The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over. - Page 71

cuddlyfemme · 08-01-2010, 07:33 AM

Atlanta Butch, I know what you mean about leaving all your friends and family to be with that special person who turns out to be not that special...been there...done that. I find that dating sites are full of people who just want to play head games not to mention charge ridiculous prices just for those head games

ruthie14 · 08-01-2010, 08:47 AM

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Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

Atlanta Butch, I know what you mean about leaving all your friends and family to be with that special person who turns out to be not that special...been there...done that. I find that dating sites are full of people who just want to play head games not to mention charge ridiculous prices just for those head games

me too... over and over and over ....it's starting to make me crazy!

Diva · 08-01-2010, 09:01 AM

Yes.....just once for me. But once was enough......

I actually moved to Atlanta! Home again now in Austin, Texas.....and thank God for that!

ruthie14 · 08-01-2010, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

me too... over and over and over ....it's starting to make me crazy!

Don't want to be misunderstood... I haven't moved for anyone... learned NOT to do that from my lesbian sister who did.... I just keep finding women who play games... again and again and again.

Rockinonahigh · 08-01-2010, 09:59 AM

Folks I havent moved for anyone,to many of my friends have and it been a total disaster for them.Playing mind games it one of the worst things anyone can do to another person...yep they are players who get god only knows what from useing other ppl.LDR's have been not to good for me either,so far anyway.So far I have made it to this point in my life ..after I wised up about
really beleaving what ppl say and do,do they mean what they are saying or is it just for the moment...mostly for the moment I think.I really try not to judge ppl cause of this but I am carefull just the same cause I do know not everyone is like this..I hope.

lipstixgal · 08-01-2010, 11:12 AM

I don't do LDR's either and I'm not moving for anyone either, dating sites suck because most people are not really that serious about meeting someone I think they are just looking!! I'm on several dating sites and I mean nothing has happened!! I even on a Jewish one and have not met anyone there!! Some people are close by too a town or two a part and have not wanted to contact so I give up. I'm moving to Florida I think in October where the sun shines all the time maybe something will happen down there!! I hope so.

cuddlyfemme · 08-01-2010, 12:00 PM

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Originally Posted by lipstixgal

I don't do LDR's either and I'm not moving for anyone either, dating sites suck because most people are not really that serious about meeting someone I think they are just looking!! I'm on several dating sites and I mean nothing has happened!! I even on a Jewish one and have not met anyone there!! Some people are close by too a town or two a part and have not wanted to contact so I give up. I'm moving to Florida I think in October where the sun shines all the time maybe something will happen down there!! I hope so.

I just moved to Columbia SC (mainly because of economics) and haven't met anyone...granted I haven't been looking either. I hope you do better in sunny Florida!

Jet · 08-01-2010, 03:31 PM

Fly by to say hey. everyone have a good night

lipstixgal · 08-01-2010, 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

I just moved to Columbia SC (mainly because of economics) and haven't met anyone...granted I haven't been looking either. I hope you do better in sunny Florida!

How is the economy down there and the weather?? Not a definite on Florida yet but want warmth and sun!! Hopefully there will some butches but don't know I think its an age thing too. I'm 52 but look really young so I really don't know what to think but it gets lonely sometimes with just school and internship!!

Good luck Cuddly you deserve the best!!

cuddlyfemme · 08-01-2010, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by lipstixgal

How is the economy down there and the weather?? Not a definite on Florida yet but want warmth and sun!! Hopefully there will some butches but don't know I think its an age thing too. I'm 52 but look really young so I really don't know what to think but it gets lonely sometimes with just school and internship!!

Good luck Cuddly you deserve the best!!

The economy in SC isn't that bad, but you have to remember that I'm originally from Washington DC so almost anything is better lol But seriously, the economy seems pretty good. The weather is really nice, during the days its in the mid 90's or so. There's some humidity but it doesn't seem to be that bad.
I agree with you, I think its an age thing. I'm 48 and look younger than I am. I do totally understand about the lonliness...I love my 4 cats but there's times when I need more...

lipstixgal · 08-01-2010, 04:34 PM

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Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

The economy in SC isn't that bad, but you have to remember that I'm originally from Washington DC so almost anything is better lol But seriously, the economy seems pretty good. The weather is really nice, during the days its in the mid 90's or so. There's some humidity but it doesn't seem to be that bad.
I agree with you, I think its an age thing. I'm 48 and look younger than I am. I do totally understand about the lonliness...I love my 4 cats but there's times when I need more...

