The Aging of Lesbian Nation

[Lynn]

I love it--looks like it would be a blast!

Kobi--thinking about your questions. The future is really unclear to me. I feel fortunate to be located in the Northeast US. Being out is a relatively comfortable experience, and that is one thing that I would seek out no matter what life stage. Life is difficult enough, I really don't want to have to fight a daily battle of trying to be accepted for who I am. Don't get me wrong--there are challenges, but it has been much worse.

I love the idea of a communal living situation with other like-minded lesbians. Financially, I think it would be beneficial, too. My partner isn't as keen on sharing our lives and space with others. I don't see the likelihood of being able to stop working, or even slowing down, if I don't come up with a creative solution. I make enough to live decently, but I don't have much put away for the future.

In the meantime, I haven't found a community niche that fits for me. It's not about butch-femme, because our local community seems to be quite diverse and accepting. Maybe I'm too busy with work and my kids, and the stuff that presently holds my interest.

[Sachita]

This is a great thread.

I have always dreamed of living with others in a special space. In fact this was clearly my vision when I bought the farm and 30 acres. My views change and I often think about how I'd like it to be. I own 25 acres free and clear and would love to see a collection of open-minded lesbians. The times I looked into communities, prior to buying my land, I didnt find fit. Some are very rigid and lots of rules. I can't live like that. At the same time I think its important to have like mind and common goals. I would like to grow my own food. Not just part, as i do now but everything I consume.

I'm enjoy my approach to the golden years. For the first time I love myself, my body, mind and I'm even thinking about letting my hair just go gray. Its not that i don't care any more... not at all, I do, I'm just comfortable and feel connected. I'd love to be around others that felt like this. Sometimes living rural, as pretty as it is, can be very isolating.

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by Sachita

This is a great thread.

I have always dreamed of living with others in a special space. In fact this was clearly my vision when I bought the farm and 30 acres. My views change and I often think about how I'd like it to be. I own 25 acres free and clear and would love to see a collection of open-minded lesbians. The times I looked into communities, prior to buying my land, I didnt find fit. Some are very rigid and lots of rules. I can't live like that. At the same time I think its important to have like mind and common goals. I would like to grow my own food. Not just part, as i do now but everything I consume.

I'm enjoy my approach to the golden years. For the first time I love myself, my body, mind and I'm even thinking about letting my hair just go gray. Its not that i don't care any more... not at all, I do, I'm just comfortable and feel connected. I'd love to be around others that felt like this. Sometimes living rural, as pretty as it is, can be very isolating.

But, since you are the creator of the space, why couldn't it be set up to your way of thinking? Are you saying you don't think that you could find others with the same vision?

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by DapperButch

But, since you are the creator of the space, why couldn't it be set up to your way of thinking? Are you saying you don't think that you could find others with the same vision?

The truth is I vacillated for a few years. I was just out of a relationship, healing and rediscovering myself. I will most likely lease the land to women that want to build or live out here. Or when I can afford it sub-divide and lease to own or sell. I think it would be nice to have a small collective of women yet spread out enough to have our own space. I've lived rural and by myself a while now and really enjoy my space. I had a few different people live out here in RV's and they drove me crazy nuts. Sometimes I just prefer really quiet space and I don't want to always feel like I'm entertaining. I would need to find other women like this.

The land is there and its for lease or sale to spiritually conscious lesbians. There's a creek, a big ass greenhouse I'm happy to share and I have many skills growing and sustainable living.

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by Sachita

The truth is I vacillated for a few years. I was just out of a relationship, healing and rediscovering myself. I will most likely lease the land to women that want to build or live out here. Or when I can afford it sub-divide and lease to own or sell. I think it would be nice to have a small collective of women yet spread out enough to have our own space. I've lived rural and by myself a while now and really enjoy my space. I had a few different people live out here in RV's and they drove me crazy nuts. Sometimes I just prefer really quiet space and I don't want to always feel like I'm entertaining. I would need to find other women like this.

The land is there and its for lease or sale to spiritually conscious lesbians. There's a creek, a big ass greenhouse I'm happy to share and I have many skills growing and sustainable living.

I think the idea of any of those things is really neat. I hope it works out.

[Kobi]

I wonder, sometimes, if my wish for a lesbian space to
live is more of a fantasy than a reality.

I like the idea of separate space with the potential for community.
Yet, I also know when you begin adding people and their ways of
being to the mix, it changes the dynamics from an individual
concept to a meshing of the minds concept.

This is not necessarily a bad thing but it is something that
changes the complexion of what was intended.

Finding the right mix of like minded, similarly behaving people can be a daunting task I think.

[Sachita]

exactly Kobi. But I do think it will happen for me. I hope so.

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by Lynn

I love it--looks like it would be a blast!

Kobi--thinking about your questions. The future is really unclear to me. I feel fortunate to be located in the Northeast US. Being out is a relatively comfortable experience, and that is one thing that I would seek out no matter what life stage. Life is difficult enough, I really don't want to have to fight a daily battle of trying to be accepted for who I am. Don't get me wrong--there are challenges, but it has been much worse.

I love the idea of a communal living situation with other like-minded lesbians. Financially, I think it would be beneficial, too. My partner isn't as keen on sharing our lives and space with others. I don't see the likelihood of being able to stop working, or even slowing down, if I don't come up with a creative solution. I make enough to live decently, but I don't have much put away for the future.

In the meantime, I haven't found a community niche that fits for me. It's not about butch-femme, because our local community seems to be quite diverse and accepting. Maybe I'm too busy with work and my kids, and the stuff that presently holds my interest.

I was with someone that did not support my desire to share space and build a community. To each their own. I think it makes a lot of sense to share resources especially as we get older.