Flirting by text

lettertodaddy · 01-03-2012, 10:39 AM

How do you decide to make an initial flirty remark via text message? What's your favourite opening line?

I have an astonishing lack of game when it comes to dating, so unfortunately I don't have a favourite flirt to share, but I'm happy to hear yours!

1QuirkyKiwi · 01-03-2012, 11:08 AM

Ummm….I wish I could help you out here, other than saying just be yourself, which sounds such an obvious thing to say….

I once had a text message from a date which read: “I’m nervous, in Café. See you soon!”
I replied back with: “Hi nervous in Café, I’m Sammie, how are you today? I’ll be there in 10 minutes!” ….It worked! LOL!

You could open the text message with: “Hey handsome!” Or “Hello Good looking!” …. To be honest, I’m really rubbish at this sort of thing…. I have a spectacular talent for just opening my mouth or letting my brain take control of my fingers, allowing the words to just fall out….usually, in unintentional innuendoes, or because I’ve a naturally chatty and bubbly personality, it comes across as me flirting, when in fact I’m nervous and shaking like a Jelly, lol!

Best of luck!

macele · 01-03-2012, 11:16 AM

if flirting is your thing, timing just finds its way. if not, make timing LOL.

my fave is, "i sure would like to find the slope of your curve" lol

princessbelle · 01-03-2012, 11:26 AM

I like flirting with texts!!! Even though i'm in a relationship, we still send flirty/dirty text sometimes...it's all the more fun.

But, a longgggggg time ago, when i was single and stuff and was getting to know someone, it was sometimes difficult to pick up on the "is he/she flirting or just being friendly" text and not sure how to take it. Without seeing the face, sorta like online, it's not as obvious.

However, it was fun to text with something that could be read as either way, that way you are safe if they aren't really flirting and in good shape if they were.

Like say....."Good Morning...is it a hard morning or an easy one for you". Or...."Did you dream of anything special last night?" And just let them take the lead, giving an opening sorta.

Well, that's how i rolled anyway...like, here's the bait...are you gonna bite or just sit by the creek and have a "friendly" day.

I found it very enlightening!!!!

UofMfan · 01-03-2012, 11:49 AM

Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.

starryeyes · 01-03-2012, 11:55 AM

Flirting via text is awesome! I feel more inclined to say things I wouldn't say on the phone because I would be shy, lol. It's fun to get a flirty text in the middle of the day, too :-D

Just be yourself!

Smiles,
Starry

Gemme · 01-03-2012, 12:00 PM

Using lines via text is even cheesier than when it happens in bars.

Be natural. If they say something and a thought pops into your head...as long as it's not illegal...send it.

HoustonHuny · 01-03-2012, 06:59 PM

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Originally Posted by UofMfan

Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins.

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

betenoire · 01-03-2012, 07:26 PM

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Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

ummm UFO Man

UofMean really hates it when people type her name wrong.

apretty · 01-03-2012, 09:36 PM

I hope this isn't your flirting.

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Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins.

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

twist of lime · 01-03-2012, 09:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins.

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

how delicious, I feel a challenge brewing.

Julie · 01-04-2012, 08:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HoustonHuny

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins.

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

Perhaps I should continue reading before I respond...
But that was a tad... a wee bit snarky -- aye?

I have to agree with UofManyFlirtations...

If one is to rehearse what one is to say, prior to the act of flirting? Where is the spontaneity? I wonder if certain people might rehearse how they will fuck when it comes time... Or perhaps if they might rehearse their screams or gasps or pants or hisses of ecstasy.

And google your flirt lines? Seriously? Is that a bit obvious? What if you and three others are googling the same bullshit?

I will never forget the time a butch used an obvious flirt line with me. NEXT!

apretty · 01-03-2012, 09:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by UofMfan

Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.

This.

(I'm not a fan of the contrived)

SweetJane · 01-03-2012, 04:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by princessbelle

But, a longgggggg time ago, when i was single and stuff and was getting to know someone, it was sometimes difficult to pick up on the "is he/she flirting or just being friendly" text and not sure how to take it. Without seeing the face, sorta like online, it's not as obvious.

