Femmes Who Strap <3

Nat · 11-08-2013, 07:06 PM

Hey there my femme sisters - I know I'm not the only femme out there who has enjoyed strapping. Or who'd like to try it. Y'all out there? How do you feel about it, what do you enjoy most about it?

I am going to include an anonymous poll in this for those of y'all who feel shy answering such things.

Nat · 11-08-2013, 07:15 PM

I've enjoyed strapping but most of the people I have climbed into bed with have not been inclined to enjoy such things. I realized today I was feeling a little wistful about the likelihood of experiencing that again given my other tastes. I don't neeeeeed to strap, but wow it's neat when you're with somebody who enjoys it.

TruTexan · 11-08-2013, 09:03 PM

I think I'm gonna enjoy reading this thread myself. I"m not femme but I"ve often wondered what it would be like if a femme I was with would do this with me.

sofimichi · 11-08-2013, 09:34 PM

I tried, but I started to giggle, and my bf wasn't to keen on it ever since.
Whoops! :S

imperfect_cupcake · 11-08-2013, 09:44 PM

"other"
I strap when requested. I won't on my own as it's not one of my best loved activities but it doesn't put me off either. I've enjoyed it when they have *really* been into demanding it, and loving it and I'm happy to provide something that they really enjoy. But mostly I forget about it as it's not something I wank over in my head.

*Anya* · 11-08-2013, 10:02 PM

My girlfriend is not stone but is not into being strapped by a femme at all!

I think hell no were her exact words.

I have had the great pleasure in my past lives with others but seriously doubt it is in my future.

I only miss it once in a while...

Tuff Stuff · 08-17-2015, 10:43 PM

Hummm,thinking...no,not for me.But i'll tell y'all what,i like to watch femmes,lesbians,women,men,strap it on and watch 'em pleasure their partners,seeing as i'm so big into voyeurism and all.

Not a crime...hey,i always ask permission to watch!

yeaah right,prove it!!

Queenie · 11-12-2013, 09:19 AM

Over the years I have worn a strap on a few times. There just something really hot about wearing a strap on for me. I love everything about it! I love the way I look with it on, I love how I can make my other half cum, beg for more and also beg for mercy. Oh I am turning my self on...

Soft*Silver · 11-12-2013, 01:31 PM

I strap. For decades I vowed I was a femme who would never strap on. I was totally opposed to wearing a strap on. Then I met chrissy. And glory bells and clouds parting occurred! I love the sense of power I have when I am in the depths of our lovemaking! I wish I hadnt wasted all those years of not doing this!

My sexual journey has been an interesting one. He has opened new worlds for me in many other ways as well.

Of the butches I have been with, none of them would EVER have entertained the thought of their femme wearing a strap on, let alone using it on them. If I were single, I wouldnt dismiss a potential butch if he werent willing to try this with me. But I would want an open relationship so I could continue to indulge with others.

So much has changed with my ideals of relationships...

puddin' · 11-14-2013, 09:32 PM

2 o' da greatest sex partners i've had were femmes who adored to strap it on. i have no issue givin' it up. it was hawt, hawt, hawt i say. i think it was mo' enjoyable to feel them feel their own power than to feel it bein' thrust in. (but lawd, that was hawt, too!)

Miss_J · 11-19-2013, 03:16 PM

For me it has always been about the energy created with a lover. If I'm there and open to exploring with you than why not do what makes us both have an incredible experience. I enjoy it and have truly been very excited by it with a couple of partners but its not something I miss if its not there.

There was a point in my life where I would'nt have even considered it because I felt that it would make me seem less femme. I was young and inexperienced with a very small world of comparison. I am damn happy I did not remain so narrow in my views or was unwilling to explore, as I am much more confidant in me now.

Thank you to all for sharing!

Licious · 11-28-2013, 03:26 PM

I've never really wanted to do it. I do not say ew. I say, femmes strapping is hot! And I'm enjoying reading the posts. The femme spectrum is a wonderful and varied thing!

Asari · 11-29-2013, 03:04 PM

I'd like to try it out, but there is no one willing to volunteer.

fatallyblonde · 01-02-2014, 06:22 PM

I have tried it... I hate it... and... I am TERRIBLE at it!!!!

