Non-monogamy survey for psych class - will you help? - Page 2

Laerkin · 02-05-2012, 02:20 PM

Thanks, macele! Everyone's input is really making a difference!

Massive · 02-05-2012, 02:39 PM

I completed your online version of this survey, hope it helps you complete your degree, if you need more indepth questions answered just let me know.

The Oopster · 02-05-2012, 03:37 PM

also completed the online version. Likewise if you need things answered further let me know!

Random · 02-05-2012, 03:52 PM

1. Are you in a committed, long-term relationship?

2. Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other?

3. Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine?

4. Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other?

5. If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship?

6. If so, why? If not, why not?

1.I am in a committed long term relationship
2 Queer

Random · 02-05-2012, 04:25 PM

1. Are you in a committed, long-term relationship?

2. Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other?

3. Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine?

4. Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other?

5. If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship?

6. If so, why? If not, why not?

1. I am in a committed long term relationship

2. Queer

3. 45

4. Femme

5. We have an open relationship. She has her moments where she is not supportive or accepting of the idea, it's an ongoing issue that she works on, but she knew all about me before we became an *US*

6. I am poly, that's how I'm wired, even in a monogamous relationship, I'm still poly. It feels perfectly natural for me to be in love/love more than one person at a time. It feel natural to have more than one lover at a time... My philosophy that it's MY Heart, Head, Body to do with as I will and no one gets to tell me what I can do with any of the above. I worked long and hard to figure my sexuality/heart out and once I did there was a click that let me know that I got it right...

adorable · 02-06-2012, 09:40 AM

Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? No

Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? Queer

Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 37

Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? Female

If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship?
No.

If so, why? If not, why not?
I don't share well.

Nadeest · 02-09-2012, 10:45 PM

1. At the moment, I am not in any kind of romantic relationship.

2. I am primarily attracted to women, although men can occasionally get my attention.

3. I am 'aged' :P

4. I am both transgendered and femme.

5. I would consider a poly relationship, but.......... any agreements that I have made with my partner would be abided by, so that may preclude that, if we have decided on monogamy.

6. I've been in a semi-open relationship before and it worked out reasonably well. The relationship ended for other reasons, however. Also, I have dated someone that was poly before, and he got me curious enough to learn more about it. So far, I like what I have seen.

Note: I just did your online questionaire as well, but this one seems to give me more scope to accurately answer your questions.

Nurse Darlin · 02-10-2012, 09:14 AM

Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? Yes
Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? Lesbian
Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 32
Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? Female, femme
If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? No
If so, why? If not, why not? I feel that when you are truely in love with someone, there should be no need for more than her. Maybe if I wasn't so happily in love, my opinion would change. She is my everything!
Good luck!

LaneyDoll · 02-10-2012, 09:36 AM

Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? yes

Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? lesbian

Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 30-49 (38)

Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? femme

If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? no

If so, why? If not, why not? past experiences have solidified the fact that I am a monogamous person; if you are with me, you better not cheat on me (unless you are "cheating with yourself" if you get the implication)

Venus007 · 02-10-2012, 01:25 PM

Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? Yes
Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other?
I identify as queer, my s.o. identifies as lesbian
Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? We are both 30-49
Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other?
We both identify as female
If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? We are currently in an open relationship and have been since the relationship's inception.
If so, why? If not, why not? We choose an open relationship because we are like minded in the idea humans, by nature as primates, are not monogamous. It seems that many relationships rise and fall on the issue that one of the members had sex with someone outside the primary pair bond. As if sex were the most important thing in the relationship. As if limerence did not wear off in approximately 2-3 years. (the time it takes, by the way, to rear a child out of the dangerous period of complete dependence). We decided to honorably and from the beginning create a relationship, platform of negotiation, guidelines, communication tools and openness that allowed us as individuals to express ourselves sexually, with other people within the mutually satisfying perimeters of a committed relationship.
We have been together 4 years and thus far things are working very well.
To give you some background, I have been in several open/polyamorous long term relationships and this is my partner's first.

I hope this helps your work, Laerkin. If you have any more questions feel free to PM me.

Greyson · 02-10-2012, 02:01 PM

Laerkin, I completed the online survey. Is this for a Graduate degree? Please let us know your findings with this survey.

Quintease · 02-11-2012, 08:49 AM

If you'd posted more information about the project, we could post your survey on

02-05-2012, 02:39 PM	#22
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02-05-2012, 03:52 PM	#24
Random Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: back in the land of trees and snow Posts: 2,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,017 Thanked 5,327 Times in 1,379 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	1. Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? 2. Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? 3. Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 4. Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? 5. If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? 6. If so, why? If not, why not? 1.I am in a committed long term relationship 2 Queer __________________ ~Volunteer~ "It gets in your blood"