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

SugarFemme · 01-03-2012, 05:00 PM

Oh yeah. Flirting via text messages can be fun, flirty and smoking hot. Innuendos and double entendres make for some pretty hot stuff. I personally enjoy that kind of flirting when done right

princessbelle · 01-03-2012, 05:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SweetJane

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

Exactly. Without seeing the person it is hard to know IMO. That's why i say i text things that could be taken two different ways....WHEN it gets to the point of wondering.

Also, it's not a pick up line. I'm talking about texting with people you know or are getting to know as the OP says "flirting" and perhaps have been friends awhile. It's the transition to taking it to the next step that leaves many wondering what this or that means.

It's fun though and all part of the dance....

SweetJane · 01-03-2012, 06:06 PM

Princessbelle, that's exactly what I meant. That statement came from someone I've known for a while. So I guess knowing it means more just has to come with time I guess.

Oneofakind, yes text flirting can be a game of wits and very clever.

Sassy · 01-03-2012, 06:41 PM

The approach depends on the individual I guess... I'll volunteer two texts I've used with positive results in the past...

==============================

Subtle: Sitting alone at the bar of my favorite restaurant I snapped a pic of a tall glass of chardonnay and texted it to her. No words.

Direct: "Dinner. I'm buying. You're drinking

)"

==============================

twist of lime · 01-03-2012, 07:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SweetJane

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

If it makes you blush, or you feel all tingly and giddy...

*I read my meter and thought I'd share

Rockinonahigh · 01-03-2012, 08:47 PM

All this about flirting is very intresting cause somehow I missed the ablity to flirt very well,my son said mamy years ago that I need to stop working so much and learn to smell the roses,unfourntunatly bill had to be paid.Now hat I have the time I still for some reason havent managed to learn to flirt with out hopeing I didnt stick my foot in my mouth or sound off the wall.

01-03-2012, 10:39 AM	#1
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princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,503 Times in 5,201 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I like flirting with texts!!! Even though i'm in a relationship, we still send flirty/dirty text sometimes...it's all the more fun. But, a longgggggg time ago, when i was single and stuff and was getting to know someone, it was sometimes difficult to pick up on the "is he/she flirting or just being friendly" text and not sure how to take it. Without seeing the face, sorta like online, it's not as obvious. However, it was fun to text with something that could be read as either way, that way you are safe if they aren't really flirting and in good shape if they were. Like say....."Good Morning...is it a hard morning or an easy one for you". Or...."Did you dream of anything special last night?" And just let them take the lead, giving an opening sorta. Well, that's how i rolled anyway...like, here's the bait...are you gonna bite or just sit by the creek and have a "friendly" day. I found it very enlightening!!!! __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

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macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,238 Times in 849 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	if flirting is your thing, timing just finds its way. if not, make timing LOL. my fave is, "i sure would like to find the slope of your curve" lol

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01-03-2012, 06:06 PM	#17
SweetJane Member How Do You Identify?: stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: always solo Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: New Mexico Posts: 368 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 380 Thanked 815 Times in 198 Posts Rep Power: 4309956	Princessbelle, that's exactly what I meant. That statement came from someone I've known for a while. So I guess knowing it means more just has to come with time I guess. Oneofakind, yes text flirting can be a game of wits and very clever.

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Sassy Member How Do You Identify?: Female Relationship Status: Together Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: In the sunshine Posts: 598 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 815 Thanked 1,928 Times in 460 Posts Rep Power: 19641162	The approach depends on the individual I guess... I'll volunteer two texts I've used with positive results in the past... ============================== Subtle: Sitting alone at the bar of my favorite restaurant I snapped a pic of a tall glass of chardonnay and texted it to her. No words. Direct: "Dinner. I'm buying. You're drinking )" ==============================

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Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,937 Times in 3,936 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	All this about flirting is very intresting cause somehow I missed the ablity to flirt very well,my son said mamy years ago that I need to stop working so much and learn to smell the roses,unfourntunatly bill had to be paid.Now hat I have the time I still for some reason havent managed to learn to flirt with out hopeing I didnt stick my foot in my mouth or sound off the wall.