FTM's Attracted to Femmes

veryfemme · 12-23-2011, 11:17 PM

I have noticed that many of FTM friends date primarily butch women or FTM and I wanted to know how many FTMs are attracted to femme women? Is there a reason why you are attracted to femmes and are you also attracted to butch women or other FTM as well?

ButchEire · 12-23-2011, 11:27 PM

I haven't found that to be true at all, and everyone is different and it has nothing to do with how they identify. I myself am attracted only to femmes.

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I have noticed that many of FTM friends date primarily butch women or FTM and I wanted to know how many FTMs are attracted to femme women? Is there a reason why you are attracted to femmes and are you also attracted to butch women or other FTM as well?

veryfemme · 12-23-2011, 11:29 PM

it seems like to me every time I find a nice guy attractive they tell me they are not interested in me because I am too femme and it sucks. I know everyone is different but no guys has proven me wrong just yet.

ButchEire · 12-23-2011, 11:33 PM

Too femme? That's funny. When did such a ridiculous boundary develop?

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it seems like to me every time I find a nice guy attractive they tell me they are not interested in me because I am too femme and it sucks. I know everyone is different but no guys has proven me wrong just yet.

veryfemme · 12-23-2011, 11:37 PM

I really couldnt tell you but I have been turned away for being too girly and its hard and I hate it

atomiczombie · 12-24-2011, 12:31 AM

I am all about the femmes. I have no romantic or sexual interest in the fellas. But hey, there's nothing wrong with FTM's who like butches and other FTMs. To each their own.

Ebon · 12-28-2011, 08:49 PM

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I really couldnt tell you but I have been turned away for being too girly and its hard and I hate it

Never too girly. The girlier the better like Bo said. I like someone that will balance out my masculine energy with their feminine energy. A friend of mine got cornered once in a lesbian bar because she's femme. They assumed that she was straight. I thought it was very narrow minded of them. For a long time I didn't realize I could have a girlfriend that was femme, hell I didn't even know what it was. A friend of mine said to me that I liked straight girls so I thought I did, until I found the butch-femme community and realized that I just liked femmes.

Before anyone starts a lesson on gendernomics I realize that straight girls can also be butch and femme girls can be straight etc and so on....

alphadaddy · 07-30-2012, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I really couldnt tell you but I have been turned away for being too girly and its hard and I hate it

Is there really such a thing...i can't even imagine

Duchess · 08-29-2012, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I really couldnt tell you but I have been turned away for being too girly and its hard and I hate it

I can totally relate!!

QueenofSmirks · 12-24-2011, 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by ButchEire

Too femme? That's funny. When did such a ridiculous boundary develop?

Frankly I don't understand why people get so offended when they find out someone isn't attracted to them. I don't/won't slam anyone for their preferences. It isn't my place to judge them. Someone who says someone is "too butch" or "too femme" is really just saying "I am interested in X" or "I fit best with X", but of course, it could be said in a gentler way.

I think the majority of people are attracted to a particular segment, or segments on the gender spectrum. It's less common for people to be attracted to every single possible gender /gender ID.

If someone doesn't like you, or your apprearance, or your eye color, or your clothes... just move on. It really IS that simple.

GPS · 12-24-2011, 05:47 AM

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I have noticed that many of FTM friends date primarily butch women or FTM and I wanted to know how many FTMs are attracted to femme women? Is there a reason why you are attracted to femmes and are you also attracted to butch women or other FTM as well?

I'm only attracted to Femme women, being it lesbian, bisexual or straight.

hard to find a good woman that even looks at FtM guys.

veryfemme · 12-24-2011, 09:26 AM

GPS - If I could find FTMs I would be in better shape lol - I have looked and most are taken or are not interested

Liam · 12-24-2011, 09:36 AM

I'm attracted to women, and I find women who identify as femmes, to be the kind which I am most compatible with.

theoddz · 12-24-2011, 09:39 AM

Well, since this site is primarily focused, though not exclusively (because it is INclusive!!

), on the Butch/Femme dynamic, I would think that many, if not most, of the transmen here would be attracted to the feminine. I'm sure there's also guys here who probably have other preferences, too, but in the nearly 7 years I've been around in this particular community, it seems that most of the guys I've known here are attracted to Femmes/femininity.

I guess you just have to ask us, individually.

I'm attracted to Femmes, period. I have no romantic or sexual interest in masculine energy, but that's just me.

As a good friend once told me, "the heart wants what the heart wants".

....and that's the way it should be...and should be respected.

~Theo~

~Bo · 12-24-2011, 09:55 AM

I'm trans and I'm only attracted to femmes. The girlier the better.

Hi.....and welcome to the Planet.

Where are you from in Florida? It's beautiful down there.

