What do you prefer to be called on the site?

Jesse · 09-02-2010, 11:10 AM

Just wondering...what do you prefer to be called on here? What would you rather people not call you?

For instance, I prefer to be called either Tranzman or Jesse.

On the other hand, I truly detest being called Tranzy, Tranzy Poo etc.

Don't do it!

SuperFemme · 09-02-2010, 11:15 AM

i don't care what you call me as long as you do it in front of my face and not behind my back.

Greyson · 09-02-2010, 11:15 AM

Greyson or Grey. One person refers to me as "Gayson." I find it offensive only because I suspect his use of it is queerphobic. I have no issue with my gender nor sexuality.

Corkey · 09-02-2010, 11:22 AM

Corkey or Cork are fine with me, but please leave the cutsey shit off the end. I'm not that kind of guy to be calling cutsie names, it may come back to bite one in the rear end. As my wife uses Corkey when she is ticked at me and needs the first middle and last names to grab my attention she is the only one allowed to do so. It's called boundaries, I haz them.

Arwen · 09-02-2010, 11:26 AM

Arwen. Ar.

My given name is Stephanie. That's what my mother and father named me. Some folks still prefer that over Arwen and that's okay.

Just do not shorten it to Stephie. I hate that with a passion. Steph I can handle but Stephie sends me right over the edge.

And, just so you know, I don't think it's cute to tease me about it. At all. One of my triggers and you will get a curt response. If you are lucky, I'll send it back channel.

Of course, darlin' is always good.

BullDog · 09-02-2010, 11:29 AM

BullDog, Bully or Jules. I also don't mind other terms of endearment when they are good natured.

As to my gender I am butch and/or butch woman. I do not use female identified butch- which I find to be very jargony and seems to be used because of male identified being used. So for those who prefer female identified butch that's fine and I will refer to you that way, but it does not refer to me.

betenoire · 09-02-2010, 11:31 AM

Really it depends on who it talking to me. Different people get to call me different things.

Brandy is always a safe bet. As is Potty. Bete works. Bête noire if you've got a bitchin' French accent.

Never Bran or Brand or Pots, thanks.

waxnrope · 09-02-2010, 11:31 AM

I chose a stupid site name, and now get called, "wax." As long as it is not ear ...
Also been called bastard, but that is reserved for special folk.
Just call me Terry, if you remember. Otherwise, whatever. It's only nether space after all.

betenoire · 09-02-2010, 11:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by waxnrope

I chose a stupid site name, and now get called, "wax." As long as it is not ear ...
Also been called bastard, but that is reserved for special folk.
Just call me Terry, if you remember. Otherwise, whatever. It's only nether space after all.

You can get Linus to change your screen name if you're not happy with the one you picked.

Leigh · 09-02-2010, 11:36 AM

Since this thread was created, I think its as good a time as any to mention what it is that we prefer to be called. I've used Braedon for a long while and thats what everyone online knows Me as, but since I will soon be transitioning I have chosen a permanent male name that I will change it to legally when I can afford it:

Matthew Alexander

Those who prefer Braedon can still call Me that, though I'd prefer Matthew or Matt if that can be arranged. Other then that, I'm all good as long as you don't call Me late for dinner

turasultana · 09-02-2010, 11:36 AM

i get turasultana, tura, tura tura.

all fine. Hey sultana is fine too.

Laura is my actual name. that's fine by me too. although if i don't know you and you say it, i'll probably totally forget that I posted it and be confused for a minute.

Soft*Silver · 09-02-2010, 11:37 AM

S works fine. Strappie was calling me Softie in the chat room which was a new one for me. Like Wax, it doesnt matter here. I prefer not to be called by my given or nick names on the site, unless its in private. A real transgression of boundaries happened on another site when my given and nicknames were used in public posts aimed at harrassing me. Its amazing how web bullies can find cyber ways to maim....

chefhmboyrd · 09-02-2010, 11:49 AM

chef
andy
king andy
baby boy
daddy

dumbass
asshole
asshat
dick
prick
fucker
billy's boy toy (jk)
any or all of the above

DapperButch · 09-02-2010, 11:49 AM

Dapper is fine by me.

