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I can operate a vacuum and an iron but I still have a lil trouble turning on the stove.
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I am GQ guy and
I have changed my own oil but I prefer not too I like to cook and am pretty good at it I care about aesthetics and art Snakes freak me out I *hate* plumbing (but will do it if I must) I am not much of a handyman I like flowers and flower arranging I write pretty emotional poetry I have been known change my shirt 10 times if I am getting ready to go out I am competent at math but it bores me to freaking tears I finally embraced that my ideal vocal range is coloratura soprano |
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can i play, too?
mice, bugs and snakes freak me out...yes, i squeal and go the other way
i'm a good cook i've learned to enjoy baking...i make a fine, fine sweet potato pie and can rock some baklava i can sew (i have plans to make obnoxiously bright hawaiian shirts for myself) i dislike working on cars i enjoy decorating, arranging furniture and artsy stuff i prefer romantic comedies and weep copiously at the sad parts (and the happy parts) i enjoy having dinner parties and set a lovely table (although i cannot be in charge of the guest list) i'm not always very good at opening jars i am nurturing by nature i'm really good at laundry and i enjoy ironing
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I don't get it..
I really don't understand how copping to stereotypical behaviors of male (if you're femme) or female (if you're butch) is breaking down any stereotypes at all. If anything, I believe it perpetuates the mindset that behaviors have some gender association.
I'm not trying to be a thread-kill or an asshole. I just. don't. get. it. my existence is meant to break stereotypes, Beau - butch, lesbian, woman, human being |
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None of these things make me "un-butch" or "less butch" although there are many people in our community that think butch and femme are about what someone wears, likes/dislikes, does, says, etc. My point is that it doesn't. As has been often said, even in a dress and heels, I'm still butch. The things I like and don't like are just personal traits that make me an individual. I think it's important to celebrate those things in a space that does not often do so. |
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I'm a man and...
I own a see through blouse I also own the most fabulous, flaired-at-the-bottom, most colorfully striped pair of women's pants that go with the see through blouse, and I call them my Solstice Pants (but I can't fit into them anymore). The fact that I can't wear my Solstice Pants makes me sad I will stand quietly panicky in the background while Mahhh Woman kills any critters or removes any carcasses. I hate to be the person or assumed person "manning" the BBQ at a cookout I have the biggest crushes on: George Clooney, Paul Newman, Eddie Vedder, Robert Redford in any cowboy movie (but especially 'Butch Cassidy And The Sundance Kid"), Jude Law, and The Transporter Guy (among others) I talk to plants and flowers in baby voice while I rub their little leaves It's always been a dream of mine to be a backup dancer/singer for Aretha Franklin, and I've designed the outfit and choreographed the whole concert. My backup dancer outfit is a fitted mini dress, preferably neon blue, lime green, or bright orange with wide white lapels and worn with white, knee high, patent leather go go boots with a thick, chunky 3ish inch heel And I really have choreographed the entire show If snakes get too close to me or surprise me outta nowhere, I scream and jump on whomever's closest I gag if I have to empty the sink drain of food particles I've slept with more men than I have women I helped a femme fix MY tire today Dylan...and I consider butch part of my gender identity |
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thanks for responding
I appreciate your perspective on this, Gayla. I was just responding to how it read to me after viewing a page or so of posts that seem to revert to the "girls play with dolls"/"boys play with trucks" mindset.
I get that it's not okay for some in this community to think of butches as being associated with certain behaviors/activities (and the same for femmes). I still stand by my reaction that it perpetuates the notion that behaviors and activities have a gender association. They don't, and that's the only point I was trying to make. I appreciate any effort to help others have a more expansive view of gender even if I don't see it happening in this way. Quote:
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Have to add this now, My given name is Rose.
I embrace My name, I love it, and does it make me less or more than who I am? Fuck No. It's Me, My name, I love it, My Mum gave it to Me and I wouldn't change a damn thing about it. Does it change who I am? Nope! I am who I am, regardless of how I ID, what I wear, what I do in My day to day life ... If someone thinks less of Me because I enjoy sewing or making jewelry, then it's on their own head, I do what I do because I like it, not because someone who doesn't know Me thinks it's wrong ...
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I love shopping... especially for clothes... cause I'm a clothes whore.
