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I agree with Toughy. Here in the Bay there is definitely not a lack of butch identified folks or butch energy. I personally think Toughy hits a pretty valid point. I see and hear of folks all the time expecting to go into the bar or gay club wanting to meet folks. How well can you possibly interact with someone in that type of environment.
After reading this thread I am even more grateful to be living in the Bay Area. Of and as for the Whole Foods color I think it is green...? Also I think it is important to ask ourselves when trying to date a specific type of person who identifies a certain way do we truly know what WE are looking for or are we looking for a "stereotype". What's on the surface is not always what is on the core of someone. Just a thought Last edited by MissItalianDiva; 03-29-2012 at 06:34 PM. Reason: Way too tired to be posting |
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I feel like I should clarify my comment about imposter in a butches clothing.. I agree, and am grateful that butches come in all body types, styles, long hair, short hair.. my comment was more in reference to the stereotypical attitude that a butch is protective, polite, gentlemanly, mannered, respectful etc, vs a set physical ideal of what makes identity. Being butch or how ever you label or dont label yourself comes from the heart... agreed
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I hope us butches are going out of style,I do know hear we (at home) dont have a large bf communits infact its fue and far between.I've met some femmes on line and on the planet but not any where I live,but at my age 64 and counting down to 65 the dateing pool is slim to nun.
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i used to carry a wallet and not a purse.
Was i . . . *gasp* . . . a butch impostor? |
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I will never give up on forever .....
I do believe in taking time to find the one and spending forever together.... I do believe in forgetting the small stuff dont sweat it ....... I do believe in partnerships it takes 2 to tango good and bad... I do believe U must pay attention dont get to comfortable ....... I do believe U must learn to forgive in your heart or pay the piper...... I dont believe U fill a void just because it is there...... I do believe if u let it go and it comes back it's forever if not it never was........ I do believe if u make a commitment u should stand by it...... I do believe there is someone for everyone ..... I do believe u have just to find one another ....... this is prolly not the right thread for this post but well ya know...... |
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It sure would make it easier on me if Femmes put a big old "F" on their forehead so I could spot them!
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I have a butch baby for a daughter..lol.. she appears very femme, however it is deceiving Dont nobody get any ideas.. she is 16
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The best way to ensure there will be more butches is to set a good example, be a mentor when asked, and to continue to let the world know that women and females can be any way they want to be. We are not restricted by any sexist or gender stereotypes. If some call themselves by names other than butch that's all good too.
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As small as the state of Delaware is... There is no lack of Butches here... and in a three hour radius you have many states with unlimited butches... (de,nj,pa,md,va,dc,ny... to name a few states) just my two cents...
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Maybe it has something to do with social media? I am a youngin' so I can't talk about "back in the day" but there seems to be a hell of a lot more social influence on lesbians now than ever. With shows like, The L Word, The Real L Word, Curl Girls, shows on LOGO, Ellen, Rachel Maddow, etc, everyone is a soft butch or androgynous. I am racking my brain, and can not think of one strong butch role model in social media today that is not looked down upon.
"Back in the Day", from what I have read, and heard from people who were there, Butch Femme was a social scene and Butches were taken under the wings of other Butches and mentored/supported and it was an inclusive group with relatively NO influence from mainstream America. Now with all of this external influential, pressure and America's stereotypes of "what lesbians should look like and be like" it kinda makes sense that the newer generation is changing and there are not as many "Butches" (in the way we are describing here) around anymore. It sucks, but maybe it's just evolution.
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oh so true your royal wetness. and as someone who lives in PA, I can tell ya it is Butch central.
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not so much are butches a dying breed but i'm quite sure OS butches are rare everywhere
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