Perhaps for those who want to be called by something other than their screen name, they can put it in their signature?

Just a thought...

dixie · 09-02-2010, 12:58 PM

Just about anything works for me, from my screen name to my real name to "hey you". Pet names or nicknames are good too, unless they just sound downright goofy or offensive.

My real name is Crystal, but hardly anybody uses that. Even my parents have called me "Jake" since birth, so it's all good. Or Chris, which I'm not a big fan of although I do allow one ex to call me that since she's never called me anything else. Oh, and my mom does have a habit of embarrassing me in public by calling me "Chrissy-poo". *shudder*

Most folks usually just call me "dixie" and that seems to work best for me.

MrSunshine calls me Dixie Crystal Sugar, but since he's my bestest buddy he gets away with it. Heaven forbid anyone else call me that.

MsTinkerbelly · 09-02-2010, 01:02 PM

Here I'm mostly called Tink, or occasionally Cindy by those that actually know me...at least to my face. LOL

My Spouse and Sister call me Cin (as did my Mom when she was alive), and my Mom used to call me Cindyrella Pumpernickel

Rarely am I ever called Cynthia, which is my name

WolfyOne · 09-02-2010, 01:11 PM

Here on the Planet, I suppose any name that catches my attention works
I've had people use my entire screen name, Wolfy, W1 (fishinabaggie started that *smiles*)
There are a few that know me and use the initial of my first name
I really won't get pissed online for what you call me,
but you better have a good running start if it's really nasty
should I ever meet you in person

And most know, it takes a lot to make me angry

theoddz · 09-02-2010, 01:16 PM

I go by, and everyone usually calls me "Theo", which is my legal and preferred name, amongst friends and family. I also get called "Adam" (my first name) with official stuff, including my union/work responsibilities/connections. That's okay, too, because I answer to both.

Occasionally, I get called "Mr. <surname>", but when that happens, I usually look around for my father.

~Theo~

miss entycing · 09-02-2010, 01:23 PM

it's usually Entycing, if we're interacting for the first time,
but after that, it's Deanna, which most folks call me-
cept Wolfy and a few others who still call me Ms E from way back in the day...
my mama calls me Dee, Damon calls me kitten,
and I roll with any of the above- I'm easy like that!

dark_crystal · 09-02-2010, 01:41 PM

lotsa people on the site call me Dark, Crystal, or DC. My scene name is jenny pigtails, which sometimes gets shortened to "pigtails." Plain ole Jenny also works. Or even Jennifer. But not Jennifer LYNNE (!) b/c that means you're my mom and i'm about to be grounded or something

09-02-2010, 11:10 AM	#1
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,793 Times in 3,939 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	What do you prefer to be called on the site? Just wondering...what do you prefer to be called on here? What would you rather people not call you? For instance, I prefer to be called either Tranzman or Jesse. On the other hand, I truly detest being called Tranzy, Tranzy Poo etc. Don't do it! __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

09-02-2010, 11:15 AM	#3
Greyson Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transmasculine/Non-Binary Preferred Pronoun?: Hy (Pronounced He) Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SF Bay Area Posts: 6,589 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,132 Thanked 8,165 Times in 2,007 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Greyson or Grey. One person refers to me as "Gayson." I find it offensive only because I suspect his use of it is queerphobic. I have no issue with my gender nor sexuality. __________________ Sometimes you don't realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness. - Susan Gale

09-02-2010, 11:22 AM	#4
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,299 Times in 6,640 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Corkey or Cork are fine with me, but please leave the cutsey shit off the end. I'm not that kind of guy to be calling cutsie names, it may come back to bite one in the rear end. As my wife uses Corkey when she is ticked at me and needs the first middle and last names to grab my attention she is the only one allowed to do so. It's called boundaries, I haz them. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

