When Facebook Sucks a Little - Page 2

NJFemmie · 06-23-2010, 10:29 AM

Frankly, I think they all suck a little. Nothing is private anymore. Between Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, blah blah ... it's amazing how some people in the world can't function without knowing when someone flushes a toilet.

I have a facebook page - but I keep it private and with little information. I never post anything about work, and if I do complain about something, I keep it ambiguous. Lately, all I've been posting are pictures of Max (our new fuzzie baby). Outside of that, I have actually thought about deleting it.

Bit · 06-23-2010, 03:57 PM

*tilts head, thinking*

I don't think I can delete my facebook. It helps me feel connected to people who are really important to me. I hid all the apps and games, so what I see on fb is what those I care about are talking about. It's sorta like a giant expanded version of the Dear thread.

rlin · 09-26-2010, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Bit

*tilts head, thinking*

I don't think I can delete my facebook. It helps me feel connected to people who are really important to me. I hid all the apps and games, so what I see on fb is what those I care about are talking about. It's sorta like a giant expanded version of the Dear thread.

i think youre right bit... its the way i stay connected to folks i have lost...
and also...
i live in a really small town... sadly about 80% of the folks i went to school with are really conservative christians... at least 10 or 12 of them are on my friends list... i try really hard to educated them since i know they must never get anything but fox brand of the news... i am sure that i am prolly just giving most of them something to gossip and pray about... but... if i get thru to one of them... im happy... so... i will keep plugging away at their ignorant armor... and keep staying in touch with my real buddies...
i think fb is evil... but its the only option right now... i heard there was oing to be an open source site that didnt sell all your info... but.. unfortunately... i havent heard it in a while...

Cowboi · 09-26-2010, 06:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Medusa

My BOSS friended me on Facebook about 3 weeks ago.

I havent friended him back yet and am feeling kinda guilty about it.

My OR manager friended me. I accepted, then later deleted her. I dont think she ever knew!!! roflmao

Julie · 09-26-2010, 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Medusa

My BOSS friended me on Facebook about 3 weeks ago.

I havent friended him back yet and am feeling kinda guilty about it.

Which is why I have two (really four lol) accounts. My personal one, which my friends are on and my work one. I certainly could not have my work and personal intermingle... ever!

Waldo · 09-26-2010, 06:57 PM

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Originally Posted by InfiniteFemme

Which is why I have two (really four lol) accounts. My personal one, which my friends are on and my work one. I certainly could not have my work and personal intermingle... ever!

Part of me really understands this and I'm not in any way judging you for doing what you feel you need to do. But on the other hand it saddens and frustrates me.

I'd had a Facebook account for a while before I began using it. When I did start using it I only used it to help keep in contact with my long distance girlfriend. I never accepted friend requests from anyone I worked with. Well, actually, anyone at all.

Then slowly I began understanding how important it is for me to live authentically without compartmentalizing different aspects of me. I don't talk about my sex life and I don't bitch about my work (beyond an occasional "man, what a day" comment now and again). Keeping in mind the basic tenets of what is appropriate for public consumption I'm able to navigate both my personal and professional lives. Granted, I don't friend professional contacts whom I've not met in person.

And.... when I really need to keep a comment from someone, or someones I simply filter it with the Facebook tools - for lists, etc.

adorable · 10-01-2010, 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Waldo

Part of me really understands this and I'm not in any way judging you for doing what you feel you need to do. But on the other hand it saddens and frustrates me.

I'd had a Facebook account for a while before I began using it. When I did start using it I only used it to help keep in contact with my long distance girlfriend. I never accepted friend requests from anyone I worked with. Well, actually, anyone at all.

Then slowly I began understanding how important it is for me to live authentically without compartmentalizing different aspects of me. I don't talk about my sex life and I don't bitch about my work (beyond an occasional "man, what a day" comment now and again). Keeping in mind the basic tenets of what is appropriate for public consumption I'm able to navigate both my personal and professional lives. Granted, I don't friend professional contacts whom I've not met in person.

And.... when I really need to keep a comment from someone, or someones I simply filter it with the Facebook tools - for lists, etc.

