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I remember my first gf was in the Navy too and we met while a bunch of us were washing a helicopter - we were both trying to be all nonchalant by saying certain things, mentioning certain bars, etc, both trying to figure out if we were right and the other one was gay while also trying not to tip off anyone who might be listening. lol, I forgot all about that. |
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<----- Dyke and proud. Yeah, I am not the typical "Dyke" in the mainstream perspective, but it makes it that much more empowering. I am dyke, hear me roar! :-D
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I loved those conversations.
I had one with a trans guy not too long ago. A gay male trans guy, even. lol. He had had a long history as a lesbian, and we talked about the awful women's music we had been subjected to over the years. It was fun. I miss lesbian culture, but I sure don't miss the music. |
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the first time i said to someone else, out loud, hearing my voice say, "i am a lesbian." a burden of sorts had been lifted. felt good. the first time saying, "my girlfriend." the first time i held her hand in public, ... walked, kissed her kiss. whether it happens at 15 or 55, makes you feel like shouting from the rooftops, ... even though you might not need that. these are things that stir emotions, ... thinking back/about. makes me cry even now. big time moments in a lesbians life. least for me they were.
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Oh the memories of what I did so many years ago. Did any of you master the art of speaking without using male or female pronouns? That way it was for the other person to assume the other part of "we" was a guy, boyfriend or husband.
Years after I came out, my company made us all take a diversity training class. One of the exercises was to talk without using male /female pronouns. When It was my turn I told the group that I had done this very thing for way too many years so I would rather not endure it again. You could see the light bulbs turn on! LOL!
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My first year or so in the Navy, I straight up lied and said "he" - but I tripped over it every single time, so I dont know how I was fooling anyone. lol
I was so paranoid about being found out and dishonorably discharged, that when the lesbian bar I worked at (Partners in SD - I think it lasted all of a year - I was a barback) was up for a few awards at some city-wide gay awards thing (stuff like best bartender, best restaurant, etc) that the mayor was supposed to show up at to do a presentation, I literally hid in the back of the room because I was worried that I would end up on some news clip or part of a sound bite and then everyone would know. While I was hiding, I saw some gay women and men not just there, but in uniform and right out in the open. It was that night that I felt so pissed off about hiding that I said fuck it, if they find out and kick me out, sobeit and I stopped using gender neutral or male pronouns to hide the fact that my significant other was a woman. A dude tried to get me kicked out a few years later for supposedly violating DADT, but that's a whole other story. lol |
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Yes, I had mastered the art of non-female/non-male pronouns
I did this for so many years and I did not even risk getting thrown out of the service.
I really hated myself every time that I did it. As a femme, everyone already assumed that I was straight and I had a ton of excuses as to why I let them believe that. Underneath it all was probably just as simple as fear of rejection by telling the truth. I recently posted in the Listening to each other thread that I had another opportunity for a moment of truth and this time, I just told it like it really was/is. The VP that hired me at my new job asked me during a lunch with the two of us, about dating men. I hesitated just a beat and said, fuck it (to myself): "I don't date men, I date women". I can't even begin to write how freeing that felt and how glad I am that I did that. I will never use unambiguous words to describe my sexual orientation or who I date or who I love; ever again.
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anya, good for you. makes me proud that you are proud lol.
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bump!!!
One of my uncles (whom I do not like) called me a "fucking dyke" to which I said "thanks, it's the nicest thing you've said to me all day"
I'll think of some more positive stories and share later
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We immediately put our arms around each other and my friend said, "You noticed!" with exaggerated appreciation. Then I said, "He's not as stupid as he looks. I guess that extra chromosome hasn't hurt his eyesight." We would have continued the verbal beat-down, but the dude actually smiled, albeit a little ruefully. New Yorkers like a snappy comeback.
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I, myself, have embraced the label of dyke as if it were my very own. I feel like I've earned it.
I've had it hurled at me as an invective from straights and I've had it shouted out at me in unity of who we are. I've heard it come in low whispers, with a question mark on the end, when I've entered a room of mixed company. I've heard that particular word used so many times to describe me that yes, I have made it mine. From Baby dyke to Big Daddy dyke. It is mine to wear and display as I feel, when I feel and where I feel. I am proud of the DYKE I am!!!
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Die hard dyke. Love it. I love being just that a dyke. Butch works too. Whatever Queer or Sir just don't call me a lady. I have no idea who would do that.
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SHANNON + SEEMA | INDIAN LESBIAN WEDDING | LOS ANGELES, CA.
I have been anticipating this wedding for years now! Shannon and Seema are special to me and I am honored that they chose me to be their wedding photographer. I flew into Los Angeles a few hours before the wedding festivities began. I was greeted by a house full of friends, family and a lot of laughter. It was going to be an exciting day. Beautiful Indian culture, stunning brides & style for miles! Couldn’t ask for more. I have photographed Indian weddings before and I have photographed gay and lesbian weddings before, but never have I ever shot an Indian lesbian wedding. WOW. My heart! There was so much love that consumed the SmogShoppe that evening. Friends and family came pouring in with smiles, hugs and tears… these two are clearly loved and in love. I am writing this blog a month after the wedding and I am proud to say that so much progress has been made in our country with the Supreme Court striking down DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act) and Prop 8 in California! Love wins. ALWAYS. Congrats Shannon & Seema. Love you guys! |
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I couldn't find the thread for Orange is the New Black
Big Boo Wasn't Originally Supposed To Be A Part Of 'Orange Is The New Black' (VIDEO)
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In case you're wondering if any dykes are having fun making silly videos, yes indeed I certainly am. I resist being "market" and prefer to be considered a threat to the status quo.
Here are some links to projects I'm currently working on (all still rough drafts). Trailer for a video about moving to Provincetown in 1987 as a baby butch. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmMX...ature=youtu.be A Retelling of the genesis story, but with a butch and femme as first humans. http://youtu.be/EX4rafGWn74 Please support non-mainstream artists!
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Also- please attend a LGBTQ+ film festival or two this summer.
Hollywood doesn't have good roles for women and queers generally becuase they say there "isn't a market." Let's show them there is!
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I'm cheering for "Fun Home" tonight to win some Tony awards!
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