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Banter and flirting
So, I am watching the West Wing and I love the banter and wit wrapped in the flirting scenes. I admit I am a week kneed Butch who is seduced by a Women's ability to use her brain to banter as a form of seduction
And you? is Banter a part of your flirting dance? If not is it a deal breaker? I'll start, yes it is a deal breaker for me I find I need that balance of quick wit intellect in a potential partner. Having had it and also not having had it.
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I prefer someone be just who they are in real life and be honest about it, that way I can see how they act, and if I find a trait that I don't care for, it could be a deal breaker for me.
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I like the banter and wit a lot. I like anyone who "gets" my often bizarre sense of humor.
Lots of things might be deal breakers but intelligence, wit, and willingness to tolerate my occasional weirdness tend to keep me interested.
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I like good banter. However I dont like show offs whose egoes are so inflated that they think everything they say deserves an applause or is a trophy of their intelligence. You get one or a few in every crowd..it ends up looking like this:
I like banter and wit to be seasoned with compassion and humanity...
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I prefer to call it "maintaining standards."
Banter, oh yes. Got. to. have. it.
I need the witty repartee. To be kept on my toes, challenged. Scint- & titillated. Keep me from becoming complacent. Play 20 questions with me, show me you're a smarty pants. I need it in my friends, too. I'm a demanding asshole that way. eta: "equal exchange banter" I like this. Reciprocity in all things. Except, well. Somethings.
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If it's bantering, I like the kind that makes me :yeah that:
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I am a fan of the banter-dance. Entice me, challenge me, make me laugh, voice your ideas, thoughts, opinions.....that is the ultimate foreplay. Attract my mind...and the body follows suit.
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i agree totally! Just last night i had a great chat with a BFguy friend of mine. Gosh he makes me laugh. i just love when someone is quick on the take and can challenge me to keep up. (not that i'm a slow chick - you should see me in action ) *freyja*--> in search of a mind-seducer. Any applicants? *grin* |
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To me, (<~~ & what that means is "The following is MY opinion.") there is nothing more dreary than to be in a conversation with someone who never says anything or says very little....I might as well be talking to a wall.
I have to have the banter....I have to have the verbal 'sparring' (I don't mean fighting)....challenge me/let me challenge YOU, I have to have the back~&~forth of idea~bouncing.....it's intelligent, it makes me think, it excites me and delights me and it turns me on on SO many levels......... Be milk~toast if You wish, but don't climb into my bowl, thanks! |
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that made me laugh out loud
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For me, words and the way one's mind works is just as potent a part of the flirting and mating ritual as the actual movements of the body. I can't have one without the other. There has to be a carnal, physical connection but if the mental processes aren't clicking, then it's going nowhere fast. It works the same the other way too. I can have all the witty banter and flirtatious nothings whispered in my ear, but if I'm not attracted physically to them and they are not showing me that they are physically attracted to me, it's off. No Donkey Kong will be played that night or with that person. |
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This is SO VERY true for me, also. It's always the smartass that catches my attention, and also gets me into BIG trouble! Lawdy, the stories I could tell! But, yup, if they can't give it AND take it, they can just keep on walkin!!!
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Wit is a MUST if you want to catch my attention
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God yes...
There a few things sexier than a sharp mind - and good banter and skilled flirting are a sure sign of one!
I LIKE suggestive innuendo and good flirting. I love it when someone brings their A game to a conversation, an email, even a text. The more creative, the better... Plus, if anyone's really that good, chances are they'll have an opportunity to back it up in person. |
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