It takes me a long ass time to get ready to go out for the eve... I love long hot bathes I like specialty drinks like mimosa's and margaritas, made just so. If I get grief from a bud, I like to reply... "nevermind that... we're finally alone..." and wink. Junebugs make me dance and swear F*@% me! F*@% me! F*@%% me! ... and.. ok... ... I wear eyeliner, something I hadn't done for 20 years... I've been told me eyes are my best feature, so hell... I like it... I don't care.
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Today I was sitting with a client (psychotherapy), and she told me that she was starting a business selling her cross stiching...
I thought back to my cross stiching a picture of a mouse holding a clarinet for my clarinet playing best friend in the 6th grade for Xmas (Mom's idea), and thought...I wonder if she still has that....I will need to call and ask...it is the only thing I ever cross stiched.. ...and then I thought....hmmm...maybe I should try cross stiching again...maybe I would like it as an adult... ...then I realized that <cough>, my client had changed topics... ETA: I just texted my clarinet playing friend....she does indeed still have the tiny 2x3 inch clarinet playing mouse in its little plastic frame. She has saved it all this time...we are now 40 years old!
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When i told someone Hys name, they responded, "oh, that's a really butch name," and laughed. i didn't understand her reaction because she is very outspoken about people not accepting her as the butch woman she is (and changed her name legally because it was too feminine). i LOVE that Hy makes jewelry (ok, that could be because *i* am benefiting from that skill) and thank goodness Hy can sew, because i so cannot (and come to think of it, i'll be benefiting from that skill, too!). And, Hy ROCKS the pink hair, that's all i'm sayin. Hys proud girl, rhonda
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A number (more than 5) of years ago, I got together with a group of b-f peeps around here to go fishing. I asked for help with something and got a raft if crap questioning my butchness and masculinity for asking for help. WTF? The cis-guys I work with ask for help from others when they need it, despite the whole guys never ask for directions (and yeah I will ask for directions rather than get lost or more lost) b.s. Most cis guys worry about being perceived as male enough by their peers too. Why is it that we cannot just let people be? |
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Hi I am a femme
I have never, ever, not once, in my life watched a chick flick willingly. I do not watch lifetime or anything vagina vision like. I don't watch romantic comedy's, love stories, etc I am a sci fi, fantasy, action adventure kinda gal I get ready to go out in 30 minutes I don't go try on my whole closet to go out I don't change my mind after I am dressed I am not afraid of bugs, snakes or mice or rats (most of the time) My decorating tastes run to simple, dark, basics , what would be considered masculine I can change a tire I find this thread very refreshing. I love it when people say this is who I am!!!!!!!!! diversity rocks!!!!!
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K i'll give it a try...
Being someone else was brave enough to go with real first names,i'll pitch mine out there.It's Mary Michael,most of my frinds and family call me by it tho some will call me Mike hear and there,I get some strange looks in gay bars when someone dose this..it use to bother for some reason,but now what the heck. I hate spiders big time,if I see them first im ok,if not I sqeel like a girlie girl. I love to cook and have ovr 60 cook books and colecting as many as I can. can barely sew a button on but I do the best I can. I hate to get my hands all messed up u can bet I keep them as nice as possable with hand cream. I dont do work on cars/trucks even tho I know how. I colect music boxes,wood carveings,figureines of wolves and eagles as well as have a hugh plate colection hanging at home from all over the world. Ok now I have at least dented my butch card,but this is me. |
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Hi, my name is Corkey and I hate spiders and mice and will climb up my wife to get away from them.
I love to garden and cook, grilling is life (don't judge me) I am allergic to bees and anything that flies and stings, I will hurt you to get away from them. I cry when any animal, mostly mammalian is hurt and have to turn away when watching other animals eat each other. I am a softie when it comes to animals, but will cause a kid to cry if they act up and cause an animal harm. I can change my oil, fix a flat and diagnose an engine problem. The AF wanted me to be an aircraft mechanic, but I chose to be a feminist and become one of the few (at the time) who were among the first flight to carry and use arms, in combat. I love books and can do higher math only if interested, and yes I have to be interested to do so. I cannot paint a flower, but the broad side of the barn looks lovely. I love to work with my hands, but I cannot sew to save my life, yet can tie a bowline knot, go figure. Oh and my wife burps louder than me. Hee hee!
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i usually change 3 or 4 times b4 heading out..even just to hang out
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The point of this is YOU DON"T lose your butch card. Who you are can not be taken away from you. Same goes for femmes and everyone else.
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