What attracts you to Ftms ...... - Page 6

Thinker · 07-15-2010, 07:46 PM

A gentle moderating moment...

Before things get too far off track, let's please focus on the original intent of the thread.

It's possible (and preferred) to state what you *do* like and what *attracts* you to ___________ without tearing down anyone or anything else.

Just focus on the positive, please.

SuperFemme · 07-15-2010, 07:46 PM

shoes. it's the shoes.

Soft*Silver · 07-15-2010, 07:50 PM

SuperFemme!!! I am so glad to see you...GB-less! Been praying for you all day and night...to ease your pain..

yes...I do so love their shoes...and the way they wear their socks...

I do have a foot fetish....

julieisafemme · 07-15-2010, 08:03 PM

What is a FTM? I ask that because in another thread the differences in IDs are being discussed and what those IDs mean. And they mean many different things to many different people! My partner does not define himself as a FTM even though many looking at his experiences might define him that way. He's queer. I'm queer. He's a butch. I'm a femme. I am very happy with Mahhhh Man!

Leigh · 07-15-2010, 08:15 PM

I'm glad we're back on track

turasultana · 07-15-2010, 08:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by softness

Mr Bent, thank you so much for telling me how wrong I was in the way I interpreted your post and for getting us on the right track again....

I'm sorry I know we were asked to keep it on track but I don't want this post to just sit here unchallenged. That's really a condescending way to speak to someone who replied to you in a restrained, respectful manner.

again, sorry Thinker for the derail. I just had to say something.

Soft*Silver · 07-15-2010, 08:23 PM

just to inform you of my tone in that post was respectful not condescending. Please do not put "tones" to my words that are not there.

And I think if a mod gives a gentle moderation, he means it...

Quote:

Originally Posted by turasultana

I'm sorry I know we were asked to keep it on track but I don't want this post to just sit here unchallenged. That's really a condescending way to speak to someone who replied to you in a restrained, respectful manner.

again, sorry Thinker for the derail. I just had to say something.

Thinker · 07-15-2010, 08:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by turasultana

I'm sorry I know we were asked to keep it on track but I don't want this post to just sit here unchallenged. That's really a condescending way to speak to someone who replied to you in a restrained, respectful manner.

again, sorry Thinker for the derail. I just had to say something.

It appears you misinterpreted the post.

Let it rest, and let the original and intended discussion continue. If you have any questions about it, please contact me via PM.

Thinker

SuperFemme · 07-15-2010, 09:23 PM

i like nice hands too.
a good manicure.
or rough hard working calloused hands.
of course, i prefer them still attached and not in a jar.
i'm picky like that.

oh. and concert t shirts.
i cannot date anyone that doesn't have some amazing concert t's.

Queerasfck · 07-15-2010, 09:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

i like nice hands too.
a good manicure.
or rough hard working calloused hands.
of course, i prefer them still attached and not in a jar.
i'm picky like that.

oh. and concert t shirts.
i cannot date anyone that doesn't have some amazing concert t's.

Newsflash!!! You can't date!

SuperFemme · 07-15-2010, 09:48 PM

some people always rain on my delusional parade.

and i can tooooo date. it's just that my dating pool consists of one amazing guy. with concert t's. hahahaha. neener neener.

can i borrow your umbrella now?

GoofyLuvr · 07-15-2010, 11:25 PM

I don't get it. Why can't it just be accepted that some of us are only attracted to ftm/transguys? Lesbians have argued for years that their feelings are not a decision that they make, it just is. Why is it so hard to accept that there are those of us who "just are" attracted to transguys. Maybe transguys have a certain pheromone that is different, who the hell knows. I think the fact that this is so dissected all the time is a really sad statement, though, of how judgemental people can still be, even when they think they aren't. Live and let live. Love and let love. Who cares who is attracted to whom, for God's sake, as long as everyone is happy with where they are. I really hope we can get back to the postive thread this started out to be, what attracts us to FTM's, cos there sure is a lot of attraction for me!

Gemme · 07-16-2010, 12:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

shoes. it's the shoes.

