentucky Posts: 561 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,473 Thanked 2,101 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	I am the world's worst flirter. I have no skill whatsoever. I rarely even know I am being flirted with, much less how to return it. I always think I am just talking with someone, then I am told I was flirting. Who knew?

03-09-2012, 07:46 AM	#53
1QuirkyKiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: BBW. Unique femininity that does not encompass the western paradigm. Preferred Pronoun?: Anything Respectful! Relationship Status: Single, Happy, not Desparate or Looking, but Open to Possibilities... Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Europe and Aotearoa on a 5:2 ratio. Posts: 2,308 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,003 Thanked 6,035 Times in 1,617 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I can’t flirt even if my life depended on it! I’ve been told numerous times that my naturally bubbly, cheerful and friendly personality “Sends out flirting” signals and is seen as a “Come on!” Online is the worst for me, because it’s mistakenly assumed that I’m desperately trying to flirt with everyone when that is genuinely not that case. When I’m interested in a woman, I’ll smile and gently hold hys/her gaze for a little longer. __________________ What will make the difference to me is your strength of character and what's in your heart...

03-09-2012, 08:47 PM	#54
deedarino Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Woman Relationship Status: In recovery. Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Oregon Posts: 632 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,518 Thanked 1,956 Times in 497 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	Full Frontal Flirting; nice... Flirting is good for the soul, and for the souls around you. As long as it is sincere, I don't ever flirt above the level of my intention. __________________ Squint your eyes and look closer. I'm not between you and your ambitions. I am a poster girl with no poster. I am thirty-two flavors and then some. And I'm beyond your peripheral vision, so you might want to turn your head~Ani I want to think again of dangerous and noble things; I want to be light and frolicsome; I want to be improbable, beautiful and afraid of nothing as if I had wings Mary Oliver

02-24-2013, 01:01 AM	#55
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02-24-2013, 01:35 AM	#56
TheMerryFairy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pansexual/Sapiosexual femmey dyke who likes to crossdress now and then Preferred Pronoun?: She/her OR ze if I'm crossdressing Relationship Status: Floating and walking My path, happy in life. Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: On my Merry Fairy way! , Canada Posts: 3,630 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,727 Thanked 8,694 Times in 2,987 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I keep it very casual - friendly and innocent. I am flirty by nature so often it can be misunderstood. If I have an actual interest I let it be known so that there's no mistaking one for the other

02-24-2013, 09:47 PM	#59
little_ms_sunshyne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: . Posts: 3,312 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,339 Thanked 12,242 Times in 2,540 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	AWKWARD! I have no game. I end up laughing entirely too much out of being nervous, I bite my bottom lip quite a bit, I trip over MYSELF, and it just continues in this awkward sequence of events...Absolutely hopeless!!!!!!!!!