Grieving - Page 5

04-08-2010, 09:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Spirit Dancer

Today my father took his last walk along the red road, he's now at peace;
In a better place so they say, but grief consumes those left behind,
even when we expect it, there's never a preparation for good bye.
Pain sears and tears blind, grief... there is no time limit for when it ends.
RIP Dad

My Dearest Spirit Dancer!
My heart aches for you. May you be wrapped in love, strength and comfort as you walk this most difficult path. Thinking of you and always here if you need anything...

Thinking of you!
Angel~

Passionaria · 04-08-2010, 09:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Spirit Dancer

Today my father took his last walk along the red road, he's now at peace;
In a better place so they say, but grief consumes those left behind,
even when we expect it, there's never a preparation for good bye.
Pain sears and tears blind, grief... there is no time limit for when it ends.
RIP Dad

My heart goes out to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you all be surrounded with much love and support. This song is to honor of your DAD. Pashi

Spirit Dancer · 04-09-2010, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by WolfyOne

I've never been to this thread, but saw your post my friend. I've come to support you. When you need someone to lean on, I'm as close as a call. I feel your pain because I understand it. I'm just sorry that I'm not closer to you in your time of need.

Today this one is especially for you

Thank you very much Wolfy, for friendship and an ear, it's appreciated always.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tommi

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Sending shade and lemonade under a big tree. Hoping the sunshine kisses your cheek, the winds of time carry away the pain, and loved ones hold you close

Tommi, As always thank you, yes in time....all things are suppose to be better. My friend thank you.

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Originally Posted by angelswhisper

My Dearest Spirit Dancer!
My heart aches for you. May you be wrapped in love, strength and comfort as you walk this most difficult path. Thinking of you and always here if you need anything...

Thinking of you!
Angel~

Angel, Thank you for the kind words, they speak volumes.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Passionaria

My heart goes out to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you all be surrounded with much love and support. This song is to honor of your DAD. Pashi

Pashi~ what a beautiful video, my guess is there's a smile on his face. My friend you are so very special

Andrew, Jr. · 04-11-2010, 06:44 PM

There is a camp for kids (ages 6 - 17) called Camp Erin. There are 36 camps in 23 states. Look it up online under the name.

Peace & Love to all,
Andrew

Spirit Dancer · 04-17-2010, 06:50 AM

For many reasons I sit and post this today, but the main one being there is no time limit on ones grief. Today is the day we lay my father to rest, it's been difficult this past week and the closer I got to leaving the harder it become to deal with the over whelming feelings I was facing. In the same time it would seem some thought me distant and off of the normal path.
Why can't it be that my head space isn't where others deem I need to be, why can I not just grief without judgement.
Not everyone grieves the same way, I shut down always have and proably always will, especially with those who do not know me. Life is not fair and no two are alike, just wishing there was more compassion and less judging when it comes to grieving.

Blessings,
Spirit

diamondrose · 04-17-2010, 07:02 AM

Much Support Spirit.

Sybelle · 04-17-2010, 08:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Spirit Dancer

Today my father took his last walk along the red road, he's now at peace;
In a better place so they say, but grief consumes those left behind,
even when we expect it, there's never a preparation for good bye.
Pain sears and tears blind, grief... there is no time limit for when it ends.
RIP Dad

So sorry for your loss. Hope today goes ok for you and yours. Many hugs!

Andrew, Jr. · 04-17-2010, 11:46 AM

Grief has no time limit. And there is not a thing anyone can say or do to take the pain away. Nothing. In fact, it is paralyzing at times. Some people take it with a grain of salt, and others it is like waves crashing on a beach.

I am still grief stricken over the loss of my sister, Jo. She was such a beautiful woman, inside and out. Her husband took down the Caringbridge Website. Thank God. If he didn't it would be me, and his sons going there on a daily basis.
For now we have the disk that was used for her viewing. I am hoping to be able to put that away one day...when I am ready to do so.

The one thing I cannot stand is when someone says something rude or stupid to me like "it was her time" or "get over it" or "move on - she's gone". UGH! I hate it when people say that. They have no clue.