Quote:

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

i like nice hands too.
a good manicure.
or rough hard working calloused hands.
of course, i prefer them still attached and not in a jar.
i'm picky like that.

oh. and concert t shirts.
i cannot date anyone that doesn't have some amazing concert t's.

And they must part their hair on the left. But only on Bastille Day.

Jet · 07-16-2010, 12:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gemme

And they must part their hair on the left. But only on Bastille Day.

whew, too tough. and a hard act to follow.

Stacy · 08-12-2010, 09:44 PM

I love every damn thing about my FTM Transsexual husband! (I need that on a t-shirt!)

imperfect_cupcake · 08-13-2010, 02:35 AM

I've thought about this and thought about the FTQ/FTM that I've dated/screwed around with to see if there was anything unifying about them that may be different than anyone else I've dated.

The only thing that seems to stand out is the ones I've dated/fucked about with were very bender-ish. In that, they were *totally* comfortable in queering their masculinity and coming up with their own masculine gender now that body matched their head a bit more. Thus we could get up to some seriously fun (for me me me and them them them) queering/bender-sex role play.

The butches I tended to date at this time were a little more uncomfortable with that kind of mind gender-fuck. I'm sure tons were able to, I just had no access to any as at the time no one was admitting to any of it, thus I couldn't ask any out. I did discover that once my partners were comfortable with who I was and that they trusted I respected them, they got more willing and curious and able.

I think, at the time and place, the FTQ/M I had access to were just there a bit faster.

That's really the only difference I can think of.

BI (before Inki) in london, I did turn down a couple of straight FtM dates as I didn't really see that jiving. They didn't see themselves as heteroqueer or queer in anyway. So I said no. I don't date straight blokes. TBH, I didn't (and don't) really know very many straight FtMs. Most that I know ID as queer or heteroqueer (and half of those aren't queer in sexuality - they don't have sex with other men of any origin, they just feel their journey aligns them with a queer philosophy and outlook and bendy sex games lol)

but as for why those FtQ/M were attractive? Nothing about them being FtM. They displayed characteristics I find hot in anyone - cheeky, funny, thoughtful, non-rigid, able to take the piss, treat me like a human rather than "a girl", cocky (in the good way: see cheeky) and self confident.

Actually that's not entirely true - there are certain aspects in femmes I find attractive and hot that I don't find attractive in butches or FtQ/Ms. And vice versa. hmn. Have to think about that.

IrishGrrl · 08-13-2010, 06:20 AM

Everytime I think about this subject I come up with nothing. I think what it all boils down to is I"m attracted to energy. Generally speaking, I tend to gravitate more to abundant masculine energy more, with a touch of feminine. Most butches, and FTM's I"ve dated embrace thier inner fag. I like that. It's hot.

Thinker · 08-13-2010, 07:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by honeybarbara

men of any origin

I like this.

I'd like to steal it (and give you credit).

SelfMadeMan · 08-13-2010, 07:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Deviant

I love every damn thing about my FTM Transsexual husband! (I need that on a t-shirt!)

I love you! Thank you for your support baby.

imperfect_cupcake · 08-13-2010, 08:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Thinker

I like this.

I'd like to steal it (and give you credit).

No need. I'm sure I picked it up from someone somewhere at some point... :*

07-15-2010, 07:46 PM	#101
Thinker Senior Member How Do You Identify?: transman Preferred Pronoun?: male Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 1,868 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 710 Thanked 4,133 Times in 1,079 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	A gentle moderating moment... Before things get too far off track, let's please focus on the original intent of the thread. It's possible (and preferred) to state what you do like and what attracts you to ___________ without tearing down anyone or anything else. Just focus on the positive, please. __________________ Practice humility and kindness.

07-15-2010, 07:50 PM	#103
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08-12-2010, 09:44 PM	#115
Stacy Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 475 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 396 Thanked 921 Times in 225 Posts Rep Power: 8450333	I love every damn thing about my FTM Transsexual husband! (I need that on a t-shirt!) __________________ "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Suess http://i431.photobucket.com/albums/q...star_green.gif

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SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,109 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	shoes. it's the shoes.

