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Ok I responded with this post below thinking it'lll be with this other post along with another post, but that didn't happen., so sorry about this how this looks confusing.. I think I'm not responding correctly... Not sure how to edit after words...
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Of course you should try. I worked with PTSD patients before and many were in loving relationships.
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I know this is the femme zone but i need a bit of help or advice from y'all.
Do y'all think it would be inappropriate for me to bring my ex flowers for when we go out to celebrate her birthday? She asked me to take her out and i abliged to this outing for both of us, granted we are best friends and not getting back together but would flowers be okay or do y'all think it would insinuate something else? |
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Depends on the person.
My friends give me flowers and from some exes it would be fine because they give flowers to their friends as well, for no reason. But some exes, it would be inapropritate because I know how they feel about flowers - for them it's totally tied to "date" and "what butches do for femmes." I wouldn't want flowers from those exes, it would feel like there was something they were trying to say with them that I didn't want to hear. |
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I agree with Cupcake, JDeere. If you're the kind of person that likes buying small gifts for friends, then your side of the equation is OK. If your ex is the kind of person who doesnt 'read between the lines' about every darned thing, then her side is OK - if both Ok, buy 'em.
I know if me or my ex bought flowers for the other under the circumstances you describe, either of us would be fine with it. It'd be quite odd coming from her, as she almost never did buy flowers for me, but our partnership died many years ago, and that's not going to rekindle. She also knows that I liek surprising folk with unexpected gofts, so she wouldn;t think anything other than that it would be odd, as I know she doesn't like cut flowers, but she'd appreciate the thought behind the gift. If she likes cut flowers, and other factors - your personalities, as noted above - don't indicate otherwise, then IMO it'd be a nice gesture. But only you can know whether she;d view a gift of flowers as having an ulterior motive. |
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Im buying flowers but not roses. To her roses are romantic. A nice bouquet will do.
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