Yes, I know Jo is in Heaven. Yes, I know Jo has recovered fully from her disease. Yes, this is my hope for her, but I miss her. My heart is crushed. That is just how it is. One day we will be reunited. It is my faith, and belief. I just ask people not to take that from me. It gives me hope.

Namaste,
Andrew

Tommi · 04-17-2010, 12:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Spirit Dancer

For many reasons I sit and post this today, but the main one being there is no time limit on ones grief. Today is the day we lay my father to rest, .....

.....why can I not just grief without judgement?

..... just wishing there was more compassion and less judging when it comes to grieving.

Blessings,
Spirit

Sending a caravan of compassion...without judgement, for you yo take as needed, as often or not as you deem fit.

For my fathers funeral I had the casket spray sent from a florist with card reading.

"May we all now rest in peace._

His child.

Take tears as the cleansing purging of you own needs, and enrich the earth SpiritDancer.

Best regards,

Tommi

Sybelle · 04-18-2010, 09:04 PM

Yesterday was bittersweet. A good day overall. Just - the little things you miss.

Dad would call me in the morning to sing "Happy Birthday". Started it after I left home and continued up until the year of his passing in 2008.

Tommi · 04-26-2010, 06:39 PM

We adopted Dusty, the gregarious male long hair black kitten 13 years ago on May 15.My Ex is flying home from work tonight, to be with him during his final days. Dusty wants to say goodbye soon. His jaw cancer has taken it's toll and it is time.

We will take him for his final ride this week, and grieve another loss. She will be inconsolable and I know it. We lost his younger brother in Dec. to bowel cancer. I worry about her, and her never ending grief.

I watched the movie "You Don't Know Jack" and realized how fortunate pets are.

waxnrope · 04-28-2010, 06:32 AM

I grieve, yet death has not yet come. I do not know if I can stand it when it does. The last of my blood, separated in childhood, found in youth, and to be lost once again.

redrose · 04-28-2010, 06:55 AM

my father died last June, 2009 (the best father we could ever have)
my butch died last August, 2009 (the meaning of my life,,, my first & my last)
- me and my butch were together for 15years -

,,, am still crying every night ,,,

JustBeingMe · 04-28-2010, 11:23 AM

To all of you that are grieving and have already grieved, may you be blessed.
Me, I still haven't been able to grieve my dad's death in Jan. I just have too much crap going on in life to be able to do that right now. UGH

Andrew, Jr. · 04-28-2010, 11:40 AM

Justbeingme,

Grief has no time table. You will grieve when it is time.

Tommi,

I am lifting you up in prayer.

Redrose,

I am so very sorry for your losses. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sybelle and Waxnrope,

I am so sorry. Thank you for participating in this thread. It is a great comfort to have you here.

I lost my younger brother to suicide over 32+ years ago. The anniversary of his death comes and goes. Life goes on. I find it strange some days. I know that there isn't a day that passes when I don't think of him. Suicide is just very different in and of itself.

I wish everyone here peace.

Andrew

Jedi · 04-29-2010, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Spirit Dancer

For many reasons I sit and post this today, but the main one being there is no time limit on ones grief. Today is the day we lay my father to rest, it's been difficult this past week and the closer I got to leaving the harder it become to deal with the over whelming feelings I was facing. In the same time it would seem some thought me distant and off of the normal path.
Why can't it be that my head space isn't where others deem I need to be, why can I not just grief without judgement.
Not everyone grieves the same way, I shut down always have and proably always will, especially with those who do not know me. Life is not fair and no two are alike, just wishing there was more compassion and less judging when it comes to grieving.

Blessings,
Spirit

Spirit,

When my mother passed I was too young to have the appropriate words or response to know how to verbalize the loss of a parent. Just know in your heart that I can relate and I know what you are feeling and that all is ok to have and feel.

Namaste,

Jedi

Andrew, Jr. · 04-30-2010, 09:46 AM

Spirit Dancer,

I understand what you mean about the lack of compassion and judgement on those who are grieving. For me when my sister died, I got remarks like "get over it" or "it was her time to die". Now when my younger brother committed suicide, people just did not know what to say. I often heard things like "he wasn't happy here" or that "he is happy now". I just shake my head. The ups and downs of grief and then the emotional tugs is overwhelming. All I can say is that nobody is free from death. Everyone will experience it one day. Some sooner than others. When the shoe is on the other foot, then we will see what happens.