GPS · 12-24-2011, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

GPS - If I could find FTMs I would be in better shape lol - I have looked and most are taken or are not interested

Eye openers

ruffryder · 12-24-2011, 06:12 PM

Trans here and I Adore all femmes. <3

For those femmes that can't seem to find a ftm, Trans, or Butch interested in them, I think you finally came to the right place !

veryfemme · 12-24-2011, 06:45 PM

hey ~Bo I am on the east coast and it is beautiful in FL but right now in my opinion it is way to hot for it to be Christmas!! I would like some 60 degree weather about now!

sanee66 · 12-28-2011, 10:30 PM

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Trans here and I Adore all femmes. <3

For those femmes that can't seem to find a ftm, Trans, or Butch interested in them, I think you finally came to the right place !

i certainly hope so!!

Nadeest · 12-28-2011, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by GPS

I'm only attracted to Femme women, being it lesbian, bisexual or straight.

hard to find a good woman that even looks at FtM guys.

I sure as hell will look at FtM guys, however, I don't know if I would be classfied as a 'good woman' or not.

12-23-2011, 11:17 PM	#1
veryfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme/lady Relationship Status: Spoken For Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 83 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 227 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 3539928	FTM's Attracted to Femmes I have noticed that many of FTM friends date primarily butch women or FTM and I wanted to know how many FTMs are attracted to femme women? Is there a reason why you are attracted to femmes and are you also attracted to butch women or other FTM as well?

12-24-2011, 12:31 AM	#6
atomiczombie Member How Do You Identify?: Femmesensual Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Relationship Status: Dating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Rio Vista, CA Posts: 1,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,949 Thanked 3,221 Times in 757 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I am all about the femmes. I have no romantic or sexual interest in the fellas. But hey, there's nothing wrong with FTM's who like butches and other FTMs. To each their own. __________________ http://i277.photobucket.com/albums/k...orums_2000.gif Russian Unicorn http://occupiedmedia.us/

12-24-2011, 09:36 AM	#13
Liam Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Guy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The Evergreen State Posts: 2,269 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 14,865 Thanked 6,909 Times in 1,862 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I'm attracted to women, and I find women who identify as femmes, to be the kind which I am most compatible with. __________________ <3 Love is weird.

12-24-2011, 09:39 AM	#14
theoddz Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Old Poop Preferred Pronoun?: Mr. Beast Relationship Status: Happily Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 3,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,793 Thanked 9,863 Times in 2,473 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Well, since this site is primarily focused, though not exclusively (because it is INclusive!! ), on the Butch/Femme dynamic, I would think that many, if not most, of the transmen here would be attracted to the feminine. I'm sure there's also guys here who probably have other preferences, too, but in the nearly 7 years I've been around in this particular community, it seems that most of the guys I've known here are attracted to Femmes/femininity. I guess you just have to ask us, individually. I'm attracted to Femmes, period. I have no romantic or sexual interest in masculine energy, but that's just me. As a good friend once told me, "the heart wants what the heart wants". ....and that's the way it should be...and should be respected. *~Theo~* __________________ *"All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."* -- J. R. R. Tolkien

12-23-2011, 11:29 PM	#3
veryfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme/lady Relationship Status: Spoken For Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 83 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 227 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 3539928	it seems like to me every time I find a nice guy attractive they tell me they are not interested in me because I am too femme and it sucks. I know everyone is different but no guys has proven me wrong just yet.

12-23-2011, 11:37 PM	#5
veryfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme/lady Relationship Status: Spoken For Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 83 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 227 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 3539928	I really couldnt tell you but I have been turned away for being too girly and its hard and I hate it

12-24-2011, 09:26 AM	#12
veryfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme/lady Relationship Status: Spoken For Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 83 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 227 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 3539928	GPS - If I could find FTMs I would be in better shape lol - I have looked and most are taken or are not interested

12-24-2011, 09:55 AM	#15
~Bo Senior Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: PA Posts: 1,590 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,247 Thanked 1,680 Times in 742 Posts Rep Power: 13485854	I'm trans and I'm only attracted to femmes. The girlier the better. Hi.....and welcome to the Planet. Where are you from in Florida? It's beautiful down there.

12-24-2011, 06:12 PM	#17
ruffryder Senior Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: guy ones Relationship Status: ... Join Date: May 2011 Location: chillin' in FL Posts: 3,690 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,951 Thanked 9,678 Times in 2,875 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Trans here and I Adore all femmes. <3 For those femmes that can't seem to find a ftm, Trans, or Butch interested in them, I think you finally came to the right place !

12-24-2011, 06:45 PM	#18
veryfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme/lady Relationship Status: Spoken For Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 83 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 227 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 3539928	hey ~Bo I am on the east coast and it is beautiful in FL but right now in my opinion it is way to hot for it to be Christmas!! I would like some 60 degree weather about now!