Ms. Meander · 01-02-2014, 08:10 PM

Historically, strapping on has never been my thing. But I am an evolving creature and the idea is growing in me with more and more allure. Change is coming!

Thanks for the thread, Nat!

thedreamerin · 03-05-2015, 02:30 PM

I'm an old soul, don't I know it? The new things are a bit awkward for me at first. However, if I am paired with someone that has the patience and willingness to take on the challenge of my sexual naiveté, well I think we could have a ton of fun. It's about trust. I've never been strapped or given it... My first response to the initial question was "me? Strap? HELL NO" and not because it is in any way disgusting it is just, hmm, I think I would need to understand the body of my lover more to be comfortable enough to wield a device and offer pleasure.
There is a popular trend these days where women are looking for women who are experienced, and can 'throw down' so to speak. That is all good I am sure, but the reality is that not everyone is at that champion gold metal level yet. That doesn't mean that the sex can't be good or even fantastic. I think it's just seldom is anyone willing to take the time to 'become' the better lover...
Now I have ranted, my apologies!
All of that wording and I just wanted to say this. I am shy of trying the strap as a femme, but if she wanted it, and was willing to have some patience with me, I'd give it a try.

Terrifina · 01-09-2014, 04:07 PM

I love a strap on either way it's pointing.... <sigh> LOL

swampberry · 01-31-2014, 08:49 AM

I think that one of the most attractive things in the universe is someone that is comfortable and open in their sexuality. I present a unique dichotomy; I look one way (embracing and loving that) while feeling another way internally and that shows up in my sexuality. Strapping feels completely natural to me and most of my partners, no matter how they define themselves, end up wanting that from me. They have told me it is the energy I exude when I am strapped that makes it so appealing to them and honestly, I do feel like I am in a position of power which is the opposite from my daily interactions. Whether you strap or not should not define your femininity, just like it doesn't prove your masculinity. Balance is vital in every situation and being fluid will result in amazing encounters.

1TruFemme · 02-01-2014, 08:16 AM

I admit I have tried it because I wanted to please the butch I was with but I was terrible at it. And all I could think was it's going in the wrong direction.

ProfPacker · 03-04-2014, 11:42 PM

I went through a time when my packer was tucked away. For some reason, I am feeling the need to wear it as much as I can. Just saying that I am loving my cock and its strap.

View Poll Results: Femme cock poll - I'm a femme and I:
Love to strap and find it vital to my sex life.	16	10.88%
Enjoy strapping and am happy when/if I get to.	30	20.41%
Tried strapping and hated it and/or didn't like it.	18	12.24%
Have never tried it, but would like to.	21	14.29%
Never ever ever want to strap.	62	42.18%
Voters: 147. You may not vote on this poll

11-08-2013, 07:06 PM	#1
Nat Senior Member How Do You Identify?: bigender Preferred Pronoun?: whatevs Relationship Status: in a relationship Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Tx Posts: 3,535 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,042 Thanked 13,992 Times in 2,595 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Femmes Who Strap <3 Hey there my femme sisters - I know I'm not the only femme out there who has enjoyed strapping. Or who'd like to try it. Y'all out there? How do you feel about it, what do you enjoy most about it? I am going to include an anonymous poll in this for those of y'all who feel shy answering such things. __________________ I'm a fountain of blood. In the shape of a girl. - Bjork What is to give light must endure burning. -Viktor Frankl

11-08-2013, 07:15 PM	#2
Nat Senior Member How Do You Identify?: bigender Preferred Pronoun?: whatevs Relationship Status: in a relationship Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Tx Posts: 3,535 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,042 Thanked 13,992 Times in 2,595 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I've enjoyed strapping but most of the people I have climbed into bed with have not been inclined to enjoy such things. I realized today I was feeling a little wistful about the likelihood of experiencing that again given my other tastes. I don't neeeeeed to strap, but wow it's neat when you're with somebody who enjoys it. __________________ I'm a fountain of blood. In the shape of a girl. - Bjork What is to give light must endure burning. -Viktor Frankl

11-08-2013, 09:03 PM	#3
TruTexan Senior Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: in a one horse town in a large state, in the U.S. Posts: 3,952 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,112 Thanked 5,268 Times in 1,633 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I think I'm gonna enjoy reading this thread myself. I"m not femme but I"ve often wondered what it would be like if a femme I was with would do this with me. __________________