Just remember that grief has no time limit.

Love and peace,
Andrew

Butterbean · 05-01-2010, 02:09 AM

Mom & Dad, I love and miss you both so much...

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Bella~Vita · 05-28-2010, 10:19 AM

Dear "Mom"

Today is 2 yrs. since you went on your journey. I miss you so much. I know you're watching over me. There is never a day that goes by that you're not on my mind.

We didn't always agree on everything but some how those issues do not matter anymore. What's important to me is that you knew how much "I love you" and I knew I was loved as well.

Your memory keeps me grounded so your job was well done ... "Thank you Mom" ... for believing in me when I didn't believe in myself and for loving me regardless of our differences. I know and believe in my Heart .. we will see each other again. Please have some homemade cookies baked when I get there... I love you !!

~ Karen ~

MsTinkerbelly · 05-28-2010, 12:44 PM

My Father passed away suddenly of a heart attack in 2000, and my beloved Grandfather 6 wks later. In November 2009 my Grandmother went to join them, and my Mother....my often imperfect, but always loving Mother passed this last Saturday the 22nd.

I have missed my Father and Grandfather every day since they left, but over time it became a warm glow I carried around with me everywhere I went. I honestly can't say if I will survive the latest loss....I know in my head I have to be here for my daughter and spouse, but the grief, the unending pain in my soul.....

04-11-2010, 06:44 PM	#84
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Children and Grieving There is a camp for kids (ages 6 - 17) called Camp Erin. There are 36 camps in 23 states. Look it up online under the name. Peace & Love to all, Andrew

04-17-2010, 06:50 AM	#85
Spirit Dancer Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Complex but Tender Preferred Pronoun?: ~Ma`am~ Relationship Status: Shotgun Rider Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Following the red road Posts: 4,519 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,304 Thanked 12,951 Times in 3,466 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	For many reasons I sit and post this today, but the main one being there is no time limit on ones grief. Today is the day we lay my father to rest, it's been difficult this past week and the closer I got to leaving the harder it become to deal with the over whelming feelings I was facing. In the same time it would seem some thought me distant and off of the normal path. Why can't it be that my head space isn't where others deem I need to be, why can I not just grief without judgement. Not everyone grieves the same way, I shut down always have and proably always will, especially with those who do not know me. Life is not fair and no two are alike, just wishing there was more compassion and less judging when it comes to grieving. Blessings, Spirit __________________ “For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.” Judy Garland

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Sybelle Member How Do You Identify?: see Scota_Parisi Preferred Pronoun?: see Scota_Parisi Relationship Status: see Scota_Parisi Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: see Scota_Parisi Posts: 264 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 384 Thanked 290 Times in 140 Posts Rep Power: 55	Yesterday was bittersweet. A good day overall. Just - the little things you miss. Dad would call me in the morning to sing "Happy Birthday". Started it after I left home and continued up until the year of his passing in 2008. __________________ "Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius -- and a lot of courage -- to move in the opposite direction." - Albert Einstein

04-26-2010, 06:39 PM	#91
Tommi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Usually "Hello" Relationship Status: Married and Bound to Tommi's kaijira (Ts_kaijira ) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Suthun.... California that is. Across the ridge from Laguna Beach. Posts: 8,151 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,621 Thanked 21,337 Times in 5,968 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Almost 13. We adopted Dusty, the gregarious male long hair black kitten 13 years ago on May 15.My Ex is flying home from work tonight, to be with him during his final days. Dusty wants to say goodbye soon. His jaw cancer has taken it's toll and it is time. We will take him for his final ride this week, and grieve another loss. She will be inconsolable and I know it. We lost his younger brother in Dec. to bowel cancer. I worry about her, and her never ending grief. I watched the movie "You Don't Know Jack" and realized how fortunate pets are.

