The mortuary thread - Page 3

IrishGrrl · 12-22-2009, 08:54 AM

I knew we had the funeral museum here, but I"ve never been and would love to. Next time Pixie comes for a visit..I"m taking her there!!! LOL

Andrew, Jr. · 12-22-2009, 09:03 AM

I find death and funerals fascinating. Every culture has a different take on the rituals of buring the dead. Even in the military, they have their own set of rites. And the same goes for the religious like when the Pope died.

Queerasfck · 12-22-2009, 09:27 AM

My last wishes. My organs will be donated and my body cremated. A small amount of my remains will be placed in a tiny bottle which apretty will have made into a charm to wear around her neck. From a helicopter the rest of my ashes will then be scattered by my lady over Heinz Field so that I can forever be linked with my team, the Steelers. The laws on spreading ashes varies from state to state. A permit may be required.

Cyclopea · 12-22-2009, 12:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by EzeeTiger

My last wishes. My organs will be donated and my body cremated. A small amount of my remains will be placed in a tiny bottle which apretty will have made into a charm to wear around her neck. From a helicopter the rest of my ashes will then be scattered by my lady over Heinz Field so that I can forever be linked with my team, the Steelers. The laws on spreading ashes varies from state to state. A permit may be required.

I was responding to congratulate you on your excellent decision to donate your organs.

Then I started thinking how funny it would be for the helicopter to be surrounded by homeland security after being observed dumping white powder all over the stadium-lol. Yes, perhaps a permit would be best!

la_la · 12-22-2009, 08:22 PM

Did you know...

As part of your will/living will you will be asked if you want your body :
A. Buried
B. Cremated

I responded with C. Neither A or B appeal to me and I am awaiting a better option.

My lawyer was not amused and stated that I am voiding my will with this declaration as when the time came my body would lie in probate (years) until my true wishes were decided.

Lawyers have no sense of humor and no, I never changed it.

Peace

Andrew, Jr. · 12-23-2009, 03:57 PM

La_La,

What about freezing your body?

la_la · 12-23-2009, 04:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

La_La,

What about freezing your body?

Hey Andrew,

Not an option on a standard will.

Peace

Andrew, Jr. · 12-23-2009, 04:48 PM

Oh, ok.

Dean Thoreau · 12-26-2009, 12:31 PM

ok read the disclaimer...it is dark comedy...
" A Field guide to burying your parents "

It is comic fiction about the hawkes family who needs to do the unthinkable...and it travels along with them in this act..the ups the downs the downright outrageous....and unbeleivable...
author Liza Palmer

Ok just some food for thought....last wishes can not be in wills,,wills by the time they are found, probated, etc are usually long after the ummm decesed body has been disposed of.

Best thing to do if u want certain things doen is do prearrangement and sign the legal documentation entrusting a Power of Atty for the final wishes to someone u trust...(course it doent matter cause not like u will know)

I urge people to make their own arrangmentsnot to make sure u get what u want..but mainly to make it a little easier on the survivors. My father died very suddenly and not only did we have the shock of his loss to deal with,,,we had to in that shock,,pick out a coffin, a burial site, and all the stuff that goes with it. For years the only membry i had of my fathers funeral was the "casket shopping room" and my brother, mother and i looking at ourselves when the Funeral director mentioned that the one he was pointing to had 3 inches of padding in the mattress...we all looked at each other and could only nod ...thank goodness my uncle stepped in and said...lets look over here....and guided us to more appropriate areas of concern..and told the director we were not interested in hermeitclly sealed, fire resistant, rust resistant, mildew resistant....options.

Andrew, Jr. · 12-26-2009, 07:05 PM

Dean,

You are so right about your post. Make sure everything you want is written down, and you tell someone about it. And get it notorized. Just cover your ass because nobody else will. Trust me.

BornBronson · 02-21-2010, 03:54 PM

I have always had a deep fascination with human body decomposition.As a matter of fact right up until my late 30's I thought about donating my remains to one of those body farms.That are finding someone to claim them after my death and take the body home and sit 'me' in a chair out in the garage somewhere and watch me...rot.*snort*Now days I don't care what they do to my remains after i'm dead.

Like my mother once said.Bring me flowers NOW!,and not after i'm dead and buried.

FR · 04-04-2010, 12:45 AM

-- i have heard that even after u go -u still fart-imagine that! don't know how long. wonder if its like that if a tree falls in the forest thing?

Andrew, Jr. · 04-04-2010, 02:05 PM

As your body starts to decompose, the internal gases will build up, and then come out out the orafaces (sp?). It happens to all human beings, young and old alike.

Right now I am waiting for the toxicology report back on my friend's aunt who was murdered. It should be interesting. The cornoner said that even after the autopsy, the blood tests & tissue testing can take up to 3 months or more for the results to come back. Does anyone know anything about this kind of testing? I would love to know more.