09-02-2010, 11:26 AM	#5
Arwen Joy Seeker How Do You Identify?: Smartly-Flavored Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Mrs. Syzygy 1/9/14 Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Joyville, NM (aka Land of Enchantment) Posts: 10,140 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,636 Thanked 28,131 Times in 6,414 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	Arwen. Ar. My given name is Stephanie. That's what my mother and father named me. Some folks still prefer that over Arwen and that's okay. Just do not shorten it to Stephie. I hate that with a passion. Steph I can handle but Stephie sends me right over the edge. And, just so you know, I don't think it's cute to tease me about it. At all. One of my triggers and you will get a curt response. If you are lucky, I'll send it back channel. Of course, darlin' is always good. __________________ I wrote a book, y'all! *FREE* Tarotscopes Seek Joy, y'all. Eschew hate. 9Words: A Poetry Challenge \| Do you like me?

09-02-2010, 11:29 AM	#6
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,783 Times in 4,470 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	BullDog, Bully or Jules. I also don't mind other terms of endearment when they are good natured. As to my gender I am butch and/or butch woman. I do not use female identified butch- which I find to be very jargony and seems to be used because of male identified being used. So for those who prefer female identified butch that's fine and I will refer to you that way, but it does not refer to me. __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

09-02-2010, 11:15 AM	#2
SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,109 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	i don't care what you call me as long as you do it in front of my face and not behind my back.

09-02-2010, 11:31 AM	#7
betenoire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Satan in a Sunday Hat Preferred Pronoun?: Maow Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: The Chemical Valley Posts: 4,086 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,312 Thanked 8,742 Times in 2,566 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Really it depends on who it talking to me. Different people get to call me different things. Brandy is always a safe bet. As is Potty. Bete works. Bête noire if you've got a bitchin' French accent. Never Bran or Brand or Pots, thanks. __________________ bête noire \bet-NWAHR\, noun: One that is particularly disliked or that is to be avoided.

09-02-2010, 11:31 AM	#8
waxnrope Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 5/27/2011 Preferred Pronoun?: hy ho, hy ho; he, she, it, whatever Relationship Status: Going slow ... Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: in her orifices ... la frontera Posts: 1,433 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,414 Thanked 2,958 Times in 953 Posts Rep Power: 0	I chose a stupid site name, and now get called, "wax." As long as it is not ear ... Also been called bastard, but that is reserved for special folk. Just call me Terry, if you remember. Otherwise, whatever. It's only nether space after all.

09-02-2010, 11:36 AM	#10
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,026 Times in 4,786 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Since this thread was created, I think its as good a time as any to mention what it is that we prefer to be called. I've used Braedon for a long while and thats what everyone online knows Me as, but since I will soon be transitioning I have chosen a permanent male name that I will change it to legally when I can afford it: Matthew Alexander Those who prefer Braedon can still call Me that, though I'd prefer Matthew or Matt if that can be arranged. Other then that, I'm all good as long as you don't call Me late for dinner

09-02-2010, 11:36 AM	#11
turasultana Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: spoken for Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: brooklyn Posts: 432 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 226 Thanked 715 Times in 250 Posts Rep Power: 2043784	i get turasultana, tura, tura tura. all fine. Hey sultana is fine too. Laura is my actual name. that's fine by me too. although if i don't know you and you say it, i'll probably totally forget that I posted it and be confused for a minute.

09-02-2010, 11:37 AM	#12
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,502 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,428 Thanked 15,620 Times in 3,976 Posts Rep Power*: 21474856	S works fine. Strappie was calling me Softie in the chat room which was a new one for me. Like Wax, it doesnt matter here. I prefer not to be called by my given or nick names on the site, unless its in private. A real transgression of boundaries happened on another site when my given and nicknames were used in public posts aimed at harrassing me. Its amazing how web bullies can find cyber ways to maim.... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

09-02-2010, 11:49 AM	#13
chefhmboyrd Senior Member How Do You Identify?: man Preferred Pronoun?: beef Relationship Status: Uncle Daddy Snap Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: nashvegas Posts: 1,606 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,411 Thanked 2,845 Times in 898 Posts Rep Power: 14057154	call me chef andy king andy baby boy daddy dumbass asshole asshat dick prick fucker billy's boy toy (jk) any or all of the above __________________ what's a cowboy got to do to get a drink around here?

