Would you date yourself? - Page 5

PumaJ · 02-28-2011, 03:15 AM

Thanks for the many giggles, everyone.

Yes, I would date myself, I think."Wait...a date? What is that? Have I ever done that?"

"What?"

"Date, you know!"

"I do?"

"Yeah, yeah. Remember? You've been out on a few dates? You know, you get the call, or you make the call, then a few days later you get in your car, drive somewhere to meet up with the Butch you are interested in for a movie, dinner. You know that kind of thing."

"Oh, is that what those activities were a long time ago? Well, I never really went on many of those. Maybe a couple, once or twice, maybe... Yes, okay I admit it, I did a few times. Remember what usually happened? I'd go out on one or two of those date deals, then the third time, maybe actually the second time, the date was in the bed, or sofa, on the floor, you know.. forget dinner or a movie, we'd just skip to the sex:-) There would be a few of those kind of dates, then we'd move in together."

"Hmm, actually, I think there is supposed to be something about dating that I skipped. Like maybe actually dating, you know not getting into the sex stuff so soon. I haven't done anything like that for a very long time."

"Well, not with another person, dear. You've gone out with yourself, several times. How was that?

"Very fun. But you know, I hadn't even taken myself on a date before I jumped into the sack with myself."

"You hussy! I don't think its supposed to work that way when you date someone else, you know."

"Well, it didn't, I did wait until the second or third date when I dated someone else."

"Kayso, I've established that not only would I date myself, but I do date myself."

"Yes, dear, you have. Do you date anyone else?"

"Um, no."

"Do you want to?"

"Um...well...I don't know. Maybe...but, then maybe not. I don't think I really understand about dating."

Well, there you have it. I think my Gemini brain is done having a conversation with itself on the topic of the question.

AtLast · 02-28-2011, 04:55 AM

Yes, I would. I'm intelligent, honest, polite and a good dancer.... ;?)...

DapperButch · 02-28-2011, 07:08 AM

I can't remember if I posted in this thread already or not, but I am too lazy to look.

No, I would not date me. My core self, my values, yes, I would.

But, I can be too self absorbed at times, I think. No one I have dated has actually called me that, but I think it is accurate. I can get in my own head and focused on my own stuff, I think.

Also, I can become a bit emtionally distant and unaccessible, at times. Just because of the above, I think (not b/c I am "distancing", per se). I can be brought back, but personally, I like a more attentive partner! I HAVE gotten WAY better over time, though!

MrSunshine · 02-28-2011, 07:16 AM

fabulously

Jaques · 02-28-2011, 09:21 AM

I would date me for the super dinners i give - at least I'd get a good meal outa me

Julie · 02-28-2011, 11:20 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrSunshine

fabulously

You would say that!
Me on the other hand...
I know I have said it before!
No F*G* Way.

BullDog · 02-28-2011, 11:24 AM

I think I already am. Except she never takes me anywhere. She's always working.

proximitywithoutintimacy · 02-28-2011, 11:41 AM

Would I date myself?

No.

But... would I sleep with myself?

Absolutely

PumaJ · 03-26-2011, 12:49 PM

I am still only dating myself, these days. But..I have started having conversations with others about what dating is in regard to dating another person. I can't believe I am so ignorant in this area! But, within a year or so of coming out, the Feminist "movement" hit the San Francisco area and dating between lesbians seemed to get pushed out the window along with Butch & Femme.

In high school I didn't date because I wasn't interested in guys. I did hang out with my girlfriends, a lot. But they were as femme as I was and not latent lesbians, anyway. Plus, back then, even the "free love" attitude of the hippies in San Francisco did not include owning oneself as "gay" in the high schools of the city.

I think I've actually been practicing dating on myself the past few years and I'm a pretty good date, now;-) Maybe, someday I'll get good enough at it that I will actually date someone else! What a concept:-)

Quintease · 04-07-2011, 10:08 AM

Date myself? Oh no. For starters, neither of us would be able to decide where to go, I'd probably take offence at myself then be offended that I was offended, I'd have an opinion which went against everything that I believed, and I'd wanna be on top and so would I, so neither of us would be happy.

I much prefer dating other people thanks.

