06-23-2013, 06:27 PM | #181 |
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1. Honesty...all the time...all things..lack of trust is the root of all evil.
2. Respect....mutual respect is key... 3. Faithfulness....im not one for open relationships...i dont share. |
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06-23-2013, 08:15 PM | #182 |
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06-23-2013, 11:20 PM | #183 |
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its been a couple years since this thread started and I posted my 12 must non negotiables (I got carried away..lol)
alot has happened in those years. Mostly, I have been away from some sad and hurtful relationships that influenced my posts. And thankfully, I have been in a wonderful happy relationship. And am about to be married to this person. I have to say, being content in a relationships has made my list of non negotiables almost non existent. I mean, I wouldnt tolerate abuse of any kind, but I cant imagine being abused in any way by him. I wouldnt want to get cheated on, but I would have to examine why he cheated and realize it was a symptom, not a character trait. I cant imagine him cheating on me. I could imagine him asking for a more open relationship...perhaps even poly. And in the past that might have been a deal breaker but not with him. Not now in my life. Cleanliness is SO important. I gag over poor hygiene. But I dont worry about that with him. We meet each other's standards of hygiene very well. And when I have been sick, medically, with sugeries and looking my worst, he never flinched taking care of me and loving me. I am just not sure what the non negotiables would be with us. I know what they have been with others...my list could have been alot longer than 12...but then, it has been narrowed down to....well...none. its kinda nice not to have to put up defenses and stake out lines to be drawn... this is so smooth...
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06-24-2013, 01:10 AM | #184 |
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in order of importance:
1) sarky, playful sense of humour - doesn't take things too seriously 2) kinky, higher sex drive 3) consistent with feelings, moody is fine as long as it's not shot at me, but I can't deal with being really into me for three weeks then weirdly distance for a week, then really intense for two, then distant for nine days... does my head in. At least a "I'm tired and need to slip off radar for a bit, see you in a few days" would be good and no four texts messages, two emails and a phone call every day during the "intense" phase. I know WAY too many people like this. I am a magnet for it. Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 06-24-2013 at 01:13 AM. |
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1) Sense of humor a giant must!!!
2) Patience, im not always the easiest girl to deal with 3) Big boi physique! Im a big girl, don't wanna worry about hurting anyone |
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My seven non-negotiables in a relationship are:
I might edit later... but this is pretty solid for me.... |
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My three non-negotiables in a relationship!
One: Humor I like them funny.
Two: knowing who Dr Who is. If you arent a nerd then you aren't for me. Three: Loving my crazy family. My family means the world to me. You have to understand this and be willing to hear be bitch about them a lot. Four: You cannot be pro-life or be born again in a shape or form nor can you want Jeb Bush or any other Bush to be the next president. Oh that one is a big one for me. I like em nice and liberal! Five: If you and I were to ever have a kid. You do not in any way feel its normal to spank our kid. I had an ex that found it to be alright. Yeah and thats one of the many reason why hy is an ex. Six: Your ex is your ex. I DO NOT need to know every single bit about them. Yeah that one has also happened to me. |
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07-14-2013, 05:37 PM | #188 |
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3 plus one for me.
1. Emotional integrity.
2. Devoted to the process of evolving as a human being. 3. Has backbone. 4. Adventurous/S.E.X.Y.
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Be able to travel with me would be nice
Play with clay with me (and other artsy stuff ) Be silly with me .... have a silly sweet side please Well guess these are wishes ....... |
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While all the below are imperative, these two are the most important to any kind of human relationship with me:
(1)Trust. If you're a liar, or behave in a dishonourable way, or are given to meanness or sneak attacks, stay far away from me. (2)Respect. If you are disrespectful towards me, or if you're in the habit of doing things that would lead me to lose respect for you, stay far away from me. The other imperatives for a dating relationship, not in any order of importance are: (3)A safe playing, dominant, sadistic butch leather top with a high sex drive. (4)A butch who is either stone, or who will respect and be satisfied within my stonefemme boundaries. (5)Someone who has her own income and is living within her means. (6)Either a biker or motorcycle friendly. (7)Smart and funny. (8)Non-monogamous. (9)Not politically conservative. (10)Someone who is relatively local. She would have to live within a day's ride from NYC.
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Only 3??? Oh boy...this is going to be hard!
Non-negotiables aka 'deal-breakers' for me would be a lot more then 3 things, but I'll try...
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