Breaking it down - describe the Femme that you are

[Medusa]

Originally Posted by blush

I am femme.


I am femme because it describes my strength, not my weakness.

YES! GOD, YES!

That is perhaps the most brilliant thing I have read in a good long while!

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Anya/Georgia

5. I am a recovering perfectionist & frequently fall off the wagon

7. I need to be in control so much in my professional life, I crave being
able to give it up in other areas of my life

7. On the other hand, the thought of giving up control also scares me (even though "control" is really illusionary)

9. I have many regrets about choices I have made in my life but work hard to accept that I did the best that I could under the circumstances

11. I love looking feminine but must admit wearing dresses or high heels really is not me

Honest? Too honest? That's also me at times.

I am femme.

I could have written this!

[Chancie]

I am a slightly grimy gardening femme.

[flower77]

Hello Everyone

This an amazing thread! So wonderful hearing about all you wonderful women.

I have always found it difficult to describe myself. Some of the things you've said I can relate too. I'll have a go myself once I can get pen in hand and space in my head to think about who I am :-)

Thank you ladies

Flower

[girl_dee]

Tiger femme out in the world but a purring kitten in Daddi's arms...

Fierce fishing femme who does it all herself down to gutting and cooking..

Photo taking femme who believes that everyone has a photo worthy moment in their day.

A vulnerable babygirl who loves to be treated as such, at times, other times I prefer her calloused hands tightly around my throat as she grunts in my ear.

[Sassy]

I love this thread and all of the powerful words I've read here. It's one that's made me think, "Who am I?" And I love it when my brain is asked to think. ...

[msW8ing]

Love, love, love this thread..it's so amazing to read about each and every one of you. For myself..I have so many hats I wear..I am the femme that raised to responsible, socially functioning, loving adult children on my own working 2 and 3 jobs at a time to support them with no help from anyone...I'm a gramma of 2 of the most gorgeous babygirls in the world..I'm as strong as steel when I need to be..but as soft as satin when I am allowed to be..I'm the fierce lioness that will rip the throat out of anyone who fucks with my pride..and share thier carcass with said pride..I am the family matriarch..the rock that they lean on and come to any time any day..I'm there..by family I don't just by blood but also my chosen family..I can remodel a home from the wiring and plumbing up..I can do automotive repairs..I'm a tattooed, amazon bbw that is my childrens hero (thier words not mine)..I am the product of what would be if Martha Stewart and Paula Dean had a love child.I can prepare a 8 course eligant dinner party for 20 or cook your favorite meal and not a break a sweat...I make any house a home...I am mother, grandmother,nuruterer, survivor and in your face fighter..I've been beaten, raped and thrown away but will never give up.Almost a college graduate (first in my family)..I will always stand up for the underdog and defend the weak...I am the hot lover that will fuck you til your teeth sweat.and suck your c*ck til your forehead caves in..lady in the streets/whore in the sheets..and also the fragile girl who needs soft love making..and curled up in your arms all night..I am scared to death of storms and will sob while they are wreaking havoc..I grew up fishing, hunting, camping, riding dirtbikes and quads..I can go from denim to lace and be just as comfortable in either role..I am the femme that craves to be "Daddi's babygirl"..but not just for any ol Daddi. I want THE Daddi made just for me. I'm independant and strong..I believe in unicorns and fairies and yes I even believe in unconditional love. And above all..I am femme because it's what is in my heart and soul with every fiber of my being and I am worthy of that title.

[lettertodaddy]

I'm a queer, quirky, recovering academic femme who finds solace in books and theory more so than in the arms of butches who are too quick to be careless with my heart.

I'm a fiercely unapologetic feminist, recovering activist, semi-vegetarian, bike-riding pinko femme who prefers pretty dresses and knee-high boots as cycling wear over lycra and spandex.

I'm a femme who loves fiercely, deeply, thoroughly, and strongly. This quote from Dorothy Allison is my love warrior's call to arms:

“Don’t come at me with that sour-cream smile. Come at me as if I were worth your life—the life we make together. Take me like a turtle whose shell must be cracked, whose heart is ice, who needs your heat. Love me like a warrior, sweat up to your earlobes and all your hope between your teeth. Love me so I know I am at least as important as anythingyou have ever wanted.”

I'm a consciousness-raising, hell-raising, hair-raising femme who is a study in contrasts. I am at once bold and brash while being doubtful and insecure. I will love you in one minute and want to run from you in the next unless you hold on tight and make me feel safe, warm, cherished, and wanted.