09-02-2010, 11:49 AM	#14
DapperButch Roadster Guy How Do You Identify?: FTM, Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Northeast Posts: 7,745 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,545 Thanked 26,893 Times in 5,771 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Dapper is fine by me. Perhaps for those who want to be called by something other than their screen name, they can put it in their signature? Just a thought... __________________ -Dapper Are you educated or indoctrinated?

09-02-2010, 12:58 PM	#15
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,385 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Just about anything works for me, from my screen name to my real name to "hey you". Pet names or nicknames are good too, unless they just sound downright goofy or offensive. My real name is Crystal, but hardly anybody uses that. Even my parents have called me "Jake" since birth, so it's all good. Or Chris, which I'm not a big fan of although I do allow one ex to call me that since she's never called me anything else. Oh, and my mom does have a habit of embarrassing me in public by calling me "Chrissy-poo". shudder Most folks usually just call me "dixie" and that seems to work best for me. MrSunshine calls me Dixie Crystal Sugar, but since he's my bestest buddy he gets away with it. Heaven forbid anyone else call me that.

09-02-2010, 01:02 PM	#16
MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,958 Times in 5,020 Posts Rep Power: 0	Here I'm mostly called Tink, or occasionally Cindy by those that actually know me...at least to my face. LOL My Spouse and Sister call me Cin (as did my Mom when she was alive), and my Mom used to call me Cindyrella Pumpernickel Rarely am I ever called Cynthia, which is my name

09-02-2010, 01:11 PM	#17
WolfyOne Magically Delicious How Do You Identify?: Gentle Butch Relationship Status: Single and content Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 6,558 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,052 Thanked 15,407 Times in 4,139 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Here on the Planet, I suppose any name that catches my attention works I've had people use my entire screen name, Wolfy, W1 (fishinabaggie started that smiles) There are a few that know me and use the initial of my first name I really won't get pissed online for what you call me, but you better have a good running start if it's really nasty should I ever meet you in person And most know, it takes a lot to make me angry __________________ Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage --- Lao Tzo

09-02-2010, 01:16 PM	#18
theoddz Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Old Poop Preferred Pronoun?: Mr. Beast Relationship Status: Happily Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 3,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,793 Thanked 9,864 Times in 2,473 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I go by, and everyone usually calls me "Theo", which is my legal and preferred name, amongst friends and family. I also get called "Adam" (my first name) with official stuff, including my union/work responsibilities/connections. That's okay, too, because I answer to both. Occasionally, I get called "Mr. <surname>", but when that happens, I usually look around for my father. *~Theo~* __________________ *"All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."* -- J. R. R. Tolkien

09-02-2010, 01:23 PM	#19
miss entycing Senior Member How Do You Identify?: dangerous, but worth the risk. Preferred Pronoun?: just be nice.. it's that easy. Relationship Status: CapitalM's carved upon my skin. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: on the southern edge of sanity, under a carolina moon. Posts: 3,276 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,341 Thanked 8,262 Times in 2,255 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	great thread Jesse! it's usually Entycing, if we're interacting for the first time, but after that, it's Deanna, which most folks call me- cept Wolfy and a few others who still call me Ms E from way back in the day... my mama calls me Dee, Damon calls me kitten, and I roll with any of the above- I'm easy like that! __________________ True strength lies in submission which permits one to dedicate their life, through devotion, to something beyond themselves. Whenever someone awakens fully, it affects human consciousness at a collective level. It is like dropping a stone into a dark murky pond. Ripples of light... Not one word need be spoken.

09-02-2010, 01:41 PM	#20
dark_crystal Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: jenny Preferred Pronoun?: babygirl Relationship Status: First Lady of the United SMH Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Houston, Texas Posts: 5,445 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,532 Thanked 26,589 Times in 4,691 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	lotsa people on the site call me Dark, Crystal, or DC. My scene name is jenny pigtails, which sometimes gets shortened to "pigtails." Plain ole Jenny also works. Or even Jennifer. But not *Jennifer LYNNE* (!) b/c that means you're my mom and i'm about to be grounded or something __________________