What TO DO in a relationship.....

[clay]

Originally Posted by sassy_girl

look past the online /long distance veil


don't forget each other after the new love smell wears off.

Exactly, Ms. Sassy Girl....thanks!!!

[tapu]

ok, here goes:


take walks along the beach (or elsewhere) and pick up rocks that look like hearts. (there are a surprising number of them!) give them, send them, or take a cell photo of your hand holding it and send that. or save them until you have a lot.

[tapu]

do postcards. but not with long messages or even sentences. my ex-lover once sent me a picture postcard of Tina Turner that had written on the back:

River deep, mountain high.

That's so hot, isn't it?

[girl_dee]

verbalize how much you appreciate your partner, don't assume it's known and yes we like to hear it often!


leave your ex tucked away in your heart, not in each and every conversation.

[girl_dee]

Talk it out, and take notes!

[deb_U_taunt]

I am guilty of doing too much. So much so, I end up being mommie.
I come across as not needing others. but its not true.
I need to have higher expectations of others, but less of me.

[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by Debby

I am guilty of doing too much. So much so, I end up being mommie.
I come across as not needing others. but its not true.
I need to have higher expectations of others, but less of me.

Exactly! I do this too! For the first time, NOT this time!

[deb_U_taunt]

Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

Exactly! I do this too! For the first time, NOT this time!

It's a hard pattern to break. I have a hard time letting go and allowing things to just not get done.

[JAGG]

Originally Posted by Debby

It's a hard pattern to break. I have a hard time letting go and allowing things to just not get done.

I would never be in a committed relationship with someone who didn't have the same work ethic as me. We are a team, team mates pitch in, join forces and help each other. I think that's a perk of having a partner. Even if my "wife" loved to make her own jewlery, I don't know the first thing about it. And it doesn't interest me in the least. But if she needed help, I'd do whatever she told me to do. I'd learn quickly, so I could help. If I lived with someone, they wouldn't have to tell me what they need , I could see it for myself and just do it. I think it's all part of the package. It's the least I can do. If she decided she wanted to paint the living room, first thing Sat. morning I'd have everything set up ready to go, probably before she even got up. Any project she decided to start, would automatically become my project too, unless she told me to get lost. hahaha

[deb_U_taunt]

Originally Posted by JAGG

I would never be in a committed relationship with someone who didn't have the same work ethic as me. We are a team, team mates pitch in, join forces and help each other. I think that's a perk of having a partner. Even if my "wife" loved to make her own jewlery, I don't know the first thing about it. And it doesn't interest me in the least. But if she needed help, I'd do whatever she told me to do. I'd learn quickly, so I could help. If I lived with someone, they wouldn't have to tell me what they need , I could see it for myself and just do it. I think it's all part of the package. It's the least I can do. If she decided she wanted to paint the living room, first thing Sat. morning I'd have everything set up ready to go, probably before she even got up. Any project she decided to start, would automatically become my project too, unless she told me to get lost. hahaha

I have a really strong work ethic and it is a sickness I was told. lol
I think knocking out a wall to rearrange the house is fun.
My yard looks so bad right now. It's embarrassing, it feels like a reflection of being lazy.

[JAGG]

Originally Posted by Debby

I have a really strong work ethic and it is a sickness I was told. lol
I think knocking out a wall to rearrange the house is fun.
My yard looks so bad right now. It's embarrassing, it feels like a reflection of being lazy.

It has been my experience that who ever says that a strong work ethic is a sickness , is just trying to justify their laziness. And maybe manipulate you into not doing so much. That way they don't appear to be so lazy, and the more you do the more they know you are going to resent them not helping. So if they can get you to slow down, or stop, all the better for them. They also know sooner or later you are probably going to expect them to help, that's what they are trying to avoid.
Am I right or am I right?

[deb_U_taunt]

Originally Posted by JAGG

It has been my experience that who ever says that a strong work ethic is a sickness , is just trying to justify their laziness. And maybe manipulate you into not doing so much. That way they don't appear to be so lazy, and the more you do the more they know you are going to resent them not helping. So if they can get you to slow down, or stop, all the better for them. They also know sooner or later you are probably going to expect them to help, that's what they are trying to avoid.
Am I right or am I right?

LMAO...you are so damn right!!! I work because I love to be busy. l love feeling productive at the end of the day. If they can't keep up they need to get out of the way.

[bigbutchmistie]

Make out with her like it was the first time

[girl_dee]

Live in reality, not virtual reality

Be smart and take care of yourself, even if it means you will have to be the bad guy.

[Mtn]

When the relationship is over, accept one's personal responsibility and then move on. Don't air dirty laundry, doesn't make anyone look good, don't make passive agressive posts and pretend they are not.

[Glenn]

Don't Do anything. Take some breaks from your relationship. Focus on your other interests, or get some other s*** straightened out. Do something or go somewhere else then come back.

[girl_dee]

Take time together every now and then, no computers or phones, and just be, you never know what a difference that could make

[girl_dee]

Be honest and real. If something is bothering you deal with it, pretending it does not exist makes it snowball then becomes dynamite, waiting to explode.

[bigbutchmistie]

stand by her side even if you disagree with her and think she is wrong. Support her through the good and the bad.

Never go to bed angry at each other

Always be affectionate

Always be silly and laugh together

Loyalty is never an option

Make her feel like she is the most beautiful woman in the world.

Communication, Communication, and COMMUNICATION. Talk about anything and everything.

Never hide anything from your partner. Any deception will kill a relationship.

[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by bigbutchmistie

stand by her side even if you disagree with her and think she is wrong. Support her through the good and the bad.

Never go to bed angry at each other

Always be affectionate

Always be silly and laugh together

Loyalty is never an option

Make her feel like she is the most beautiful woman in the world.

Communication, Communication, and COMMUNICATION. Talk about anything and everything.

Never hide anything from your partner. Any deception will kill a relationship.

This last part is especially true, but sometimes we don't divulge the bad in us not realizing we could potentially hurt someone in the long run.

I don't agree with the going to bed angry part, sometimes I need an overnight to regroup and think. I am always better the next day where I can talk clearly... or especially if what has made me angry/upset happened late at night.