Age... an issue?

proximitywithoutintimacy · 03-15-2011, 06:58 PM

When is it an issue, and when is it not?

For me, I've experienced it being an issue, in the sense that when a girl is too young, it's best she stick to people around her age bracket because the maturity level is just not where it needs to be.

For example, I recently became a bit entangled with a friend who's 19... and I realised, you know, I'm 24 - it's just not going to work..

Thoughts? Experiences?

wolfbittenpoet · 03-15-2011, 07:04 PM

It's not the age it's the maturity level at least for me. I'm a young guy. Even more when I first came into myself and this site. But mostly I've been told I am overly mature for my age. No one I have ever loved is ever my age or even close. Right now I count myself lucky if there is only a ten year difference.
But then again I'm the younger one.

Oiler41 · 03-15-2011, 07:30 PM

To me, from the perspective of being nearly 50 years old, age doesn't seem to matter so much when you are young; however, there are issues that can be a simple as very different taste in music that seem small initially, but can show the age gap. One of you wants to go to a rap concert, the other wants to go see a classic rock band.

But more importantly, it matters as you get older. I was once with someone ten years my junior; she was certainly less mature, had younger life experiences and had yet to discover things I already knew; it is true that some things only come with age. In a situation like this, when I am 65 and ready to retire, she would have still had ten years to work to get to retirement; by then, I would be 75 and would have missed ten years worth of opportunities to do things and go places in my prime retirement years, unless I wanted to go and do things alone. Not exactly the best plan for those golden years.

I married someone my age; best thing I ever did! We have similar life experiences since we grew up in the same time frame. Although we grew up in different circumstances, there are still many similarities that only exist because we grew up during the same time frame. When I was in my 20's, my 30's and even into my early 40's I kept saying it didn't matter, but I knew in the back of my mind the age gap was going to be an issue, but the closer I was getting to 50, the more clear it was becoming.

I vote yes, it is an issue and will be more of an issue in later years. Just my 2 cents.

Glynn

Bella~Vita · 03-15-2011, 07:42 PM

[QUOTE=Oiler41;302029]To me, from the perspective of being nearly 50 years old, age doesn't seem to matter so much when you are young; however, there are issues that can be a simple as very different taste in music that seem small initially, but can show the age gap. One of you wants to go to a rap concert, the other wants to go see a classic rock band.

But more importantly, it matters as you get older. I was once with someone ten years my junior; she was certainly less mature, had younger life experiences and had yet to discover things I already knew; it is true that some things only come with age. In a situation like this, when I am 65 and ready to retire, she would have still had ten years to work to get to retirement; by then, I would be 75 and would have missed ten years worth of opportunities to do things and go places in my prime retirement years, unless I wanted to go and do things alone. Not exactly the best plan for those golden years.

I married someone my age; best thing I ever did! We have similar life experiences since we grew up in the same time frame. Although we grew up in different circumstances, there are still many similarities that only exist because we grew up during the same time frame. When I was in my 20's, my 30's and even into my early 40's I kept saying it didn't matter, but I knew in the back of my mind the age gap was going to be an issue, but the closer I was getting to 50, the more clear it was becoming.

I vote yes, it is an issue and will be more of an issue in later years. Just my 2 cents.

Glynn[/QUOTE

Spot on

The_Lady_Snow · 03-15-2011, 07:47 PM

I have a rule. Don't date anyone close to the kids age or below.

That's just for *me'*

Pixie · 03-15-2011, 09:27 PM

For me its about character and how a person holds themselves. I have yet to be with anyone my age because they don't see or handle life in the manner I do. I know that I am younger and I have life to live, but I also know that I am beyond my physical years and wish to be with someone that compliments that.

I believe its truly beyond numbers, because I have met some who are higher in age and younger in all other aspects.

Just my .02

Guy · 03-19-2011, 09:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I have a rule. Don't date anyone close to the kids age or below.

That's just for *me'*

I agree. I don't have kids, so no rules.

