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11-11-2009, 08:54 AM | #41 |
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Oh Pinkie! I love Maya Angelou. What a great piece to be inspired by.
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Phenomenal Woman is another one of those great pieces that's become part of my Femme Attitude, so to speak. I've loved it for a long time. Thanks for posting it, Pinkie!
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Let's be lighthearted for Friday, shall we? This question is for smiles and grins and giffles, I hope.
FOURTH QUESTION: What is the color of lipstick or nailpolish that makes you feel femme or think "gee she's really femme" when you see it on someone else. |
11-23-2009, 11:59 AM | #44 |
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Another discussion question:
What do you do that makes you feel decadently, unabashedly, fabulously femme? Is it strapping on a dildo? Is it painting your nails? Is it fixing a car? Is it baking a cake? What is it for you? |
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Honestly for me... it's when I am surrounded by other femmes. Sometimes I feel like everyday life, of living in the sterotypical "lesbian" bubble in my local community, seems to suck my femme mojo. Being around my femme friends and sisters lets my energy shine bright ~ I think that we bring it out in eachother! That is when I feel FABULOUS! |
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For me I feel the most femme when I am doing my "secret" girl routines. Not that they are secret and not that no one else does them...just that for me they make me feel special. And they can be really mundane things like shaving or putting on lipstick, you know? I had an ex who loved watching me put on makeup. Said it made hym "happy" in all the euphemistic sense there. grin. That made me feel quite femme, you know. |
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Now how did I miss this fabulous thread?!
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11-25-2009, 10:24 AM | #48 |
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I made it for YOU and see how you are! You never call. You never write. You never lend me your clothes. You never lend me your husband... or your dog even! |
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[QUOTE=Arwen;3229]I have not read this nor have I read Butch Is A Noun. I need to correct that though!
I'd love to hear how this speaks to your femme self, Blush. Because I haven't read it, I'm clueless. This is not to say I won't still be clueless after I've read it. HA I related to the author's description of femmes' inner lives, interactions, and relationships with each other.
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I've been having some trouble with this.... okay. A lot of trouble. I can't seem to articulate what makes me feel "Femme."
I can tell you what makes me feel sexy--being around Butches. What makes me feel feminine--getting dressed up. What makes me feel like a girl--being around Da---er, wait a minute, lol, I always feel like a girl whether anyone else is around or not... Yanno, I think that's the heart of it. I always feel like a Femme, too. Nothing changes it, nothing makes it more or less, nothing brings it forward or pushes it back... being Femme just IS. It's not something I do, it's not something other people can change, it's not something that even needs attention... it's just me, at the bedrock of my being. I used to worry about it a lot. I've felt utterly inadequate about it, I've felt stupid about it, I've felt gauche and awkward with it---but those have all been responses to others who have judged it. I'm hoping I'm finally beyond that kind of vulnerability and uncertainty. It helps enormously that a category finally showed up that fits me to a T. The day Gryph called me a "Homespun Femme" I realized that nobody could judge me for being not-good-enough in that category, lol! A Homespun girl doesn't have to perform any kind of gender presentation, doesn't have to conform to anyone else's standards, doesn't have to reform her looks and glam it up for anyone. A Homespun Femme just IS, however she might be in the moment. |
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Now, I can name things I appreciate, that make me feel "at home" or joyful, like other femmes or butch appreciation of me -- but I would still be femme and be myself without that. And that can be Homespun Femme or Glitter Femme or Biscuit-n-Gravy-Hair-Extensions Femme or Snark Femme....all are perfectly my true self if I AM being true to myself. No one else can make me more or less (but they can add happiness that they are in my life!)
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Y'all seriously are the best. I love that this has come up. I think it is very important.
It goes hand in hand with e's thread (Open Letter: Dear Femme). So how about this...what books do you know that are on the subject of femme? I know an anthology was just released this year. Has anyone read it? I think it is called Visibility:A Femme Anthology. |
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or >[ame="http://www.amazon.com/Closet-Nothing-Wear-Leslea-Newman/dp/1555834159"]Out Of The Closet and Nothing To Wear[/ame]< or, really, anything by Lesléa Newman.
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well...femme to me isnt a label...but a descriptor of me...like saying i have green eyes a pretty smile and I am femme...I am proud of this description of me...i honour it and adore it...it IS me...it is who and what I am. You couldnt really describe me without saying I am femme.
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omg I have come home....ahhhhhh thank you gal pals for being different but yet so similar....!!!!
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As far as femme identity.. I have always been feminine to the extreme..at least thats what they told me..I do not like to get my hands/fingernails dirty..but I have no problem getting my freak on after mudbogging!. BUT.its by choice lol..I prefer to stay clean and proper for hym..but hy doesnt always want me that way either..Im flawed just like every other human..male or female that walks this earth..but being femme for me..It is who I am not what I am..Yes I get a mani/pedi..yes I love to be pampered by hym..but I am just as comfortable in my good ole "come fuck me pumps" as I am in my pink flip flops!..I wear a baseball cap to hide a bad hair day lol..and I take extra time to to fix my hair when I wnt..I am quite capable of running to the store w/o makeup on..althought this is not my preferred way..I am a mother and I work and I do live in the REAL world where not everythingis perfect.. .I believe at least for me ..its in my manurisms..I think standing next to any butch it is very obvious how my community will identify me.because most people need that..I identify with it because It really is who I am..I am FEMMenine woman who likes.the contrast between the feminine and masculine woman it is a huge turn on for me..its what makes me always take that second look at a fine looking butch..Their dynamic is sexy and appealing and confident!.. People who don't like lables are not wrong or incorrect for thinking they dont..but for me..I am indifferent..I don't really care.. after all I do have a bumper sticker that reads "you say im a bitch like its a bad thing" HEY i have earned it lol..so..peace out on that! and I do also agree with the femme sister thingy!...I have a few straight female friends..but I am most comfortable in my own community with my gay friends..its an unspoken understanding..and half the time with my straight friends it turns into Gay lessons 101..it can be exhausting explaing any dynamic..lol sorry for this ridiculously long post..I love coming here and totally being me..as random as I am.. I love my life..more each day! Lillie
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