04-28-2010, 06:55 AM	#93
redrose Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: at peace Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Philippines Posts: 291 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 62 Thanked 251 Times in 122 Posts Rep Power: 276023	my father died last June, 2009 (the best father we could ever have) my butch died last August, 2009 (the meaning of my life,,, my first & my last) - me and my butch were together for 15years - ,,, am still crying every night ,,, __________________ ... death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal ... http://youtu.be/N0SgLJEtaok

04-17-2010, 07:02 AM	#86
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04-17-2010, 11:46 AM	#88
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Grief has no time limit. And there is not a thing anyone can say or do to take the pain away. Nothing. In fact, it is paralyzing at times. Some people take it with a grain of salt, and others it is like waves crashing on a beach. I am still grief stricken over the loss of my sister, Jo. She was such a beautiful woman, inside and out. Her husband took down the Caringbridge Website. Thank God. If he didn't it would be me, and his sons going there on a daily basis. For now we have the disk that was used for her viewing. I am hoping to be able to put that away one day...when I am ready to do so. The one thing I cannot stand is when someone says something rude or stupid to me like "it was her time" or "get over it" or "move on - she's gone". UGH! I hate it when people say that. They have no clue. Yes, I know Jo is in Heaven. Yes, I know Jo has recovered fully from her disease. Yes, this is my hope for her, but I miss her. My heart is crushed. That is just how it is. One day we will be reunited. It is my faith, and belief. I just ask people not to take that from me. It gives me hope. Namaste, Andrew

04-28-2010, 06:32 AM	#92
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04-28-2010, 11:23 AM	#94
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04-28-2010, 11:40 AM	#95
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Justbeingme, Grief has no time table. You will grieve when it is time. Tommi, I am lifting you up in prayer. Redrose, I am so very sorry for your losses. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Sybelle and Waxnrope, I am so sorry. Thank you for participating in this thread. It is a great comfort to have you here. I lost my younger brother to suicide over 32+ years ago. The anniversary of his death comes and goes. Life goes on. I find it strange some days. I know that there isn't a day that passes when I don't think of him. Suicide is just very different in and of itself. I wish everyone here peace. Andrew

04-30-2010, 09:46 AM	#97
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Spirit Dancer, I understand what you mean about the lack of compassion and judgement on those who are grieving. For me when my sister died, I got remarks like "get over it" or "it was her time to die". Now when my younger brother committed suicide, people just did not know what to say. I often heard things like "he wasn't happy here" or that "he is happy now". I just shake my head. The ups and downs of grief and then the emotional tugs is overwhelming. All I can say is that nobody is free from death. Everyone will experience it one day. Some sooner than others. When the shoe is on the other foot, then we will see what happens. Just remember that grief has no time limit. Love and peace, Andrew

05-01-2010, 02:09 AM	#98
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05-28-2010, 10:19 AM	#99
Bella~Vita Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: where salt is used for Margaritas not Snow Posts: 891 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,049 Thanked 1,322 Times in 443 Posts Rep Power: 7157595	Dear "Mom" Today is 2 yrs. since you went on your journey. I miss you so much. I know you're watching over me. There is never a day that goes by that you're not on my mind. We didn't always agree on everything but some how those issues do not matter anymore. What's important to me is that you knew how much "I love you" and I knew I was loved as well. Your memory keeps me grounded so your job was well done ... "Thank you Mom" ... for believing in me when I didn't believe in myself and for loving me regardless of our differences. I know and believe in my Heart .. we will see each other again. Please have some homemade cookies baked when I get there... I love you !! ~ Karen ~

05-28-2010, 12:44 PM	#100
MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,958 Times in 5,020 Posts Rep Power: 0	My Father passed away suddenly of a heart attack in 2000, and my beloved Grandfather 6 wks later. In November 2009 my Grandmother went to join them, and my Mother....my often imperfect, but always loving Mother passed this last Saturday the 22nd. I have missed my Father and Grandfather every day since they left, but over time it became a warm glow I carried around with me everywhere I went. I honestly can't say if I will survive the latest loss....I know in my head I have to be here for my daughter and spouse, but the grief, the unending pain in my soul.....