09-02-2011, 10:38 AM | #21 | |
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Welcome to the Planet. I know you said you don't want to offend anyone, but the moment you say a butch is like a man, you are going to start a riot in here. Your tastes and preferences are yours and that makes them okay for you. Rather than saying what you don't want, I recommend sticking to what you do want. This way you won't wave a big red flag at folks. I mean imagine if I said that I don't want to date femmes because they remind me too much of myself or that I was afraid they'd use up all my perfume. Right? Kinda of silly. I like butches. I like femmes. One I want to have sex with. The other I want to be friends with. I don't think butches are men. I think they express their version of butchness with flair and style. Some come across as men because they are men in their hearts. Others aren't. We have butches of all flavors here...you will hear from those who are genderqueer as well. Please please please don't think I'm jumping on you. I'm not. I'm trying to show you ways you can express what you want without putting down someone else. Again, welcome to the Planet. I am glad you are here and hope you will grow and learn with us. |
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09-02-2011, 11:30 AM | #22 | |
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I think you will find all kinds of friendships here on BFP that range in the gender and identity spectrum. It's hard being new to a place where there's friendships going on and conversations that you thought you would never have about fluffy stuff, gender, identity, and a whole lotta nothing.. I do hope you make a lot of friendly connections and find long lasting friendships, I have!!! It's like a biggo queer family we argue, cry, laugh, but everyday we turn on our computer and connect. Thanks for letting me chit chat with you enjoy your time here!!!
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09-02-2011, 12:23 PM | #23 | |
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09-02-2011, 01:10 PM | #24 | |
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09-02-2011, 01:11 PM | #25 |
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Ditto this post.
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09-02-2011, 01:18 PM | #26 | |
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In which way is my comment heteronormative? I said what I think, and what I feel. I know butches are women, but they remind me of men, too much that I can't be attracted to them. I like pure feminine looks. Just as you can't generalize lgbt people, you can't neither generalize straight people. Not all straight people have a homophobic attitude, not all lesbians are butch, not all lesbians are femmes, not all gays are masculine and not all gays are feminine and so on. Well if I was straight I wouldn't be on this forum... |
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09-02-2011, 01:24 PM | #27 |
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"But I think what is femme and butch is in the style."
So me, who always wear make up, always fix my hair, wear feminine clothes, often pink and tight clothes who show my curves, are butch just because I am interested in typical male interests? Masculine and feminine as a style is always changing. But the "rules" of masculinity and femininity in appearance are always the same. "I think we all can have interests that aren't gender specific to girl or boy. I'm not a *domesticated* femme, I don't do crafts and other things I like sports, cigars and snakes. I do think you hit something cause maybe what you think is style is "swagger" I do think butches, femme, and other queer identities have swagger that differs from the other!!!" Well, if you are feminine in your appearance, you are a femme as I would see. "Butches do not equate to men, they are not like some binary replacement in our community. They are an intricate part of our queer culture and history. We have many varieties of butch here on Butch Femme Planet. You have Butch Women, Male I'd Butch, Transgender Butch, Butch Dyke, Butch, Butch Lesbian, Female Identified Butch. I don't as do a lot of our community see Butch as man." I neither said that they are men, read my post again. I said they remind me to much, of men. I never said that they are men. |
09-02-2011, 02:37 PM | #28 |
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I haven't read through all the posts because I'm lazy today, but wanted to toss in my 3 cents worth
Some people are attracted to the person and not the identity of the person Our hearts will tell us who we'll love not our heads
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Yes I Am!
My gf is a lipstick lesbian but I have noticed that other femmes certainly catch my eye! Even though I'm femme I've been accused of being butch just because I'll make comments about another femme's body or how she's dressed. Not that I mind, I just shrug it off and continue to appreciate the view
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I've been with mostly femmes, and I would do this one in a heart beat! I mean, if we were compatible and all... |
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With that said, I also adore the butch/femme dynamic.
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When I was first out I dated whomever I was attracted to. I dated some beautiful Femmes, but it soon became clear to me that the spark was not there for me. We became gal pals. I started to date Butches and that is who I fit with.
I am attracted to masculinity. Always have been and always will be. My preference is not males, and butches in no way are males, the scent, skin and even their hair if they don't shave, are not the same as males. (So that comment was a bit strange to me)but to each their own I always say. I have dated hard butches, stone butches, trans butches, soft and androgynous butches. To me, the fashion choice is not what makes a Butch, it is the energy they give off. My love will always be the Butch/Femme dance.
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