Instant Turn-Offs

[Chad]

Originally Posted by RebelDyke

these are all really good ones.. I could add these to the long list

over-dramatic
doesn't take accountability
twists your words
makes everything your fault
they are too stubborn to talk about problems
cannot compromise
always makes it about them
and always wants it their way
or does not care about your milestones or pivotal moments of life
has double standards
then if they hide things...like stupid little things about themselves and blow it off like it was none of your business... ya have to think ...hmm if they lied about that.. what else they lyin' bout?

but i think most importantly on having all these traits.. they still believe they are nice people.

(these are the short list of traits I have experienced over the years of dating...)

Agreed.
People lie about the funniest things like eating candy. Then you find 4 candy wrappers in the car. Makes me scratch my head.

[Chad]

Originally Posted by Chad

Being invited to a home that is filthy and gross.
Cheaters
Liers
Druggies
Thieves

When I was 18 years old I found my GF's mother in my garage trying to break into my Camero at 6:00 am to steal my gas card from the console. It is funny now but it was a good lesson about trust.

[RebelDyke]

Originally Posted by Chad

Agreed.
People lie about the funniest things like eating candy. Then you find 4 candy wrappers in the car. Makes me scratch my head.

for me it is things more sensitive like 420. I am an advocate for it. I do not partake. I believe it helps some people but every time people have NOT been honest with me on that... it turns out.. it is because they are an addict. SO, people get major major kudos, points, and RESPECT for being up front and honest on that one! if i am going to have that in my life on a daily basis... i think it is something i should know.

know thyself

[Chad]

Originally Posted by RebelDyke

for me it is things more sensitive like 420. I am an advocate for it. I do not partake. I believe it helps some people but every time people have NOT been honest with me on that... it turns out.. it is because they are an addict. SO, people get major major kudos, points, and RESPECT for being up front and honest on that one! if i am going to have that in my life on a daily basis... i think it is something i should know.

know thyself

I get that.

I was young and very social in the 70's and 80's. I knew a lot of folks addicted to drugs and booze. I held more than one human all night that eventually died from drugs. I have been shot at more times then I care to remember and seen the faces of crying parents. It is that lifestyle I hate it is very dangerous to all.
That is also why I hate the smell of patchouli a lot of druggies use that smell to hide the smell of drugs. Been there done that and survived it.

[Vincent]

Originally Posted by Gemme

Yes, yes and yes a few other times! Where was this post when I could have used it a few years ago?

Yeah,I dont get people who lie,like you're gunna get caught out eventually and I hate liers.
Also a red flag is people who go from one I'm in love to the next I'm in love in 6 weeks,how is that possible?
Ive only loved 2 women,so If I hear that,I'm out of there.
I just left a FB singles group,pretty scary lol

[JDeere]

PSYCHOS not the good kinda crazy women but the actual PSYCHOS who will try to kill you or take the transmission out of your truck.

Narcissicts

[homoe]

Originally Posted by JDeere

PSYCHOS not the good kinda crazy women but the actual PSYCHOS who will try to kill you or take the transmission out of your truck.

Narcissicts

Yikes JD you need a different source or venue for meeting women......

[Chad]

Originally Posted by JDeere

PSYCHOS not the good kinda crazy women but the actual PSYCHOS who will try to kill you or take the transmission out of your truck.

Narcissicts

Been there done that. Watch your back buddy. I have spent too many nights worried that a femme would stab me in my sleep.

[QueenofSmirks]

People who feel the need to tell/show/explain to me how clever they are. Instant turn-off!

[homoe]

Originally Posted by Chad

Been there done that. Watch your back buddy. I have spent too many nights worried that a femme would stab me in my sleep.

Yikes, thankfully I've never experienced this concern....

[Chad]

Originally Posted by homoe

Yikes, thankfully I've never experienced this concern....

I am glad too, no one should experience the yuckiness that I have lived.

[cathexis]

Originally Posted by homoe

Yikes, thankfully I've never experienced this concern....

homoe and Chad, explain this to me, I don't get it. 2 people who became fulfilled enough with their tryst that they have fallen asleep, one (presumably the femme) awakens psychotic, stabs you and steals items from you.

Let's break this down: You meet chic, presumably at a club, have a few alcoholic or non-alcoholic beverages.

You choose to leave said drinking establishment with her going to a place where a bed exists. You become horizontal (dressed or not-unclear). Do an activity causing you both to take a deep dive into sublimation.

Suddenly, unbenounced to the butch of the species, the femme suddenly arises wielding a knife, threatening the previous sex partner, actually injuring the sex partner. I have not heard of this practice. In how many cases of casual tryst does it occur?