In short, I'm the only femme I know how to be - unapologetically me.

[paintedleofemme]

I am not submissive. I like working in the yard and I do not care of my nails get dirty. I love to rock. I burp, and it does not disgust me when I or someone else does it, same with a toot.
and lastly, I am a switch, I will not always be the bottom submissive femme to any butch.

[Amber2010]

I am a girly girl and love most things that make me feel pretty. Dresses, jewelry, long hair but only some makeup. I am average girl, short and average weight. I don’t worry much about gaining or losing weight. I do exercise at least four times a week and prefer to do outside things like the track instead of going to a fitness center.

I am someone who always has my cell phone with me and will text back almost right away day and night.

I enjoy talking and believe it or not even though I am a talker I am also a good listener. I may not answer the question right away but will think about it and then answer it. I am someone who is very busy with work, volunteering and kids but somehow feel alone a lot. Most consider me a little hmmn nutty but a lot of fun. I am drawn to people who may seem very different than most but I seem to understand them.

When I love I do with my whole heart. When I am upset I tend to see the worst cinereo and run from things to stop from getting hurt. I love music and new things to do. I have no problem just packing a bag and taking off for a day or even a weekend with maybe no idea where we are going.

[gaea]

sometime i think i am...

I love doing my own nails as much as having them done in the shop, i love the way i feel spoiled when i can go to the shop and have them done.I love them long and I love that they are mine.

I despise shopping just to shop i need a purpose. I have my girly stuff all over the top of my dresser and i am just fine with that, it is where i do my makeup and hair every morning. That is my space just for me.

I love tanning and how my skin loves the sun..

I despise bugs in every form, i love camping please dont remind me there are bugs and we will get along just fine, i can put up a tent cook, not worry about showers etc.

I have tools and know how to use them...id prefer to not break a nail using them so if i don't have to i wont.

i once called my son in law to come change my tire on a dark road , he did then when he was done he reminded me that i had AAA, i reminded him that this is what he was here for ...to change my tire besides he reached me a lot faster than AAA would have.

Im the woman in red, im the girl next door, im somewhere in the middle..Im that kind of girl.

I like road trips where i don't have to drive however am willing to share if the road trip is a long one.

I like books and movies and superb conversation...I like to talk, I like to share, I like listening and learning as well.

I love the ocean, the mountains and everything in between.

Im the girl one can take home to "momma" as well as the other girl lol

Im the girl that can pull off business suits and mini skirts all in the same week.

Im the kind of girl who believes in dressing properly for the occasion even if you are only going to the grocery store.

[persiphone]

i'm a few different things depending on what's going on. i'm currently tired a lot from my heavy schedule so that makes me less fun and patience for stupid is the first thing i ditch.

i know exactly what i want and what i don't want.

i chase my dreams and make them a reality, i'm that driven.

i'm attracted to kindness and anything less will make me quickly lose interest, so lower your voice....yelling just makes me deaf to you.

sure i'm girly, but playing in the dirt is too much fun.

i hope you like to eat because i express love with the creation of food.

manners. i enjoy them. find yours. especially whilst in my house or expect to be expelled from it.

i keep a fast pace so keep up....but when i'm taking time off don't rush me.

i like to laugh. i crave it.

romance shromance. ppffftttt.

i'm a tactile femme. touching, kissing, rough housing. yes please!

[Star Anise]

I noticed that my ex and I actually wear quite similar styled clothes sometimes (jeans and a V neck sweater), yet on her they look butch and on me they look femme.

I guess it does help that she wears her version on the baggier side, where as I wear mine on the tighter side. Still essentially the same outfit, with a totally different look.

So my conclusion was, that it is not just the type of clothes, but how you wear them and how you hold yourself in them.

I am a femme through and through.

[mariamma]