Kaison · 04-14-2011, 02:10 PM

I think I would if I were less hairy and had boobs and no muscles.

Abigail Crabby · 04-14-2011, 02:57 PM

Why yes I would

I'm cute
I'm funny
I'm true blue
I'm sweet
I'm adorable

And I'll do my best to beat you at any and all video games

Heart · 04-14-2011, 06:35 PM

I'd totally date me. I'm a great conversationalist.

julieisafemme · 04-14-2011, 08:16 PM

I would not date me. Nothing personal. I am already spoken for.

violaine · 05-02-2011, 06:56 PM

yes. fork yeah! i appreciate: space, motorbikes, animals, multidimensionality, insects, twisted humour, differences, being activist/advocating - for The Good Fight, baked goods, getting lost, and nature [as a language also]. the big turn on>> crazy dancing in the kitchen, talking about art, an ability to see all the way round something, and maintain a reservoir of abundant bounce-back if holding on tight for the long run. right buttons pushed, please.

hpychick · 05-02-2011, 08:51 PM

Oh Hell No.

Although, I am totally cute and funny and an excellent cook and a good hearted woman who'd like be loving a good hearted man, er woman (however IDed?) .

But, alas, I digress; the answer - more vehemently and with passion: Oh. Hell. No.

MissPriss · 05-02-2011, 09:12 PM

Absolutely...not. I am quite a handful, it takes a certain kind of person to handle me. Im not that person I would most likely kill me lol

Ciaran · 05-03-2011, 01:38 PM

I am moody, vain, sometimes petulant and can be a bit of a prima donna .... therefore, I probably would date myself but this would be a bad thing as the "relationship" would break-up with acrimony after a few dates.

Deborah · 05-03-2011, 03:30 PM

From a me place yes I probably would because I know me and get me....

From an 'other' place I would WANT to because I think I have a lot to offer...I love spoiling someone and being affectionate,Im funny, not too smart but can carry a conversation, I'm an excelllent cook, love critters, love chillin on the porch listening to the frogs (my special time is 7pm), I'm a home body and am very home oriented but I can be taken out in public without embarrassing you....

BUT I expect back what I give, attention, conversation, sex, understanding, same standard of living, similar levels of energy, I will make you the center of my world but it is a requirement that I be the center of yours....it can be all about you as long as you make me think its all about me

To me all that is pretty simple but again thats from a 'me place' and I get me most of the time....hmmm I wonder if I am available Friday night...lol

Janny · 05-03-2011, 03:41 PM

Nah...I'm just not my type.

02-28-2011, 03:15 AM	#81
PumaJ Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Queer Feminist Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Portland Metro, Oregon Posts: 200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,419 Thanked 502 Times in 147 Posts Rep Power: 1652641	Thanks for the many giggles, everyone. Yes, I would date myself, I think."Wait...a date? What is that? Have I ever done that?" "What?" "Date, you know!" "I do?" "Yeah, yeah. Remember? You've been out on a few dates? You know, you get the call, or you make the call, then a few days later you get in your car, drive somewhere to meet up with the Butch you are interested in for a movie, dinner. You know that kind of thing." "Oh, is that what those activities were a long time ago? Well, I never really went on many of those. Maybe a couple, once or twice, maybe... Yes, okay I admit it, I did a few times. Remember what usually happened? I'd go out on one or two of those date deals, then the third time, maybe actually the second time, the date was in the bed, or sofa, on the floor, you know.. forget dinner or a movie, we'd just skip to the sex:-) There would be a few of those kind of dates, then we'd move in together." "Hmm, actually, I think there is supposed to be something about dating that I skipped. Like maybe actually dating, you know not getting into the sex stuff so soon. I haven't done anything like that for a very long time." "Well, not with another person, dear. You've gone out with yourself, several times. How was that? "Very fun. But you know, I hadn't even taken myself on a date before I jumped into the sack with myself." "You hussy! I don't think its supposed to work that way when you date someone else, you know." "Well, it didn't, I did wait until the second or third date when I dated someone else." "Kayso, I've established that not only would I date myself, but I do date myself." "Yes, dear, you have. Do you date anyone else?" "Um, no." "Do you want to?" "Um...well...I don't know. Maybe...but, then maybe not. I don't think I really understand about dating." Well, there you have it. I think my Gemini brain is done having a conversation with itself on the topic of the question. __________________ PumaJ

