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08-22-2011, 07:22 PM
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Practically Lives Here
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Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?:
50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status:
married to my forever 
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nada
Don't need anything as I haz it ALL now....<smile> I AM loved!!!
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08-22-2011, 07:25 PM
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Senior Member
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Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status:
Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009
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Gosh I havent seen this in awhile.
 I love this thread. I still stand on all the previous things I have stated....Its very hard to get my heart. But once one does, its very easy to make me feel loved
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08-22-2011, 07:29 PM
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Member
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Straightforward Femme. What you see is what you get. Preferred Pronoun?:
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Sadie, Sadie ... married lady. Join Date: Nov 2010
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I am a simple girl with simple needs. All I really require to feel loved, cared for and protected is someone who will, without question or comment, come into the bathroom while I'm showering to dispose of the large, unidentifiable bug lurking in the corner.
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08-23-2011, 03:56 PM
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Member
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Old School Femme, girl, babygirl Preferred Pronoun?:
she, her, & other girly words Relationship Status:
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I've read several pages in this thread, and I keep nodding my head, sighing, agreeing with so many! But I'm going to post anyway, so here goes:
I need affection, lots of it: kisses for no reason, surprise touches, your fingers through my hair, walk up behind me and wrap your arms around me.... I need laughter I need someone who will let me shower them with love I need communication I need nurturing I need someone who won't run for the hills when it gets rough--because I never will I need fidelity I need trust I need passion (oh yes, please) I need a little PDA I need someone who will tell me and show me how they feel I need understanding I need commitment I need someone who thinks I'm the most beautiful and wonderful femme on earth (because if I love you, I will think you are the most fantastic, hottest, sexiest butch ever, and you will know it) I need someone to challenge me I need someone who equally gives and takes I need intelligent conversation I need some who has similar and different interests than my own I need romance: little notes, showers together, slow dancing, holding hands, anniversaries, etc. I need someone who thinks "we" are so important! I need someone who is proud of "us" and of me I need respect And did I mention affection? Plenty of that. |
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08-23-2011, 04:05 PM
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I need actions, mostly refering to physical touch and affections. That would have to be my top thing amoungst many other things.
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08-23-2011, 04:49 PM
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Member
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dorky queer femme bottom Preferred Pronoun?:
feminine ones Relationship Status:
single, dammit. 
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I'm new here, and after having my heart broken recently by a careless butch, I've been thinking about this quite a lot.
I need attention. Yes, I'm needy. Not psycho stalker needy, but I like it when you reply to my texts/emails, send me texts/emails throughout the day just to say hi (or to share a joke). I like to be touched. Not full-on making out in public (though that's OK), but just hold my hand when we're out and about. Touch my shoulder when you walk by. I need you to let me touch you. I can live with not touching you that way if you're stone, but let me hold you sometime. You can't always be the strong one. I need open communication. I need honesty. I need respect and a willingness to remember that we love each other, even when we're angry with one another. I need someone who is present and lives in the moment. Don't worry about what will happen tomorrow, or next week, or next year. Just focus on how we feel in that moment and let those feelings guide how we act toward one another. That sounds like a lot, doesn't it? It may be why I'm still alone. 
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08-23-2011, 05:39 PM
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Infamous Member
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Not a lot.
This, however, is a must. 
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08-23-2011, 05:50 PM
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MILLION $$$ PUSSY
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Kinky, Raw, Perverted, Uber Queer Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?:
Iconic Ms. Relationship Status:
Keeper of 3, only one has the map to my freckles 
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Not much to ask for
I need to be able to:
    whenever I want....
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"If you’re going to play these dirty games of ours, then you might as well indulge completely. It’s all about turning back into an animal and that’s the beauty of it. Place your guilt on the sidewalk and take a blow torch to it (guilt is usually worthless anyway). Be perverted, be filthy, do things that mannered people shouldn’t do. If you’re going to be gross then go for it and don’t wimp out."---Master Aiden   |
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08-25-2011, 08:26 PM
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Senior Member
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Since You Need A Label. Butch Relationship Status:
Still Dreaming Of My Happily Ever After Join Date: Nov 2009
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I need consistency
I need affection and lots of it I need to feel like I am your King. Cause be damned sure I will treat you as my Queen I need someone who challenges me I need someone who "gets" me I need to hear it but I more so need actions. You can tell me all day long and if you arent showing it. It has no meaning I will be back to add more later....
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04-28-2012, 09:48 AM
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Senior Member
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Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012
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To feel loved, I need to feel seen clearly and listened to. I need to feel trusted. I also need to know that I am a priority in that person's life, and that my safety, comfort and well being are a factor in her and our decisions. I need to be part of a long-term plan, that we make together. I want to feel that she is happy to see me when I walk in the door, and is sad to see me leave for little trips or whatever. I need to feel confided in, and I need her to be a confidante for me.