Andrew, Jr. · 04-16-2010, 12:11 PM

Anything new here? I find this topic so fascinating.

Cyclopea · 04-28-2010, 03:20 PM

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/0..._n_555556.html

Andrew, Jr. · 05-08-2010, 12:02 PM

Anything new?

canadianmusician · 05-10-2010, 01:11 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

OK, so the people from the funeral home where we had my father's funeral called this week, they want me to buy a casket and plan my own funeral.

Not the call I was wanting...

I guess since Walmart now carries caskets, they are having to beat the bushes to find victims? clients? what would one call it?

Apocalipstic...I'm so sorry to hear that happened. That's really tacky and not professional. Did you report them to the local funeral directors assc? Embalmers and Directors are all licenced by provincial/state boards.

It's fine to advertise....I mean, a funeral home is a business and there are costs associated but I would NEVER call up the family of someone who's passed away asking them to buy a pre-plan. My fear is that it would retraumatize the family.

The best way to get business is to have reasonable costs, make sure the family gets what they want, and it's a profession where it's just a given that you'll go out of your way in some respects. It really upsets me that the funeral home called you and asked you to buy a pre-plan. They should have called to see how you were doing.

canadianmusician · 05-10-2010, 01:12 AM

I'm about to start a Foundations course so I can become an Embalmer & Funeral Directors apprentice. I've done quite a bit of research and spoken to other embalmers. The embalming process is so much more than I thought it was....some people find it gruesome. I find it fascinating....

Bu tmost of all, I want to make sure the family can see thier loved one the way they remembered them from when they were well, if possible. There's hours of reconstruction that can take lpace depending on cause of death.

If people want to donate thier body to science/frozen, they need to be embalmed to preserve the body because it begins to decompose almost immediately.

I've been considering donating my body to Body Worlds for plastination.

12-22-2009, 09:27 AM	#43
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12-22-2009, 08:22 PM	#45
la_la Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: Single/Dating Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: toronto Posts: 33 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8 Thanked 41 Times in 18 Posts Rep Power: 15	The mortuary thread Did you know... As part of your will/living will you will be asked if you want your body : A. Buried B. Cremated I responded with C. Neither A or B appeal to me and I am awaiting a better option. My lawyer was not amused and stated that I am voiding my will with this declaration as when the time came my body would lie in probate (years) until my true wishes were decided. Lawyers have no sense of humor and no, I never changed it. Peace __________________ You will do foolish things, but do them with enthusiasm

12-26-2009, 12:31 PM	#49
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12-22-2009, 08:54 AM	#41
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12-22-2009, 09:03 AM	#42
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12-23-2009, 03:57 PM	#46
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	La_La, What about freezing your body?

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12-26-2009, 07:05 PM	#50
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Dean, You are so right about your post. Make sure everything you want is written down, and you tell someone about it. And get it notorized. Just cover your ass because nobody else will. Trust me.

04-04-2010, 12:45 AM	#52
FR Member How Do You Identify?: butch Relationship Status: dead Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: california Posts: 215 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 65 Thanked 268 Times in 100 Posts Rep Power: 2937842	-- i have heard that even after u go -u still fart-imagine that! don't know how long. wonder if its like that if a tree falls in the forest thing?

04-04-2010, 02:05 PM	#53
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	As your body starts to decompose, the internal gases will build up, and then come out out the orafaces (sp?). It happens to all human beings, young and old alike. Right now I am waiting for the toxicology report back on my friend's aunt who was murdered. It should be interesting. The cornoner said that even after the autopsy, the blood tests & tissue testing can take up to 3 months or more for the results to come back. Does anyone know anything about this kind of testing? I would love to know more.

04-16-2010, 12:11 PM	#54
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05-08-2010, 12:02 PM	#56
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	BUMP de BUMP BUMP Anything new?

05-10-2010, 01:12 AM	#58
canadianmusician Junior Member How Do You Identify?: FTM Preferred Pronoun?: Him/He/His Relationship Status: Poly & D/s Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Vancouver Posts: 47 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 25 Thanked 63 Times in 29 Posts Rep Power: 430179	I'm about to start a Foundations course so I can become an Embalmer & Funeral Directors apprentice. I've done quite a bit of research and spoken to other embalmers. The embalming process is so much more than I thought it was....some people find it gruesome. I find it fascinating.... Bu tmost of all, I want to make sure the family can see thier loved one the way they remembered them from when they were well, if possible. There's hours of reconstruction that can take lpace depending on cause of death. If people want to donate thier body to science/frozen, they need to be embalmed to preserve the body because it begins to decompose almost immediately. I've been considering donating my body to Body Worlds for plastination.