This type of behavior seems more prevalent in certain types of spiders, chimpanzees, or grasshoppers. Is anyone familiar with this occurring in any others out there? I'd be particularly interested in higher primates, with special interest in these types of aggression in Bonobo and the Orangutan.
Would like to do this first study before going to Fet Life's BDSM Theory. I ask, please that no one else act on this topic. Thank You.

[charley]

Originally Posted by homoe

Yikes, thankfully I've never experienced this concern....

Ditto... idk what to say, the entire subject is foreign to me, never knew anyone like that. Even talking with other womyn, no-one they knew had behaved like that. Having said that, of course, there are womyn who hook up with others in a kind of arrangement instead of a relationship, where they expect something in return for sex - that is, a financial incentive, whence the expression "gold-digger", in other words, a "partner" who likes/loves you not for who you are, but for what you can provide them with. For richer or poorer, in sickness or in health would mean nothing to such a person. Whether butch or femme, straight or gay, etc., they always have an agenda, and it is very difficult to know what such a person really thinks. Of course, our society still promotes this "arrangement".

um.... from the expression, caveat emptor... might be better to say caveat "tryst" !

[homoe]

Originally Posted by cathexis

homoe and Chad, explain this to me, I don't get it. 2 people who became fulfilled enough with their tryst that they have fallen asleep, one (presumably the femme) awakens psychotic, stabs you and steals items from you.

Let's break this down: You meet chic, presumably at a club, have a few alcoholic or non-alcoholic beverages.

You choose to leave said drinking establishment with her going to a place where a bed exists. You become horizontal (dressed or not-unclear). Do an activity causing you both to take a deep dive into sublimation.

Suddenly, unbenounced to the butch of the species, the femme suddenly arises wielding a knife, threatening the previous sex partner, actually injuring the sex partner. I have not heard of this practice. In how many cases of casual tryst does it occur?

This type of behavior seems more prevalent in certain types of spiders, chimpanzees, or grasshoppers. Is anyone familiar with this occurring in any others out there? I'd be particularly interested in higher primates, with special interest in these types of aggression in Bonobo and the Orangutan.
Would like to do this first study before going to Fet Life's BDSM Theory. I ask, please that no one else act on this topic. Thank You.

cathexis, it has NEVER happened to me. You'll have to depend on Chad for an explanation.

[kittygrrl]

when it's important to think/plan ahead and you don't

[Chad]

Originally Posted by cathexis

homoe and Chad, explain this to me, I don't get it. 2 people who became fulfilled enough with their tryst that they have fallen asleep, one (presumably the femme) awakens psychotic, stabs you and steals items from you.

Let's break this down: You meet chic, presumably at a club, have a few alcoholic or non-alcoholic beverages.

You choose to leave said drinking establishment with her going to a place where a bed exists. You become horizontal (dressed or not-unclear). Do an activity causing you both to take a deep dive into sublimation.

Suddenly, unbenounced to the butch of the species, the femme suddenly arises wielding a knife, threatening the previous sex partner, actually injuring the sex partner. I have not heard of this practice. In how many cases of casual tryst does it occur?

This type of behavior seems more prevalent in certain types of spiders, chimpanzees, or grasshoppers. Is anyone familiar with this occurring in any others out there? I'd be particularly interested in higher primates, with special interest in these types of aggression in Bonobo and the Orangutan.
Would like to do this first study before going to Fet Life's BDSM Theory. I ask, please that no one else act on this topic. Thank You.

This sounds like that movie Fatal Attraction. If you experienced that situation then I am sorry about that. I have nothing to add here.

[cathexis]

Originally Posted by Chad

This sounds like that movie Fatal Attraction. If you experienced that situation then I am sorry about that. I have nothing to add here.

Sheesh, this was an attempt at jocularity. Life ain't that serious. Homoe got it...I think. Or maybe my sense of humour is Really that twisted. Anyway, Happy Chanukah!

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Chad

This sounds like that movie Fatal Attraction. If you experienced that situation then I am sorry about that. I have nothing to add here.

But you are the one that said this .... *points down*

Originally Posted by Chad

Been there done that. Watch your back buddy. I have spent too many nights worried that a femme would stab me in my sleep.

I don't have the same sense of humor as cathexis but I believe this post is the catalyst for cathexis' post that confused you.

[Chad]

Originally Posted by Gemme

But you are the one that said this .... *points down*

Yes, and what I said is true based on my own life experiences. I have posted other life experiences here in different threads like the in the scarred thread.

These are my life experiences. I don't pretend to understand other human's life experiences.


I don't have the same sense of humor as cathexis but I believe this post is the catalyst for cathexis' post that confused you.

Perhaps you are correct.

[homoe]

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A cheapskate, penny-pincher, tightwad, miser, skinflint....well you get the picture......