I have one account that includes everyone. I sometimes wish I didn't. Yes, you can control lists and some things keeping them so other people can't see them but facebook (this may shock some of you regular users) doesn't always work right. I like to play games, specifically FV and MW. I like to play them often. There are alot of mystery eggs that go unposted because I don't want some people to see post after post of games - they may assume that I have some sort of a problem - which of course is untrue. I can stop playing them whenever I want *twitch*.

I understand people and their want for seperate pages. I would also like to friend my other self so I can get more gifts and help myself during boss fights. Oh, and unwither my crops and feed my chickens.

RockOn · 10-07-2010, 05:33 AM

I am not a fan of Facebook. I tried it and it was fun to begin with but then it started requiring too much everyday maintenance to keep up with everyone's postings and remarks. Then, if I neglected or accidentally overlooked someone's post and did not respond, they would get their feelings hurt.

Facebook is a total waste of my time.

I can see where it has caused many people much trouble. Same goes for other similar sites too. I would rather meet a friend face to face for dinner than spend endless hours on Facebook jockeying to be the most clever, the smartest, etc. one in my little group. Maybe if I did not work then I might feel differently - who knows??? Anyway, I know I am much better in person with people than I am in any given online situation. Really not too good online at all. One bad choice in my wording (might be just one typed word) can pull me into typing for hours trying to explain that is not what I meant. It is very frustrating for me when I have hurriedly chosen a wrong word in my description of something. But then, that is just me and my take on things.

Greyson · 10-07-2010, 07:17 AM

I tried Facebook for about a week, maybe. I was bombarded with Farm Animal stuff. I keep my account primarily dormant. When I am doing research and know maybe Facebook can help, I reactivate my account, go in, do my business and reset my account to "Deactivate."

FlowerFem · 10-08-2010, 07:28 PM

I loathe facebook. I cancelled my account. Facebook is a boil on the butt of humanity .

pajama · 10-08-2010, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Semantics

I was reading an article recently about how many employers now ask about social networking sites while interviewing. The two most popular questions asked of applicants were:

Do you belong to a social or public networking site?

Have you made or authorized any other public internet postings during the past year of your name, image, or commentary? Do you have any concerns about the impact of these postings on your potential employers?

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Originally Posted by MsDemeanor

He may be moving, but he's screwed himself with any potential employers who check his facebook page.

We just covered this in a case in my Master program a couple of weeks ago. It actually is becoming a lawsuit issue if an employer makes a hiring decision based on your social sites. Not saying they don't do it, just saying if they make it known that they didn't hire someone for something they found on the internet or FB, etc. They are finding themselves vulnerable to lawsuits.

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Originally Posted by InfiniteFemme

Which is why I have two (really four lol) accounts. My personal one, which my friends are on and my work one. I certainly could not have my work and personal intermingle... ever!

That's a clever idea Infinite. I don't put anything on my FB that I wouldn't disclose in person. So pretty much, I post everything and anything. I am just as forward and outspoken in person as on my FB. Now at an interview I am the picture of professional accountant. But aren't we all something we usually are not at the initial interview? LOL

Also, depending on the field you are in, you can very quickly be terminated for your postings on social sights. I work at a hospital. People will inadvertantly post comments that they don't even realize are violations to HIPPA and quickly get canned.

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Gemme · 10-09-2010, 02:30 AM

I'm job hunting now and I've come across a couple of companies that have inquired about social networking sites.

Is it just me or is Big Brother getting bigger?

Blech.

Bit · 10-09-2010, 04:23 PM

Definitely getting bigger, darlin.

Corkey · 10-09-2010, 04:37 PM

Getting bigger. I never put stuff out on the netz that would be considered inappropriate to a business atmosphere. I have an internal switch for that kind of thing.

Enchantress · 10-09-2010, 05:11 PM

Here's the thing:

Never post anything on-line that you would be horrified to see on the front page of The New York Times. Plain and simple. Keep things private. Most large companies have background checkers who will google, check all social networking sites and twitter to find information about a prospective employee. Cut and dry.

I have a Face Book and I enjoy it immensely. It's been a venue to reconnect with old friends and family as well as keep up with current friends, etc...