If we click we click at whatever age, just go with it. It's all about the person, not their age.

Glenn · 03-19-2011, 09:13 PM

ahhh-the memories.
I wish I were 24 again.
You will be fine, Girl.

Quote:

Originally Posted by proximitywithoutintimacy

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For example, I recently became a bit entangled with a friend who's 19... and I realised, you know, I'm 24 - it's just not going to work..

Thoughts? Experiences?

MissPriss · 04-30-2011, 10:15 PM

I find that if I date someone my age or even close, that we have nothing in common! For me it is at least a 10yr age difference. Ive always been told Im an old soul and beyond my years. I guess it just depends on what you like to get out of a relationship really.

Stitch · 05-12-2011, 04:30 AM

I think age is an issue for me.
I have never dated anyone older than me like ever I don't think. Not by more than a couple years.
I think older femmes just intimidate me. lol

asphaltcowboi · 05-12-2011, 05:19 AM

i think
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had
And what you've learned from them and less to do with

how many birthdays you've celebrated.

nellsbells · 11-07-2013, 04:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by asphaltcowboi

i think
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had
And what you've learned from them and less to do with

how many birthdays you've celebrated.

Agreed.
I've never slept with, let alone dated anyone remotely near my age. Always older. Being only recently a legal adult, this of course resulted in a lot of concern from my mother who insisted I was being "taken advantage of". But I've been with my lady on and off for 2 years now, with a sixteen year age gap. At sixteen, she was literally twice my age. Ha!

It's hard though, to determine. Definitely case by case. The I wouldn't trust most of the dipshits I went to high school with to not make mistakes with their bodies and feelings. Most of them couldn't remember their own phone numbers.

imperfect_cupcake · 11-07-2013, 04:30 PM

I've always been with older, since I was 14. I had older girlfriends/boyfriends and sexual "fun" partners (I was bi) by 3-6 years until I was bout 24.

Then it broke into two categories. sex and fun, age doesn't matter but no one under 19.
Depending entirely on their maturity level. Sex is sex and should be enjoyed purely for it's own sake. And with that, there is no age limit aside from consenting adult. I have had sex with 19 (when I was 35) and 70 (right before I met my exwife)

I am not exactly the most mature person in the world. I may be world weary beyond 157, and been around 9 squillion different blocks, but I'm not all that... security driven.

I love it when someone shows off for me. I have since I was about 8. I love it when they get a bit cocky. I love it when they make an ass of themselves to make me laugh. In short, I like someone popping wheelies on their bike and then wiping out and laughing at themselves.

I had a 48 year old boydyke half naked and wrapped in saran wrap wearing a motorcycle helmet and gyrating around in front of a paint of a moon yelling "I'm a space man!!!" to make me laugh cause I was sad.

So, I'm really not all that mature. I don't really desire a mortgage. I am not sure if I'll still be living in vancouver in three years. I like playing truth or dare. I love it when someone climbs a tree for me. I like beer. I like cocktails. I like museums. I love being dapper. I love road trips.

so... my age range is 35 - 55. I'm 44. But within that is their maturity and experience levels. I like same as me: High levels of experience, low levels of maturity. I love *playfulness* but I hate naivety.

I seem to have the most fun with dykes in their late 40's and early 50's. They are more likely to look in my direction with some understanding of "fun casual sex" or "fully committed life partner"
the ones younger than me, in their late 30's (in my area) only know semi commited relationships. (read: not a life partner and not uncommitted sex) where people live together for 3 years and them move out.

*nightmare*

so I have a bit of a fear of 30 something dykes in vancouver.

03-15-2011, 06:58 PM	#1
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03-15-2011, 07:42 PM	#4
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wolfbittenpoet Member How Do You Identify?: Typewriter Boy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: FL Posts: 534 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 891 Thanked 1,578 Times in 402 Posts Rep Power: 7303676	It's not the age it's the maturity level at least for me. I'm a young guy. Even more when I first came into myself and this site. But mostly I've been told I am overly mature for my age. No one I have ever loved is ever my age or even close. Right now I count myself lucky if there is only a ten year difference. But then again I'm the younger one.