11-08-2013, 10:02 PM	#6
Anya Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Lesbian non-stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Committed to being good to myself Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: West Coast Posts: 8,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39,306 Thanked 40,791 Times in 7,290 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	My girlfriend is not stone but is not into being strapped by a femme at all! I think hell no were her exact words. I have had the great pleasure in my past lives with others but seriously doubt it is in my future. I only miss it once in a while... __________________ ~Anya~ Democracy Dies in Darkness ~Washington Post "...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable." UN Human Rights commissioner

11-08-2013, 09:34 PM	#4
sofimichi Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femmeinist Preferred Pronoun?: femenine ones, "hey you," etc. Relationship Status: Engaged! Join Date: Oct 2013 Location: Missouri Posts: 37 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 27 Thanked 85 Times in 23 Posts Rep Power: 1722500	I tried, but I started to giggle, and my bf wasn't to keen on it ever since. Whoops! :S

11-08-2013, 09:44 PM	#5
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,727 Times in 1,613 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	"other" I strap when requested. I won't on my own as it's not one of my best loved activities but it doesn't put me off either. I've enjoyed it when they have really been into demanding it, and loving it and I'm happy to provide something that they really enjoy. But mostly I forget about it as it's not something I wank over in my head.

08-17-2015, 10:43 PM	#7
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,318 Times in 506 Posts Rep Power: 9408452	Hummm,thinking...no,not for me.But i'll tell y'all what,i like to watch femmes,lesbians,women,men,strap it on and watch 'em pleasure their partners,seeing as i'm so big into voyeurism and all. Not a crime...hey,i always ask permission to watch! yeaah right,prove it!!

11-12-2013, 09:19 AM	#8
Queenie Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Preferred Pronoun?: Her Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: East Finchley Posts: 752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 478 Thanked 1,891 Times in 523 Posts Rep Power: 16307163	Over the years I have worn a strap on a few times. There just something really hot about wearing a strap on for me. I love everything about it! I love the way I look with it on, I love how I can make my other half cum, beg for more and also beg for mercy. Oh I am turning my self on...

11-12-2013, 01:31 PM	#9
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,502 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,428 Thanked 15,619 Times in 3,976 Posts Rep Power*: 21474856	I strap. For decades I vowed I was a femme who would never strap on. I was totally opposed to wearing a strap on. Then I met chrissy. And glory bells and clouds parting occurred! I love the sense of power I have when I am in the depths of our lovemaking! I wish I hadnt wasted all those years of not doing this! My sexual journey has been an interesting one. He has opened new worlds for me in many other ways as well. Of the butches I have been with, none of them would EVER have entertained the thought of their femme wearing a strap on, let alone using it on them. If I were single, I wouldnt dismiss a potential butch if he werent willing to try this with me. But I would want an open relationship so I could continue to indulge with others. So much has changed with my ideals of relationships... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

11-14-2013, 09:32 PM	#10
puddin' Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: a genderqueer nuisance Preferred Pronoun?: bitchboi Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: new zealand Posts: 7,120 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,467 Thanked 7,973 Times in 2,344 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	2 o' da greatest sex partners i've had were femmes who adored to strap it on. i have no issue givin' it up. it was hawt, hawt, hawt i say. i think it was mo' enjoyable to feel them feel their own power than to feel it bein' thrust in. (but lawd, that was hawt, too!) __________________ be true, be you, be brave.

11-19-2013, 03:16 PM	#11
Miss_J Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: ? Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Michigan Posts: 508 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,415 Thanked 1,559 Times in 325 Posts Rep Power: 10308962	For me it has always been about the energy created with a lover. If I'm there and open to exploring with you than why not do what makes us both have an incredible experience. I enjoy it and have truly been very excited by it with a couple of partners but its not something I miss if its not there. There was a point in my life where I would'nt have even considered it because I felt that it would make me seem less femme. I was young and inexperienced with a very small world of comparison. I am damn happy I did not remain so narrow in my views or was unwilling to explore, as I am much more confidant in me now. Thank you to all for sharing! __________________