So the economy isn't that bad so you are working?? That's great. Don't know how the economy is in florida either and as far as finding butches or gay people is hard unless I go into the city, New York that is which is very expensive and very time consuming like 45 minutes plus cab or train....I try to attend the butch femme social but the people are not too friendly to be frank!!! Its very conservative where I live in Northern NJ, so that is not good. I too love my two dogs but gosh I need something. One woman contacted me through some dating site but never got back to me..I didn't do anything but never heard back!! Its frustrating to be honest.

cuddlyfemme · 08-01-2010, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by lipstixgal

So the economy isn't that bad so you are working?? That's great. Don't know how the economy is in florida either and as far as finding butches or gay people is hard unless I go into the city, New York that is which is very expensive and very time consuming like 45 minutes plus cab or train....I try to attend the butch femme social but the people are not too friendly to be frank!!! Its very conservative where I live in Northern NJ, so that is not good. I too love my two dogs but gosh I need something. One woman contacted me through some dating site but never got back to me..I didn't do anything but never heard back!! Its frustrating to be honest.

I'm still looking for a job (i'd saved up some money to live on for awhile). I remember the subway rides when I lived in DC and cab prices were ridiculous. The butches and femme's that i met were rather cliquish. We didn't have socials like you all have in New York. I know the price to live in New York is sky high. I've totally given up on the dating sites, it seems like people are just there to play games or so how many females they can get in contact with and have no follow through

lipstixgal · 08-01-2010, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme

I'm still looking for a job (i'd saved up some money to live on for awhile). I remember the subway rides when I lived in DC and cab prices were ridiculous. The butches and femme's that i met were rather cliquish. We didn't have socials like you all have in New York. I know the price to live in New York is sky high. I've totally given up on the dating sites, it seems like people are just there to play games or so how many females they can get in contact with and have no follow through

The dating sites are ridiculous, I never did anything to that woman she just never contacted me just said she was going on a business trip for 3 weeks yeah right and would get back to me..that never happened. Yes the butch-femme socials are very cliquish to say the least and expensive to go into the city all the time. Good luck on the job search that's hard to do I will be doing that once school is over which is in September I really don't want to work in the internship place its all paperwork and I' m a medical assistant I can draw blood, do Ekg's do vitals etc etc etc..so the place I'm at right now would be a no go for me and the people are not friendly at all. In fact the people in NJ are not that friendly at all!!! Very snobbish and snooty too that's not for me!! The JEWISH dating site I'm on haven't got one date out of it. I'm going to cancel my membership I think!!

morningstar55 · 08-02-2010, 07:56 AM

good morning its Monday...... and i have come across something that leads me with a question for the day.....

.....Why is there a Y12 National Security Complex ... outside of Knoxville,TN.. hmmmmmmmmmm is the goverment concerned about something??
dating sites........
im on some...... and there r just not many butchies/TG types there.... cept for one... and then there is PlentyofFish..... its ok .. but still..
i dont hardly go browzin thru any of them much anymore...... why??
anyways... gotta git ........ bbl..
have a good day everyone..

las68 · 08-02-2010, 08:17 AM

I agree, dating sites suck! I unfortunately did move for a relationship. I left Georgia for Arkansas. things didn't work out, but I love this area. I'm close to Little Rock, but the dating world here isn't that great. It's sooo political here almost like you have to know someone to know someone. I hate cliques. I know things will get better one day. I'm wishing on every star and following every rainbow.

