what NOT to do in a relationship....... - Page 32

Duchess · 03-25-2013, 12:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Glenn

Don't be anybody's secret side thing. Don't let your fellow brothers and sisters get played. Be fair. Don't make them do anything you would'nt want done to you. We should be looking out for each other in such a nasty world. Don't ever let cheating be an option. Make sure you've moved on first from your lasr relationship, before you even think about starting to date. If they cheat, they're done. Absolutely no exceptions.

We should buy billboard space for this?

Butterbean · 09-04-2013, 11:50 PM

Eric Clapton once said, "I wish I could love my wife as unconditionally as I love my children."

That quote amazed me.

Don't love with conditions.

Duchess · 03-04-2014, 03:29 PM

Don't put the burden of finances, coming up with cool ideas to keep things fresh, initiating sex, etc... on one person.

Jar · 03-04-2014, 05:18 PM

Don't ever talk to, text, call ... me and definitely never show an interest in my life or who's in it

morningstar55 · 03-04-2014, 06:25 PM

... disappear.....

Sweet Bliss · 03-04-2014, 06:36 PM

Don't just say you are sorry, explain WHY you are sorry.

Just saying you are sorry does not explain your understanding of what went wrong. Be clear Why you are sorry.

"I'm sorry" just does not do it.

Medusa · 03-04-2014, 07:41 PM

Folks-

I am making the executive decision to close this thread while I review it and create some guidelines about what can and cannot be posted here.

This thread has been a headache since the beginning for the Mod team because we have way too many people on this site who have dated other members here who want to talk about what did not work for them in the relationship in ways that are and have been problematic.

Look, I want adults to be able to talk about relationships and what we can do better. I actually find it helpful knowing that some of my own triggers are shared by other members here. What I don't want is for folks who break up on this site to use this thread to swipe at one another or make each other feel shitty. And let's face, there are some folks here who have crappy boundaries.

I'm not calling out anyone specific here because this isn't about one person, this is about the need to make sure this thread is used in ways that can help better us as individuals and as a community and NOT used in ways that are unhealthy or negative.

In the meantime, please do not start another thread with this same theme.

My Dad is having surgery tomorrow and I will be out of the loop with him for several days. Please allow me those days to be with him and I will come back with some guidelines for using this thread.

Appreciate those of you contributing and let's please all work together to keep this community a healthy and positive one!

Thanks,
Angie

03-04-2014, 03:29 PM	#623
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03-04-2014, 05:18 PM	#624
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03-04-2014, 06:25 PM	#625
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03-04-2014, 07:41 PM	#627
Medusa Mentally Delicious How Do You Identify?: Queer High Femme, thank you very much Preferred Pronoun?: Mme. Relationship Status: Married to JD. Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Atlanta Posts: 10,446 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,995 Thanked 42,871 Times in 7,835 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	Folks- I am making the executive decision to close this thread while I review it and create some guidelines about what can and cannot be posted here. This thread has been a headache since the beginning for the Mod team because we have way too many people on this site who have dated other members here who want to talk about what did not work for them in the relationship in ways that are and have been problematic. Look, I want adults to be able to talk about relationships and what we can do better. I actually find it helpful knowing that some of my own triggers are shared by other members here. What I don't want is for folks who break up on this site to use this thread to swipe at one another or make each other feel shitty. And let's face, there are some folks here who have crappy boundaries. I'm not calling out anyone specific here because this isn't about one person, this is about the need to make sure this thread is used in ways that can help better us as individuals and as a community and NOT used in ways that are unhealthy or negative. In the meantime, please do not start another thread with this same theme. My Dad is having surgery tomorrow and I will be out of the loop with him for several days. Please allow me those days to be with him and I will come back with some guidelines for using this thread. Appreciate those of you contributing and let's please all work together to keep this community a healthy and positive one! Thanks, Angie __________________ . . . Buy ButchFemmePlanet Merch Here: https://teespring.com/stores/butchfemmeplanetcom-merch

09-04-2013, 11:50 PM	#622
Butterbean Member How Do You Identify?: ---- Preferred Pronoun?: ---- Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: ----- Posts: 1,143 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,417 Thanked 2,220 Times in 772 Posts Rep Power: 17690475	Eric Clapton once said, "I wish I could love my wife as unconditionally as I love my children." That quote amazed me. Don't love with conditions.

03-04-2014, 06:36 PM	#626
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,264 Times in 2,158 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Don't just say you are sorry, explain WHY you are sorry. Just saying you are sorry does not explain your understanding of what went wrong. Be clear Why you are sorry. "I'm sorry" just does not do it.