03-15-2011, 07:30 PM	#3
Oiler41 Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him Relationship Status: Happily Single! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nunya Posts: 1,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,355 Thanked 2,574 Times in 790 Posts Rep Power: 18276166	To me, from the perspective of being nearly 50 years old, age doesn't seem to matter so much when you are young; however, there are issues that can be a simple as very different taste in music that seem small initially, but can show the age gap. One of you wants to go to a rap concert, the other wants to go see a classic rock band. But more importantly, it matters as you get older. I was once with someone ten years my junior; she was certainly less mature, had younger life experiences and had yet to discover things I already knew; it is true that some things only come with age. In a situation like this, when I am 65 and ready to retire, she would have still had ten years to work to get to retirement; by then, I would be 75 and would have missed ten years worth of opportunities to do things and go places in my prime retirement years, unless I wanted to go and do things alone. Not exactly the best plan for those golden years. I married someone my age; best thing I ever did! We have similar life experiences since we grew up in the same time frame. Although we grew up in different circumstances, there are still many similarities that only exist because we grew up during the same time frame. When I was in my 20's, my 30's and even into my early 40's I kept saying it didn't matter, but I knew in the back of my mind the age gap was going to be an issue, but the closer I was getting to 50, the more clear it was becoming. I vote yes, it is an issue and will be more of an issue in later years. Just my 2 cents. Glynn

05-12-2011, 04:30 AM	#10
Stitch Member How Do You Identify?: Sweetest Soft Butch you don't know yet Preferred Pronoun?: She, Hy, Relationship Status: Solo Artist Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Vancouver, Canada Posts: 191 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16 Thanked 305 Times in 111 Posts Rep Power: 2008423	I think age is an issue for me. I have never dated anyone older than me like ever I don't think. Not by more than a couple years. I think older femmes just intimidate me. lol

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asphaltcowboi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Relationship Status: HAPPY Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: ..... Posts: 1,509 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,367 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,042 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	i think That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had And what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated. __________________

11-07-2013, 04:30 PM	#13
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,726 Times in 1,613 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I've always been with older, since I was 14. I had older girlfriends/boyfriends and sexual "fun" partners (I was bi) by 3-6 years until I was bout 24. Then it broke into two categories. sex and fun, age doesn't matter but no one under 19. Depending entirely on their maturity level. Sex is sex and should be enjoyed purely for it's own sake. And with that, there is no age limit aside from consenting adult. I have had sex with 19 (when I was 35) and 70 (right before I met my exwife) I am not exactly the most mature person in the world. I may be world weary beyond 157, and been around 9 squillion different blocks, but I'm not all that... security driven. I love it when someone shows off for me. I have since I was about 8. I love it when they get a bit cocky. I love it when they make an ass of themselves to make me laugh. In short, I like someone popping wheelies on their bike and then wiping out and laughing at themselves. I had a 48 year old boydyke half naked and wrapped in saran wrap wearing a motorcycle helmet and gyrating around in front of a paint of a moon yelling "I'm a space man!!!" to make me laugh cause I was sad. So, I'm really not all that mature. I don't really desire a mortgage. I am not sure if I'll still be living in vancouver in three years. I like playing truth or dare. I love it when someone climbs a tree for me. I like beer. I like cocktails. I like museums. I love being dapper. I love road trips. so... my age range is 35 - 55. I'm 44. But within that is their maturity and experience levels. I like same as me: High levels of experience, low levels of maturity. I love playfulness but I hate naivety. I seem to have the most fun with dykes in their late 40's and early 50's. They are more likely to look in my direction with some understanding of "fun casual sex" or "fully committed life partner" the ones younger than me, in their late 30's (in my area) only know semi commited relationships. (read: not a life partner and not uncommitted sex) where people live together for 3 years and them move out. nightmare so I have a bit of a fear of 30 something dykes in vancouver.