morningstar55 · 08-02-2010, 01:24 PM

strangest thing happend today.......
ya know.. last week sometime... i was poking around the internet, and looked up...... truck driving for celeberties/concerts etc.....
and it came up with several companies and what the qaulifcations are and such... ok .. just lookng courious....
i get these tarot card reading things coming to my wall on FB ... and just about every reading or every other one.... its gives u like 3 a day i dont know why... but it keeps telling me of change, changes, etc...
well.... i had a load I took to canada friday, while i droped it off, (Panther who i work for) sent me a message to pick up another load which was 20 miles away, up north of Toronto, it was stage stuff for .. Metallica..(it was dragons , lazers, war tanks and fogg stuff..) and I thought??? yeha.. this is awsome.. cuz most the time , cept sometimes i haul car parts. so this was cool... and wierd that I got a load like this , cuz i have not mentioned anything about this story to anyone.. of doing the search for trucking companies/jobs doing this sort of thing.
soo ok i get here..... just east of Harrisburg Pa where im droping the stage stuff at some sort of warehouse storage place they have here..
well here were all these other trucks here with trailers with other major concert stuff.... with a couple companies names on the trucks i seen on line.
well after sitting there waiting for someone to unload my truck and listening to these trucker guys talk there stuff and all ...one of them who seemd in charge of several trucks, walked away then came bk a lil later and asked for info about my truck and owner... and wants to se if he can hire my truck for hauling ahhhhhhhhhh concert stuff.... heh.. says they need some smaller trucks like mine.... now how wierd is that???

morningstar55 · 08-02-2010, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by AtlantaButch824

this is the 3rd time I tried to reply to a post and it posted somewhere else
this is getting aggravating.

(((((((((((((((AltantaButch)))))))))))))))
hate it when that happens.. lol

naturlover_52 · 08-02-2010, 04:09 PM

I think that that is SOOO great that you may have a new job moving concert stuff...that sounds like it would be great better than trucking Car parts. I hope that it works out for YOU and Best of luck.

lipstixgal · 08-02-2010, 04:55 PM

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Originally Posted by morningstar55

strangest thing happend today.......
ya know.. last week sometime... i was poking around the internet, and looked up...... truck driving for celeberties/concerts etc.....
and it came up with several companies and what the qaulifcations are and such... ok .. just lookng courious....
i get these tarot card reading things coming to my wall on FB ... and just about every reading or every other one.... its gives u like 3 a day i dont know why... but it keeps telling me of change, changes, etc...
well.... i had a load I took to canada friday, while i droped it off, (Panther who i work for) sent me a message to pick up another load which was 20 miles away, up north of Toronto, it was stage stuff for .. Metallica..(it was dragons , lazers, war tanks and fogg stuff..) and I thought??? yeha.. this is awsome.. cuz most the time , cept sometimes i haul car parts. so this was cool... and wierd that I got a load like this , cuz i have not mentioned anything about this story to anyone.. of doing the search for trucking companies/jobs doing this sort of thing.
soo ok i get here..... just east of Harrisburg Pa where im droping the stage stuff at some sort of warehouse storage place they have here..
well here were all these other trucks here with trailers with other major concert stuff.... with a couple companies names on the trucks i seen on line.
well after sitting there waiting for someone to unload my truck and listening to these trucker guys talk there stuff and all ...one of them who seemd in charge of several trucks, walked away then came bk a lil later and asked for info about my truck and owner... and wants to se if he can hire my truck for hauling ahhhhhhhhhh concert stuff.... heh.. says they need some smaller trucks like mine.... now how wierd is that???

Good luck to you Morningstar!!

RockOn · 08-02-2010, 05:07 PM

My take on the dating sites is that they are meat markets.

08-02-2010, 07:56 AM	#1414
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,241 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	good morning its Monday...... and i have come across something that leads me with a question for the day..... .....Why is there a Y12 National Security Complex ... outside of Knoxville,TN.. hmmmmmmmmmm is the goverment concerned about something?? dating sites........ im on some...... and there r just not many butchies/TG types there.... cept for one... and then there is PlentyofFish..... its ok .. but still.. i dont hardly go browzin thru any of them much anymore...... why?? anyways... gotta git ........ bbl.. have a good day everyone.. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-02-2010, 08:17 AM	#1415
las68 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: soft butch tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: hey you! Relationship Status: single Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: conway arkansas Posts: 47 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22 Thanked 29 Times in 12 Posts Rep Power: 644	yeppers! I agree, dating sites suck! I unfortunately did move for a relationship. I left Georgia for Arkansas. things didn't work out, but I love this area. I'm close to Little Rock, but the dating world here isn't that great. It's sooo political here almost like you have to know someone to know someone. I hate cliques. I know things will get better one day. I'm wishing on every star and following every rainbow.

