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Breeder and other words we use to hurt our own.
I was a little upset today by seeing the word "Breeder" used in a thread.
I find the word Breeder when used in reference to ANY woman vulgar and offensive. It reduces a woman (once again) to her reproductive organs. What I cannot understand is why in the Queer Community it is used as a descriptor of women that have had children. It's kind of like using the "Gold Star Lesbian" thing. As if those of us that were in relationships with bio-men are some how a less desirable grade of Queer than those that were not. When somebody uses that term about me it makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up. My path to self acceptance may have been longer than the next girls, but that doesn't make me a receptacle for sperm. I am not an animal, and have never EVER been *bred*. Why do we do this to each other? How do you feel about that word? |
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I don't like it, it's degrading, it's mean, it's ugly and it makes is sound that if we chose to give birth to our children that we have no more value than some form of cattle...
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I will weigh in... which I usually do not do. However, I have to say I detest the word "breeder" and agree that it is degrading and when it is used it is as though a woman who has had children is some form of animal and has just been bred only to be led to pasture. We are all here by a man's sperm. I do not feel that My Mom "bred" Me.
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I agree with you it's disgusting and rude, what if their mother was called a breeder? I love my children and am no less part of this community because I had a child.If it weren't for those who give birth the cycle of life ends.
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Why IS it that people continue to use this word? I am sad that we would devalue WOMEN in a Queer Community.
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His opinion is, there are those whom are no longer connected to moral feelings about each other, and if someone called me or his wife a breeder, they would answer to his brand of respect. Thank goodness for Sons
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If this is true, I wonder what the percentages are. This could explain a lot of behavior in the world. The isms and such. I wonder if there is a remedy?
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I believe that people will say what they want to say and use terms they want to use. However, when another person makes it KNOWN that is bothers them in some way .. or they find it hurtful... then perhaps the one using the term should at the very least .. respect that and let the offended person know they were "heard".
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I've only ever heard the term used in a good-hearted joking way, and have not used it since I became aware that it has a derogotory connotation to some. However, why do we assume that it's used only in reference to women. I've heard it used to differenciate heterosexuals from homosexuals - no reference to gender that I'm aware of.
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This is just me ~ but coming from many years as an educator, I believe people call other people names in an attempt to make the recipients feel "less than", because the name~caller feels less than.....and in order to make themselves feel elevated somehow, or they're ignorant and/or just flat-out scared, they use the slurs....and this is true for any group of people, I feel. There's a lot of insecurity out there. And maybe ~ in regards to this particular thread ~ just MAYbe there is some deep-down desire to have a child. Just a SWAG there.... Just my 2 cents.... |
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Whenever I've heard this word used it's been in a deragatory manner, usually as a means to belittle the person it's directed at. I've especially heard or seen it used towards the heterosexual community when they've made disparaging remarks about the homosexual community or persons. I find it pretty darn disrespectful! To be honest it baffles me why people can't just get along and let each other live their lives. I'm pretty darn sure this isn't going to change in my life time, so I'm not going to spend a whole lot of time being overly baffled by this question though... which is unfortunate in so many ways! you SuperFemme! |
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I think it's a dehumanizing word.
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You want to drag this conversation over to another thread now? Honestly, if you don't think little girls are groomed for this shit from before they can even talk, I really don't understand how or why you'd jump into a conversation about that exact topic It wasn't a dis on people who have kids...it was used as a dis for how girls are groomed by a sexist culture. I heard you. I got your feelings on the topic. Had that been the way I used it in the post, I would agree with you. But that's not how I used it. Dylan |
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It's offensive? Can you step out of Dylan zone for one fucking second and hear this? You don't get to tell us how to feel about a word that has been used on us as defensive, derogatory or insulting. Damn it Dylan.. I know you gotta know better.. It's not about you you you and your god damn sentence structure and how you see fit. As a guy, it's even worse for you to come up in here and JUSTIFY that term. Damn dude... FFS listen.
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And FFS Snow, could you hear a word in context instead of hearing it as you want? Give me another word, Snow. What other word denotes the same way women are groomed? Give me another one, and I'll use it. That has the same connotation. Reproducer? Doesn't have the same connotation. Give me something that has the same connotation as puppy mill. Because that IS how the patriarchy sets up and grooms girls/women. Dylan |
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When I was pregnant.. I was refered to as pregnant.. Not bred. How about that Impregnated.. Pregnant. Last time I checked that was a word.
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Pregnant is a certain stage of the reproduction cycle It's not the same connotation And let's not forget that once women are past the age of reproducing/carrying on the human race, they're no longer seen as attractive or useful to the patriarchy (unless they're the caretaking, doting grandmother who once again is dealing with children). Dylan |
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I thought we were to have 2.3 children only and to stay gorgeous for our men. Who would have the energy to clean, work, and be sexy with THAT many kids? |
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