02-28-2011, 07:08 AM	#83
DapperButch Roadster Guy How Do You Identify?: FTM, Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Northeast Posts: 7,745 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,545 Thanked 26,893 Times in 5,771 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I can't remember if I posted in this thread already or not, but I am too lazy to look. No, I would not date me. My core self, my values, yes, I would. But, I can be too self absorbed at times, I think. No one I have dated has actually called me that, but I think it is accurate. I can get in my own head and focused on my own stuff, I think. Also, I can become a bit emtionally distant and unaccessible, at times. Just because of the above, I think (not b/c I am "distancing", per se). I can be brought back, but personally, I like a more attentive partner! I HAVE gotten WAY better over time, though! __________________ -Dapper Are you educated or indoctrinated?

02-28-2011, 11:24 AM	#87
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,783 Times in 4,470 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I think I already am. Except she never takes me anywhere. She's always working. __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

03-26-2011, 12:49 PM	#89
PumaJ Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Queer Feminist Preferred Pronoun?: she, her Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Portland Metro, Oregon Posts: 200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,419 Thanked 502 Times in 147 Posts Rep Power: 1652641	I am still only dating myself, these days. But..I have started having conversations with others about what dating is in regard to dating another person. I can't believe I am so ignorant in this area! But, within a year or so of coming out, the Feminist "movement" hit the San Francisco area and dating between lesbians seemed to get pushed out the window along with Butch & Femme. In high school I didn't date because I wasn't interested in guys. I did hang out with my girlfriends, a lot. But they were as femme as I was and not latent lesbians, anyway. Plus, back then, even the "free love" attitude of the hippies in San Francisco did not include owning oneself as "gay" in the high schools of the city. I think I've actually been practicing dating on myself the past few years and I'm a pretty good date, now;-) Maybe, someday I'll get good enough at it that I will actually date someone else! What a concept:-) __________________ PumaJ

04-07-2011, 10:08 AM	#90
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,816 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10345577	Date myself? Oh no. For starters, neither of us would be able to decide where to go, I'd probably take offence at myself then be offended that I was offended, I'd have an opinion which went against everything that I believed, and I'd wanna be on top and so would I, so neither of us would be happy. I much prefer dating other people thanks. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

02-28-2011, 04:55 AM	#82
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,830 Times in 3,200 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Yes, I would. I'm intelligent, honest, polite and a good dancer.... ;?)...

02-28-2011, 07:16 AM	#84
MrSunshine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The Gardner Preferred Pronoun?: Ummmm Relationship Status: Nah Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sunshine State, State of Sunshine Posts: 2,616 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,577 Thanked 3,890 Times in 1,155 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	fabulously

02-28-2011, 09:21 AM	#85
Jaques Member How Do You Identify?: male/TG Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: England Posts: 220 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 51 Thanked 398 Times in 122 Posts Rep Power: 2583510	I would date me for the super dinners i give - at least I'd get a good meal outa me

02-28-2011, 11:41 AM	#88
proximitywithoutintimacy Member How Do You Identify?: Rocker Lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: That One Girl ;) Relationship Status: Putting My Heart Back Together Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: USA Posts: 175 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 141 Thanked 290 Times in 106 Posts Rep Power: 670281	Would I date myself? No. But... would I sleep with myself? Absolutely

04-14-2011, 02:10 PM	#91
Kaison Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Transmale Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: UK Posts: 12 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 37 Times in 7 Posts Rep Power: 14	I think I would if I were less hairy and had boobs and no muscles.

04-14-2011, 02:57 PM	#92
Abigail Crabby Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Princess Relationship Status: Single, but sociable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Mount Airy, NC Posts: 4,226 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 14,554 Thanked 9,667 Times in 2,484 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Why yes I would I'm cute I'm funny I'm true blue I'm sweet I'm adorable And I'll do my best to beat you at any and all video games __________________ Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. Marcel Proust Turns whatever happens to you into a positive...

04-14-2011, 06:35 PM	#93
Heart Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: rainbows! Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: NY Posts: 466 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 303 Thanked 2,531 Times in 412 Posts Rep Power: 12032609	I'd totally date me. I'm a great conversationalist.