It's hard to say what makes me femme. I wonder just how femme I am sometimes. There are so many possible things that can make me femme but don't those things also make me a woman?
I can make a house a home. I can sew a dress. I can plan and make a dinner for 20. I am womanly. Probably the most important womanly thing I do is change those around me by listening and bearing witness to life. Does that make me femme? Not really. That skill is because I'm priestess.
I love to wear heels with dark red polish peaking out of the open-toed shoes. Gold polish works as well. I love to make a big, wonderful meal for my lover and feel her gush with appreciation and joy. Does that make me a femme? I wear skirts and dresses, smell like roses, am the one lost kids are drawn to when they want to be found and my children trust me enough to reveal all their secrets to me. That makes me a mother.
I love women. I love supporting and loving all women. Without my sisters growing up, I'd be dead or broken. My eldest sister taught me to love with an open mind and free spirit. The women in my life have made me whole. I'm proud to be a woman and love to be in my skin. I dance and am part of a local group of sisters who dance. This doesn't really make me femme but....it's close.
When I see butch or masculine women, the part of me that loves women burst out with squealing desire and sighs. I am femme because I love butch women. I love the swagger, the muscled arms, the roughened hands. I love the patchwork of tanned skin, the quick wit and charm, the clever quips. I love the bold style, the vibrant living, the proud, strident walk.
The sight of butch women makes me arch my back and watch with heady anticipation. I will inhale deeper and watch their every move. I'll adjust my skirt so I'm as appealing to the eye as possible. Sometimes I'll touch my neck unconsciously as I undress them with my mind. The sight of butch women makes me swoon and suddenly feel intoxicated with desire. I will sit, stand, pivot, walk or dance differently. I will emote differently. I will speak differently. I will flow into my most comfortable state of being. This is what makes me a femme. I am femme because I love butch women.

[lettertodaddy]

I'm this kind of femme:

Lipstick and flats. Leaving powder on your collar. Bookish and introverted. Wouldn't know what to do at a nail salon, but knows my way around Sephora/a makeup counter. Jeans and sweaters most of the time, but who loves to get dressed up for a special event (or just a nice dinner). Nappy headed, dreadlocked womanist with trust issues who loves deeply and fiercely. Always puts a camera in your face, because butches are beautiful, and you're the most beautiful of all. Wounded, but ready to love again. Hopeful. Funny. Fiercely loyal.

[lettertodaddy]

whoops, posted earlier

[Ms. Tabitha]

I am a Queer Femme who Is a Mother, a Grandmother, a Sister, an Aunt, a Daughter and a Friend. I have put my life on the line without a second thought. I have saved lives and held the hand of those whose time was running out. I am strong, compassionate, reserved and passionate. I listen and have strong shoulders. I have common sense and logic. I am an Aquarius. I hide my emotions and will smile and tell you everything is fine even if it is not. My love is pure and given without judgment or expectations. I believe in friendship, communication and laughter. I am sweet with a sassy, mysterious side. I love romance and hand holding; yet, I also like lustful raunchy sex. I am lady who is strong willed and mindful; yet, I have a submissive side. I'm a kisser, a hugger, and a hand holder. I am patient, nurturing and generous, but yet I can also be unemotional and detached. I have a warped sense of humor. I am funny and quite unique. I'm a humanitarian. I am honest and loyal, almost to a fault. In my true German blood, I have a tendency to be stubborn and head strong. I make friends easily but once on my bad side that is where you stay.

I am supportive and respectful. I will try anything twice - this way I can make sure I didn't like it the first time. I am a great defender and protector, not only in what I believe, but to those I love and hold dear. I'm a flirt. I like old movies and football. I like to dress up and dress down and I look good both ways. I wear make up; sometimes I don't, but I always smell good. I love my pedicures and manicures and yet I am not afraid to get messy. I love to cook and bake. I show my gratitude and I am thoughtful and respectful. I love to spoil and pamper'; you will always know where you stand with me. I love to cuddle closely, but yet I enjoy my space. I'm a giver. I'm a lover. I' a helper. I enjoy a good movie, but I also love to read. I love rainy days and hot tea. I love over sized t-shirts and a good cup of coffee. I have a green thumb and a sense for design and décor. I love a clean and tidy home and I enjoy being organized. I always have a camera and a sense of adventure. I am understanding. I am forgiving and I am fair. I'm great at multitasking. I enjoy music of all types. I love Lowe's as much as I love Ulta. I am a Lady, always. I am, Me.

[*Anya*]

I am the femme that is a port in the storm for the butch that has the courage to go out into an unaccepting, unforgiving world to be exactly who and what they are

I am the femme that is the keeper of butch secrets

I am the femme in whose lap lays a butch who needs solace but will never tell another living soul about that need

The butch card will never be revoked by me.

I am strong and at times, weak; brave and at times, fearful; courageous and at times-not-so-much

I am an every-woman and at the same time, uniquely me

I am femme

[Dominique]

I'm too sexy for my self!

I discovered velcro rollers (reminds me of sponge curlers way back when)
I love what they do for my hair, and no more heat treatment.

[Slowpurr]

I know who I am not....which is more poignant at the moment and of course leads to self knowledge.

I am not that femme who can be with someone who says "I can be butch".

I am not that femme who can be with someone who says "I can do that for awhile until we figure out why you are like you are".