02-05-2012, 04:25 PM	#25
Random Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: back in the land of trees and snow Posts: 2,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,017 Thanked 5,327 Times in 1,379 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Take two... 1. Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? 2. Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? 3. Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 4. Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? 5. If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? 6. If so, why? If not, why not? 1. I am in a committed long term relationship 2. Queer 3. 45 4. Femme 5. We have an open relationship. She has her moments where she is not supportive or accepting of the idea, it's an ongoing issue that she works on, but she knew all about me before we became an US 6. I am poly, that's how I'm wired, even in a monogamous relationship, I'm still poly. It feels perfectly natural for me to be in love/love more than one person at a time. It feel natural to have more than one lover at a time... My philosophy that it's MY Heart, Head, Body to do with as I will and no one gets to tell me what I can do with any of the above. I worked long and hard to figure my sexuality/heart out and once I did there was a click that let me know that I got it right... __________________ ~Volunteer~ "It gets in your blood"

02-10-2012, 09:14 AM	#28
Nurse Darlin Member How Do You Identify?: Femme-agressive at times Preferred Pronoun?: she/her/babygirl Relationship Status: Never been more in love with my Sugarbear! Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: West Virginia Posts: 148 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 278 Thanked 477 Times in 87 Posts Rep Power: 4732368	Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? Yes Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? Lesbian Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 32 Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? Female, femme If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? No If so, why? If not, why not? I feel that when you are truely in love with someone, there should be no need for more than her. Maybe if I wasn't so happily in love, my opinion would change. She is my everything! Good luck! __________________ Forever is not a word, but rather a place where two lovers go when true love takes them there I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. - Marilyn Monroe

02-10-2012, 09:36 AM	#29
LaneyDoll Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Girly girl femme Preferred Pronoun?: She; Ma'am; Miss ;) Relationship Status: Pitbull protected. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 2,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,892 Thanked 7,689 Times in 1,610 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? yes Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? lesbian Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 30-49 (38) Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? femme If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? no If so, why? If not, why not? past experiences have solidified the fact that I am a monogamous person; if you are with me, you better not cheat on me (unless you are "cheating with yourself" if you get the implication) __________________ There are beauties who stop traffic and then there are beauties who grow obsessively in the hearts of the susceptible.

02-05-2012, 02:20 PM	#21
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02-05-2012, 03:37 PM	#23
The Oopster Senior Member How Do You Identify?: transgender male Preferred Pronoun?: he Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: carson city nv Posts: 1,987 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 303 Thanked 2,655 Times in 759 Posts Rep Power: 20061508	also completed the online version. Likewise if you need things answered further let me know!

02-06-2012, 09:40 AM	#26
adorable Member How Do You Identify?: Sarcastically Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Home of the Yankee's Posts: 752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,708 Thanked 2,645 Times in 590 Posts Rep Power: 12725118	Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? No Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? Queer Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? 37 Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? Female If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? No. If so, why? If not, why not? I don't share well.

02-09-2012, 10:45 PM	#27
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077996	1. At the moment, I am not in any kind of romantic relationship. 2. I am primarily attracted to women, although men can occasionally get my attention. 3. I am 'aged' :P 4. I am both transgendered and femme. 5. I would consider a poly relationship, but.......... any agreements that I have made with my partner would be abided by, so that may preclude that, if we have decided on monogamy. 6. I've been in a semi-open relationship before and it worked out reasonably well. The relationship ended for other reasons, however. Also, I have dated someone that was poly before, and he got me curious enough to learn more about it. So far, I like what I have seen. Note: I just did your online questionaire as well, but this one seems to give me more scope to accurately answer your questions.

02-10-2012, 01:25 PM	#30
Venus007 Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Serene Highness ;} Relationship Status: Dreamily contemplating some outrage against conventional morality Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Houston area Posts: 1,362 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,417 Thanked 4,767 Times in 1,144 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Are you in a committed, long-term relationship? Yes Do you identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, queer, or other? I identify as queer, my s.o. identifies as lesbian Are you 18-29, 30-49, or aged like a nice wine? We are both 30-49 Do you identify as male, female, butch, femme, transgendered, or other? We both identify as female If your spouse/partner would be supportive and accepting of the idea, would you (do you) explore open relationships/sex outside your primary relationship? We are currently in an open relationship and have been since the relationship's inception. If so, why? If not, why not? We choose an open relationship because we are like minded in the idea humans, by nature as primates, are not monogamous. It seems that many relationships rise and fall on the issue that one of the members had sex with someone outside the primary pair bond. As if sex were the most important thing in the relationship. As if limerence did not wear off in approximately 2-3 years. (the time it takes, by the way, to rear a child out of the dangerous period of complete dependence). We decided to honorably and from the beginning create a relationship, platform of negotiation, guidelines, communication tools and openness that allowed us as individuals to express ourselves sexually, with other people within the mutually satisfying perimeters of a committed relationship. We have been together 4 years and thus far things are working very well. To give you some background, I have been in several open/polyamorous long term relationships and this is my partner's first. I hope this helps your work, Laerkin. If you have any more questions feel free to PM me. __________________ . "I need no warrant for being, and no word of sanction upon my being. I am the warrant and the sanction. " Ayn Rand, Anthem "So you'll die happily for your sins. You'd rather die in guilt then live in love?" Timothy Leary Last edited by Venus007; 02-10-2012 at 01:33 PM. Reason: why can't I see these typos when I am proof reading the first time

02-10-2012, 02:01 PM	#31
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02-11-2012, 08:49 AM	#32
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