04-14-2011, 08:16 PM	#94
julieisafemme Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married to Greyson Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In the present Posts: 828 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,156 Thanked 3,445 Times in 660 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I would not date me. Nothing personal. I am already spoken for.

05-02-2011, 06:56 PM	#95
violaine Timed Out How Do You Identify?: atypical Preferred Pronoun?: plague words and phrases Relationship Status: love wise guys of the avian world Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: wekiva springs basin Posts: 3,236 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,934 Thanked 3,294 Times in 1,301 Posts Rep Power: 0	yes. fork yeah! i appreciate: space, motorbikes, animals, multidimensionality, insects, twisted humour, differences, being activist/advocating - for The Good Fight, baked goods, getting lost, and nature [as a language also]. the big turn on>> crazy dancing in the kitchen, talking about art, an ability to see all the way round something, and maintain a reservoir of abundant bounce-back if holding on tight for the long run. right buttons pushed, please. Last edited by violaine; 05-02-2011 at 07:19 PM.

05-02-2011, 08:51 PM	#96
hpychick Member How Do You Identify?: Feminine with a hammer Preferred Pronoun?: Girly Stuff Relationship Status: Jesse's Girl. She asked! I said yes! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minneapolis! Or as I like to call it - Many Happiness! Posts: 1,364 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,387 Thanked 1,417 Times in 499 Posts Rep Power: 15817344	Good Question Oh Hell No. Although, I am totally cute and funny and an excellent cook and a good hearted woman who'd like be loving a good hearted man, er woman (however IDed?) . But, alas, I digress; the answer - more vehemently and with passion: Oh. Hell. No. __________________ *~~greeting the world one cup of coffee at a time~~* http://www.waterfyi.com/wp-content/u...nn-300x168.jpg

05-02-2011, 09:12 PM	#97
MissPriss Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: only lasting realtionship I have is with my job, my gun and my truck. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Tennessee Posts: 566 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 789 Thanked 581 Times in 259 Posts Rep Power: 2223293	Absolutely...not. I am quite a handful, it takes a certain kind of person to handle me. Im not that person I would most likely kill me lol

05-03-2011, 01:38 PM	#98
Ciaran Member How Do You Identify?: Altocalciphilic Preferred Pronoun?: Papa Smurf Relationship Status: Curmudgeonous spinster Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: London (but from Belfast) Posts: 678 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 471 Thanked 3,656 Times in 602 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I am moody, vain, sometimes petulant and can be a bit of a prima donna .... therefore, I probably would date myself but this would be a bad thing as the "relationship" would break-up with acrimony after a few dates.

05-03-2011, 03:30 PM	#99
Deborah Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: Babydoll is a start.... Relationship Status: Mrs. Livingston 4/20/2013 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville where my heart belongs... Posts: 611 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,451 Thanked 1,454 Times in 276 Posts Rep Power: 14676214	From a me place yes I probably would because I know me and get me.... From an 'other' place I would WANT to because I think I have a lot to offer...I love spoiling someone and being affectionate,Im funny, not too smart but can carry a conversation, I'm an excelllent cook, love critters, love chillin on the porch listening to the frogs (my special time is 7pm), I'm a home body and am very home oriented but I can be taken out in public without embarrassing you.... BUT I expect back what I give, attention, conversation, sex, understanding, same standard of living, similar levels of energy, I will make you the center of my world but it is a requirement that I be the center of yours....it can be all about you as long as you make me think its all about me To me all that is pretty simple but again thats from a 'me place' and I get me most of the time....hmmm I wonder if I am available Friday night...lol __________________ "Slow to trust but I'm quick to love, I push too hard and I give too much, I aint saying I'm perfect, but I promise I'm worth it" "The Good Within Me Honors The Good Within You"

05-03-2011, 03:41 PM	#100
Janny Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: The glass slipper shattered and I can't stop staring at the shards. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Canada Posts: 204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 930 Thanked 223 Times in 92 Posts Rep Power: 6576865	Nah...I'm just not my type. __________________ All the diamonds in this world that mean anything to me are conjured up by wind and sunlight sparkling on the sea. -Bruce Cockburn-