11-28-2013, 03:26 PM	#12
Licious Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: California Posts: 686 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,502 Thanked 1,974 Times in 546 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I've never really wanted to do it. I do not say ew. I say, femmes strapping is hot! And I'm enjoying reading the posts. The femme spectrum is a wonderful and varied thing! __________________ Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth. ~Rumi

11-29-2013, 03:04 PM	#13
Asari Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: female ones Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Germany Posts: 146 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 563 Thanked 275 Times in 90 Posts Rep Power: 4780806	I'd like to try it out, but there is no one willing to volunteer. __________________ “Earth provides enough to satisfy every man's needs, but not every man's greed.” Mahatma Gandhi

01-02-2014, 06:22 PM	#14
fatallyblonde Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: earth Posts: 446 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 389 Thanked 769 Times in 181 Posts Rep Power: 7054720	I have tried it... I hate it... and... I am TERRIBLE at it!!!!

01-02-2014, 08:10 PM	#15
Ms. Meander Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Relationship Status: Ethical Nonmonogamist Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: The Mountains Posts: 1,520 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,706 Thanked 5,223 Times in 1,150 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Historically, strapping on has never been my thing. But I am an evolving creature and the idea is growing in me with more and more allure. Change is coming! Thanks for the thread, Nat! __________________ My wish for you is that you continue. Continue to be who and how you are, to astonish a mean world with your acts of kindness. Continue to allow humor to lighten the burden of your tender heart. - Maya Angelou

03-05-2015, 02:30 PM	#16
thedreamerin Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, or miss Relationship Status: single Join Date: Mar 2015 Location: Texas Posts: 20 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6 Thanked 95 Times in 20 Posts Rep Power: 1073753	Here is the thing I'm an old soul, don't I know it? The new things are a bit awkward for me at first. However, if I am paired with someone that has the patience and willingness to take on the challenge of my sexual naiveté, well I think we could have a ton of fun. It's about trust. I've never been strapped or given it... My first response to the initial question was "me? Strap? HELL NO" and not because it is in any way disgusting it is just, hmm, I think I would need to understand the body of my lover more to be comfortable enough to wield a device and offer pleasure. There is a popular trend these days where women are looking for women who are experienced, and can 'throw down' so to speak. That is all good I am sure, but the reality is that not everyone is at that champion gold metal level yet. That doesn't mean that the sex can't be good or even fantastic. I think it's just seldom is anyone willing to take the time to 'become' the better lover... Now I have ranted, my apologies! All of that wording and I just wanted to say this. I am shy of trying the strap as a femme, but if she wanted it, and was willing to have some patience with me, I'd give it a try.

01-09-2014, 04:07 PM	#17
Terrifina Junior Member How Do You Identify?: xx Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: not here Posts: 5 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31 Thanked 23 Times in 5 Posts Rep Power: 0	I love a strap on either way it's pointing.... <sigh> LOL

01-31-2014, 08:49 AM	#18
swampberry Junior Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: somewhere over the rainbow Posts: 14 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 14 Thanked 21 Times in 4 Posts Rep Power: 214760	I think that one of the most attractive things in the universe is someone that is comfortable and open in their sexuality. I present a unique dichotomy; I look one way (embracing and loving that) while feeling another way internally and that shows up in my sexuality. Strapping feels completely natural to me and most of my partners, no matter how they define themselves, end up wanting that from me. They have told me it is the energy I exude when I am strapped that makes it so appealing to them and honestly, I do feel like I am in a position of power which is the opposite from my daily interactions. Whether you strap or not should not define your femininity, just like it doesn't prove your masculinity. Balance is vital in every situation and being fluid will result in amazing encounters.

02-01-2014, 08:16 AM	#19
1TruFemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Girlie Ones Relationship Status: Smitten Kitten Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: GA Posts: 31 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6 Thanked 98 Times in 19 Posts Rep Power: 771230	I admit I have tried it because I wanted to please the butch I was with but I was terrible at it. And all I could think was it's going in the wrong direction.

03-04-2014, 11:42 PM	#20
ProfPacker Member How Do You Identify?: butch/MOC Preferred Pronoun?: Hy/hym/hys but in circumstances like work and some other places she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: nj Posts: 1,365 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,023 Thanked 4,816 Times in 1,187 Posts Rep Power: 21474848	I went through a time when my packer was tucked away. For some reason, I am feeling the need to wear it as much as I can. Just saying that I am loving my cock and its strap.