08-02-2010, 01:24 PM	#1416
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,241 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	strangest thing happend today....... ya know.. last week sometime... i was poking around the internet, and looked up...... truck driving for celeberties/concerts etc..... and it came up with several companies and what the qaulifcations are and such... ok .. just lookng courious.... i get these tarot card reading things coming to my wall on FB ... and just about every reading or every other one.... its gives u like 3 a day i dont know why... but it keeps telling me of change, changes, etc... well.... i had a load I took to canada friday, while i droped it off, (Panther who i work for) sent me a message to pick up another load which was 20 miles away, up north of Toronto, it was stage stuff for .. Metallica..(it was dragons , lazers, war tanks and fogg stuff..) and I thought??? yeha.. this is awsome.. cuz most the time , cept sometimes i haul car parts. so this was cool... and wierd that I got a load like this , cuz i have not mentioned anything about this story to anyone.. of doing the search for trucking companies/jobs doing this sort of thing. soo ok i get here..... just east of Harrisburg Pa where im droping the stage stuff at some sort of warehouse storage place they have here.. well here were all these other trucks here with trailers with other major concert stuff.... with a couple companies names on the trucks i seen on line. well after sitting there waiting for someone to unload my truck and listening to these trucker guys talk there stuff and all ...one of them who seemd in charge of several trucks, walked away then came bk a lil later and asked for info about my truck and owner... and wants to se if he can hire my truck for hauling ahhhhhhhhhh concert stuff.... heh.. says they need some smaller trucks like mine.... now how wierd is that??? __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-02-2010, 04:09 PM	#1418
naturlover_52 Member How Do You Identify?: soft butch/bi Preferred Pronoun?: she and her are just fine....Sweetcheeks hey you Relationship Status: seeing someone long distance but soon will be both in Ca love her very much Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: So Calif East San Gabrielle Valley aka the land of shake and bake Posts: 108 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 85 Thanked 89 Times in 44 Posts Rep Power: 3424	Change I think that that is SOOO great that you may have a new job moving concert stuff...that sounds like it would be great better than trucking Car parts. I hope that it works out for YOU and Best of luck.

08-02-2010, 05:07 PM	#1420
RockOn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: sitting over there ----->>>>> :) Preferred Pronoun?: .... Relationship Status: .... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .... Posts: 3,522 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,081 Thanked 10,308 Times in 2,609 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Dating sites .... My take on the dating sites is that they are meat markets.

08-01-2010, 07:33 AM	#1401
cuddlyfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,271 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 717 Thanked 2,452 Times in 1,270 Posts Rep Power: 11496121	Atlanta Butch, I know what you mean about leaving all your friends and family to be with that special person who turns out to be not that special...been there...done that. I find that dating sites are full of people who just want to play head games not to mention charge ridiculous prices just for those head games

08-01-2010, 09:01 AM	#1403
Diva Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Diva Preferred Pronoun?: Diva Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Chez Diva Posts: 11,879 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,263 Thanked 17,180 Times in 5,238 Posts Rep Power: 0	Yes.....just once for me. But once was enough...... I actually moved to Atlanta! Home again now in Austin, Texas.....and thank God for that!

08-01-2010, 09:59 AM	#1405
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,937 Times in 3,936 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Folks I havent moved for anyone,to many of my friends have and it been a total disaster for them.Playing mind games it one of the worst things anyone can do to another person...yep they are players who get god only knows what from useing other ppl.LDR's have been not to good for me either,so far anyway.So far I have made it to this point in my life ..after I wised up about really beleaving what ppl say and do,do they mean what they are saying or is it just for the moment...mostly for the moment I think.I really try not to judge ppl cause of this but I am carefull just the same cause I do know not everyone is like this..I hope.

08-01-2010, 11:12 AM	#1406
lipstixgal Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: coupled Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: New Jersey Posts: 3,028 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 201 Thanked 1,690 Times in 1,064 Posts Rep Power: 1494760	I don't do LDR's either and I'm not moving for anyone either, dating sites suck because most people are not really that serious about meeting someone I think they are just looking!! I'm on several dating sites and I mean nothing has happened!! I even on a Jewish one and have not met anyone there!! Some people are close by too a town or two a part and have not wanted to contact so I give up. I'm moving to Florida I think in October where the sun shines all the time maybe something will happen down there!! I hope so.

08-01-2010, 03:31 PM	#1408
Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,646 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	Fly by to say hey. everyone have a good night