What TO DO in a relationship..... - Page 26

Ascot · 03-23-2013, 04:04 PM

Savor her.

TheMerryFairy · 03-23-2013, 04:07 PM

Remember to take time for each of you and to savor the time you get to spend together

ONLY · 03-23-2013, 04:48 PM

Put love notes on her pillow......

Sweet Bliss · 03-25-2013, 07:37 AM

Remember to say I love you BECAUSE and ALSO.... "I like you." followed by WHY you like them.....

Ascot · 03-25-2013, 09:18 AM

Celebrate each others foibles. Try to keep sight of the notion that part of your initial attraction was that her quirkiness is unlike anyone else's.

Amante · 03-25-2013, 10:10 AM

Make the little extra effort every single day:

03-25-2013, 10:21 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kittygrrl

Interesting..care to explain?

I'm more interested to know your interpretation of it; everyone's is so different.

Miss Scarlett · 03-25-2013, 10:44 AM

Laugh and just have some crazy/silly fun together and often!!!

girl_dee · 04-04-2013, 05:06 AM

Imagine being in the other person's shoes.

Gráinne · 04-04-2013, 06:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Daktari

I'm more interested to know your interpretation of it; everyone's is so different.

Here's mine:

*If you have areas where you are irresponsible, change this. I believe your irresponsibility affects your partner, too, even if you don't merge lives.

*Get real with, and deal with, addiction.

*If you have issues from the past, work on resolving these before you get too involved with someone new.

*Essentially, get yourself as emotionally, spiritually, and physically healthy as you can be, then stay that way. Don't look for a partner to "fix" you.

Was I even close?

midwest chick · 04-04-2013, 06:44 AM

play and romp like puppies and kittens

growling and romping without biting hard or taking it too seriously

deathbypoem · 09-02-2013, 11:12 AM

Cherish all of the memories, reminisce about them (with each other) often.

LadyApples · 09-02-2013, 11:39 AM

Typical answers, but for the love of cake, communicate and respect one another's space.

Amante, I love that StoryCorps animation! The rest of the series is also wonderful, but Danny and Annie's story was so touching. <3

Nic · 09-02-2013, 12:12 PM

My wife and I used to hold hands when we were mad at each other. There was a time or two that I thought she was only holding my hand to keep herself from slapping me, so maybe it was worth the effort in the end. Holding hands when you argue makes it hard to disconnect from each another and it makes it hard to escalate too. We took space when we needed it but I swear holding hands when you're mad is the secret to successful marriage.

Sweet Bliss · 09-02-2013, 12:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Daktari

Keep yer own metaphorical house clean first and foremost.

Would like to read how you accomplish this order.

Chad · 09-02-2013, 05:56 PM

Hi,

I have not been that successful in relationships but I have a couple ideas that I believe in.

Be respectful toward your partner, be honest, be intimate, communicate, and have fun. There is something about laughing together that makes me feel connected to her.

Chad
My two cents

deathbypoem · 09-03-2013, 09:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nic

My wife and I used to hold hands when we were mad at each other. There was a time or two that I thought she was only holding my hand to keep herself from slapping me, so maybe it was worth the effort in the end. Holding hands when you argue makes it hard to disconnect from each another and it makes it hard to escalate too. We took space when we needed it but I swear holding hands when you're mad is the secret to successful marriage.

So very true. Actually, I read something about this in a magazine recently. Love this idea. It works.

peachy · 09-03-2013, 11:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by deathbypoem

So very true. Actually, I read something about this in a magazine recently. Love this idea. It works.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nic

My wife and I used to hold hands when we were mad at each other. There was a time or two that I thought she was only holding my hand to keep herself from slapping me, so maybe it was worth the effort in the end. Holding hands when you argue makes it hard to disconnect from each another and it makes it hard to escalate too. We took space when we needed it but I swear holding hands when you're mad is the secret to successful marriage.

That's sweet. I love that. I used to argue a lot with my ex husband. One day when we were both really mad with each other I just slapped him on the backside and he slapped me back on mine. It's impossible to stay angry with someone when you have smacked each other on the bum. It's too ridiculous. Plus it releases the pent up frustration. Don't think that would be for everyone but it worked for us.

We're both quite hot headed and often when we argue now and it gets heated and shouting we just stop and hug and say sorry. Years ago it might be 2 days before it would get to making up hug but now it's usually within about a minute. That's something that has come with knowing each other a long time and knowing we're as bad as each other and that we care about each other regardless of emotional outbursts.

Blade · 09-23-2013, 05:03 PM

Be respectful, even when having a fuss

ONLY · 09-23-2013, 05:48 PM

WHEN SHE COMES TO VISIT......
Have flowers in the bedroom .......
Have some of her favorite foods and wine in the fridge, in the cupboard......
Have fresh sheets on the bed.......

When you kiss her, kiss her like she is meant to be kissed......
Love her as she is meant to be loved........
Remind her how beautiful she is, especially on those days that she is having a rough day....

I know I want to hold her all the time and not let her go but make sure you hold her first thing in the morning and last thing at night.....

Alright enough for now, *sigh* missing my girl

even more so now.....but hope to see her in a couple of weeks ....... I love you SS

xo

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03-25-2013, 09:18 AM	#505
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LadyApples Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: MA Posts: 6 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1 Thanked 20 Times in 6 Posts Rep Power: 0	Typical answers, but for the love of cake, communicate and respect one another's space. Amante, I love that StoryCorps animation! The rest of the series is also wonderful, but Danny and Annie's story was so touching. <3

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Nic Member How Do You Identify?: Male (FtM) Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: I am her North and she is my Star. Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: Northampton, MA Posts: 195 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,029 Thanked 766 Times in 131 Posts Rep Power: 16841394	If you're mad, hold hands. My wife and I used to hold hands when we were mad at each other. There was a time or two that I thought she was only holding my hand to keep herself from slapping me, so maybe it was worth the effort in the end. Holding hands when you argue makes it hard to disconnect from each another and it makes it hard to escalate too. We took space when we needed it but I swear holding hands when you're mad is the secret to successful marriage.

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ONLY Senior Member How Do You Identify?: well my girl calls me honeybear, sugarbear, sexy beast, hot tamale..... Preferred Pronoun?: female pronouns Relationship Status: Married to my Rare Beauty with a Beautiful Soul.....SS Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: eastern ontario, canada Posts: 2,783 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 975 Thanked 1,735 Times in 679 Posts Rep Power: 15139963	WHEN SHE COMES TO VISIT...... Have flowers in the bedroom ....... Have some of her favorite foods and wine in the fridge, in the cupboard...... Have fresh sheets on the bed....... When you kiss her, kiss her like she is meant to be kissed...... Love her as she is meant to be loved........ Remind her how beautiful she is, especially on those days that she is having a rough day.... I know I want to hold her all the time and not let her go but make sure you hold her first thing in the morning and last thing at night..... Alright enough for now, sigh missing my girl even more so now.....but hope to see her in a couple of weeks ....... I love you SS xo __________________ *"If you talk about it, it's a dream, if you envision it, it's possible, but if you schedule it, it's real. "*