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I don't really know how to say this, but I've been considering whether or not I'm gay or bi, or if my attractions to guys are purely platonic. I can notice a good-looking dude, but part of me isn't sure if I like him, want to be him, or if it's just one of those things where I just notice good-looking people. I don't imagine myself with guys in any way, nor do I imagine myself sleeping with them.
The one piece of advice I have gotten a while ago, was from a person who said (not in these words, but) the best way to know of an attraction is to experiment, essentially. I can imagine myself with women, and pleasing a woman, but I just can't do the same with men. When I try and imagine myself with a man, it just doesn't feel right. Then again, I don't know if it's just the stereotypes around men and women that I don't like. I feel like I answered my own question, but I do want to know if other people also experience platonic feelings for the opposite sex. |
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speaking for myself only ~ I like men as friends.. They can be handsome or not or just a really nice person ~ I don't want to sleep w/ them or seduce them ~ I am a very femme woman and of course men are very attracted to me ~ it's just not a mutual feeling I have ~ I've always been attracted to masculinity in a woman only .. ender you can be appreciate a mans looks and their personality ~ but who ( female or male ) u fall in love with defines if your gay or straight ~ if u can fall in love w/ both sexes ~ hell go for it lol enjoy life ~ live life ~ don't be so worried about having a partner like who you are first ~ life is fun . I don't agree with the saying I need someone to complete me ~ no one can complete u ~ those relationships are just a hair away of a break up ~ self love then share who you are ~ personally I could never be attracted to someone who didn't like themselves enough to be strong on their own . Don't think so hard ,live life !!
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there has to be a support group for questioning bisexuals ~ even on line there is ~ if u have to try and it don't come natural then that's a hint !
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I can appreciate an attractive person, and definitely do, regardless of their gender or sexuality. It doesn't mean that I want to be bedded by them. Sometimes I just like their swag.
If you notice an attractive man but don't feel sexually drawn to them, then that's your answer. You are just appreciative of their attractiveness, be it physical, emotional or just their vibe. For me, there's no need to try to push the envelope or put my acknowledgement of their attractiveness under a microscope. If I don't feel something, it's not real. If I do, it is. Life is complicated enough so I try not to second guess my feelings or find any secret meanings in them and I don't try to force something that isn't there.
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I had this discussion with my daughter a few years ago, she wasn't sure if she was a lesbian, bi or just curious. I told her the label doesn't matter, and should never be to focus. To some extent, fall in love with your eyes closed, fall in love with someone for who they truly are on the inside, because really all those other things fade and gender shouldn't be part of the decision process. And you are allowed to be wrong, and you are allowed to change your mind, very important. We only get this one life, live it like it's yours! Doesn't matter what other people think or want for you, because if they are friends~~~ then your happy heart will be their goal too.
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Interesting topic.
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I have an extended family friend, he is a bio male, married for a long time. He is older than me, softly spoken, intense eyes with a gentle gaze and has a type of under stated, protective, Daddy energy about him, he is old school, well mannered and attentive. I feel very at ease in his company, he is both charming and engaging and I am very fond of him. Some years ago I momentarily pondered if I was attracted to him but instantly knew I wasn't as the mere thought of any intimacy with him flipped the off button for me. I realised it wasn't him I was drawn to but the traits that he possesses that I find attractive. They are all traits I have truly seldom found clustered together in a bio guy and yet often found in Butches.
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I have many cis male friends in real life, there is no attraction to them whatsoever, it is definitely a buddy deal.
I also have platonic friendships with the ladies, however my circle is very close knit and "my people" know I don't go after every lady I look at or am attracted to every lady I look at. So yes you can have platonic friendships with men even if you see an attraction which may be attributes you may like in a partner. |
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