Not so outrageous, these expectations, but not so easy to find, either. |
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08-19-2012, 02:58 PM
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Timed Out
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stone femme Daddy's girl Preferred Pronoun?:
she/her Relationship Status:
disinterested 
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- self respect makes it possible for me to feel loved. that's a definite need. maybe we concentrate too little on that sometimes. losing it certainly brings things into focus.
- healthy, well balanced Dominance makes me to feel loved. so much so that i cant engage without it. not a popular answer maybe. dont know. dont care. Dominance from someone who is made up of equal parts respect for themselves and for me, consistency between words and actions, decisiveness, trustworthiness, honesty without fail, compassion, a healthy dose of humility, self-awareness, open mindedness, and the ability to be a mentor and friend, all with a vein of humor running through the mix makes me feel loved. *might as well add that if someone cant show me those qualities outside the bedroom there's no point in making an effort to get inside the bedroom. i stopped defining sex as love a long time ago. |
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08-19-2012, 03:02 PM
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Family Man
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She just gets me 
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all i need is to be taken for who I am not who they may wish I could be to be respected and cared for .. I found all of this in my Desd all I really need is her .. her arms around me make me feel like I am home .. she makes my heart smile
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08-19-2012, 05:20 PM
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Infamous Member
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a smile from my girl
I'm a simple man.
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08-19-2012, 06:10 PM
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Junior Member
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Hmmm...
I need my partner to let me know that I exist and am special to her. It would make my day to get replies to my texts or even send an occasional text to let me know you are thinking of me. Have open communication. Talk to me when something is bothering you or you are having a bad day and hear me out when I have to talk to you about something or I have a bad day. Hold my hand, hug me, kiss me, look into my eyes and tell me you love me..show me your love as I will show you how much I love you. Even when we are angry with each other, we still need to hug and kiss our goodbyes for the day. Treat me with respect as I will treat you like you are the center of my universe. I know..too much...maybe that is why I have noone special in my life right now. |
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08-19-2012, 06:13 PM
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Infamous Member
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Lesbian non-stone femme Preferred Pronoun?:
She, her Relationship Status:
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“Becoming real happens when someone loves you for a long, long time...generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby.
But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.” ~The Velveteen Rabbit~ To feel loved, I just need to be able to be Real.
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08-19-2012, 08:52 PM
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Member
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Let's see;
Honestly, I think I am pretty simple but most have said too high maintainence! I want to be protected, respected, honored and cherished. (and spoiled sometimes) *s I want someone to stand up to me when I need that and to just listen when I don't and someone that knows the difference. Don't say you like me one way and change your mind later. Be secure in yourself and with me. Be confident, not cocky. Finish my sentence, when I can't. Hold me when I don't know what I need. Be strong for me when I feel weak. Don't tell me what I can't do, help me to do them. Look at me like I am the only woman in the room. Touch me softly, just to let me know your there. Don't grope me.... Don't try to buy me, share life with me. You don't need to put me above you.... just walk beside me. I am old fashioned in some ways, I will take the best care of you... always let me know how valued I am.
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08-20-2012, 07:21 PM
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Gonna take a different approach here...
I need someone who doesn't buy into the Jerry McGuire "you complete me" bullsh*t. You don't complete me. I am complete by myself. You complement me. You help me see things in myself that I didn't see. You bring out great things in me, and I do that for you too. I need someone really, really, close... who will occasionally leave me alone. We don't have to do every single thing together. We don't have to have 100% of the same hobbies, friends and interests. I hate it when couples morph into this "one" thing and the individuals lose their identity. I expect to have individual activities with or without other friends involved. That's not to say that if your idea of a hobby is robbing liquor stores or blowing the family fortune at the casino that it's okay.. obvious issues there. But if you love to knit and I want to poke my eye out, or I like to do races and you wouldn't run if a lion was chasing you, I don't expect you to take up a hobby I have or go to an event I like if you have no interest. I need alone time and buddy bonding time. And I need chocolate. Just sayin. |
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08-20-2012, 07:32 PM
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Senior Member
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just love in all ways.. heart, mind, body and soul. Everything else will come naturally.
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08-20-2012, 07:40 PM
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Long-time Member
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WIB - woman identified butch Preferred Pronoun?:
Your choice...not really a button for me Relationship Status:
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Hmm..I think feeling loved starts with self. I'm not sure I allow myself to feel loved, so I have to get over that hurdle. Then, I suppose it would be kind words, kind gestures, patience, feeling heard and appreciated, also feeling that the other person(s) are willing to receive my love. Sounds like a good start, I may be back after pondering some more...
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08-20-2012, 08:19 PM
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Member
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My rainbow is way overdue
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I need...
acceptance of my imperfections feeling protected and safe consistency honesty trust respect communication passion and romance humor I only ask what I myself have to give as well.
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