Newbie femme here--and a question about butches :)

dancer611 · 03-27-2012, 12:06 PM

Hey! I'm a young (20s) pansexual high femme, primarily attracted to butch women. I'd love to make some friends and learn more about the butch-femme community...but my first question is, WHERE ARE ALL THE BUTCHES?! Especially near my age! And butch-femme groups as well...the dynamic seems to be rarely appreciated these days in many areas...all I see are other femmes, who want to be with other femmes, and a few butch girls who are always already taken. Where in the world are there strong butch/femme communities? I've heard Toronto!

aishah · 03-27-2012, 12:12 PM

hi and welcome from another 20-something pansexual femme!

i'm glad you found your way here.

my partner is from nyc and says there is a strong butch/femme community there. unfortunately it's not in the cards for us to move there, hehe.

JAGG · 03-27-2012, 12:15 PM

Sorry I don't know the answer to your questions. But welcome to the planet. I hope you make a lot of friends.

Leigh · 03-27-2012, 01:04 PM

Welcome to the Planet family

Gemme · 03-27-2012, 01:15 PM

to the Planet!

girl_dee · 03-27-2012, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by dancer611

Hey! I'm a young (20s) pansexual high femme, primarily attracted to butch women. I'd love to make some friends and learn more about the butch-femme community...but my first question is, WHERE ARE ALL THE BUTCHES?! Especially near my age! And butch-femme groups as well...the dynamic seems to be rarely appreciated these days in many areas...all I see are other femmes, who want to be with other femmes, and a few butch girls who are always already taken. Where in the world are there strong butch/femme communities? I've heard Toronto!

Yes i hear Toronto has a strong queer community as does Portland and San Fran.

Welcome to the Planet !

SugarFemme · 03-27-2012, 10:21 PM

If that isn't the million dollar question

If you find out, could you let the rest of here know please?? And welcome to The Planet.

ru4me · 03-27-2012, 10:38 PM

I am from Portland....unfortunately ( in my opinion) there are alot of butches out here.....send some 40-something femmes here...pleeeease.

ruffryder · 03-28-2012, 02:33 PM

Welcome to the Planet. ENJOY!

EnderD_503 · 04-06-2012, 08:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dancer611

Hey! I'm a young (20s) pansexual high femme, primarily attracted to butch women. I'd love to make some friends and learn more about the butch-femme community...but my first question is, WHERE ARE ALL THE BUTCHES?! Especially near my age! And butch-femme groups as well...the dynamic seems to be rarely appreciated these days in many areas...all I see are other femmes, who want to be with other femmes, and a few butch girls who are always already taken. Where in the world are there strong butch/femme communities? I've heard Toronto!

I'm from Toronto and not sure how we compare to the US as I...don't really go there lol. The queer community here is pretty strong around the downtown area. My area is pretty queer, for example. There is a b-f community here as well, and there are occasional b/f/trans nights/get togethers. But I think most people just kind of meld into the general queer community and find each other that way, instead of sticking to b/f only venues. And yeah, still a lot of us who are in our 20s as well

mr.misnomer · 05-31-2012, 01:12 AM

i'm here looking for community. i've never participated in a forum like this. i'm a fairly masculine (often read as male), almost 40 yo, butch dyke. i'm not sure if there is a place for me here...i guess we'll see

Mr.M

Stitch · 05-31-2012, 02:08 AM

I am a very nice butch from Vancouver.
There doesn't seem to be a huge b-f community here for some reason... maybe i need to visit Portland?

Cowboi · 05-31-2012, 04:07 AM

Welcome to the Planet!!!!

~ocean · 05-31-2012, 04:39 AM

welcome to the planet dancer !!

Femminator · 06-13-2012, 06:27 PM

Welcome! I am a newbie also. I found my Butch on line and snatched her up.

I have seen less young women identify as Butch or Femme these days because I think they figure it's not needed. It used to be something that had to be done, either/or type of thing, but not so much now days. I have heard that San Fran has a good Butch/Femme community.

03-27-2012, 12:06 PM	#1
dancer611 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: fairy princess :) Relationship Status: single Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: USA Posts: 20 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6 Thanked 77 Times in 13 Posts Rep Power: 1788033	Newbie femme here--and a question about butches :) Hey! I'm a young (20s) pansexual high femme, primarily attracted to butch women. I'd love to make some friends and learn more about the butch-femme community...but my first question is, WHERE ARE ALL THE BUTCHES?! Especially near my age! And butch-femme groups as well...the dynamic seems to be rarely appreciated these days in many areas...all I see are other femmes, who want to be with other femmes, and a few butch girls who are always already taken. Where in the world are there strong butch/femme communities? I've heard Toronto!

03-27-2012, 12:15 PM	#3
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03-27-2012, 10:38 PM	#8
ru4me Junior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Relationship Status: single Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: oregon Posts: 1 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 5 Times in 1 Post Rep Power: 0	where are all the butches I am from Portland....unfortunately ( in my opinion) there are alot of butches out here.....send some 40-something femmes here...pleeeease.

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mr.misnomer Junior Member How Do You Identify?: boi/butch Preferred Pronoun?: either Relationship Status: single Join Date: May 2012 Location: Olympia, WA Posts: 9 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 19 Thanked 37 Times in 7 Posts Rep Power: 0	New to WA, new to 'the planet'. i'm here looking for community. i've never participated in a forum like this. i'm a fairly masculine (often read as male), almost 40 yo, butch dyke. i'm not sure if there is a place for me here...i guess we'll see Mr.M __________________ "...live the life you have imagined" h.d. thoreau

03-27-2012, 12:12 PM	#2
aishah Member How Do You Identify?: queer stone femme shark baby girl Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, little one Relationship Status: dating myself. Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: dallas, tx Posts: 1,495 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,823 Thanked 6,437 Times in 1,288 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	hi and welcome from another 20-something pansexual femme! i'm glad you found your way here. my partner is from nyc and says there is a strong butch/femme community there. unfortunately it's not in the cards for us to move there, hehe.

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05-31-2012, 02:08 AM	#12
Stitch Member How Do You Identify?: Sweetest Soft Butch you don't know yet Preferred Pronoun?: She, Hy, Relationship Status: Solo Artist Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Vancouver, Canada Posts: 191 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16 Thanked 305 Times in 111 Posts Rep Power: 2008423	I am a very nice butch from Vancouver. There doesn't seem to be a huge b-f community here for some reason... maybe i need to visit Portland? __________________ ~ Let me show you baby I'm a talented boi ~

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06-13-2012, 06:27 PM	#15
Femminator Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: feminine pronouns Relationship Status: Married, but not legally in my state! Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Michigan Posts: 99 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 288 Thanked 445 Times in 91 Posts Rep Power: 2084266	Welcome! I am a newbie also. I found my Butch on line and snatched her up. I have seen less young women identify as Butch or Femme these days because I think they figure it's not needed. It used to be something that had to be done, either/or type of thing, but not so much now days. I have heard that San Fran has a good Butch/Femme community. __________________ Be the change you wish to see in the world - Ghandi