Dating a Transwoman

Nadeest · 03-14-2013, 09:59 PM

I found this article tonight, and thought that I would share it with everyone. I find it quite interesting, and worthy of further thought. http://www.autostraddle.com/getting-...-women-160269/

MysticOceansFL · 03-14-2013, 10:06 PM

Thanks Nadeest! That's very informational.

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Originally Posted by Nadeest

I found this article tonight, and thought that I would share it with everyone. I find it quite interesting, and worthy of further thought. http://www.autostraddle.com/getting-...-women-160269/

theoddz · 03-18-2013, 08:32 AM

Nadeest, I hope you know by now that I thread stalk you!!!!

Thank you so much for posting this and starting this thread. You always give me so much to think about, especially because I don't have personal contact with any "folk of trans experience" like myself, in my offline world. It makes me feel isolated, in some respects, and articles like this make me feel like my community is just this much closer to me. Some of what the author of the article speaks about is just as relevant to men of trans experience, too.

Thanks again, and have a wonderful week!!

~Theo~

LoyalWolfsBlade · 05-10-2013, 06:44 PM

Nadeest thank you for posting this. I found the article very interesting and was glad to read it to remind me that my sisters have it difficult too. I really liked the authors comment about how you are either a trans or a woman but not both. I feel the same way way when someone refers to me as a trans man. It is like saying I am less of a man. I am either a trans or a man, well at least for society sake because in my head I am a man.

Once again my friend thank you....maybe I should thread stalk you more.

Nadeest · 05-10-2013, 10:32 PM

I don't necessarily agree with the author about that phrase/word, but to each their own. To my mind, I am both trans and a woman; therefore, I don't mind being called a transwoman, as long as they are not trying to disparage me, by doing so.

I've had different experiences then most women, especially when growing up. This particular body of mine has never experienced the normal female reproductive cycles, not will it, ever. I didn't deal with female puberty, as a teenager, instead, I underwent a shortened version of it, as an adult. These are facts. I can't ignore them, and I refuse to try. Denying them would simply send me back into the same frame of mind that I had, when I refused to admit to myself, that I was ts. I won't do that.

KnightsBlade, I don't see you as less then a man, at all. Nor do I see any other ftm as such. I've dealt with cis-males, and I've dealt with ftms. The differences that I've seen, between the two types is that ftms generally tend to have a bit more compassion and understanding of what women go thru then cis-males do.

They also tend to have a bit more understanding of what it is like to transition, which is one reason that I'd date an ftm a lot quicker then I would a cis-male. There is also the fact that I don't have to worry quite so much about being assaulted, when I have to have that 'talk' with a male that i am attracted to.

DMW · 05-10-2013, 10:51 PM

Thatta girl! Haven't read the article.
Long day and I work tomorrow. However, I just had to say, in regards to the post of yours that I dinged...thatta girl Nadeest! All my respect!
DMW

03-14-2013, 09:59 PM	#1
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077996	Dating a Transwoman I found this article tonight, and thought that I would share it with everyone. I find it quite interesting, and worthy of further thought. http://www.autostraddle.com/getting-...-women-160269/

05-10-2013, 06:44 PM	#4
LoyalWolfsBlade Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pre-Op FtM, Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones plz Relationship Status: Single but haven't given up on finding the One Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: I gaze upon the same moon as you do Posts: 3,827 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,214 Thanked 9,646 Times in 3,123 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Nadeest thank you for posting this. I found the article very interesting and was glad to read it to remind me that my sisters have it difficult too. I really liked the authors comment about how you are either a trans or a woman but not both. I feel the same way way when someone refers to me as a trans man. It is like saying I am less of a man. I am either a trans or a man, well at least for society sake because in my head I am a man. Once again my friend thank you....maybe I should thread stalk you more. __________________ Life should never be stagnant hence my quest for new knowledge will continue until my last breath. Wolf

03-18-2013, 08:32 AM	#3
theoddz Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Old Poop Preferred Pronoun?: Mr. Beast Relationship Status: Happily Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 3,502 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,796 Thanked 9,866 Times in 2,474 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Nadeest, I hope you know by now that I thread stalk you!!!! Thank you so much for posting this and starting this thread. You always give me so much to think about, especially because I don't have personal contact with any "folk of trans experience" like myself, in my offline world. It makes me feel isolated, in some respects, and articles like this make me feel like my community is just this much closer to me. Some of what the author of the article speaks about is just as relevant to men of trans experience, too. Thanks again, and have a wonderful week!! *~Theo~*

05-10-2013, 10:32 PM	#5
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077996	I don't necessarily agree with the author about that phrase/word, but to each their own. To my mind, I am both trans and a woman; therefore, I don't mind being called a transwoman, as long as they are not trying to disparage me, by doing so. I've had different experiences then most women, especially when growing up. This particular body of mine has never experienced the normal female reproductive cycles, not will it, ever. I didn't deal with female puberty, as a teenager, instead, I underwent a shortened version of it, as an adult. These are facts. I can't ignore them, and I refuse to try. Denying them would simply send me back into the same frame of mind that I had, when I refused to admit to myself, that I was ts. I won't do that. KnightsBlade, I don't see you as less then a man, at all. Nor do I see any other ftm as such. I've dealt with cis-males, and I've dealt with ftms. The differences that I've seen, between the two types is that ftms generally tend to have a bit more compassion and understanding of what women go thru then cis-males do. They also tend to have a bit more understanding of what it is like to transition, which is one reason that I'd date an ftm a lot quicker then I would a cis-male. There is also the fact that I don't have to worry quite so much about being assaulted, when I have to have that 'talk' with a male that i am attracted to.

05-10-2013, 10:51 PM	#6
DMW Member How Do You Identify?: FTM/Male (Will 14) Relationship Status: Caught An Angel and she doesn't lie! Join Date: May 2012 Location: @ Posts: 784 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,256 Thanked 1,861 Times in 614 Posts Rep Power: 21474848	Thatta girl! Haven't read the article. Long day and I work tomorrow. However, I just had to say, in regards to the post of yours that I dinged...thatta girl Nadeest! All my respect! DMW