07-15-2010, 08:03 PM	#104
julieisafemme Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married to Greyson Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In the present Posts: 828 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,156 Thanked 3,445 Times in 660 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	What is a FTM? I ask that because in another thread the differences in IDs are being discussed and what those IDs mean. And they mean many different things to many different people! My partner does not define himself as a FTM even though many looking at his experiences might define him that way. He's queer. I'm queer. He's a butch. I'm a femme. I am very happy with Mahhhh Man!

07-15-2010, 08:15 PM	#105
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,026 Times in 4,786 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I'm glad we're back on track

07-15-2010, 09:23 PM	#109
SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,109 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	i like nice hands too. a good manicure. or rough hard working calloused hands. of course, i prefer them still attached and not in a jar. i'm picky like that. oh. and concert t shirts. i cannot date anyone that doesn't have some amazing concert t's.

07-15-2010, 09:48 PM	#111
SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,109 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	some people always rain on my delusional parade. and i can tooooo date. it's just that my dating pool consists of one amazing guy. with concert t's. hahahaha. neener neener. can i borrow your umbrella now?

07-15-2010, 11:25 PM	#112
GoofyLuvr Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme :) Preferred Pronoun?: Well golly gee whiz, I bet she would do it! Relationship Status: completely, totally, head over heels in love :) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Maine!!! Posts: 122 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 139 Thanked 162 Times in 53 Posts Rep Power: 162	I don't get it. Why can't it just be accepted that some of us are only attracted to ftm/transguys? Lesbians have argued for years that their feelings are not a decision that they make, it just is. Why is it so hard to accept that there are those of us who "just are" attracted to transguys. Maybe transguys have a certain pheromone that is different, who the hell knows. I think the fact that this is so dissected all the time is a really sad statement, though, of how judgemental people can still be, even when they think they aren't. Live and let live. Love and let love. Who cares who is attracted to whom, for God's sake, as long as everyone is happy with where they are. I really hope we can get back to the postive thread this started out to be, what attracts us to FTM's, cos there sure is a lot of attraction for me!

08-13-2010, 02:35 AM	#116
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,727 Times in 1,613 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I've thought about this and thought about the FTQ/FTM that I've dated/screwed around with to see if there was anything unifying about them that may be different than anyone else I've dated. The only thing that seems to stand out is the ones I've dated/fucked about with were very bender-ish. In that, they were totally comfortable in queering their masculinity and coming up with their own masculine gender now that body matched their head a bit more. Thus we could get up to some seriously fun (for me me me and them them them) queering/bender-sex role play. The butches I tended to date at this time were a little more uncomfortable with that kind of mind gender-fuck. I'm sure tons were able to, I just had no access to any as at the time no one was admitting to any of it, thus I couldn't ask any out. I did discover that once my partners were comfortable with who I was and that they trusted I respected them, they got more willing and curious and able. I think, at the time and place, the FTQ/M I had access to were just there a bit faster. That's really the only difference I can think of. BI (before Inki) in london, I did turn down a couple of straight FtM dates as I didn't really see that jiving. They didn't see themselves as heteroqueer or queer in anyway. So I said no. I don't date straight blokes. TBH, I didn't (and don't) really know very many straight FtMs. Most that I know ID as queer or heteroqueer (and half of those aren't queer in sexuality - they don't have sex with other men of any origin, they just feel their journey aligns them with a queer philosophy and outlook and bendy sex games lol) but as for why those FtQ/M were attractive? Nothing about them being FtM. They displayed characteristics I find hot in anyone - cheeky, funny, thoughtful, non-rigid, able to take the piss, treat me like a human rather than "a girl", cocky (in the good way: see cheeky) and self confident. Actually that's not entirely true - there are certain aspects in femmes I find attractive and hot that I don't find attractive in butches or FtQ/Ms. And vice versa. hmn. Have to think about that.

08-13-2010, 06:20 AM	#117
IrishGrrl Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Leatherdyke Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: In a relationship/non-monogamous Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Fort Worth, TX Posts: 877 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 276 Thanked 1,209 Times in 366 Posts Rep Power: 2427287	Everytime I think about this subject I come up with nothing. I think what it all boils down to is I"m attracted to energy. Generally speaking, I tend to gravitate more to abundant masculine energy more, with a touch of feminine. Most butches, and FTM's I"ve dated embrace thier inner fag. I like that. It's hot.