But remember folks it's not called the World Wide Web for nothing. What you do and say is far reaching and speaks volumes about who you are!

06-23-2010, 10:29 AM	#21
NJFemmie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The original lime-twisted femme Preferred Pronoun?: I answer to most things, especially lesbian. Relationship Status: Still loving my Mare ;) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: New Jersey Posts: 4,683 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,343 Thanked 11,425 Times in 2,978 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Frankly, I think they all suck a little. Nothing is private anymore. Between Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, blah blah ... it's amazing how some people in the world can't function without knowing when someone flushes a toilet. I have a facebook page - but I keep it private and with little information. I never post anything about work, and if I do complain about something, I keep it ambiguous. Lately, all I've been posting are pictures of Max (our new fuzzie baby). Outside of that, I have actually thought about deleting it. __________________

10-07-2010, 07:17 AM	#29
Greyson Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transmasculine/Non-Binary Preferred Pronoun?: Hy (Pronounced He) Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SF Bay Area Posts: 6,589 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,132 Thanked 8,165 Times in 2,007 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I tried Facebook for about a week, maybe. I was bombarded with Farm Animal stuff. I keep my account primarily dormant. When I am doing research and know maybe Facebook can help, I reactivate my account, go in, do my business and reset my account to "Deactivate." __________________ Sometimes you don't realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness. - Susan Gale

10-08-2010, 07:28 PM	#30
FlowerFem Member How Do You Identify?: femm Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: dating Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Illinois Posts: 107 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 128 Thanked 164 Times in 51 Posts Rep Power: 286409	facebook I loathe facebook. I cancelled my account. Facebook is a boil on the butt of humanity .

10-09-2010, 02:30 AM	#32
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10-09-2010, 04:37 PM	#34
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,299 Times in 6,640 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Getting bigger. I never put stuff out on the netz that would be considered inappropriate to a business atmosphere. I have an internal switch for that kind of thing. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

06-23-2010, 03:57 PM	#22
Bit Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stonefemme Relationship Status: married to Gryph Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Wichita, KS Posts: 2,177 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,126 Thanked 3,772 Times in 1,264 Posts Rep Power: 10778869	tilts head, thinking I don't think I can delete my facebook. It helps me feel connected to people who are really important to me. I hid all the apps and games, so what I see on fb is what those I care about are talking about. It's sorta like a giant expanded version of the Dear thread.

10-07-2010, 05:33 AM	#28
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,308 Times in 2,609 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I am not a fan of Facebook. I tried it and it was fun to begin with but then it started requiring too much everyday maintenance to keep up with everyone's postings and remarks. Then, if I neglected or accidentally overlooked someone's post and did not respond, they would get their feelings hurt. Facebook is a total waste of my time. I can see where it has caused many people much trouble. Same goes for other similar sites too. I would rather meet a friend face to face for dinner than spend endless hours on Facebook jockeying to be the most clever, the smartest, etc. one in my little group. Maybe if I did not work then I might feel differently - who knows??? Anyway, I know I am much better in person with people than I am in any given online situation. Really not too good online at all. One bad choice in my wording (might be just one typed word) can pull me into typing for hours trying to explain that is not what I meant. It is very frustrating for me when I have hurriedly chosen a wrong word in my description of something. But then, that is just me and my take on things.

10-09-2010, 04:23 PM	#33
Bit Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stonefemme Relationship Status: married to Gryph Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Wichita, KS Posts: 2,177 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,126 Thanked 3,772 Times in 1,264 Posts Rep Power: 10778869	Definitely getting bigger, darlin.

10-09-2010, 05:11 PM	#35
Enchantress Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A complex confection. Preferred Pronoun?: Miss Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The land of milk and honey. Posts: 2,169 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 741 Thanked 3,421 Times in 1,201 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Here's the thing: Never post anything on-line that you would be horrified to see on the front page of The New York Times. Plain and simple. Keep things private. Most large companies have background checkers who will google, check all social networking sites and twitter to find information about a prospective employee. Cut and dry. I have a Face Book and I enjoy it immensely. It's been a venue to reconnect with old friends and family as well as keep up with current friends, etc... But remember folks it's not called the World Wide Web for nothing. What you do and say is far reaching and speaks volumes about who you are!